Demoralising Puns

I’m somewhat new to tarkov. Started 3 weeks into the last wipe. I’ve got friends who have played a lot longer and when we play, I just follow, listen, and try to survive. I feel like this has ruined my solo play experience because I never took in routes etc. I don’t understand where others spawn and man am I paying for it. I haven’t survived in 12 solo runs. Totally blindsided by people spawning near me that I have no clue about. My solo PvP skills suck major balls as I rely on the other guys to assist. I’m having an awful time and I need someone to hold me and tell me it will be ok!

I started this act at immortal 1 and i have been hovering between 0-150rr the entire act. Every match feels like a 50/50 whether I get the good team with 4 other good players giving comms and making a good team comp or I get the full no mic 4 duellists + me gg go next after round 1 team. It feels like when I play I have such little impact because one team is clearly going to win from the beginning.

So recently i (15f) went over to my aunt's house for a family dinner. Usually i don't really enjoy going to such gatherings as it always ends up with them (my grandmother, aunt and dad) comparing me to my cousins and sister (12f), and i end up feeling demoralised. I have spoken about it to them before, but they played it off as "advice given in love", so there was nothing really much i could do. Several times my mum has tried to stand up for me, but she ends up being brushed off.

Anyway, at this particular family dinner, the moment we sat down, my aunt commented, "don't you think you should hit the gym? Getting fat already". For reference about 42kg (91.6 lbs) at 152cm (about 5 ft). This isn't the first time i have been shamed by them, and u often have to deal with my dad saying such things at home as well. I just decided to laugh it off and said i would try. She then proceeded to point out how my sister is taller and skinnier, and "why don't you be more like her, everyone loves her". My dad then added on by saying that "one grew vertically, the other is just going horizontally" and i knew the latter was me. Insecure as i was, i just laughed it off and continued with the dinner, however throughout i was uncomfortable as they degraded my aspirations to become a social worker and said it was "low-class" compared to the jobs my cousins aimed for in the science field and that "she's dumb, so she aims for a job that doesn't require brains". I was getting more uncomfortable by the minute, and i wished to leave, but my parents were not done. The last straw came, however, when i went to get a little bit more food and my sister chimed in, "look, the pig is going for more food!" I then stood up and shouted, "i will NOT be disrespected in this way! Your comments are making me insecure and i can't take it any longer!" and then stormed off to the bathroom.

Later that night at home, my dad scolded me for snapping like that and said that i was overreacting to "advice that was given out of care". To be honest i really don't think it is, i see it as more of belittling me and degrading me in front of everyone. This has gone on since i was 10, and i've really had enough of it. Then again, i'm worried that what i did was disrespectful, especially considering it happened in front of my extended family, and thinking back, i'm wondering if i could have been more civil. So, reddit, AITA?

I have just lost my second attempt at qualifying. 4-5. I was up 4-2 and choked, so I fully get it's my own fault, but two games went to pens and two more to extra time, it was razor thin margins and I have had to play SO many Div Rivals games to get enough points to try and qualify and both times I have failed and I just don't know if I have it in me for that grind again.

I was a respectable Div 3/4 G3 player last year, I don't consider myself bad but I'm also not fantastic, but in such a short game span like 9 games sometimes you just end up coming against a few too many great squads, or a couple things don't go your way and you're staring down the barrel of another ~30 games just for the chance.

Not to mention I have already made my way to div 4 and so my rivals games are TOUGH. So that grind might be even longer.

And all that to be told "CONGRATS here's a gold players and a gold players premium"... I seriously played 40ish games for that? It's so demoralising

I've been looking for a job for over a year now, and the process of applying, selling yourself, and preparing for interviews only to be told "Unfortunately...." Is starting to take it's toll. It really does feel demoralising to have to condense you're entire life into an A4 page and a 30 minute call in order to sell yourself to get a job that barely allows you to get by. Employers want you to portray this fictionalised version of yourself to try and fit their mould and it is so depressing to have to do it time after time only to get rejection after rejection. No real point to make here just wanted to get that out and see if anyone else is feeling the same.

How does everyone stay motivated?

I’ll go down a couple of pounds then right back up, sometimes even higher! I’m following everything to a T with my diet, following the exercise plan but the constant lack of progress makes me want to cry when I weigh myself.

Let me know how you guys keep yourselves going! I don’t want to give up!

Ugh!! So I know this has been said many times but honestly UC is so horrible. Really hate my “work coach” too and feeling borderline harassed and dehumanised at this point. Completely useless and being made to feel like I’m taking up valuable resources and being a waste of space etc. Also she calls me often, like how do they expect me to find a new job so quickly given the current climate? We are literally in a global pandemic. And I’ve been searching far and wide for months, not got a single offer. Pretty much no one is hiring. Honestly, I can see how this service can make people want to off themselves. I can seriously imagine myself being driven to that resort eventually. I’m already highly stressed out and depressed about struggling financially, and UC just makes you feel worse about it all. Absolutely cannot wait to get off this.

