Which meant her memory survived in only minutes

Hi all.

Found out today and I have questions.

I live in New Jersey; he lives with his girlfriend in Florida. How do you manage from a distance?

I’m the only child and my father is old school and never showed me his will or anything. My wife is convinced that the girlfriend is a black widow draining his money; I’m neutral toward her because she has done nothing to raise suspicion in my mind. What questions need to get asked that might help me move in one direction or another toward said girlfriend? (For the record, my wife can be a little paranoid and has accused food fresh from the store of being spoiled...but over the years together, she has been right more often than not.)

Some initial reading tells me that life expectancies run 3-5 years from diagnosis...is that generally believable?

Thanks in advance, much appreciated for any guidance anyone may have. My parents are divorced and my mother is of no help - she does not know and won’t hear it from me.

ETA: I need to get his firearms pulled - he’s expressed suicidal thoughts to me for many years and the diagnosis makes me want to have him disarmed.

Diagnosed February 19,2017. We lost my mom in may2020. There’s a list I could put of horrible things we went through because of this horrible horrible disease, but I’m trying to remember my daddyo today. He called me and almost everyone else ma after 2017. Somedays, he would just say “I love you Robyn.” Somedays he probably didn’t know me, when he remembered things and he talked about his childhood it would make you think things could get better. They can’t. We were lucky, I was always able to take care of him. His decline was really fast. I thought it was from some medicine they put him on for his memory. “Trying to give me more time.” They said. In the end he wouldn’t eat, wouldn’t drink the protein, all he wanted to do was sleep. Saturday night he went to sleep and didn’t wake up. In a perfect world that’s the way everyone should go. Saturday night I asked God to please take care of my dad. He did, he took him home. Thanks for this sub. I’ve learned many things from y’all. ❤️

I’m curious to know for those who have lost LO to vascular dementia what has been the cause? And if it was sudden or expected and how that made your grief harder or *easier (*for lack of a better word)

61F, 160cm, 53kg, white, no smoking, no drinking, no drugs. Family hx of dementia, diabetes, Hashimoto. She suffers from frequent migraines, takes triptans for attacks.

Her migraines have increased in the last few months, so her neurologist ordered an MRI. He then saw the resulting imaging before the report was out. The report was made by someone else.

This is the the report:

>Examination conducted on 1.5 T MRI equipment with acquisitions in the three spatial planes, T1-weighted.

>T2, FLAIR, diffusion

>Clinical data: migraine

>Modest tendency for cerebellar tonsils to descend into the occipital foramen, greater on the right.

>A few small, sporadic areolae [smalla areas?] of signal hyperintensity, of likely gliotic significance on a chronic microangiopathic basis, are recognized in the images obtained from long TR sequences in the encephalic white matter in frontal and paratrigonal subcortical location, in association with shaded peritrigonal leukoaraiosis and tendency for prominence of perivascular CSF spaces.

>Minimal lacunar findings in the head of the right caudate nucleus.

>No areas of proton diffusivity restriction. No hemosiderin deposits in T2* images.

>Regular trophism for age: ventricular and periencephalic CSF spaces within limits.

>In axis the median reference structures.

>Left Mastoiditis.

The exam wasn't made in an English speaking country, so this is my own translation and some terms might be off.

What I want to know is mostly this:

• are there signs of vascular dementia? (leukoaraiosis, lacunar findings, areas of hyperintensity). The same lacunar finding was there in 2019 as well, the rest we don’t know because the MRI wasn’t as thorough.

• does she need to go to a specialist to assess whether she has Chiari or not?

Her neurologist said there was nothing to worry about but also didn't think the mastoiditis was worth mentioning (or he missed it), so.

Thank you.

can someone give me an example as if i am five?

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The latest video shows the patient talking about how his chest pain dissipated one week after his stem cell treatment, and he recounts how he felt like his life was back to normal after six weeks. The results are really interesting because they are similar when compared to the study results published about ACP (Hemostemix) and Mavacamten (Myokardia) for the treatment of dilated cardiomyopathy. Then compared to the market cap of Hemostemix ($11.5 Million) to the $13.1 Billion takeover of Myokardia by Bristol Myers Squibb. Could be a sign of big things to come for the company.

Source: https://finance.yahoo.com/news/hemostemix-announces-second-stem-cell-180500709.html

This is not financial advice.

My (24m) Dad (60) was diagnosed with mild vascular dementia a few months ago. Since then there's been 2 instances where he's lashed out at me. The 1st one was about a month ago when he came into my room while I was studying and aggressively accused me of ignoring him and threatened to kick me out the house. I wasn't ignoring him, I would greet him each day and generally Im a quiet person and study all day.

