Stressor Puns

For context: I am the youngest, 12 years gap between my older sister. I have 4 sisters, but only one is greedy, manipulative and self-serving. I have witnessed how she almost manipulated my parents into signing off land to her name, never paid debts she owed my parents, almost always causing them heart attacks. She blames all the people around her for her miseries in life. She releases foul, disrespectful words against anyone who differ opinions from her. She fakes illness so she can get sympathy. She can not hold an adult conversation, she is pleasant now and changes moods in a heartbeat. My other sisters are fine, but they tend to believe her lies. I have an avoidant personality and I just tend to step away from drama. I am doing OK not talking to her for 2 years now. I just feel more motivated now more than ever to continue cutting her off my life because I never would have to deal with her ever again.

I’m just realizing lately that my parents both treated me like I was the most stressful thing in their life. Throughout my child and teen years, they were both always stressed to the max about various things that had nothing to do with me and everything to do with the terrible, stupid decisions they made in life.

Anytime I expressed a need or an emotion, my dad, who was technically the N in the family, would either scream at me or tell me that I was giving him a heart attack—because I was stressing him out so bad by not being silent and need-free.

My mother worked 60 hours a week, and if I even walked into the same room with her she would fall apart and tell me that my very presence was more than she could handle “right now”—which was always.

Why did they even have a kid?

I have such a hard time now not believing I’m bothering people just by existing and having needs. My fawn response is so strong.

Mom and Dad: neither one of you was ever “doing your best.” You were the worst. I don’t love you.

like for me, a big important paper for school doesn’t stress me out as much as being on bad terms with someone.

My mom’s sister completely went off the deep end in the past year. She’s always been a volatile person. I’m guessing a combination of the stress of a newly diagnosed medical issue and the stress/isolation of the pandemic might have pushed her over the edge. She went on a bizarre, months-long campaign against my parents and, to a lesser extent, me, making completely baseless claims to the whole family.

I’m NC with her now and don’t call her my aunt anymore, but still trying to comprehend what… the hell… that was…

Thanks for your insight!

Idk if anyone can relate here. My neighbor downstairs has an obnoxious hellhound puppy that barks screams and howls all fucking night. This has been going on for well over a year. We reported them and nothing happened. (For context, my apartment changes management more than any iv ever seen)

Everyone will say “its a sign its time to move”. Well I cant. If you haven’t noticed, in America rent everywhere is astronomical. I have been living here for years and if its not downstairs it’s somewhere else. Dog freaks will never understand my pain. I want to move so bad but I have no options. Sometimes I am afraid my misery will drive me to an extreme I never thought id go to.

Does anyone have advice?

Hi,

I noticed there are a lot of posts, sometimes by younger ENFP or other types that try to understand ENFPs better. I'm a 40yo male ENFP and I thought I'd share some of the things I learned along the way, since most posts are often by younger people, and I think there are more active women than men here. So an older male perspective might be useful for some. My first post is mainly for ENFPs and about different loops, because they are things that pop up in my life the most at least, and I think it is good to recognize them and how to deal with them.

A small disclaimer, I notice there seems to be a big overlap between ENFPs and people with ADHD. My partner is not an ENFP but has ADHD, there is a big difference. I don't experience a similar mental chaos, being an ENFP is nothing like having ADHD. My advice for people with ADHD would be to work on the ADHD and don't try to attribute ADHD to their personality. They are not the same thing. ADHD is a serious disability that deserves proper treatment by professionals.

Ok, here goes, these are the things I experience that I think are typical ENFP and how I deal with them:

Restlessness - "I am bored, I want to experience something new!", or its bigger brother "Life seems meaningless, what the hell am I supposed to do with it?"

First lets just recognize that the latter will never get a proper answer and in my experience it is not the real problem. It is too much focused on long-term results instead of enjoying the ride, something we can struggle with. The former you should listen to, because it leads to greatness. I noticed that the latter never pops up when I am regularly doing things that I enjoy with people that I have a loving, deep relationship with.

