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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhlFW6rJneA
This talk is on right view and heedfulness. It explains how being in the present moment and accepting everything is not the point:
> "We're here to gain victory over our unskilful habits. To gain victory over the tendencies of the mind to create suffering for itself, to allow itself to be ignorant, to allow itself to keep on churning out suffering. And this is what heedfulness is for, to learn how to be a victor."
I thought the quote I highlighted in the title was particularly interesting due to present events.
Lying, pinned, in the wreck of my car I have to wonder if sheโd feel any guilt if she knew that her angry demand had condemned me to relive my last journey forever.
Historical Background of the Third Buddhist Council
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The account of the background to the Third Council is as follows: Emperor Asoka was crowned in the two hundred and eighteenth year after the Buddha's Mahaparinibbฤna. At first he paid only token homage to the Dhamma and the Sangha and also supported members of other religious sects as his father had done before him. However, all this changed when he met the pious novice-monk Nigrodha who preached him the Appamada-vagga. Thereafter he ceased supporting other religious groups and his interest in and devotion to the Dhamma deepened. He used his enormous wealth to build, it is said, eighty-four thousand pagodas and viharas and to lavishly support the bhikkhus with the four requisites. His son Mahinda and his daughter Sanghamitta were ordained and admitted to the Sangha.
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(ยฉ1997 Thanissaro Bhikkhu)
21-24
Heedfulness: the path to the Deathless.
Heedlessness: the path to death.
The heedful do not die.
The heedless are as if
already dead.
Knowing this as a true distinction,
those wise in heedfulness
rejoice in heedfulness,
enjoying the range of the noble ones.
The enlightened, constantly
absorbed in jhana,
persevering,
firm in their effort:
they touch Unbinding,
the unexcelled rest
from the yoke.
Those with initiative,
mindful,
clean in action,
acting with due consideration,
heedful, restrained,
living the Dhamma:
their glory
grows.
25
Through initiative, heedfulness,
restraint, & self-control,
the wise would make
an island
no flood
can submerge.
26
They're addicted to heedlessness
โ dullards, fools โ
while one who is wise
cherishes heedfulness
as his highest wealth.
27
Don't give way to heedlessness
or to intimacy
with sensual delight โ
for a heedful person,
absorbed in jhana,
attains an abundance of ease.
28
When the wise person drives out
heedlessness
with heedfulness,
having climbed the high tower
of discernment,
sorrow-free,
he observes the sorrowing crowd โ
as the enlightened man,
having scaled
a summit,
the fools on the ground below.
29
Heedful among the heedless,
wakeful among thAfter years of practice, and learning the view, I have realized where strength of will becomes critical.
To be heedful, to withstand temptation to give into craving habits, takes strength of will/heart.
I have clinical depression, and manage it rather well with medication and therapy, and my meditation practice helped alot.
In the last few years though, my strength wanes sometimes.
I want to be able to :
Do my household chores more immediately.
Do my designated exercises, meditation, yoga, walking or jogging, every day, not just when the will comes to me.
Cut back or entirely stop masturbation (Ive noticed the drain on physical and mental energy from excessive masturbation)
Cut back or entirely stop intoxicants of various kinds (mostly alcohol)
withhold temptation to ruminate and indulge in bad thought cycles and self destructive thoughts.
I have noticed it takes strength of will and heart to do these things.
I try to logically change 1 thing at a time, however other issues feed back into the "drain" of my will.
Masturbation in particular, seems to be robbing me of my will power.
I have a local Tibetan Gelug school that brings me alot of inspiration and guidance, but it is a very busy chapter, there is no personal guidance, only guidance for the group.
In my area, there is no small enough chapter for me to seek personal guidance, or I would be already.
When I am strong, my practice and my whole life bears much fruit. But the fruits bared by indulgence and heedlessness bring me suffering.
I broke up with a guy a week ago and it hurts. It's not because he had done or said anything particularly egregious, but because the red flags were multiplying suggesting that -- in my estimation -- something bad was likely to happen.
He was pouty/hesitant about condom use, which I interpreted as a lack of respect for my deep need to not be pregnant at this time. Although towards the end of our relationship he had grudgingly accepted it.
