Disinherited Puns

So, my marriage started out as one of convenience. I was pregnant and my husband took it as the golden opportunity to rebrand himself from notorious playboy to respectable family man. I said yes because honestly, I was terrified at the time and had no idea how I was going to manage as a single mother and I was terrified he would try to take our child from me. His family were ecstatic, especially his grandfather who never thought he would get married in his lifetime.

My husband is very close to his sister so I’ve grown very close to her over the years too. We were having a serious conversation and she asked me how I knew my husband was the one and why I would give him a chance given his reputation. I didn’t want to lie to her or give her false hope because she’s currently going through a lot in her relationship and I didn't want her to make a bad choice based on what I said, so I admitted I didn’t and that we had married for convenience and explained the situation to her. She didn’t give me any indication that she was angry by what I said, except for calling her brother an unromantic jerk.

We were all at her parents’ house for dinner at the time and the next time she saw my husband she lost it. She kept yelling at him that he had taken advantage of me and calling him a disgusting bastard. Her parents tried to calm her down and asked her what was wrong and she spilled the whole story in front of most people there, including his grandfather and members of their extended family.

We ended up leaving early because it turned into a huge fight and I didn’t want our kids to overhear. My husband is furious at me and is barely talking to me. After our kids were asleep, he asked me what he had told me when we made this agreement and kept demanding to know why I hadn’t kept my mouth shut like he had told me to. My SIL told me that his grandfather is considering disinheriting him (which is huge since my husband is his favourite).

AITA?

So a little background, I’m gay and grew up in a very conservative Christian family. My parents weren’t happy when I came out and moved away, but we both have had something of a truce. I don’t bring up a ton of details about who I’m dating etc, they don’t try to convert me on every phone call.

A few months ago they came up for a visit/vacation and while they were here let me know that I had been written out of the will, but if I ever “came back to god” they would think about changing it. I just kind of laughed and said they weren’t bribing me into converting and that it was their money so they could do with it what they wanted.

I’m pretty close with my cousin who lives near me. So a few weeks later while I was having dinner with her i mentioned it as one of the crazy stunts my parents pull. She told her mom who called my grandma and now my family is kind of split with half supporting me and half my parents. I’ve gotten several angry phone calls from my parents saying inheritance matters are meant to be private and I broke their trust by bringing it up to others. (Sorry for any bad formatting I’m on mobile.)

A father was telling his buddy over coffee, "You won't believe what happened last night.  My daughter walked into the living room and said,  "Dad, please do not pay off my college tuition loan.  Go ahead and cancel my allowance, throw away all my clothes and take my iPhone and laptop.  In addition, please take all of my jewelry to the Salvation Army.  Then, sell my car, take my front door key away from me and lock me out of your house.  Then, disown me and never talk to me again.  And don't forget to write me out of your will and leave my share to anyone you choose."
"Holy Smokes", replied the friend, "She actually said that?”
The father replied, "Well, she didn't actually put it quite like that.  I'm paraphrasing a little." What she actually said was: "Dad, meet my new boyfriend, Mohammed.  We're going to work together on Biden's 2024 election campaign.”

I was reading Paras' book on Wills and Succession. It states there that intestate heirs cannot be disinherited because only compulsory heirs can be disinherited. But, intestate heirs can be excluded expressly or impliedly.

I was wondering why should there be a distinction between disinheritance and exclusion. Aren't they the same thing since both are made through a will?

What I figured was, disinheritance requires a legal cause to be valid. While, exclusion does not.

I fucked up and now my absolute chad of an intelligent, giant heir is out of the line of succession, and his dimwit younger brother stands to be my heir. ... is there anyway of remedying this?

I'm playing on ironman...

So basically the Will specifically disinherits my two cousins, they’re grown but everything is going to be split between me and my 2 sisters. There was no reason for this at all and i feel badly about it. The advice I’m asking is what would you do? I’m personally not in a good financial position so any money from my grandfather will be life changing to me but I’m guilty at the same time my cousins get nothing. Should i share? Or should i let business be business because they aren’t struggling at all. One is a doctor and one has their own business. It does bother me because im in charge of the Will and Trust.

