For the first time since last year, my 46F husband 48M have a three day weekend! We were discussing what we wanted to do that day, and i suggested that we go get pedicures since I wanted to get a manicure that day anyway. My husband normally goes with me every other month to get pedicure, so I made the appointment. We also made plans to do some shopping and go to a late lunch/early dinner when we were done.
Last week my husband told me that his friend Jeff needed his help on Friday (the same day that we had our pedicure/shopping date), and I told him that we had plans that day. My husband asked if I could change the appointment time, so I called the salon and they said they were booked full until the following day. I told my husband this and he said that his friend needs his help, maybe we could go another time. So I told him that was fine, he could go help his friend and asked my son 18M if he wanted to go instead. My son agreed and we have a whole mother/son day planned.
My husband is now upset with me, and basically said that I was being over dramatic and inconsiderate. I disagreed and told him that this is not the first time he has ditched me for Jeff. Last month we had plans to take care of a project in our house, and he ditched me to go bring Jeff a ladder and help him clean his gutters so I ended up doing the project myself. He also brings him to date nights because "he is all alone and has no girlfriend or other friends."
I told my husband that I was tired of him putting his friendship with Jeff over spending time with me, and that it only seems like he needs his help on days when we have something planned to do together. This has happened at least 15 times in the last 6 months. The first couple times, I was okay with it because i feel like if someone needs help, and you can help, it is a nice thing to do, but after the 4th or 5th time, I felt like he was taking advantage.
My husband said that we could go again next weekend, and I told him that we could do something else, but that I am now looking forward to my mother/son day and that I wasn't canceling. Now he is pouting and making me feel guilty about it.
AITA for changing our date to a mother/son day because he wants to help his friend?
**Edit**
Thank you for all of your comments. I appreciate them and while reading them I did a lot of reflection on things, particularly things involving Jeff. I left work this afternoon early and went home. My son had to work today, so when my husban
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My bff has two wonderful kids who I love and they even stated calling me aunt. Between her kids, her full time job, and her husband I felt she needed a small break and some pampering. I picked her up and I treated her and myself to a pedicure, I even paid extra for the full spa treatment, not having kids of my own makes it easier to afford things like this for both of us. Later our husbands met us with the kids to go to an aquarium. We had a wonderful day together. I'm glad to be able to do these little things together with her. I could never stop being friends with someone just because they had kids. I'd be missing out on one of the best parts of my life; being an amazing aunt. I wouldn't have that if I wasn't childfree.
Ie best place to get a pedicure in Winnipeg with a good track record of cleanliness and is sanitary?
Can anyone recommend a spa where my partner and I can get a couples’ massage and pedicure at the same location? Preferably something different from a typical nail salon!
My family and I just got back from an overnight trip at Kalahari (indoor water park/resort) and I had a blast but still left feeling kinda sad.
This morning was the final day of out stay and my brother and I had already gone through every water park relationship twice over. While it was a lot of fun ofc, I still got bored. So I decided to try my luck at the salon and started looking at the prices. It was pretty expensive but we were on vacation so I thought it would be ok to sit back and relax and get a massage/pedicure.
After walking back to my room and telling my parents about how I could really use some alone and how it would be a great way to relax on our final day of vacation! My mom didn't seem to mind, but said it was up to my dad ofc. My dad gave me this weird look as if it were the weirdest request ever. He goes "men don't go to that sort of stuff" and how those sort of activities are for "females only" despite the amount of benefits anyone could receive from a short time at the spa. I showed him articles on how it wasn't just for woman and how men could also go as it was a great was to destress. I even said I would be willing to pay for it when I started working again. He gives me this film answer of "you're not going, that stuff isn't for men" which concluded our conversation.
Maybe it's a stupid thing to get a lil pressed over but all my life it's been about gender roles and such. Men go out and work (even though they both work ofc) and woman tend to the children and cook and stuff. I feel like they're stuck in this old childhood mindset and haven't been able to move on or maybe even just don't want to accept the fact that times are changing. They also say to have a "real family" it must consist of a father, a mother, and her children. They say they aren't homophobic but I'm pretty sure they atleast just strongly disagree with lgbtq community as a whole.
I kinda got off topic with this but I just want my parents to realize that it's a different time and people are changing. The roles they had as children are changing and how they should accept everyone. It's made me very scared to come out bi because while they love me, I really want their support to. I don't even know what I'm trying to say this, probs belongs on rants but anyone who made it this far (if you did) thank you for reading and if you have any advice I'd love to hear!
Thank you and have a good rest of your day/night
My hands and feet feels so much lighter now, and people are noticing! Idk it feels way too good :3
My wife and I are having our first much needed date night in a long time. We don't have a sitter for long though so we'd like to just get some pedicures and have dinner. Last time we did this we went to kiss nails. The guy there did a great job, but the lady there half assed mine pretty bad and only spent about half as long on it despite us ordering the same service. We'd both like to have a good experience this time and are looking for suggestions on where to go.
repost, original post by /u/t-away789456 (AITA for taking my son to get pedicures instead of my husband?)
For the first time since last year, my 46F husband 48M have a three day weekend! We were discussing what we wanted to do that day, and i suggested that we go get pedicures since I wanted to get a manicure that day anyway. My husband normally goes with me every other month to get pedicure, so I made the appointment. We also made plans to do some shopping and go to a late lunch/early dinner when we were done.
Last week my husband told me that his friend Jeff needed his help on Friday (the same day that we had our pedicure/shopping date), and I told him that we had plans that day. My husband asked if I could change the appointment time, so I called the salon and they said they were booked full until the following day. I told my husband this and he said that his friend needs his help, maybe we could go another time. So I told him that was fine, he could go help his friend and asked my son 18M if he wanted to go instead. My son agreed and we have a whole mother/son day planned.
My husband is now upset with me, and basically said that I was being over dramatic and inconsiderate. I disagreed and told him that this is not the first time he has ditched me for Jeff. Last month we had plans to take care of a project in our house, and he ditched me to go bring Jeff a ladder and help him clean his gutters so I ended up doing the project myself. He also brings him to date nights because "he is all alone and has no girlfriend or other friends."
I told my husband that I was tired of him putting his friendship with Jeff over spending time with me, and that it only seems like he needs his help on days when we have something planned to do together. This has happened at least 15 times in the last 6 months. The first couple times, I was okay with it because i feel like if someone needs help, and you can help, it is a nice thing to do, but after the 4th or 5th time, I felt like he was taking advantage.
My husband said that we could go again next weekend, and I told him that we could do something else, but that I am now looking forward to my mother/son day and that I wasn't canceling. Now he is pouting and making me feel guilty about it.
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