He expected exclusivity reaaallly early on. Like within a couple weeks. Which I found bizarre and later interpreted as controlling.
And perhaps the bigges thing of all -- he spoke really really negatively about his former partners. I'm a divorcee so I totally get having a shitty ex partner, but he was in his late 40s and still spoke with sharp disgust about a partner he'd divorced more than 10 years earlier (he has a young adult child with this woman.)
I think what sealed it for me is that he also spoke with disgust about his most recent partner, whom he'd met 3 years earlier and also had a child with. It confused me that these two women, whom he'd both had children with and met literal decades apart, sparked such disgust in him. I often wondered... 'Well did you learn nothing from your poor experience with your ex-wife, such that you repeated the same thing with someone else decades later?'
But as time wore on it dawned on me that very likely it wasn't that these women were so terrible (both his children are lovely, so I struggle to believe that they're being raised by terrible moms) but that he lacked the ability to do any real introspection about how and why these relationships fell apart. And the easiest default is to say that the women were terrible.
So 7 weeks in I pulled the plug.
I think this is a tough thing about dating in your mid 30s. I'm too old to ignore red flags, which means pulling the plug on things that haven't really gotten ugly or bad... but in my estimation could get ugly or bad. It's not easy to do because outside of my concerns the relationship felt good. Conversation was good, sex was good, spending time together was good. I guess being long term focused takes a lot of discipline. More than I feel I have sometimes.
What do you tell yourself to stay focused on paying attention to red flags early so you don't suffer later on? I need some encouragement right now...
https://www.reddit.com/u/Obaflexy2/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
We had so much fun in the beginning! I really thought he was the one. He had stopped drinking at the time when we met. I didnโt know this. When he started again, he would pick fights and start drama. I slowly realized he was a different person when he was drinking: critical, angry, blamingโฆ that became his persona because eventually he was drinking all the time.
I wish I had paid attention to the signs sooner. I saw them and brought it up tentatively, but he of course insisted he didnโt have a problem and I didnโt push the subject.
Trust your gut. Ask questions. Have those hard conversations and respect your intuition. I really wish I had.
> Fred VanVleet was asked about Barnes heeding Nurse's advice and starting to take more 3s, and this was one hell of an answer: > > "I think it just speaks to being accountable and being coachable, and that's part of > this thing that you don't really talk about a lot. We are very pampered, spoiled guys > and we make a lot of money and everybody in our world is telling us how great we > are, but sometimes you've gotta have people to tell you the truth and you've gotta be > able to accept that.
>So whether that's Nick pulling him after he threw that crazy > behind-the-back pass or telling him to shoot more, he steps up and he looks like he's > been shooting all his life. So just being accountable and being coachable, and that's > that best way to improve. We've got a lot of upside to this team and it's going to take > growth everyday, and that's all you want to see. I think we've seen that from a lot of > guys across the board." >
> > > Fred VanVleet on finding out Giannis was out 30 minutes before the game: โYou donโt flinch, in the back of your head you just thank the man upstairs, and you go out there and try to get a win.โ >
FVV dropping knowledge, you love to see it.
I had an extremely close call a few days ago and want to share with you all so you can avoid this too. Iโm trying to multitask, juggling baby and a work call using my airpods while entertaining my 9 month old. I take them out after the call, and within seconds those LIGHTNING fast baby hands grabs one and sticks it in his mouth. I immediately try to get it out only to feel it slide down his esophagus. So I thoughtโฆ
He burps, coughs, then giggles at my attempt to get it out of his mouth. I rush to the hospital in a frenzy thinking he is going to suffocate at any minute. After 2 xrays, a confused doctor tells me they canโt find anything. I get home and find the damn airpod in my driveway. He must have coughed it up, had it in his cheek, or in his hand and dropped it as we were getting into the car to go to the ER. ๐
One of the many things to watch out for around a baby.
Hello, if you are newly separated I highly suggest you heed this advice. When my wife dropped the bomb that "she didn't love me anymore and couldn't be a mom anymore" 4 months ago, I was absolutely devastated, and I'm still dealing with the mental injuries. After 9 years together and having a kid together, I never saw it coming.
