Sterilised Puns

28, UK-based. I have always known I never wanted children. This was not an issue back when I was single, though I still thought about getting sterilised in case I got assaulted (something which mercifully never happened). Then, in September last year, I got together with an old friend of mine and now had to seriously think about birth control. I started off trying a Mirena, which was one of the most horrific, painful experiences of my life. When that did not work out, in March, when I got my second one removed, I spoke to the doctor who did that about what I really wanted: sterilisation.

I had read all the horror stories all across the internet about doctors not wanting to do this, especially for young, childless AFAB folks like myself. I went to my appointment prepared with all my reasons, of which there were many. First of all, I have a history of depression and anxiety, which reached its peak when my younger sister was born in 2015. I was not even her primary caregiver and I suffered greatly just having her around. Secondly, I am autistic, with particular sensitivities towards noise and smell, both of which would make having a child torture. Thirdly, I have really bad tokophobia (fear of pregnancy), to the point where I have to leave the room if I am sharing it with a pregnant person, and feel physically sick discussing pregnancy in great detail. Me and my partner also just plain old don't want kids. After listing all these factors, I expected to still fight. But the doctor was sympathetic, took me seriously, and refered me, simple as that. She also gave me combined contraceptives to tide me over until I could get the procedure done.

A month later, I got a scheduled call from the gynecology consultant. In preparation, I wrote a 2k essay listing all of the reasons above, going into great detail. I got half-way through it before she told me that she was convinced and would try to see me in person. Because of a lot of administrative crap, and Delta raging through the UK, my appointment with her was delayed until September. By that point, sadly, all elective surgeries were cancelled (again, thanks COVID) so she told me it would be a while yet. However, she was very kind, took my concerns seriously, seemed determined to get me this procedure as soon as possible, and put me on the waiting list. She also convinced me to try the nexplanon, which was the only thing I had not tried. Which, I did, under condition that if it did not work out, I could get in touch

Me and my husband planned to have one of us sterilised after our second child is born. So when my second pregnancy was overdue, i decided to have a caesarean section and asked the doctor if i can have a sterilisation too. She said yes and I signed a consent form. I told her that I've heard that doctors refuse to carry out the procedure. She said yes, i am young (25), the procedure is permanent and you might regret it. And 4 days later i got sterilised during a caesarean. Thank you doc!

I adopted a wonderful little Galga Español from Spain about half a year ago. She was found on the streets so the vet wasn't sure what age she was, but they guessed about 1,5.

I was told she was sterilised, and rescue dogs from other countries are supposed to be. But the past week several male dogs have been extremely interested in her in a way they've never been before. Licking, drooling, attempting to hump her etc. We're at the park a couple of times a day every day and we meet a lot of dogs so I can clearly see the difference. She pees more. She has growled at other dogs without them doing anything wrong which she NEVER did before - she doesn't attack them though, just growls. She even growled at me when I moved her slightly to the side in my bed to make room for myself (she was awake), but just a quick growl before licking my hand to apologise. She's whiny, which sighthounds tend to be, but so much more than usual. She pees more than she did before. She's humped other dogs a few times, and since she's really submissive and has never done so before that surprised me.

She's not hurt. She has a little wound that's healing from when a dog showed dominance a couple of weeks ago, but it's small. I've tried touching and gently squeezing all her body parts to check if she seems to be hurting, but she just seemed to enjoy the attention. And she eats and poops the same way she usually does.

People are pleased with the organisation that I adopted her from, and they feel trustworthy. And so far the male dogs aren't CRAZY, and she's not bleeding.. It's probably nothing. Maybe she's just getting more assertive as she's getting older, and maybe the dogs who've been interested are just having one of those time periods. But I AM a little worried. She's still mostly her playful, happy and gentle self, but I'm noticing mentionable and sudden differences...

Anyone has any idea what it could be about?

I'm 29, no children, don't intend to ever have them, and I've finally booked an appointment to see my GP about sterilisation. I often read posts about other women having a hard time finding doctors that will take them seriously, and it's making me nervous about my appointment.

I'm fully committed to sterilisation, I've got no doubts at all, but I'm worried that my GP will still try to tell me I might change my mind, or try to convince me to use temporary contraception.

I'm also pretty worried that they might ask about my current relationship status, and use the fact that I've never been in a relationship to tell me that sterilisation is not right for me. Frankly the thought of becoming pregnant scares me away from being intimate with anyone.

I want be prepared for what questions they might ask, and if it's worth the hassle of going through the NHS, or if I should just go straight to private?