Try to find experiences you really enjoy and do them with people you have a deep relationship with or at least enjoy being around. Try to let things grow with lightly directed spontaneity, you are unlikely to be as focused on the long term like an ENTJ for example, also, more importantly, you are unlikely to have a fulfilling experience if you go at it like that.

"Everything is so shallow, or assuming deepness in relationships" - Ne/Fi thingie...

Alright, this one is important. Many, many, many people are not like you! Very few people are team-playing philosopher like an ENFP. Are there team-players, yes, many, are there philosophers, sure, but both things in one package is confusing as hell for most people. Very few people want to explore an

I am posting here because I feel a connection here. I went through a bunch of spiritual shit over many years blah blah many of you know the deal, mystical stuff, dark night stuff, nothingness/suicidality, psychosis/delusion/dissociation, feeling like my self and world was ending, contemplating my death and life ceasing to exist, feeling like the path I thought I was on, suddenly like there’s no path at all, went from being a committed yoga and meditation student to abandoning spirituality completely. Ending up in no man’s land where honestly it doesn’t even matter right now. being human though I still got stress, as much as I want to feel like I should be impervious; quite the opposite, my whole pursuit to transcend led me to my own truth where I just am glad to have my personhood. I know what it’s like to be crazy so to speak with the world seeming to not exist and I didn’t like it, so I feel no need to lose my ego anymore, I like my ego now. Different strokes

a) my investments lost like 15% this month. that was a lot of money so I feel stressed and angry at my financial advisor even though it might not be their fault at all, as it obviously is probably just normal market dynamics.

b) I have some form of chronic fatigue/depression/stress combo that’s making it so hard to function; I am unemployed, gained weight, have very weak sexual function

c) still trapped in a cycle of guilt with my family

d) I used to be popular, I have like 1 friend, I never know what to talk about now, things are ineffable

Thanks!

I was an 11B and deployed to Afghanistan in 2010. I have a CIB and am already rated at 20%. 10% for my back and 10% tinnitus. I am working on a claim for PTSD as I have had mild symptoms since deploying but they have gotten much worse recently. I have Identified 17 events that I believe contributed to my ptsd symptoms. Should I include statements for all 17 events? Will the rater actually look at all 17 statements, or will this just create excessive paperwork for them to dig through?

Thanks in advance for your opinions.

Note: My question is the very last line. The rest just explains why.

A big part of what cost my my last job was outbursts on cart-pushing.

To break it down: I spent 8.5 hours a day pushing carts up a giant hill. I did this in temperatures that varied from scorching hot (it was 103 degrees my last day) to pouring rain to snow. I dealt with customers who actively refused to put their carts in anything but a mess. I had to give up lunch breaks* and quit asking for help b/c the managers wouldn't send anyone out to help me when I was swamped (the managers didn't like this b/c I maxed out my overtime hours, but didn't want to hear it when I explained why).

(* I kept a lunch box of snacks and water on hand, so it wasn't like I spent the day starving; trying to find at least one minute to eat was the hard part)

I spent these days sweating/freezing/soaking wet, exhausted going up and down this hill, tired, hungry, alone.

So yeah, I lost my cool.

To make it clear: I never got physical or had an altercation with a customer. At worst, I slammed carts and muttered to myself (I thought my mask would block it, turned out it didn't).

The pathetic thing was, I don't like being this way. I am/was happy to help people if they needed it, prefer to be nice without being a pushover, and only became confrontational a handful of times.

I just can't shake believing if I had time to cool or calm down, I could have gotten over it and moved on. But I didn't get that. For at least 7 of those 8.5 hours, I was constantly and frantically moving, just feeding into the adrenaline rush and it threw 90% of my impulse control out the window.

So does anyone have any tips or advice on how to stay calm or collected when the stressors are constant and the time to do so is nearly nonexistent?

Thank you for any help.

It's not the authors, gurus, or speakers fault. Thoughts creating reality has been a universal law ever since life evolved in this universe. But it's detrimental for people who are worried about fears coming true, and the more you fight it the realer it becomes. I fight the stressful thought fearfully stupidly thinking it will go away but it becomes apart of my reality and makes my stress skyrocket and my stomach hurt. I wish this wasn't a universal law I can't begin to tell you how much suffering emerges from this idea that our thoughts are this powerful. I do Google and YouTube searches hoping to find those who say thought power is fake but the only results I get are videos and sites confirming my fears. Why does the mainstream embrace thought manifesting as something positive without taking into account that there are experiences as fucked up as mine.