EDIT: WOW Guys, I honestly wrote this post on a whim to vent my own frustrations but I am shocked how much it’s blown up! Unfortunately I can’t see all your posts now because it’s a bit overwhelming to read. Thank you all for the awards! It’s such a shame so many of us have been treated poorly by the system, some of these stories are truly shocking, but I’m also glad to see that some of you have had good experiences too. I do hope this could be the first step in the right direction because it‘s clear improvement is much needed.

I also came across the following post on the thread posted by u/Nimtolien712 who has done a podcast on the topic. UPDATE: The podcast is now up. Here is the link for anyone interested Link

hi there, currently a o level student, it just suddenly hit me like how one exam can determine your life & your future, like the amount of stress and pressure that is on me now to make sure i dont screw my up next papers as time comes

it’s so demoralising sometimes, and like i myself don’t even realise the way i text now is like so different, till the point where someone asks me if i’m okay and i was wondering what did i say or do, but it was just the way i text. like throughout my 4 years, i actually went through many stuffs, ups & downs, some that have affected me greatly

then i look at my primary 4 brother, having end of years cancelled, apparently to “reduce stress” which like i wonder why i can’t be borned later, he looks so happy and having so much fun as i was compared to primary 4.

like i have to cope with so much stuff, my studies, personal problems and whatnot, and i just really have no one to talk to about my feelings, it’s either because i can’t trust anyone anymore or i just really suck at opening up to people.

i’m just really confused on what to do right now, like i’m just sitting here thinking how this one exam will determine my entire future. where i go to study, or whatever etc.

i just find exams really demoralising and sometimes i can’t stand it, together with my atrocious mental health and my panic attacks

Bro I just like to draw sometimes how tf have you solved world hunger, interned with the president, worked 15 different part time jobs, been blessed by the pope, and consistently held a 4.0 GPA, taking 8 APs a year???

Mfs gotta be making some of this stuff up, ain't no way.

I appreciate that we at least get something now but its nowhere near enough. Getting xp based on medals is essential. Before we got this multiplayer, the debate was whether it needed a BR to survive, now its whether the playerbase will stick around with a progession system this bad.

I've been doing a few overwatch cases each time I play for the last few months and I still haven't got any extra XP or a notification that the suspect got banned. The vast majority of them have been spinbotting so this isn't a case of my incorrect judgement. It just seems like such a waste of my time when nothing happens. Am I the only one experiencing this?

I've got a 9 year old girl and a nearly 11 year old boy. He's diagnosed on the spectrum (but super high functioning) and ADHD, and she's undiagnosed but we believe also has both but is super good at masking.

Homeschooling is a total nightmare.

The school is insanely disorganised, teachers don't seem to know how to use Google classroom.

Random Zoom links sent to our personal email addresses, but not added to their calendar.

Lots of work for them to do, but not without our help.

Only 45 mins of Zoom classes each day.

And we're somehow expected to keep two kids focused and on task with minimal and often confusing instructions on how to do so.

I run my own business, and would actually be doing OK throughout all this, but it seems like Variant 2, Delta Boogaloo caught the school system completely by surprise, as if they'd learned absolutely nothing from the first go around.

How the hell are we supposed to manage this?

I just noticed, with a series win vs the Suns, Lebron would have knocked Jae Crowder out of 3 playoffs in the last 4 years on 3 different teams (Suns, Heat, Celtics).

Add that to the Lebronto, 60 Win Hawks, Pacers (PG24 and Oladipo editions), Kemba Walker and the list goes on.

I didn’t watch 90s basketball but were players like “ah not this guy again” when MJ came around (I can imagine the Jazz must’ve hated him), and what stories are there surrounding this?

EDIT: 3 out of 5 years , my bad.

For years I've been comfortable and content with being alone and enjoying my own company. It suited my personality and way of life to live life by my own terms and only ever have to rely on myself and my own decisions. However, recently I've realised that being alone is damaging my mental health and life prospects.

I recently entered into a relationship; I've never been in a relationship before so the whole experience is bringing up emotions and situations that I've never had to deal with or think about before. It's a long distance relationship and though we have met a couple of times, it's not like I can just hop on a bus and be with them within 15 minutes when I want their company. We make it work though and I'm happy with how things are going currently, we make the effort to stay in contact throughout the day and share things that any normal partnership would, we just have to work around the distance issue. However, I'm starting to realise that I rely upon them for my emotional stability, validation and general feeling of belonging/contentment. This isn't really fair on either of us and I need to be able to find those things elsewhere because we can't be in contact every second of the day.