The second instance was yesterday morning. I woke up, went downstairs to get water, saw my dad approaching the kitchen so I said "morning". He replies furiously "You're crossing the fucking boundary.. crossing the fucking boundary you are.." I was so confused and adrenaline shot through my body. I asked him what he was on about, he walked up to me, face to face, his rageful blue eyes staring in mine and he replied "You had Pepper (family dogs name) in your room all night last night.. that's crossing the fucking boundary, son." I told him Pepper was not in my room at all last night. He said "You opened my bedroom door at 10.30pm last night and took her to your room". I explained to him while my heart pounds in my chest that last night I walked pepper late, that I told him and mother I was doing so and that I returned home at 11pm with Pepper, and that I didn't know where in the house she slept that night. Then I walked off as I couldnt handle the confrontation much longer.

What are the odds his aggression will get worse? I dont feel safe in the house, Im constantly walking on egg shells. I fear even going to the kitchen to make food or get water because of him. I fear he'll eventually get physically aggressive against me.

It's tough to see Dad like this.

I stopped over to see him and Mom after dinner early this evening.

Early evening isn't good for him at all. He's starting to "sundown" a bit and I don't think he had any clue at that point in the day that it was Father's Day.

Dad's used to shaving with his electric shaver and today was the first day I saw him struggling. He typically holds the hand mirror in one hand and the electric razor in the other. He kept turning it on and sitting there with it running. I must have asked him to turn it off 6 times. We had forgotten to bring him the mirror and I think he knew something was missing but he was having trouble processing - after several minutes he said the word "mirror" and then he started shaving. He still tends to try to shave the same place repeatedly and has to be reminded to move to a new place.

He's been in adult diapers now for three years and I know that in his lucid moments it bothers him to have an aide, his wife, his daughter or his son change him. More often these days he falls asleep during the process. He sleeps a lot now. His life mostly consists of sleeping in the bed and sitting/sleeping in the lift chair. We try to get him out in the wheelchair daily to get some fresh air by going down the street and back. It is summer here and it is hot - he's like a kid and doesn't understand that 91 degrees at 6:30PM is probably too hot to go out. So on a day like today, it's tough to do anything else.

He cannot stand and pivot anymore so we use the Hoyer lift a lot. While I can most definitely hold him up (I've done it several times now) I can't afford to injure myself (or him!) and I think he feels unsafe so I don't even try anymore.

Rolling him is painful to him now so we minimize that but we must do it to change him and wash him.

Here's the truth: he is not taking in enough calories to meet his basal metabolic functions so most definitely he's losing weight.

It's tough seeing his body slowly waste away. It's harder to see his mind slip away. He jokes sometimes and sometimes makes sense but more and more he is quiet or talking nonsense.

This was most certainly his last Father's Day.

Going through hell with father's damaging behaviors and criminally bad decisions that are literally killing all three of us, mom being in much bad shape due to possibly dementia or another neuro disorder like parkinson. There has to be a drug or a combo that can invoke some sense in him, even for few hours each day. Im not talking about antipsychotics as those only make him sleepy or very agitated, but drug that can enable him to make more sensible decisions regarding shared property and assets as some relatives are taking massive advantage of our weak and seemingly powerless situation.

I will ofcourse check it from his neurologist who himself has been infected by covid19 and would be really hard to talk to.

It’s… a lot, not anything new or unique to this board. My question here is, when these very identifiable, incontrovertible problems exist, but due to being in such a dysfunctional family system basically forever, how, personally do you draw your lines?

I had gotten to pretty low contact with both my parents after years of not understanding that I was being blamed and gaslit for problems that generously belonged to all of us, but when someone recently said, “it sounds like the common denominator here is, your parents are extremely unreasonable”, it just sort of crystallized.

I carried some bad habits to my marriage and children, and have been trying to fix everything both up and down for so, so long, but way too late realized just because I want that, doesn’t mean they do.

I came home when my father had potentially caught Covid (he actually did), caught it myself from him, and have been trying to find my feet ever since. He has not and will not return to his home. Fortunately I am not legally responsible for him, but do a good amount of daily hands on care and research a lot of the things he needs and treatments available, although it largely goes unused. His current placement is woefully inadequate, and my sibling who is the POA will not see that.

I see flashes of my father acting “normally” but that just makes things more confusing- his normal wasn’t fun, either.

Ironically, or in some specific ways to try to work through stuff, I spent nearly 10 years in elder care and am currently the sole the caretaker of a low functioning adult child with autism. I have special ed certifications, did my CNA training, spent time working in various level care facilities, and am comfortable negotiating the benefits systems surrounding this, albeit in another state. To be blunt, I know way more about this than my sibs do, and it’s super frustrating to be playing Emperors New Clothes here.

One has checked out entirely, says I should just go home and not deal with any of it, that’s his preference and he’s got a right to it.