I deleted Instagram and plan to delete Snapchat in the next week just waiting to see who I’d like to stay in contact with and who I wouldn’t mind distancing from. What I noticed with my relationship with social media specifically these two apps was that I would let other people’s lives and possible other people’s opinions get the best of me. Always comparing myself to others and god it stressed me out way more than I’d like to admit. Yeah I love keeping up to date with certain people but honestly not worth the pain for me. I’m improving in some major ways in my life, going to the gym, challenging myself there, getting into hobbies, taking active steps to improve my quality of life and get better financially but it’s the small things we do everyday,for me several times a day, that may effect us the most.

Is this just a blow off?

I am over 300 days now. Still no C&P for MH.. I gave them details. deployment info, names dates and news paper articles. When I call I am told they have everything they need from me, and are pending a "Research task to verify stressors."

I have been seeing a shrink once a month since last year. In PTSD therapy once a 1 week since April. Been going to OIF\OEF support group every week for ever. On too many damn meds.

Is this just a blow off because they are busy? Can I do anything to get over this hurdle.

Listen I still love my homelab and the freedom it allows me and the skills it teaches me. But I lost two USPs and two harddrives in the last week. Mostly cause we had some horrible power outages, the ones where electricity comes back but is so out of whack that as a first defense the USPs failed and the rest just followed.

Now make no mistakes I'm financially only out one HDD. It was older and it's hard to prove that the Power Clusterfuck took it out, the rest is covered by the Warranty of the Manufacturers. But I still had to jump all the Ticket system hoops and now to ship heavy bricks and a HDD around. Everything is still up and running, which I see as a personal win. But now I sit here rebuilding a 4TB array and I kinda wanna move to a Cabin in the Woods with no electricity.

Anyone else had a bad week for their stuff? Just share stories of shit going wrong cause I need some Entertainment while I fix all the issues.

Aehhhwooo!

Hey diamond dogs. Just need to vent. Doing it here because I really don’t have much of an outlet right now. One of those seasons of life.

We just had our fourth baby. He’s fantastic! But he has a couple of non-life threatening issues that will require corrective surgery, one of which is a lip tie that makes it hard for him to feed right now. That stresses my wife out and makes her feel guilty that he’s not getting enough milk. (Don’t need advice about this; we’re following all of docs order in making sure he gets what he needs). Doing my best to be there for her and remind her that he’s going to be okay while affirming that it’s okay for her to worry.

Also medical bills are stacking up. Wife (sole income because I’m in school) is taking maternity leave but is not getting paid for it. So we’re about to land in a good bit of credit card debt and will wipe our savings clean.

Ahh… just needed to send that out into the cyber system. Love you all. I’ll be okay. Stressed, but okay. Love my new little fella and his brave mom. Also his brothers lol.

Has this happened to anyone else? As stated above, I have several new, unavoidable stressors in my life. Over the past week or two I’ve been noticing heart palpitations, occasional night sweats, and difficult sleeping. One night I felt like my body was buzzing…I just couldn’t relax and just laid in bed for hours in a state of anxiety. I’m not sure if this is just stress/anxiety because of my current circumstances, if it’s because of the Graves’ disease, or some combination of the two. Anyone have any insight? I currently take a low dose of MMI (2.5 mg daily) and stopped taking my beta blocker about two months ago (doctor’s orders). I have routine bloodwork next week so I’ll have some idea then where I’m at.

Edit: One other question…has anyone ever doubled their dose on a day they are feeling off? I know this is a bad idea, and I’m not going to do it with my labs coming up. But some days I feel like I just need a little “extra” to put my symptoms at bay, especially because I take such a small dose.

After a few days of committing to a porn free life, I have become very immobilized by my stressors.