When I'm not speaking to them I get kind of depressed and realise how lonely I actually am. They have friends and a relatively full social life and I feel like I'm missing out on these things myself. Jealousy isn't really the right word, because it's not as if I begrudge them those things, I just feel left behind and sad that I don't have those same things in my life. I live with my immediate family and although I love my mum, it's not right that my mum is my best friend and main source of social interaction outside of my relationship at the age of 26. I desperately need to make some friends and make connections with people so that I don't feel dependent on my partner or immediate family for company and emotional enrichment or whatever you want to call it.

But how do you make friends as an adult? Making friends is such an alien concept to me that I have no idea where to even begin. I know there are apps like bumble but I'm sort of reluctant to use them because I think I'd feel shameful having to resort to an app to find company and companionship as a 26 year old man. People don't realise how difficult it is to make friends and meaningful relationships as an adult when those friendships are no longer forged out of necessity or proximity. When you're in school, co

Typical Dartmoor weather; beautiful epic skies on the way up, followed by torrential rain and covered in cloud while pitching, didn’t let up, soaked and cold I headed back. Broke the cloud cover on the way down to again, beautiful and epic skies.

Ugh.

I really like to enjoy this game, but after having 70+ games im still dying non stop, and engaging in crossfires make me feel like a handicap child. Anytime im able to get a kill off it feels so satisfying that i forgot the purpose of a game. Im warming up at firing range by strafe shooting the dummies but im still struggling on this game having a pathetically low kd ratio, my friend who first started had way better kd ratio than i do. What can i do? Does aimlab help? Thank you!! Really frustrated atm.

So I have this problem, I realise this problem comes from a place of privilege that a lot of people don't have, so I realise it may make me sound ridiculous. For that I'm sorry. But it is really bothering me and I needed to vent.

Basically, I am overweight. There are no two ways around it. My BMI is 26.5 which puts me solidly in the overweight category (I have very little muscle, so this is accurate).

Sure, I'm not as heavy as a lot of people. I'm not obese. But I am definitely not 'skinny' or 'small'. I am literally a "Large" in clothes! (UK 14, US 10)

I am not healthy. I have mild health/fitness problems that I didn't have when I was a healthy weight. I get out of breath quickly, my resting heart rate is higher now, it's more of an effort to stand up from sitting, and my stomach rolls get in the way when I bend down to tie my shoes. All of my 'small' and 'medium' clothes don't fit me any more. I have a 36 inch waist and 40 inch hips. I am overweight.

Don't get me wrong. I love my body and I would love it at any size! I know people who are heavier than me and I think they look great and if they are happy the way they are, I am all for that. But I personally don't feel my best at this size. So I am in the process of losing weight. I'd like to get down to a BMI of 21, or thereabouts.

But here's the thing. Even though I am overweight, I am thinner and smaller than literally 99% of my friends and family. I have one friend and one family member who are a healthy weight. The rest of them are obese.

Because they are so used to the way they look, and being around other people who are obese, they see me as 'skinny'. Every time they see me saying 'no' to chocolate, or eating a plate of veggies, or exercising, or mentioning how I've lost weight/am trying to lose weight, I get the same barrage of comments:

• What?? You're already skinny!
• What are you talking about? You're fine as you are.
• Your body is perfect! You don't need to lose any weight.
• But you're so small!
• You're so slim already! Why do you want to lose weight?
• (Something that implies I'm anorexic)

And every iteration thereof. They almost get offended, as if because I'm trying to lose weight and I'm thinner than they are, they think it's a personal attack on them. Like I'm saying that they look bad or implying that they should be losing weight too.

I'm just fed up with it. I keep explaining that I'm overweight according to BMI and just want to get down to a healthy we

i find the need to say it out its affecting me too much like i tried to love and enjoy the process of learning math but im always getting depressing scores for it to the point im finding myself hopeless and questioning myself isit bcus i dumb i mean obvsly no right bcs practice makes perfect but it just doesnt seems to work on me :"

ik math isnt one of my strengths bcus im a humanities person but that shouldn't be an excuse to restrict me to get good grades for it well here's the thing i feel like i have a thing with math that i cant overcome?? like its been a prolonged thing i was never good in maths its pathetic. literally never ever. i rmb pri 3 me crying over math before lol and i even failed in my earlier years in pri school like thats disappointing honestly it got better when i went to sec 1/2 (surprisingly getting As and Bs idk rmb how but it felt like miracle) and it dropped again in sec3/4 amath literally made me suffer so much yet im back at taking h2 math just for the sake of course requirements, again.