One thinks he knows what going on, but a five minute phone call every two weeks is…less than a thorough understanding of what’s happening.

The one with the POA just…won’t see it? And her interventions are so wildly variable I can’t keep supporting them? But she has no interest in abdicating any control, and I don’t exactly want it, but she thinks things will just “work out” and she’s not super concerned how or when that is.

If I leave,

Hi all! I don’t post often on here, mostly just read through experiences for insight. However, I’m not seeing anything on this yet... to give some background, I am the full time private care for an incredible woman! She is 88 and has been a life long vegetarian and has never gotten any sort of vaccine before. She has never drank alcohol or smoked and with the exception of the dementia , has had a healthy life. No major medical complaints or complications.

As her caregiver, I am having concern over the Covid vaccine. I myself am not an anti-vaxxer but have mixed feelings on this one. However, I feel like this is such a catch 22 for us both. Being that she has never had a vaccine , this means we have no idea if she has or would have a reaction to one. Furthermore, there have been claims to that although not common there have been reports of this vaccine causing worsening in dementia or Alzheimer’s. So I’m just weary all the way around.

Has anyone had a loved one or patient with dementia or Alzheimer’s get the vaccine and what was that experience like?

Has anyone known someone who has never received a vaccine prior, get this vaccine ?

Just looking for something to give me the most informed decision towards this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MuolIHT_uCI

The Caretaker - Cerebral Haemorrhage

you know what a cerebral haemorrhage is, right?

it's a hemorragic stroke.

vascular dementia's risk is increased with strokes.

to me, the fact that the caretaker has a album under such a name suggests EATEOT may be about vascular dementia in specific.

Hi all, I’m new to this forum, I have been caring for my Mam/best friend for 2 years full time now, I also cared for my Dad for 3 years. My mam fell in her bedroom and fractured her right hip. She is 78. My brother,sisters who live abroad think she should go to a nursing home for dementia. But I love her so much I want to keep her at home, my own health has suffered but I can’t be without her. Is there anyone else in a similar situation.

Curious, since it seems they can cause eye blood vessel hemorrhaging, meaning potentially similar stuff in the brain, in addition to abnormally high blood pressure within the brain. Both of these probably cause substantial blood vessel damage, I think depending on choke intensity, duration, and time between chokes. Maybe supplements for blood vessel health can help.

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Hello Everyone,

I’m new to this sub as my mom has just been diagnosed with MID. At first I was relieved that she didn’t have Alzheimer’s, but then I read that the life expectancy for Vascular Dementia is even shorter than Alzheimer’s.

My question: are MID and Vascular Dementia synonyms, or different things? If my mom was diagnosed with dementia and also MID, does that mean that she does have Vascular Dementia?

Hi everyone, I just wanted to express the confusion that I’m feeling with the situation my grandad is in. He’s 74 in august and he’s had vascular dementia and Alzheimer’s since about 2015 and I developed a lot of guilt because around the time of his diagnosis he kept saying to me he was scared he was going to die and he said that every week when i saw him. Because of this, I distanced my self subconsciously because it was upsetting to see and now I have to live with that guilt almost post COVID seeing how bad he’s gotten. He forgets the name of things for example he called the village we used to live in his old country. He confuses the names of family members and sometimes ask who they are however he has photos on his wall of the entire family and my gran can point them out too him and he goes “ah yes” because he can remember people visually. He has lost a lot of weight and recently he has started to have accidents in bed. He keeps my gran up late at nights and you Mam suggested he was entering the stage called sun downing. The only conversation we really get out of him now for the most part is him constantly telling everyone how much he loves them and it’s painful to watch because I can just see all the love in him. I didn’t grow up with a dad so I’ve always classed him as my father role and he shaped me into a man so it’s hard to see the person who impacted your life this much lost control of themselves but still have nothing but love in them. I cry quite often as I found out the life expectancy for dementia alone is only 5 years and he’s 6 years in. I don’t want my grandad to die and I don’t know what to do. I love him so much .

Hi everyone--

If anyone has traveled this road further than we have as a family, we could use some ideas. Two 92 year olds. Dad, type A personality, has vascular dementia and paranoid delusions, so probably reasonably late stage, and completely unable to accept he has dementia. Diagnosed Mar 2020 after a fall, likely stroke, but he'd been paranoid for a year or two earlier. MD declared mentally incompetent Oct 2020 in letter to attorney. Mom has Alzheimers, but she is pretty good. Fuzzy short term memory, but she is very much mentally competent still. They moved into a full service care home in Nov 2020, right now in independent living (apartment) but option to progress to memory care.

Issue is that Dad's delusions have progressed to accusing one family member of trying to poison him, in cahoots with all the doctors. This was investigated in Apr 2020, and obviously this family member's feelings were pretty hurt, so she's not seen him or been in contact with him (lives 90 min away). But that hasn't stopped the delusions, and Dad is now at the point of looking for a lawyer to bring charges against this family member and the doctors.

