My f29 boyfriend m32 of 5 years had an accident days ago and was admitted to the hospital. He has a knee injury nothing too serious. On his 3rd day at the hospital I got off work and went to visit him.
When I arrived his family was there too. I was told to go stand outside of the room by his family after I entered the room. I couldn't even speak to him and he was 100% awake and saw me.
I was standing there in the hallway with them completely ignoring me for 3hrs straight. After waiting for that long I just walked out without saying a word since I didn't even think they acknowledged my presence. I went home feeling upset and his mom called to scold me for leaving like that. When I opened up to her about how felt I was constantly ignored and how felt like my presence wasn't important since they told me to wait outside she was shocked telling me this isn't about me my boyfriend just got out of a horrible situation and I should be happy and feel grateful for getting him back instead of sulking and craving attention.
She explained that my boyfriend was on medication and went on about how me leaving like that painted me in a bad light. She shamed saying I should feel ashamed of myself for not giving my boyfriend the support he obviously needed and brought an overall negative energy to the rest of the worried family members. She made me feel absolutely guilty even though she was the one who requested I wait outside but I'm not sure wether I did the right thing by leaving after waiting for 3hr straight.
Was I in the wrong for leaving? Should I have waited a bit longer?
My boyfriend M29 and I F24 have been dating for 9 months now. His family suggested getting a 3 bedroom cabin for Fourth of July this year. At first, I was super excited. There would be 3 couples going and 3 beds (the couples being my boyfriend and I, his sister and her boyfriend, and my boyfriend's parents). However, when my boyfriend asked who would take the room with the sunlight, his mom said that she and my boyfriend's grandma would take that room. My heart instantly sank because my boyfriend's mom is weird about him and I sleeping in the same room, even though, we live together. This is how I think the bed situation will play out: my boyfriend and his dad sleep in the same bed, his mom and his grandma sleep in the same bed, and his sister and I share bunkbeds, and his sister's boyfriend sleeps on the couch. I have a problem with this because I have only met his family a few times for the holidays so, I want to be able to decompress at the end of the day and talk to my boyfriend after a long day of spending time with his family. I am an introvert by nature and have social anxiety so it will already be a lot spending time with his family all day. I also will not be in a good mood if I stay stressed out the entire time. Socializing is super stressful and then make his sister and I bunk mates and I think I would implode. Of course I would also like some time alone with my boyfriend during the trip.
In a previous vacation we took during summer, I had said yes to joining him with his friends in Key West. Well, we get to the place we were staying and it's an old steamboat. Which was cool for two of the couples who got king sized beds. My boyfriend and I were put in bunk beds. The ceiling fabric was torn 3 foot across and when it rained the end of my bed got wet. The sewage piping was also right underneath our part of the ship so, it smelled like old lacquer and shit. I cried the first night and was miserable most of the trip because of where we had to sleep.
I just do not want this trip with his family to be as stressful as the one with his friends. His family is in the midst of planning the trip so, I do not think it's rude to set the expectation that my boyfriend and I need our own room or I am not going. I am not sure if mabe i just have anxiety from the last trip. AITA?
** I apologize for using the term PTSD in the post.
I do all of these. lol
What’s that about? They just there until the cheque clears?
Im an 18 year old guy in a family that likes to gather a lot near christmas, and today they're coming to make "tamales", and my aunt is bringing her 3 children (don't remember their exact ages, but around 8, 5 and 4). Now im what could be called a "nerd" and I like to collect stuff, mainly collect lego. It's not a big collection but im proud of it.
However we already have experience of my cousins making a mess of that stuff. One of them completely destroyed a big lego police station I had. So I decide to close my door everytime they come (I don't stay on my room just to be clear.) But today my mother insisted to keep it open because they're "old enough". But I don't want to risk something I put effort into having organized and clean, so I denied and she forced me to keep it open.
Her reasons is that they would feel bad seeing that I don't want them there, and that I should threat them better. I don't think they would really care about a small room. I had the doubts if im truly threating them badly just for this. I always try to play and talk to them outside.
EDIT: Thanks for the replies. I followed the advice to keep it closed anyway but she kept opening it back. As I was constantly playing smash with my older cousins, I had to check many times that they didn't took anything. Thankfully, nothing was touched. Sorry for the "threat" typo lol. And also, just for future comments, please don't insult my mother. Despite some mistakes in judgement, I love her and she's a wonderfull woman, and I couldn't ask for a better mom.
