I’m incredibly frustrated with my daughter and I don’t know how to help her or what to do. My daughter (M) is 5 and my son (J) turns 4 at the end of February. My daughter is starting to develop some really bad sibling rivalry. We just had a conversation with my son in the car about where he wanted his birthday party to be. M had a full breakdown in the car about his birthday. Wanting it to be her birthday, not wanting to go to his birthday party, not wanting him to get presents, wanting him to have a princess party instead of the Spider-Man party he’s been asking for for 6+ months. I’m an only child and my husband is a younger brother in a family that absolutely gave in to this kind of behavior in his older sibling. So I feel completely ill equipped to deal with this.
It’s even gotten to the point that if we are proud of J for anything (this morning it was getting dressed on his own), M will have a meltdown or act out about it. We are careful to make sure that they each get special time with both and each of us, that they each get to do special stuff, that things are equitable as much as humanly possible. But I refuse to not tell my son I’m proud of him for getting dressed on his own when he’s learning. I don’t feel like we’re excessive with praise for either of them. We’ve tried to get her in on praising him, but that quickly devolved into her trying to parent him.
I feel like any conversations with have with her about this behavior ends up with her crying more. We talk about how boring it would be if your birthday was every day, how you can be disappointed it’s not your birthday and happy for the birthday person also, how you can have big feelings but you don’t get to make everyone around you feel bad or be mean. I’m starting to feel like she is holding us all hostage with this. Please help 😞
Hello Latter day Saint Community! My apologies for typos and length. My wife and I are faced with a big issue that is trying our faith and family relations. Background: My siblings and I (I'm 33M, siblings are 37M, 35F, and 30F; I'm the middle child) have never been super close, my youngest sibling is closest but not as close as I would like. I feel like my whole life has been a poster for the middle child syndrome. I was married once for two yrs and then divorced due to emotional and physical abuse. I'm now happily sealed to my best friend and we have one son. We have the family motto of: If you are Family, you are loved regardless.
Though my siblings haven't been super close, I'd like us to be closer than we are. My two oldest sibling did not attend my sealing or reception and their disrespect and disregard for my wife and son are getting intolerable. For instance, my grandmother recently died. At the luncheon after the service we all sat around a table and they didn't acknowledge my wife or me. I tried to engage my Brother in conversation regarding his work but nothing really came of it. It was if we really weren't there. While talking to my Mom recently, she said some things were said on Facebook by my ex-wife that did irreparable damage to my older sister and was very offensive. It's almost like my new family is being punished by something I had no idea about. I've asked what I can do to mend the relationship and am slapped with, "I don't know."
We are set to have family pictures in mid January, but my wife and I are considering not attending as the photo of the "happy family" is more of a sham than anything. I feel like my parents are caught in the cross fire of silence as it is. I want a nice photo taken but also have to stand on principle.
Our only options that we see are to not go, go and refuse any photos with my two oldest siblings or suppress the issues and take the sham photo for my parent's sake.
I'm not sure what to do. Any gospel based thoughts are appreciated. This is starting to rip me apart.
Stannis in your opinion ? Was it just the personality contrast or are we missing something from their childhood ? I was reading an old post by a mod on the other sub from 8 years ago when i read a fascinating line from /u/BastardofNightsong that i wanted to bring to our attention today .Doesn't Stannis have a lot of the same qualities that Ned has ? Is that why Ned and Robert became best friends ? Ned was the younger brother that Stannis should have been ? Let me quote the user . I will try to find some quotes for us to discuss .
" WE can't really comment on the relationship of Robert and Stannis because there is a crucial missing event that turned the brothers against each other . We don't know what that was . "
A Game of Thrones - Bran II
"Don't you see the danger this puts us in?" the woman said. "Robert loves the man like a brother." "Robert can barely stomach his brothers. Not that I blame him. Stannis would be enough to give anyone indigestion." "Don't play the fool. Stannis and Renly are one thing, and Eddard Stark is quite another. Robert will listen to Stark. Damn them both. I should have insisted that he name you, but I was certain Stark would refuse him."
A Game of Thrones - Eddard II The king groaned. "For the last time, I will not name the Arryn boy Warden. I know the boy is your nephew, but with Targaryens climbing in bed with Dothraki, I would be mad to rest one quarter of the realm on the shoulders of a sickly child." Ned was ready for that. "Yet we still must have a Warden of the East. If Robert Arryn will not do, name one of your brothers. Stannis proved himself at the siege of Storm's End, surely." He let the name hang there for a moment. The king frowned and said nothing. He looked uncomfortable.