The attorney who received the doctor's letter back in Oct 2020, Dad's estate attorney, appears to have been taken in by Dad's story, and so she didn't do anything with the letter. She now seems to understand that this was a mistake, so we are finally going to be able to trigger a power of attorney this week, and she's now saying we need to get a judge to order conservatorship. Meanwhile, Dad is in a constant rage and is probably right on the edge of coercive control of Mom--won't let her speak to anyone, have access to money, leave the house, has to watch her all the time, thinks the doctors are also trying to kill her. She's reaching out for help, and family is willing to do whatever we need, but no one can really speak to her alone because she'd have to be willing to cross him to talk to anyone and she's too afraid of how he will react.

But what do we do? Mom doesn't want to leave Dad, but he's only going to get worse. Do we (after as judge orders guardianship for Dad) insist he get moved to memory care? He'll be a flight risk the doctors say and will probably have to be on a locked ward, which seems horrible and on day to day things, like food and bathing he's still ok living with Mom. Is there any way short of that to help Mom? The care home is lovely and they are all very nice, but they have not been able to offer any

My grandmother has been exhibiting rather frightening behavior. She said she can't remember her birthday or what food she needs despite talking about it just a second ago.

Just a bit of insight. My grandfather passed away on Christmas Eve of 2020 and he featured signs of vascular dementia. I honestly don't know if my grandma has gone to her doctor for a diagnoses, but she doesn't seem to be fit to live all alone in the house she and grandpa had lived in for more then 50 years.

I find it unusual for her to forget her birthday (March 30th, 1930), but I just want to hear from anyone on here if they have a theory of what her diagnoses is. I understand that not everyone is a professional. but I would to find some peace of mind as to what my grandmother is going through.

Dementia runs in my family and I'm worried I have really early stage dementia. I forget things a lot more than I used to. Especially scary is the quickly deteriorating state of my short-term memory, I sometimes enter a room and can't remember, open a browser tab and not be able to remember what website I wanted to go to. In January I went to pick up a friend from the airport and I literally forgot where I parked - not just the location on a particular level, but I forgot the actual level!! Never has this happened to me in my life. Took us nearly 20 minutes splitting up and searching through all 4 levels before we found my car.

I can go on and on about the myriad of ways this is affecting my daily life but i'll try to be brief. I've been trying to make changes by exercising and eating better, especially cutting out carbs almost completely. I'm a tad overweight, with slightly elevated BP, and pre-diabetic, pretty much the same pattern as relatives on my dad's side who've had dementia. I'm also doing some research on nootropics. Any advice from experts here? I know I probably don't fit the demo of people on this channel and I'm not looking to become smarter, just looking for something that would improve my memory, and at the very least slow down this creeping dementia. Any advice on potentially useful stacks to try (I know the effects of these drugs vary from person to person) would be appreciated, thanks

My grandpa developed vascular dementia about 1 1/2 years ago. My grandma kept him pretty straight, but she died on December first and he has gone straight downhill. My mother, boyfriend, and I have all decided to sell his house and move him in with us.

We didnt know how bad it truly was until he started filling out forms to take grandma's name off the house and doing all the paperwork associated with it. He thought grandma was his mother. He forgot how to use his email, and when the lawyer sent paperwork via email he didn't know what email was.

When my mom asked him about the lawyer's visit, he said "it was the worst doctor's visit he's ever had". He thought the lawyer's office was his doctor. To be fair, that WOULD be a terrible doctor's visit.

My mom set up an appointment to get power of attorney when she found out he didnt know which day to take the cat to the vet....so he went EVERY day. For two weeks. This is fucking horrible, he used to build cockpits for the air force and was a professor at two colleges in town. Now he can't remember who grandma was. Every day he's slipping more and more and sometimes I want to snap at him for asking the same question 3000 times in half an hour.

I guess I wanted to vent+ask for advice for the upcoming move. Grandma was a clean hoarder, so we are selling most of her stuff to pay for movers so he doesn't have to worry about packing or anything. He still takes 3 walks a day around the block and enjoys it, but im afraid he will get lost. Idk...im rambling.

Hi there.

Context - My mother has recently (last 2 months) been diagnosed with early stage Small Vessel Disease. Her white matter has shown some minimal signs of recession, and her blood lipid and cholesterol levels were way off the norm. For context, she is a 56 year old female with a BMI slightly above average. She does, however, have one copy of APOE4, and one of APOE3, so there is some genetic risk for dementia. She has been prescribed blood pressure lowering medications and Statins.

Question - What can she do to minimise the risk of developing full blown Vascular Dementia? Any protocols or medications etc that can be recommended?

Thank you!