Self harm Puns

i got rid of all 6 blades in my room, i'm finally making actual progress and i'm so happy

I was in my Portuguese class (because I'm Portuguese) and we were reading a book called "A barca do inferno" (idk how to translate this but something like the boat of hell ) it is a dramatic text, a theater play. Basically we have the main characters, the devil and the angel and each one has his boat, the people who died appear on the pier and they will judge him to decide if he goes to hell or heaven. The character we talked today was "Enforcado", a man who committed suicide hanging himself. he was condemned to hell. we (the students) asked the teacher about it and she said that people who commit suicide or any kind of mutilation, especially self-mutilation, go to hell I guess we are all going to hell. I just thought this was interesting and wanted to share it. What do you guys think about it? I really don't care because I don't believe in God and stuff like that 😅 Sorry for anything wrong I wrote

Mine was yesterday. I was with my boyfriend and showing him some stuff on my phone, my wrist was in full view. He knows i self harm and doesn’t like it . Anyway when he saw it he said “can you just put it away, it’s like you’re showing it off and it’s making me feel sick” 💀

Is it self harm if I intentionally do not eat for no reason in particular, and not bulimia/anorexia?

Edit: never before has a granola bar tasted so good

Am I the only one who’s got “declared-viral” fatigue?

A lot of the use of the word viral on this sub is 4th gen stans speaking about their groups releases viral… But it’s often songs that aren’t well known outside of the fandoms. Am i the only one confused because the terms meaning seems like it changed?

I have two problems with this and the first is that I don’t think the average kpop layman would agree that a lot of the songs touted as viral smash sensations on this sub really count as such. There are some bona fide hits, like Afterschool by Weeekly. Others like Thunderous by Stray Kids or JKs SWY for example I couldn’t remember a hit part of the song and unlike Afterschool, neither could most people not in the fandom or on its outskirts.

Now don’t attack me in the comments because i’m not saying anyones a flop. I’m saying that a release can be very successful and well liked by your fandom and still not be considered a viral smash hit outside of your fandom. If your things popularity is majority fandom propelled, even if you have a very large fandom so the numbers are very impressive, it’s not on the same level as an actual widely known song like skz Gods Menu or Enhypen Drunk-Dazed. And that declaring it as such all the time can be more of a turnoff than it is speaking it into existence.

The second is that it fuels this numbers obsession. A lot of the songs I hear declared viral because it’s liked by the fandom or because the fanbase has pushed it on Tiktok a lot(we could have a whole conversation about how inflated views and likes are on tiktok because of the mechanics of the app as opposed to any other sns platform and don’t give as accurate of a picture of how well known and loved in the overall kpop community a release is too) I hear about for the first time not because fans are expressing how much they love it, but because fans are expressing how much they love the attention it’s gotten. That makes me sad ngl

Do you agree? Like I said some of the viral hits said to be viral actually are so. I and many others outside of their fandoms would agree with it. But many are entirely fandom-propped and for me that doesn’t make a viral smash hit. The way “viral” has become so commonly declared makes it almost lose meaning.

EDIT: Girl this is the 4th reddit cares resource i’ve gotten since posting this. Now you got me curious who this possibly could’ve made angry and whoever you are just know it really doesn’t make you look any less like a nu

been close to relapsing this week but today i’m nine months clean. threw away all my old razors i was holding onto last night. now all i need to do is get rid of my knife . i want to keep it but i know if i do i’ll probably start again. i’m still close to relapsing but i want to stay strong and get to one year without self harming.

edit: thank you for all of the kind words, this post kind of blew up for me and i got a little overwhelmed and didn’t open reddit for a couple days. i’ll try to respond to everyone but thank you so much for noticing this, this gave me so much strength to keep going ♥️

I have a lot in a high-vis area and have gotten comments on them before, but I didn't care because I have come to terms with what I went through and my partner understood. I'm about to be re-entering the dating pool and I'm suddenly super self-conscious about them. Should I get a tattoo to cover them up or do you think people might be okay with them?

EDIT: Thank you all for the wonderful words of affirmation. I see that it's a personal decision that I should make for myself, but I really, REALLY appreciate all the acceptance ❤

they just further the stigma by commenting “TW next time” on every fucking thing they see and make everyone hate us even more. If they see someone else’s scars, someone else with anything sharp to seeing someone pretty, skinny, overweight, a fucking pet because it might bring bad memories of a dead pet. It’s completely irrational, how will you go outside without seeing someone pretty? it’s unnecessary asf. when you go downstairs does your s/o go “Hey! I’m cutting carrots! TW!” no. Tw: Food!

tl;dr: it’s irrational and furthers the stigma against people who self harm. you cant beg for tw on things like food, pretty people etc. grow up

Edit: judging from the response, it's good (I think) to know I wasn't being paranoid.

Just asking because I am and I wanted to know. Also any tips for intrusive thoughts about killing yourself ? Or just a tips for killing myself, I'm done.

