This Mother’s Day we had to hop around to 3 different houses in order to see everybody since it was all broken up. With 2 young kids needless to say it was a busy day. My husband let me sleep in and made cards with the boys, but I feel like that was pretty much the end of my Mother’s Day and the beginning of everybody else’s. I made breakfast, I had the kids when he went out for what should’ve been a 10 minute grocery run that turned into an hour. I ran around with the kids while he ate lunch, drank beer, and hung out with his family. I fed the kids dinner when we were at my grandmas and I was up and down keeping them from getting into everything. Whatever, typical day, nothing new. And I’m not upset about being a mom and taking care of my kids, I never would be I just felt like Mother’s Day I should get more of a break. But the kicker for me was the end of the day. We got home around 7 and he goes to bed around 8 to be up early for work. We talked about just watching tv together once we got home and just relax till we had to get ready for bed. He said he was going to bring our neighbor a street behind us something real quick. He was there for an HOUR. I called and texted with no responses. When he finally got back I was very upset and on the verge of tears, he said I was being dramatic and I told him I just felt like I should be more of a priority on Mother’s Day. He said “why, you’re not my mom, you’re their mom and they’re already asleep” so I got even more upset and he said I was being dramatic and a bitch for bitching him out over something so stupid.

**Edit: Because some people have asked. No, I did not spell out what I wanted, my older son is 3, and he was born in Feb, so this is my 4th Mother’s Day as a mother. Every year prior has not been like this, he interacts with the kids more, does his best to let me relax, and he shows me that he appreciates me. I don’t ask for the world, and I would’ve been just fine with the rest of the day had we just spent the last of it together like he proposed, but leaving me to hang out with the neighbor just felt like the straw that broke the camels back. He is the one who brought up just watching a show together before bed because it had been a long day. We both knew we’d be hopping around, and we typically go somewhere, so that wasn’t even a huge issue it just made it a long day. And a lot of you have opened my eyes to a lot of things. Our relationship was extremely toxic in the beginning. Much much worse, but

Y'all...I understand that Kody adopted Robyn's kids but they have a living father who, from what I gathered from the show, is still in contact with them. In fact, they went to visit him after the adaptation was finalized. While I don't think Dayton, Aurora and Breanna should be treated less than, I think it's extremely unfair that they get 1.5 of a father over Christine's and Jannelle's kids who have 0.5 of a father.

I believe the reason for the adoption was health insurance related which confuses me because I thought the Browns' do not have health insurance which is why they avoid hospitals unless it's dire, like poor Truely's ordeal.

In any other circumstances, I 100% believe adopted and bio kids should be treated and loved equally but I think it was insane that Kody was more reactive to Aurora's panic attack than to Ysabel's chronic scoliosis pain. Kody's treatment of Ysabel in the season's finale made me lose the little respect I had for him.

Edit: Adding the video of DAB leaving to stay with their bio dad after the adoption was finalized: https://youtu.be/4svIPoDU9uY

This is probably a post that everyone agrees with. The inconsistency in fast moves that go through while throwing can change the outcome of entire games which is probably my biggest annoyance with PvP at the moment. Of course we have seen videos with methods to try to deny fast moves with some techniques, but it's never 100% consistent. Players at the highest levels usually know the outcomes of the match ups they're playing, but this inconsistency can make the difference between a conscious call that turns out to be good or bad.

I would like to see a solution that's consistent on this part. I personally don't really care if that would be that fast move always go through or never. In the first case you can optimize play by timing your fast moves on the end of the opponents moves to give away the least possible turns. In the latter scenario it would be beneficial to try to throw when you're in sync with the opponent to give away no moves at all. In either case the optimal plays are consistent and the better players can work around it.

This is probably in vain, but I was hoping that if this gets upvoted a lot maybe it gets their attention and we can get a better PvP game to all enjoy. Of course it wouldn't instantly be perfect and we can still see annoying moments of lag, but I think it would be a very good step forward.

eta: I haven’t responded in this thread because I’m having trouble finding the right words, but please know that I’m reading every response and I am so blown away by the strength of everyone here. thank you so much for your vulnerability in answering this question; it’s given me (and I hope others who are struggling with this) a lot to learn from.

So I (27m) recently took up a big project at work because it would look good on my resume if I chose to quit and because I thought it would be fun. But one thing to note is me and my fiancé (30f)had a plan to split the work for our first child who she was pregnant with when we made the plan, yet she had to have an emergency c section so I had a lot more work then I planned in that I was doing most of the baby work helping her recover and doing my project. Now the second thing to note is that me and my sister (25)are extremely close and she has numerous mental illnesses and she calls a lot to vent about her problems which I’m normally ok with, but it was 6am and she called me and in my tiredness I didn’t answer, yet she called a second time so I thought it was important and answered. And she’s on the other end sobbing and telling me a friend had died, I talked with her for a bit to calm her down before asking her if she could talk to another friend, and I explained to her this situation with my fiancé/the child and the project and that I had to prioritize my kid , and she got upset with me and told me I didn’t really care about her and hung up and wouldn’t answer my calls and now I feel bad because I think that my timing of telling her was wrong so AITA?

Build here: https://pastebin.com/trD9eXme

I'm modelling my build on Furty's cyclone slayer build here: https://www.poe-vault.com/guides/ultimate-cyclone-slayer-build-guide Unfortunately his guide is very endgame/experienced user oriented...and as a first-time player I'm struggling to figure out what I should do at this point in my build. I'm pretty sure my HP isn't high enough and I think I can sacrifice resistances to upgrade HP, but I'm not sure even how to do that...just trade for Tier 1 HP rings or better versions of my uniques?