After years of challenging doctors, surgeons and gynaes I did some serious savings and paid to be sterilised permanently. I couldn’t be happier knowing that I will not be affecting my emotional, physical or financial health later in the future

But please, if I may, share some of the shittiest bingos I’ve had. Let me tell you I have been inundated with the sad, confused and furrowed frowns I got from friends, acquaintances & colleagues. People suddenly becoming quite harsh and distant with me, many asking if I needed - a psychiatric review - permission from my parents - permission from my partner ….can anyone imagine asking a recently knocked up 29/30F this?

cue the hmmms and ahhhs well as long as your partner is still in tact he has the opportunity of starting a family if he wants …thanks you guys <3

HILARIOUSLY lots of strong challenges from single ‘mostly’ absent fathers/sperm donors [Im ex military and now work in construction I seem to know a lot of f*cking dysfunctional men] the classic bingos that they’ve been hitting me with really does make me feel like they are NPCs with their only sole purpose to cum out a load of other NPCs for this weird world we live in. Good old faithful bingos ‘you don’t want children? How could you not? It’s the best thing? I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t want children? It’s different when they’re you’re own’ ‘what lunatic doesn’t want kids’ ‘are you selfish’ ‘Jesus I just can’t believe you’re that heartless’

thank you please go forth and impregnate another unsuspecting poor female, to produce more emotionally stunted offspring who you will only physically see for 6 days every month & no doubt be left with childhood traumas and issues.

Anyway if anyone is looking at getting their tubes tied and needs any tips for pre and post care HMU :)

Sorry for the late night rant still working through surgery discomfort

I have found myself deep in the weeds of micromanagement after ignoring my Gazelle and Duck pens.

I have now sterilised all but 2 Males and 2 Females and as the rest reach adulthood I am slaughtering. Any that are born are immediately sterilised.

I looked at the Auto Slaughter tab but I can't see any way to have it so that my breeding stock don't accidentally get the chop If restrict my adult population.

Hello, this is my first post here and I'd like to ask what would you do in a "what if" situation where the imagination may not be much involved.

Imagine that you're in a relationship with a person for some months, you like them and you're comfortable enough to start discussing about the future with them, but turns out they're child-free and have already tied their tubes/ had a vasectomy before you even knew them.

How would that make you feel?

Last Saturday I had an open debate with my friends about this topic. Having heard their opinions I'd like to know yours, mostly because they were all men.

EDIT: Holy crap, thanks all for your answers! Turns out all of you have opposite views of the matter. To my friends it wouldn't be weird to get in a relationship first and discussing matters later as the situation "may progress into something different", although I insisted that getting the vasectomy even before dating or becoming sexually active wouldn't change anything because I'd do it nonetheless.

Fuck em

I'm 29, never been in a relationship of any kind, and I've known I don't want children since I was 15 and I first realised I have the ability to give birth. After over a decade of giving myself time to change my mind (and it never happening), I've finally booked myself an appointment to speak to a doctor about sterilisation.

I've seen a lot of posts from women (who I assume are mostly in the USA), who have had a really tough time finding a doctor to take them seriously, and it's making me nervous that I might need to bend over backwards to convince my doctor, and then the counsellor.

So to the UK ladies who have been sterilised on the NHS, how did it go? What kind of questions did they ask, and did you have to prove that you knew what you were talking about?

I (20F) was approved last year in August by my amazing doctor when I was 19, but protocol necessitated a review by the corporate managing director of the company, a legal team, and an indemnity prevention guy.

Finally after 14 months, my surgery has the stamp of approval, and I’m due to book it in next year after a catch-up with doc.

Needless to say, I’m absolutely ecstatic.

First of all, English isn't my first language so apologies for any mistakes I make.

So, in the past couple of weeks I (26f) dropped small hints to see how my family would feel about me getting a salpingectomy and I don't think they will be very supportive about it. I have been planning to get it done in 2022 (I have support from my doctor since the hormones from the birth control pill are starting to wreak havoc on my body) and I was wondering how some of you have gone about getting this procedure done. I was hoping to find some inspiration on what to tell my family members.

Now to take in consideration;

• I still live in my dad's house, even though I started looking for my own since the beginning of this year, right when I returned from a big trip. Thing is, the housing market is pretty bad where I live and I have no idea how much longer it will take me to get one. I will be going to an insurance company that will actually cover the procedure so I would still love to get the procedure done next year. If I still live with my dad (I hope not, of course) I have been thinking of telling him I need to be in the hospital for a different procedure. Not sure yet which one to be honest.
• I work in my mom's company. So if I take a day off to get this procedure done, I will need a good excuse to tell her. I was wondering what you told your employer when you asked the day off (or did you need more than 1 day???).

I would love to hear about your experiences. Thanks in advance!

Can I use this to spawn and fruit and how does it work?