For the last decade, if I was ever stressed, the idea of masturbating to porn would dominate my thoughts. Whatever I was doing at the time would become secondary. Eventually, I would fulfill my my desires and be able to get back to whatever I was doing.

Now that I am resisting the urges, I am struggling to get through stressful situations. I'm at a point where I'm practically immobile against my stressors- no work is getting done. It's beyond irritating.
The thoughts of watching porn are still there... still tempting me. I won't give in, but I wish I had a healthier way to cope with all this stress. I guess writing this post is a step in the right direction.

Hi fellow PAs! Hope everyone is thriving or at least hanging in there. Looking for a bit of advice.

I work in critical care full time. As one would expect, I see a lot of difficult things and have a lot of difficult conversations with families. Of note, I have had serious complications of procedures (a pneumo from a central line for example). I believe I do an excellent job at managing my emotions, and the overall stress of this job. When I have a bad outcome, I remind myself I did my absolute best (of course reflecting on room for improvement), I am well trained and capable of performing my job well. And I can sleep just fine at night knowing that.

However! I have a small side job doing basic cosmetic dermatology (Botox!). It's really fun. For some reason I am anxious out of my mind about causing (relatively) inconsequential complications such as minor bruising.

I'm extremely forthright about all of the risks of Botox when consenting the client, and I'm clear that small bruises may occur. But I caused two tiny bruises this week, and for some reason and beyond anxious about it!

I don't understand why this is happening in my brain! Maybe because the Botox clients come to me healthy and well, and leave with a little bruise? Where as the ICU patients come to us very sick already?

So, wondering if anybody had a similar experience and can offer some insight into why this happens or what they did to get it under control?

Thanks I'm advance. Again, hope everyone out there doing well.

Hello and welcome to this December countdown! The X days of December is a small thing I'm doing this month, where I make a post every day on a theme for anyone who wants to put their thoughts in about. As we count down the days until Christmas, New Year's or perhaps just December, a lot of us might feel stressed or worried about this time of year, so let's try to make the best of it together!

The prompts are meant as a bit of inspiration, and not a rule, so you're free to write whatever comes to your mind this day. One sentence or a small novel, doesn't matter, same about whether this is your day one or day one thousand. I just want to hear your thoughts.

Day 14: Stressors and coping strategies

Good morning/day/evening everyone, I hope you're doing well!

Today is Tuesday, which means I'm about to head into therapy, and today's theme is extremely relevant to me for that reason. Spending an hour a week crying so hard I have a headache for two days is a trial, not to mention a stressor. It's an easy temptation to thing I deserve to treat myself with a drink when I'm feeling sad and small, because it's hard to deal with feeling real emotions with no alcohol buffer to help take the edge off.

But at the same time, the logical part of my brain knows there's absolutely no sorrow that has ever been made easier with alcohol. No anxiety has ever gotten smaller, no fear has ever been resolved, no sorrow has ever been dealt with well by getting drunk. It only adds to the problems, and in reality, alcohol has never ever helped me cope in the long run. It's only borrowed happiness from the future, never created any genuine one.

Actually, feelings of sadness and sorrow have never been the hardest ones to deal with for me, in terms of sobriety. For me, it's always been a much bigger struggle when I'm happy. Alcohol never helped me drown my sorrows, but it helped elevate positive feelings a LOT. I passed an exam? Let's have a beer to celebrate! I got good news? Let's take a shot to celebrate! I'm making a delicious dinner? A glass of wine would improve the experience! It's friday night and I have a whole weekend ahead of me? What better way to enjoy it than a luxurious drink!

It's been my pitfall so many times. I struggle so much, still, with the instinct to enhance a good experience with alcohol. My best way of coping with it, which I'm actually not sure is the best actual way but it's the only one I've got, is to remind myself that by drinking, I'm creatin

Do you ever find that it's easier for you to maintain a friendship with someone who has ADHD versus a neurotypical. I recently just found out that the two friendships I've maintained throughout my entire life (also the only ones I've been able to maintain properly throughout my entire life) have also been diagnosed with ADHD.

We can go months without talking and then pick up right where we left off or we'll go through periods where we talk everyday even if it's just through a group text.