You may be like I was, reading Divorce subs and having a thousand epiphanies a minute about your relationship, but not taking it into action. I had all the knowledge to minimize the damage of this traumatic divorce, but I did not put it into use, because I felt like my relationship was different. I thought my wife could never do the things I was reading about.
Well I was damn wrong, and I hope you don't make the dozens of mistakes I have during the divorce process. Before we begin, let me say of course I am no relationship expert and I am far from perfect, but I've made 1000 mistakes and from that I've learned a lot. I am going to share it with you in hopes you don't make the same mistakes, these are of course just my opinions, good luck!
First let me explain the concept of the unicorn. The unicorn is the woman who simply realizes after many years of marriage that she and her husband are just not a good match, they both have changed, and that she wants to end her marriage in a way that is least hurtful to her partner while she pursues life as a responsible single woman.
Unicorns exist, but your wife is not a unicorn. Do not let her fool you into thinking she's a damn unicorn!
Lesson #1: If she says she's fallen out of love with you, she has met someone who she is interested in enough to end her marriage over them. Yes, even though she says she just wants to be single. Don't blame yourself, she is employing "the grass is always greener on the other side" fallacy. The sooner you accept this, the less it will sting when you discover her new partner/fling. The best quote I've read regarding monkey branching is "One day she will have the same resentment towards him that she had for you, no exception. He will fart, and she will groan."
Lesson #2: Once you're separated, her gloves are off. Get your umbrella because it's raining lies! She will lie without remorse, take everything she says with a grain of salt. In fact, the best thing you can do is limit contact with her as much as possible. The best way to handle a lie is to not hear it at all. She is not your friend or confidant anymore, the sooner you accept that the better.
Les
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After 1 AM, ghosts and demons will sit in them and watch you; that's why you wake up in the middle of the night for no reason.
Someone else once wrote on this page: "The Dell XPS is the computer I wanted so badly to love, but I just can't." Hit me hard.
I bought an XPS 15 back in 2017. I was enamored with the display, the thin bezels... No remarkable complaints come to mind... it was a laptop that worked, which I would come to consider a luxury.
In the summer of 2020, that laptop was stolen from a repair shop.I replaced it with an XPS 15 9500.
EDIT: Now that I think about itโฆ the reason that 2017 XPS was even in the repair shop was because the motherboard failed and needed to be replaced, which is very expensive. That was less than 3 years into owning this $2,000+ machine.
Out of the box, the 9500 was problematic.
The speakers were terrible. They were distorted / crackling even when playing speaking voices at normal volumes. I had numerous, hours-long tech support phone calls with Dell before they sent someone to replace the speakers. They were not improved. Dell sent me a new unit. These speakers were also trash. And so I accepted that the speakers in this $2,000 laptop just sucked by design, I guess?
Periodically (probably once every few days), the display would freeze. I'd have to press the Power button to put it quickly to sleep, then again to wake it. I followed some online advice to correct this... involved updating drivers, and some other stuff I can't remember... nothing worked. This was also an Out-of-the-Box problem; no update ever improved it.
Sidenote: The laptop gets mad hot & the fan is loud as hell.
The trackpad was wobbly - which is a common QC issue for a lot of us - WHICH EVERYONE AGREES IS INSANE GIVEN THE PRICE OF THESE MACHINES. But it also did this other unforgivable thing... when it was on, and I picked up the laptop from either side of the trackpad (the palm rest areas), the computer would CLICK RANDOM THINGS. I mean, what? Like, WHAT.
Each time I encountered the above issues, I was so irritated, thinking about the money I spent, and the lacking quality. It made using my computer frequently stressful. I have limited knowledge of how computers function, but tried my best as an average consumer to educate myself, and make recommended changes - NOT FROM DELL, but from other XPS owners trying to fix their defunct machines. The thing is though, for this price tag, all of this work to function normally should not be required.
I accepted the above issues & the stress that came with them. However, last week - for no apparent reason - the display
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