A Game of Thrones - Eddard IX
"How many?" Littlefinger shrugged. Rivulets of moisture twisted down the back of his cloak. "Does it matter? If you bed enough women, some will give you presents, and His Grace has never been shy on that count. I know he's acknowledged that boy at Storm's End, the one he fathered the night Lord Stannis wed. He could hardly do otherwise. The mother was a Florent, niece to the Lady Selyse, one of her bedmaids. Renly says that Robert carried the girl upstairs during the feast, and broke in the wedding bed while Stannis and his bride were still dancing. Lord Stannis seemed to think that was a blot on the honor of his wife's House, so when the boy was born, he shipped him off to Renly." He gave Ned a sidewa
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Well I’m a little behind with the rest of the world and have just discovered Podcasts. 🙄 I have listened to the most recent Sibling Rivalry and just wondering is there any that I should start from or shall I start from the beginning? Any advice on this or other podcasts is most welcome! ☺️
Hello all. I may get two male puppies in the next week or so. Have any of you ever raised puppies from the same litter? Is so was sibling rivalry ever a problem? They will be about 8-10% wolf.
Easily my favorite part of the channel. I get that they still do "First Viewing", but it's not the same.
I'm hoping there's someone out here who has encyclopedic Sibling Rivalry knowledge.
I'm looking for the clip where the two of them are discussing church music and one of them breaks into song and the other immediately joins in. That's literally all I can remember. It was a old gospel song, but I couldn't even tell you the name of it.
Help me, RPDR Reddit, you're my only hope.
This might be a long shot, but I’m trying to remember a book series I read when I was younger. I know I read it around 2007-2008 but I think the books were older. I don’t remember much about the plot, except that it reminded me of the TV show “Life With Derek.” So I’m pretty sure it was about a guy and girl (probably siblings/step siblings) that didn’t get along. I read these books when I was a kid under 10 but it was above my age range so it was most likely teen/YA. It was a novel with no pictures.
I remember reading more than one book about these characters, which is why I’m calling it a series. I don’t know how many books there were though. The covers were illustrations of the characters but more stylized as opposed to those realistic drawings on a lot of older books. I think in one of the books they went to a ski resort or something.
I wish I could provide more info but it was so long ago and I really don’t remember much else. Any help is appreciated!
Video Link: Literature of Ancient Greece & Jerusalem - Plato & Poetry
In a modern liberal republic, where each individual is sovereign over their own life, we each are philosopher kings and queens that must censor the poet in our own soul that we often try to use to hide from harsh truths. We must educate the poet within to use our imaginative power and verbal reasoning to express truth and serve the good.
In The Republic Plato famously advocated, through his past master Socrates, for the censorship of poets, and artists more generally in an ideal political society. This might seem surprising, as Plato is one of the masters of poetry in the western tradition, and invented the written form of the philosophical dialogue as it exists today.
However, Plato learned from Socrates to value the Truth and logic as sacred, and so Plato became suspicious of poetry for its ability to make nonsensical and wrong ideas sound correct or appealing. He thus viewed poetry, and all poetic or aesthetically pleasing communication, as exceedingly dangerous, a means to transmit and spread dangerous, incorrect and immoral ideas in ways that make them seem appealing and true.
He saw poetry and poetic ways of communicating, like mythology and metaphor as incredibly useful and worthwhile tools. This is clear from the fact that he made use of them extensively in his writings. For example, he illustrated the path one takes from ignorance to knowledge, as an ascent out from a cave into sunlight for the first time.
These analogies are incredibly useful, because often before we can understand we must be able to visualize, or have something to grasp on to as we begin trying to make sense of something that eludes us. Often when we first start learning something, after we get a hold on the fundamentals, we begin to realize how much less we know about it than we thought we did.
Nowadays this process is well known as the Dunning-Kruger effect visualized here:
See: https://www.britannica.com/science/Dunning-Kruger-effect
Hitting the so-called 'Valley of Despair' can be a winding and disorienting experience. Thankfully we have Plato's metaphor, and like a man who has just crawled out of a cave where he has lived all his life, the sudden intensity of direct sunlight is stunning, disorienting and bl
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