Is it ok if I got around the house(obviously not there room) I'm paranoid I'll get it I've been in my room all day I've tested negative I'm 19 fully vaxed
eta: Nate's family is also really conservative and he was brought up like that as well. Someone mentioned I should have added this in. Also, I'm from the US since a lot of people asked..
This is so so so embarrassing but I can't take it anymore. I have to know if i'm in the wrong here. I need to apologise if so...
I (21F) was told by my bf, "Nate" (26M) that i'd get the house to myself for the weekend. He said he had to go visit his parents to take care of a property related issue. I was pretty excited to have the house to myself because I have been living with Nate since I was 19 and I missed living alone (though Nate is the loml and in no way a trouble to live with)
I had this tradition of spending a lot of my weekends baking while in my lingerie (idk it makes me feel pretty. Yes ik it's stupid but it just makes me stupid happy) with music and dancing. Super embarrassing to admit but I also do silly things like pretending i'm a Victoria's model or a singer and I sing along, loudly. I mentioned this because this means the house is usually a mess. My dresses are all over and the music is super loud which is obviously not ok. I hadn't done that in a long time because Nate hates loud music and he's not a fan of my cupcakes. So i decided to do it this weekend.
So it's Sunday and I put on 'what a feeling by One Direction' and it's super loud, i'm only wearing lingerie (the Victoria's kind so lacy af. which I regret sm looking back ugh).
My bf used his key to open the door and I didn't hear him come in because like i said, it's loud in the house and i'm also in the kitchen/living room area. Apparently he wanted to surprise me... Nate brought his mom, dad, and his sister's two kids (only like 10M think). They come in and there I am, frozen in a dance pose like an idiot.
I quickly ran to our room, yelling "Sorry, wasn't expecting anyone!" and was putting on clothes, when Nate come in. He was so angry. He said i was acting like a child and that I embarrassed him. His parents wanted Nate to drop them back asap, refusing to stay and his mom called me a lot of names and said the kids had seen 'everything' and that made me feel guilty af...
Here's why I am losing sleep over this: On one hand, I didn't know they would come. I locked the door too so I feel like I didn't do anything wrong. I planned on cleaning up my mess before Nate came home too. Also, Nate and his mom insulted me a lot.
But when you look at it from their perspective, I was behaving like an imm
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Tweet this to advise the hotel of this PR nightmare:
Dear @GrandWailea @WaldorfAstoria @HiltonHotels - Are you aware that @TrishaPaytas filmed PORN in your Molokini room in the children/family wing of the hotel last week and has now broadcasted it? https://twitter.com/HeauxPhatt/status/1479862281181794304
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I'd like to add a link to the above with the unmistakable bathroom photo and other proof. Does anyone have those links? If you can improve the tweet by adding proof, feel free to add your version below for us to tweet.
Possibly Australian movie, made in the past 20 years. Not a supernatural horror.
IT'S THE PACT 2012 !!!
I didn't recognized it from the crappy trailer because they made it look like a completely different movie! Its edited to look like a low quality supernatural b-movie & also I didn't remember the girl character in the trailer with the bad kabuki make up!
Sorry about all the confusion & thank you everyone for helping!
I (20F) recently moved to an apartment with my family and it’s a one bedroom apartment. We pay a lot of money for it and it’s a tight squeeze for a family of five. We used to live in a 3 bedroom apartment but moved to make the commute to work much closer for my sister and brother. (20F, 18M) My parents (48F, 52M) set ground rules for all of us and one of the rules was to eat in the living room with the family together to avoid making a mess in the bedroom I share with my two siblings. My sister and I both listened to them but my brother refuses to comply. 2 times already he’s eaten in the bedroom and my sister and I have yelled at him, telling him to eat in the living room to avoid making a mess.
For context, my brother had the basement all to himself and for a lack of better words, he lived in a pigsty. He’d never wash his clothes, leave his dirty dishes downstairs so my mom or I would have to clean up after him, never washed his floors or anything. He just never cleaned up after himself. Once I went downstairs to get something and almost vomited from how rancid it smelled. I complained to my parents and they lectured him but that’s all they did. But god forbid I left a cup in my room, I’d be screamed at my mother. But when it comes to her son, she just keeps her head down and babies him. He also recently turned 18 so I thought he’d start taking more responsibility. I’d ask him to wash his dishes or pick up his trash he left in the room and he’d ignore me. I’m so fed up.
My parents today yelled at my sister for drinking coffee in the room and I stared at them in disbelief. I asked them why they didn’t do anything to my brother and they acted like they didn’t hear me.