Any insights into improving a build generally would be appreciated as a noob!

Is it institutional lethargy at DDOT? Lack of political interest from the Mayor or Council?

I've got my views but curious to hear a broader discussion.

In h experience, DDOT staffers (at least the younger folks) want to fix our streets as much as anyone. And my sense is that Council is ahead of the Mayor on this issue but hasn't seemed to maintain sustained interest.

As for mayoral politics, I think Bowser is misreading the room. But what do I know, she's a shrewder politician than me.

Because even Dragon tends to casually ignore and even contradict character information and worldbuilding I wrote in it.

I’m a woman- and I realize from a young age women are socialized to believe that finding a man and getting married is a top priority.

This being said I don’t understand how men can just suddenly realize or decide they’re not ready for a relationship bc they have too much going on, their too busy, or their not ready. I can wrap my head around these excuses if you’re genuinely not into someone and you’re trying to let them down easy.

But if you actually connect with someone and enjoy spending time with them why isn’t that a priority? Like is physical/emotional intimacy not important to guys? I mean I get that a guy would never come out and talk about his intimacy needs but like I have to assume that they are there right?In my opinion- you don’t have to be perfect to enter a relationship, I feel like there’s never a time in life that’s “the right time” because you’re always gonna have problems, commitment, and things going on in general.

Y’all can laugh if you want bc I probably sound like a simp but seriously what is more important than not dying alone? I guess I could see an argument for work/money but there are tons of rich people/celebrities who are depressed and lonely AF with no genuine connections and who pay escorts to fill their intimacy needs.

Also this post isn’t meant to be critical in the least bit, I understand that different people think differently. It’s just that My romantic 22 year old brain is going down a rabbit whole trying to understand the psychology of men.

*** The one exception that I will make to this whole post is if you have children. Obviously your children are going to be the number one priority in your life.

During the semester, I keep a running list of things I want to learn once the semester finishes up. By the time the semester ends I always have an extensive list of things I want to do. Other languages, frameworks, interview prep, refresh on stuff I didn't use all semester, personal projects. It's always a little overwhelming and I have trouble prioritizing, and staying in a lane. How do you guys prioritize?

To preface, I have a Hyper X Cloud II and my scalp is aching mere minutes after putting it on. I've had to pad it myself, and considering the mic is giving out, I decided to buy a new desk mic I found on sale. All that remains is finding some comfortable headphones with similar sound quality (or better).

I've tried many at stores, but one thing they all had in common was not having an extra band for the head, as in the top of the headphones were resting on my scalp. Could this be the cause? I have friends with Hyper X Cloud IIs and they find it just fine, though their heads are quite a bit smaller.

Do you guys have any recommendations? I'm fine with wired or wireless, open-back or closed-back (I picked closed since I need a flair, but no preference really), and preferably without a mic since I already have a dedicated one now. I'm in Canada and my budget is around $150.

Make it so that to teleport to an Outpost you need to click very close to it on the minimap, and leave most of the area to the towers. Right now it's too damn easy to misclick and takes way too much time. Especially if you wish to finesse a TP in a good direction around the tower on the minimap.

There's just no reason for Outpost prioritization as is, that teleport is used very rarely compared to towers.

I have a short list of hero packs that I'm interested in getting but I can't decide which ones to choose, I'm only choosing one (maybe two) for now and I'll buy the other ones later in a month or two.

What I have: Captain America, Dr. Strange, Antman, and RORS box.

What I'm interested in getting: Ms Marvel, Wasp, Quicksilver, Black Widow

Few points to note:

• The slayer of the baron receives an extra 25g
• The slayer of the Elder dragon receives an extra 100g
• Jungle camps level up each time they respawn to a max level of 9. The first blue number represents level 1, while the second represents level 9.
• The Rift Scuttler is the only camp with scaling gold with monster level.

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We've known one another for over 10 years and she's only been with her boyfriend for 3 months.

My friend had a breakdown a few years ago and has struggled with her mental health ever since, she cut everyone out of her life but I was always there for her even when she'd tried to push me away. We'd talk every day, I'd help her process her feelings and guide her away from unhealthy thoughts. We became very close at this time. At one point I asked her if she'd ever consider reaching out to old friends she'd stopped talking to because they'd been asking about her, she confided in me that she didn't think she'd have the emotional energy to maintain more than one relationship at a time (ours) and she struggled with that even.

Well, you can see where this is going. Someone new moved into her building and from the sounds of it he very aggressively pursued her until she agreed to go out with him. Our contact has dwindled down into basically nothing, I'm lucky if I get a text a week. I over to hers to check in, I was worried about her and this new guy but she actually seemed really happy and spent a significant amount of time gushing about him. I was proud of her, I really wanted to see her dating again but I asked her if she'd try a little harder to stay in touch with me. She got really defensive at this, that I knew what she was like and why couldn't I just be happy for her. She accused me of wanting her all to myself even if it meant she ended up alone. Obviously insane and completely untrue but it riled me up enough that I reminded her of everything I'd done for her up until this point and that I was a big part of her recovery while this new guy is barely in the door and hasn't had to deal with half the crap I have. She flipped out and screamed at me to leave. A few hours later she contacts me to say she wasn't going to cut me off but she didn't want my help anymore, and that she'd talk to me when she wanted to and I would just have to suck it up. I'm so hurt this has happened.

Am I really the asshole for wanting my friend to be there for me too?

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