so like currently i just finished vectors and had common test: im only starting this journey with one topic of math and it already give me one of the biggest blow in my life? i cant even believe how much blanks i left bcus im the type who'd put 100% when it comes to exam with the examption in 2020 amath paper which i have left blanks but this time its different at least i have things in mind for my amath paper but for this paper i literally blanked out and brain freezed?? like i dont even know what im doing/writing?? i managed to complete 1 question with 70% sure that its not correct and the rest i literally flung. its not that i didnt try but its like me writing down infos and starting and then im stucked so quickly . so its 1/4 for only a part of a question that im doing and it just feels unacceptable bcus i have never felt so hopeless and i hate the fact that im even having thoughts on giving up the whole paper (which i actually didnt but its the ik im for sure getting a u grade kind of thing aft the paper) it makes me want to disappear in this world forever ik im mad for saying this but math is getting depressing than ever idk im finding this subject scarier and scarier my heart literally shattered aft the paper; ik its cts but getting good grades is rlly important:( and this :( whole :( thing :( is just :( demoralising :((

that only means doing more practice but here's a thing i can understand concepts/formulas when its taught but when

90% of your time as a solo player is going to be playing against stacked teams, you’re either forced to stack yourself or just grin and bare the atrociously balanced games.

Stacks should play other stacks. Solos should play solos. Pinning solos against a team just doesn’t work in this game especially with how loose the sbmm and ranks are in this game. You literally get paired with absolute plums.

I’ve played in stacks myself the most enjoyment I got was from playing against other sweaty teams that wanted to win even if we lost, I always hated playing against a bunch of solo players and just demolishing them. I don’t want to speak for every stack but I’m sure most want to play against other teams aswell.

Been beating this drum a while but seems nothing will ever be done about it. The argument will always be that gears just doesn’t have the population to support it.

So.. after a few weeks of planning and assembling gear, writing scripts etc etc, and 4 hours today getting all the software and lighting and myself ready... I got about 30 seconds of footage in the bag before deciding to call it a day and just work with that to learn the ropes of editing etc.

And the finished result is... pretty shit. I have the face and voice of a robot, zero personality, could not remember more than 5 seconds worth of stuff to say at a time and by the end of it I was exhausted and sweating under the lights. The result is... not terrible... for YouTube 2010... for people who like androids... but far from what I imagined and I don't feel like even 5% of my personality came across.

Please tell me this is normal.

Altruists, please disabuse me of a dispiriting notion. I'm an accountant. I can treat the number of jobs available to me as effectively static, unless I retrain. So I might do a truly laudable job, but only by taking that job from someone else. I think I'm a mediocre accountant but quite personable and good at interviews, so any charitable job I do, I'm likely pushing out another candidate at least as good.

Likewise, if I refrain from occupying a post in a company which has a negative impact on the world, someone else will take it.

So, why shouldn't I just work for Shell or BAE and do a mediocre job?

Honestly just ruining the game. These guys with more kills in season 9 than I've got playing since season zero. Just getting so fed up. Me and my buddy are probably above average but we're still absolute fodder for these guys. They've wiped the whole lobby by the time you've blinked and you just know that even if you do ok and get to the last two squads it'll invariably be them and then there's only one way it ends.

Thanks for listening to my rant peace out

Since we get mismatch, maybe its about time to have a surrender button. Also, please remove 4,000 limit. I want to go down. Its not fun here in 4k. I want to face the same level.

I'm always so proud of my progress in Spanish. Then I take a quiz and get thrown loads of new stuff I'm just expected to figure out, which I muddle through.. only to be given a score that is roughly the same as previous quizzes, regardless of the fact that I have covered loads of new material since the last one.

Am I missing the point of this quiz? It doesn't seem to accurately track my progress in relation to where I first started. It seems to scale in difficulty with a very steep curve with the intention of consistently beating me down.

To achieve a high score on the quiz, it seems you need to be able to intuitively know a language without any previous learning and be able to answer the questions by just "knowing" rather than participating in any of the lessons.

I don't think I'll do them anymore as it doesn't seem to have any benefit to my learning style.

Edit:

I've had a bit of time to think about my question...

If the quiz is designed just to test your progress using Duolingo, then the scores will stay the same. If, however it's designed to test your progress of learning the language in all environments; say perhaps you are also living in the country as well as using Duolingo, or taking classes, then it may be a more accurate measurement of progress. Or perhaps it's used to gauge the difficulty of the upcoming lessons.

The quiz is no doubt designed to test your ability "work things out" with language; such as conjugating verbs, figuring out what a word might be, a little bit of guess work to test your ability with language I suppose. I know for a fact that if I took the quiz with a Spanish dictionary by my side and took my time I would score massively higher, but this feels like cheating to me and may artificially increase the difficulty of the next material.

I don't know whether to suck it up and take them more often or sack them off altogether.

I have to basically redo 2 hours of progress, half of my fucking playthrough, because some fucker sneaked under my bed and slit my throat the last second before getting to a new day. I even succeeded the negotiation, but the fight was so hard :(