Am I the asshole for just wanting to keep the room clean and not wanting a repeat of what occurred in the basement? I feel like I’m going crazy and I should move out with my sister like we planned. [Edit 1: I see that one room apartment is making people confused and I can only really clarify is that yes, it’s a cramped way to live and I’m not a fan of it. I’ve lived like that most of my life because of money issues. Not much else I can explain.]
eta: I made cupcakes using some tips you guys gave me and omg it was so much better (not as dry as they were before), thank you. <3
I saw a lot of messages and comments wanting an update so here it is. I'm sorry if I didn't get to your message, there were so many of them so I thought i'd make a post instead. I got a little overwhelmed (:
TL;DR: You guys were right, I am NTA. I used your advice and moved out (after confronting Nate about his behaviour)
After reading what everyone wrote I quickly realised that what Nate did was so so wrong. A lot of great moms in the comments also helped me understand the fact that even conservative moms (like Nate's) wouldn't react so rudely. It hit me like a wave when I realised what my life had come to. I didn't say anything to Nate about the post but he must have figured out that I was upset at him. I was doubting our relationship and pulling away from him. He started talking to me again and for a day I didn't really say anything. But I knew I had some decisions to make. I genuinely didn't believe I would get so many responses telling me I was NTA so this was eye opening for me.
So a few days after I made the post I told Nate that we needed to talk. I said that I would be staying with my friend until I felt comfortable around him. He didn't know what I was referring to (which just made me angry because how can he forget a fight that big) and I told him I was upset with how he treated me after the whole "your family walking in on me" incident. I also mentioned how I shouldn't have to wait for him to be away to dance, bake or listen to one direction just because he doesn't like it. He tried convincing me to stay but I left. I think he knew I wouldn't let this go like the other things (thanks to you guys)
Yesterday I asked him to meet me at a cafe so we could have a conversation about everything that happened. Nate cried. Like for the first time ever since I have known him. He apologised, told me he messed up, and that he would change because he realised his mistakes now. I told him I wanted to move out and maybe after a while, if he does actually change, i'd give us another chance. I just needed some space to think about things and so I told him we should take a break from each other for a while. Nate told me he would talk to his mom as well and that he should have defended me to which I said yes you should have. I actually borrowed direct sentences (to explain why he in the wrong) from some comments you guys l
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I'm 26, GF is 23. This is my 3rd post about this continuing saga of toxic purity culture. Over winter break my mom finally said that she isn't gonna have it. My mom is paying for this hotel for the whole family, and its expensive. So to get our own room it would cost us over a grand, plus the flight ticket and other expenses. I could possibly get an Airbnb within a few minutes of the hotel... but I'm starting to feel hurt. She's paying for both my older siblings hotel rooms, but I'd be forced to go my own way if I want my girlfriend to come. I'm strongly leaning towards not going and just letting my mom feel like shit for it. Heres my 2 previous posts with extra details:
1)https://www.reddit.com/r/exchristian/comments/qbdb9w/gf_forced_to_sleep_in_a_separate_hotel_room_on/
Throwaway and all that…
My family takes occasional trips together. When we do older sister (40) tends to pay for the place that we stay. She has a belief that as the oldest she should pay and refuses to split cost with me (33f). It’s generous of her. However the downside is she always books it so that I share a room with my mom who snores really loudly, and is really difficult to share a room with because she will make a lot of noise and stay up until midnight or one am with the lights on without much consideration for me trying to sleep. I also have a kind of complex relationship with my mom where she tests boundaries and is hurt if I ask her not to do something so I find it best to keep a bit of space. I also just feel like I’m in my mid-30s and don’t really want to share a room with anyone.
After our last group trip 3-4 years ago where I was sleep deprived and miserable I decided I wouldn’t do it anymore and would get my own place nearby. We have an upcoming trip for a family function (I know, not a great time to be traveling but it’s for a memorial and unavoidable). My sister booked the place and I told her I was going to get a place nearby as I couldn’t share with mom anymore. She was really understanding and offered to switch rooms around and have her BF sleep on couch so we could share or have her stay with mom but I don’t want to do that to them. She said she understood but I think she was a bit offended and my mom definitely was.
AITA?
ETA: I’m wondering if I’m being rude/insulting/insensitive or too inflexible.
There is not a ton of hope and likely will have to end intervention. But we are hoping for brain activity within the next 24 hours. Lost my baby nephew 10 years ago and now my little niece most likely (from different siblings). I don’t mind comments or advice, I am trying to be strong for everyone. I don’t even know where to begin to help.