But I have lost so many friends who are neurotypical to my inability to meet the demands of a normal relationship. Friends who want to text everyday because that's 'their normal.' If I go even a few days without texting them, they seem to think I'm angry or I'm ignoring them. Or I will misread something that they have said in a text and they think that I'm making fun of them or being insensitive. When really I was just taking a face value or slightly distracted when replying.

Also sometimes it's hard for me to go out and be social even pre-pandemic. Because I sometimes find it very draining, due to me having to work extra hard at following social cues. Some days it's easy and it's fun and I walk away like "woohoo that was great!" But other days I'm like "That was awful I misread absolutely everything!!! I was stressed the whole time! I never want to interact again."

And since other people don't have this problem they think it's weird that I'm not always able to get together. It just always seems like there's this pre-marked gravestone just waiting for my friendships to end.

I feel like a lot of them are hurt by me because they think I'm not interested or I don't care but I really just have a hard time being consistent if you are not in my sights or physical vicinity, every day. Like it's very easy for me to ignore a text but not a person in front of me. (And it's not purposeful that I would ignore the text. It's that if the text happens while I'm doing something else, I have such a hard time focusing ...that I'm not going to drop, what I'm doing if I'm trying to focus. I'm going to ignore the text... but then I forget that the text ever existed....So then I never get back to it. 😬)

I find constantly needing to text and check in on someone exhausting, so if they're not family (aka my responsibility). I don't have the ability to do remember and I don't know what that's about.

I also think it's a little harder to connect with people because my brain wo

So I am diagnosed with OCD and I started struggling really hard with it for the first time about a year ago. It was pretty severe at the time and I was spending an average of probably 6-8 hours per day in compulsions.

Fast forward to now. I've been on meds for my OCD and depression for 6 months, which has helped a lot. I have since cut my abusive family out of my life. I broke up with my abusive ex boyfriend of 5 years and I started a new and healthy relationship with my current partner. I quit the job I absolutely hated and got a new one that is way way better and less stressful. And I quit seeing my therapist who was really bad and making things worse for me.

The thing I'm wondering about is that I seem to have pretty much gotten my OCD in remission without doing ERP? Does that happen to some people with OCD? Idk, I haven't heard of anyone getting better like that without ERP and stuff. Any input would be much appreciated 💜

The five major life stressors include, major illness or injury, job loss, divorce, moving, and a loss of a loved one/death in the family. Below is a rough timeline of my experience with all of these devastating and stressful events in just over a year.

December 2019- i had to have an unexpected major surgery which threated my ability to ever have children (illness or injury),

January 2020 - i was laid off my job that I absolutely loved and that felt like a family and community after 5 years of service (job loss).

March 2020 - After starting a new job (and hating it) Covid hit and my husband of 10 years announced he wanted a divorce with no explanation and walked out the day shut down started (divorce)

March- July 2020 - Isolation

December 2020 - Decided to moved 1100 miles across the country for a fresh start. (Moving)

When it's all written out it sounds made up, but i only wish it was. And the story really starts in Nov 2019 when I suffered a miscarriage which lead to my surgery (loss of a loved one/death in the family).

I want to share my story, I want to give hope to anyone who felt as disoriented and alone as I did. But I honestly don't know where to start, an outline? Journaling? Recorded stories? Ghost writer?

If anyone has a suggestion or resources that would be amazing.

Thanks in advance, B

The main rocket in my current game had to be abandoned a day or two ago, which led me to try to design a simple, low-tech, and fast CO2 rocket for both emergency pick-ups of dupes, but also as a fun optimization-challenge for the pretty severe constraints of the solo spacefarer nosecone.

One of the things I'm experimenting with, is whether or not it is more "oxygen-economical" to let a pressure sensor push out just enough air inside the rocket for the dupe to not get the low-oxygen stressor.

It makes intuitive sense that you could stretch the amount of oxygen you can snake through the spacefarer nosecone if you "force" dupes to essentially take shallow, but not detrimental-to-their-survival-breathes, and in doing so, be less reliant on secondary life-support system like an oxygen diffuser.

However, I'm unsure if dupes consume more oxygen if they are in an oxygen-rich environment ("very breathable") compared to merely "breathable".

