Hello all,
I'm seeking a bit of relationship advice. Most folks here can relate to how we process, and a few may have even had similar experiences and I hope they can help me make a wiser decision.
30M INTJ in a relationship with a 30F ENFJ. Maybe not the most typical or ideal pairing, but we're really sympatico on about everything. Once we were truly in love, but now the relationship is on the fritz and we're fighting more and more. Details to follow, but I could summarize by saying I'm making the 'typical' INTJ 'mistakes', described nicely by the potentially aptly named user u/definitelyover300 in a post a while back:
- fantasizing about what the relationship/person could be, rather than accepting what it really is
- intuition constantly pointing out red flags and me subsequently making a big deal out of something that shouldn’t have been impactful (even though sometimes I’m right) it’s just unnecessary self-sabotage kind of thing
- judging/not trusting the other person’s intellectual/moral capacity and not respecting their different personality traits that don’t align with my approach to life
Long story short the crux of our issues is she's running a failing business. This weighs heavy on us both. It manifests negatively in several ways, severely dampening her mood and making her anxious. That and the failing business make me think of her differently. I always try to fix it but most times I can't and my attempts just make her feel worse. She's been letting herself go physically, and more frequently than not she's just in a generally bad state. What's worse is she's smart, passionate, and hard working. She's been dealt a really tough hand and just when we think it can't get any worse, it does.
I do all of the points listed above. I want the relationship to be great. It once was. But as the business has descended into stagnation she has required more and more of me (financially and emotionally) to the point where I no longer feel like it's a fair split, and that grinds on me. I consistently see things that I think she could be doing better. Some way she could improve. But I always seem to point them out the wrong way. I know that's just how we each see it. If I'm being honest I don't fully grasp the finer details and she does things differently than I. So she perceives my attempts at improvement as being controlling. She takes all the negative and none of the positive from it. I don't try to be an a hole but more often than not it come
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Do your worst!
For context I'm a Refuse Driver (Garbage man) & today I was on food waste. After I'd tipped I was checking the wagon for any defects when I spotted a lone pea balanced on the lifts.
I said "hey look, an escaPEA"
No one near me but it didn't half make me laugh for a good hour or so!
Edit: I can't believe how much this has blown up. Thank you everyone I've had a blast reading through the replies 😂
Pilot on me!!
Dad jokes are supposed to be jokes you can tell a kid and they will understand it and find it funny.
This sub is mostly just NSFW puns now.
If it needs a NSFW tag it's not a dad joke. There should just be a NSFW puns subreddit for that.
Edit* I'm not replying any longer and turning off notifications but to all those that say "no one cares", there sure are a lot of you arguing about it. Maybe I'm wrong but you people don't need to be rude about it. If you really don't care, don't comment.
What did 0 say to 8 ?
" Nice Belt "
So What did 3 say to 8 ?
" Hey, you two stop making out "
I won't be doing that today!
You take away their little brooms
There hasn't been a post all year!
This morning, my 4 year old daughter.
Daughter: I'm hungry
Me: nerves building, smile widening
Me: Hi hungry, I'm dad.
She had no idea what was going on but I finally did it.
Thank you all for listening.
It’s pronounced “Noel.”
After all his first name is No-vac
What, then, is Chinese rap?
Edit:
Notable mentions from the comments:
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Spanish/Swedish/Swiss/Serbian hits
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French/Finnish art
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Country/Canadian rap
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Chinese/Country/Canadian rock
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Turkish/Tunisian/Taiwanese rap