This is the description: Vermiculite, Organic brown rice flour, Calcium Sulphate FG LG, Yeast nutrient extract

Description

750g / 1kg / 1.5kg sterilised injectable BRF/PF Tek grow bag all-in-one

Adapted BRF recipe based on the original PF-Tek High quality organic brown rice flour Added gypsum and nutrient extract - maximise your flushes! Self-sealing port, inject with your favourite coprophilous mushroom species, spore or liquid culture 0.2 micron filter patch Heavy duty recyclable/reusable polypropylene Unicorn bag - all the benefits of glass but it wont shatter - discreet solution All bags are made to order and pressure cooked at 15 psi for a minimum of 75 minutes, to ensure steam sterilisation at 121°C Double impulse seal Alcohol swab supplied Pair of non-sterile nitrile gloves supplied

Hi everyone, first of all I'd like to know if you think it's a good idea to switch from orijen to wellness core. My cat is 3,5 years old and she needs to lose some weight. She had orijen cat food for half a year. She didn't have any issues with it, just didn't eat it with much pleasure. I've heard good things about wellness core. Is the switch worth it? Do you recommend any other cat foods? Also, does anyone know if Naturea is a good brand? It offers grain free cat food at a fair price.

Thanks in advance.

Me and my wife have been married for a few years now, we're childfree and we've no intention of having children. Our life revolves around hiking, traveling, sleeping in during the weekend, taking long showers together, cuddles++ etc. The whole childfree package. I've been considering getting a vasectomy to free my wife from the burden of taking the pill, but every time I'm about to take the phone and call my doctor to start the process, I procrastinate and never get it done. I think I'm a bit scared of how permanent sterilisation is even if I'm 100% confident I don't want children (stupid, I know...), and in general of getting a surgery for something I tell myself I don't really need. How did you overcome the fear, if you had it, of the surgery and the concerns of complications or issues post-operation? For the men, have you had any problems with or post procedure? Thank you for your support!

Procedure: Tubal ligation – Filshie clips. Doctor (Dr) was on the childfree wiki. He was extremely professional.

Cost will be different for everyone but for someone with no private hospital cover; (all fees are approximate). All providers required FULL payment in advance as a self-funded patient.

>$180 for initial consult ($110 after medicare rebate- only available if you get a referral from a GP)
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>$830 for doctor’s fees (tubal ligation, mirena removal, pap smear) ~$300 medicare rebate
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>$1,000 for anaesthetist ~$300 medicare rebate
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>$3,700 hospital fees including surgery, transfer to ward, medications (the steepest part by far)
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>Overall cost: ~$5,040 out of pocket (not finalised yet, VERY approximate and will depend on the individual case)

This is a long one. TL;DR at the end

I booked my appointment with the Dr after receiving a referral letter from a GP. I had never seen that particular GP before, but I have GP appointments monthly so during my consult I asked for a referral. She was very hesitant and said pretty much all the bingos – I’d change my mind, I’m still young, why don’t I want kids, I don’t agree with sterilising someone so young yada yada. I said I’d still like you to write the referral, even if you believe the Dr will not agree to the surgery- she did. It was not a glowing review which I was a little concerned about. I found out later that she specialises in women’s health/fertility so pretty much the opposite of who you’d want referring you.

I went to the Dr with my referral letter – the letter was taken by the receptionist solely for medicare rebate purposes and I’m certain the Dr didn’t read it. I went in, he asked what I wanted, I explained I wanted a tubal and my reasons for it. He asked multiple questions to gauge basically whether I’d thought about it and whether I knew it was permanent. I went into the consult with my long-term partner (he’s already snipped, not that we mentioned that!), and the Dr seemed happy that my partner was in on the decision. I never got the impression that my partner needed to give “permission” more that the Dr appreciated that I was mature enough to have discussed it beforehand. He agreed to do the ligation using Filshie clips (seems to be his method of choice) and that was fine by me*. I booked the surgery for 2 months later due to work commitments but there was availability much sooner.

On the day of the surgery, I had a shower the morning of

So after my first successful monotub (which is still going strong) I thought I would branch out and look at other strains.

It seems APE only come in swab form, as caps don't open so don't drop spores conventionally. I have seen how to transfer swab to agar, but can't see how I could potentially turn a swab into a spore syringe to inject my sterilised grain bags (that I bought online).

Any ideas?

Or should I stick with some easier strains for now?

Has anyone else from outside the countries that are bringing in laws about abortion feeling paranoid that sterilisation will be next and you just wanna go do it now??

And I'm so happy! The staff was very nice to me, almost every part of the experience was good. In my country you can get your tubes tied for free if you're 18+ (I'm F27). I took today of from work + the weekend, counting on going back Monday after three days relaxing. Yesterday was painful as hell, and today I'm dizzy, the incisions hurt but the general pain in the abdomen has decreased. I feel really good about my decision. I've kept my IUD as it is, to avoid menstruation and BC I might have endometriosis. But not being able to get pregnant if I have the IUD removed feels so good.

Edit: thank you for all the nice replies and awards 🧡 anesthesia is not something you should do for fun though. I need at least two more days off from work 😅