CW: Suicide

Hello all,

DFH is newer to boundary setting with not just his JustNoMom (my JNMIL), but also with his JustNoFamily. He is very frequently the receiving end of all sides of family drama, and has just put his foot down with telling everyone that he refuses to take part in any conversation concerning family drama anymore. It’s gotten to the point where any conversation he has with any of them ends up coming back to drama, and it’s emotionally and mentally taxing on him. The same problems, complaints, etc, every time, for the last few YEARS.

He sent a short but sweet group text to those involved saying that he loves them but he is being pushed away from everyone due to this, and he refuses to take part in any conversation concerning drama from this point forward. He recommended family/group therapy, expressed he has gone himself and that it was hugely helpful. Ended the message saying he hopes they can understand and respect his request.

All responded in the group chat agreeing and appreciating his text, and 2 of them shared they have already started looking into self help. Yay!

…Until…

His JNMom texts him separately wanting to know what the other 2 said about her. DFH reiterated that he will not take part in any conversation any more, that telling her what they have said won’t help, but therapy will, and he can’t be continued to be brought into this. Then, (*TW!) she says she has been closest to suicide than she’s ever been before in the last 6 weeks.

What do we do? We obviously don’t want her to harm herself. But we need, NEED, some serious boundary setting. I don’t take her statement lightly, but she has a history of throwing (crying) fits when she doesn’t get her way with things. I hate to pin this as one of those instances, but it’s a bit of a “boy who cried wolf” situation. DFH and I have expressed concern to each other privately about if she has ever, or will ever, be suicidal before this instance.

He says there’s more to the convo, but will tell me tomorrow (we are in different time zones at the moment). Will update when I receive more.

We feel stuck. Please help. All advice is appreciated.

(Side note: him and I have attended couples counseling before solely to get help with his JNMom before. She doesn’t know this nor attended any sessions with us. We went for a while, things got better, and sessions ended. Depending on what he tells me tomorrow we may start again)

Update: We live far away from her. She has a P.O. Box,

I’m genuinely curious, but also I feel as if this post could be an outlet for someone. So if you’re comfortable please comment. I will listen, and I know others will to.

Edit: my apologies for the slow responses I’m trying to respond to every comment with the upmost of care. I’ve been playing with my boyfriend and with family so it’s slow but I’m getting to everyone because it’s such an honor to be here for you guys. Everyone matters

Edit: I wasn’t expecting so many people to comment. Gosh thank you. I’m reading as much as I can atm :)

not a flex, but I’m quite glad

Want to be prepared if someone asks me about them.

Looking for different ones, not like "cat" or "glass" ones.

Edit: Thank you, im reading all the comments, but I dont really know what to say for each one. Thank you for answering.

Back story - Been using Kratom 20GPD as a fully fledge replacement for pregabalin. Started noticing in the mornings when I wake up I am dog shit depressed.

Anyone else experience this with high doses?

My mom found a bloody blade on the couch after it fell out my pocket,she forced me to show her my arms and then didn’t say anything after that.

Couldn't find any place for me to talk about it, so I guess maybe here.

They were about 3 days old, and my best friend saw it and jumped away from me and said 'ew' and 'wow'.

She didn't ask me about anything. And I feel guilty for scaring her. But I have a really mixed feelings. I don't know how to react anymore.

Hey guys, hope you all had a great Christmas. I wanted to write here because usually on this season everyone tends to overeat a lot and if you are like me, you can put on weight really fast. I just got on the weight and I put on 8 lbs on 4 days, I feel horrible, I feel heavy, I feel bloated like I want to explode. Yes, the food was amazing. But is there actually a reason to eat two plates of one food when every single things is going to taste the exact same? Maybe we should start putting quality over quantity on our eating habits as well.

I worked so hard to lose those pounds and now I am here again because of the "holidays". This feels so bad I am kind of mad at myself for hurting me like this. I had no reason to do this, no reason. I will not be waiting until Jan 1 to start my journey again, it is not even about losing weight anymore, it is about feeling good about myself physically, emotionally and psychologically. It is about my happiness and I deserve to be happy. We all do. So if you overate this past Christmas, just know I am with you and I believe in ourselves💗

Edit: Okay guys, yesterday I ate in my deficit and today morning I am BACK on my regular weight. You were all right. Let this be a lesson to be nicer with ourselves ^^ (doesn't mean I will eat like that again, it wasn't really about the weight but how bad my body felt physically so yeah my post still stands).

just asking because I’m super insecure about my scars…

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I recently discovered that my friend cuts themselves (under their arm). I would like to help them but I don't know if it's a good idea. I had some problems myself (not self harm) and then when my parent wanted to talk about it I didn't like it. I started to avoid my parent to avoid the topic. I felt like the lesser I talked about it, the less I thought about it. I solved the problem, I just needed to solve this on my own. Maybe it would have been different if some of my friends have offered to help, I don't know. The thing is that I would like to help my friend, I don't want them to feel that they are alone. But at the same time, I don't know if they want/need my help. I don't want them to start avoiding me (like I avoided my parents when they wanted to talk about my problem), because I know about them cutting themselves. Or maybe it's not my business? I just don't want to ruin our friendship. I don't know what to do...

I am officially 100 days self harm free