If oxygen-consumption is a constant, I could instead rely on the passive "metering-out" of oxygen via the gas-vent, which would leave one extra tile of space to play with.

I was going to run some experiments with two basic, simple rockets going to the same destination, where one of the rockets had a setup for carefully metering out oxygen "as needed", while the other rocket metered out oxygen passively, and instead had an overhead light.

Both to see if active/passive oxygen control makes a difference to the "oxygen economy" that you can pump into your rocket before flight, but also to see if the rocket control station benefits from the "lit Workspace" bonus.

I haven't read the current patch notes, but I subjectively feel like the pilot skill of a dupe now impacts how long it takes to travel to a new destination.

If the rocket control station also benefits from a lit workspace (in terms of travel time) it could make design-solutions that allow for a lamp more advantageous than those that don't.

And if there's no actual difference between passively letting oxygen flow into the rocket module - as opposed to micro-managing the flow via sensors - then that would leave you with more tiles to play around with.

What are your strategies for helping your dogs recover from a stressful event?

I have a 1.5yo ACD/Hound mix with a low stimulation threshold. When he experiences a bad trigger event, it can take him a few days to return to normal.

Around Thanksgiving, we boarded him with my inlaws for 2.5 weeks, and since then he's been a different dog. He used to be calm-ish on walks, settle in the house, and be able to handle triggers in the world (crowds, dogs playing off leash) passably. In the three weeks since we brought him home, he's been a different dog. He can't settle, has new destructive behaviors, and is constantly getting in attention seeking loops.

We expected there to be a few day recovery period, but 3 weeks in and it's still tough. I've exhausted my tool kit (more exercise, less exercise, replacing walks with nose work, relaxation protocol, capturing calmness, asking for calmness).

One recommendation that's come up is meds to help easy the transition before and after boarding.

Thanks in advance!

So I quit drinking over a year ago because of brain tumor and surgery. I had a dream last night I went to a party and got drunk and blackout and woke up somewhere else...

But that passed then I was in this weird house and in the basement you could pick up the sword that would appear cuz the house was haunted. So if I destroyed or lost the sword another one would appear in its place.

Then I was the king but I was also watching the perspective of the king... There was a village and I went up on this big tall Cliff overlooking the village and something happened where I basically fell off like there was treachery I remember hanging on by hand and then like someone let me go and I fell... So I'm falling to my death towards this village, but it kept cutting to views where I could see myself falling from a distance and my armor reflecting in the morning light... But then it was my perspective again and luckily I fell into a giant mound of hay! I remember the whole thought process as I fell into the hay, like is it big enough to absorb my impact? Am I too old to survive this kind of fall? What if I miss the hay? I hit the hay and survived.

Then I was camping with some friends and we were building a stick forts into a base or something and we're making a pretty elaborate stick fort and we were tying them together with string, I remember thinking what type of material would be best to tie these together that we wouldn't have to pick up later... Some sort of hemp-based string worked best.

Then I just decided to wake up cuz I was becoming conscious and had rolled over in bed a few times by that point.

This is the best tl;dr I could make, original reduced by 71%. (I'm a bot)

> According to research from University of Nebraska-Lincoln political scientist Kevin Smith, all the political jockeying is harmful to our health, has been for some time, and even a change in party power didn't help.

> In a follow-up to the groundbreaking 2017 survey study where he first measured the effects of the political climate on Americans' physical, social, mental and emotional health, Smith has published a new article in PLOS ONE. Smith repeated the same 32-question survey twice in 2020 - two weeks prior to the election, and two weeks after.

> Similar to the 2017 findings, the 2020 surveys found that an estimated 40% of Americans identified politics as a significant source of stress.

> "This second round of surveys pretty conclusively demonstrates that the first survey was not out of left field - that what we found in that first survey really is indicative of what many Americans are experiencing," Smith, chair and professor of political science, said.

> "If anything, the costs that people perceive politics is exacting on their health increased a little bit after the election."

> Most stunning to Smith was the repeated finding that 5% of Americans blame politics for having suicidal thoughts.

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