With more and more blended families these days, what's the best way to ensure your kids won't be written out of the will of your (surviving) spouse?

Is a written mutual agreement not to revoke the existing wills the best approach?

I've seen it happen a couple of times with family members that the surviving spouse rewrote a will, substantially reducing the amount received by the deceased spouse's adult children.

It seems there is little protection against this happening and that in the case of remarriage it makes sense to assume that your surviving spouse will pull a fast one.

I’ve never asked or received a dime from them. They took away my childhood essentially, they have contributed nothing towards me as an adult, and now I’m being disinherited because I call them out on their bullshit (no invites, never calling me, etc). They were able to retire comfortably due to their inheritance from rich My grandpa. I didn’t even begin contributing to my retirement until later in age because I simply needed that money for “life.” They retired at 49. They are leaving their property and investments that they were only able to buy thanks to my grandpa to my stepcousins (my age), their neighbor (my age), and my Nstepmom’s best friend. They are all well off.

My stepcousins are obnoxiously spoiled by their parents even though they are adults. And now they will receive my N’s Money, which is basically my grandpas money, whom was of no relation to them.

My grandpa would be furious. They say an inheritance from a parent is their “last hug” to you. Gee, thanks for the middle finger, although I’m not surprised,

I have three full siblings, and a half sibling. I’m the youngest (20), a middle brother(21), and a older brother (25). When my mom was 5 months pregnant with me, she found out that my father was having an affair with a married coworker who was 8 months pregnant. It was revealed that the married coworker’s baby was my father’s. She divorced my dad. My dad was a dead beat. Mom was awesome growing up.

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Brother decided to have a 19th birthday party at my mom’s house. Mom and I came home, and a girl was there. I realized that it was my half-sister. I was shocked, I had never really had any contact with this girl because we lived in different cities, and to be honest I never had the desire to have a relationship with a stranger just because we had the same sperm donor. Eldest brother agrees with me. She tried to give me a hug but I pushed her off me, and told her not to touch me. My mom, on the other hand, lost her shit. She asked him what the fuck she was doing here and how dare he bring her into the house. My brother said that he just wanted to introduce her to us and they had been in contact for the past six months, and he looked my way for help. I looked away. He took her home and we sat down for a family meeting. My mother essentially told James that him having contact with our half sister felt like a stab in the back, and that the sight of that girl brought out all the ugly feelings that she had pushed down years earlier. After noticing that nobody but himself wanted contact with her, he told us he wasn’t going to have contact with her. I thought that was that, and life continued as normal.

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My grandmother passed away, and left everything to my mother, who was her only living child. Mom drafted a will where she split that inheritance between us three equally. Three months ago, mother and older brother ran into my brother at Starbucks with my half sister. Turns out that middle brother had been letting her stay in the apartment that my mother had pays for, and she had been there for the past 4 months.

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My mom said nothing at the time, but a couple days later she emailed us a copy of a new drafted will. She had split the inheritance between my eldest brother and I in half, and had left middle brother $25 and my grandfather’s beater car. He lost his shit, came to the house and asked me how mom could do this to him. I instantly rebutted with a “Well, what the fuck did you expect?”, and he called me a raging

The last episode made it a point to tell the viewers that The Big Three grew up without having a lot of money and they relied on Jack’s salary. Either Rebecca’s dad lived to a very old age and Rebecca is sitting pretty from inheritance in her old age or Rebecca got herself disinherited. I would have hoped at least, if the former is correct, she used some of her inheritance money to help pay for the kids’ colleges.

It’s just weird that they are driving home the fact that they were pushing middle class and “didn’t have a lot”when Rebecca had a rich father.

I want my second son to become my player heir. The problem is that my first son has a son of his own. If I were to disinherit his father, would my grandson become my new heir or would it be my second son? My current succession law is confederate partition.

My sister sent her teenaged son to church camp about a month ago, where he caught covid. She caught it from him and tested positive several days after that.

After she informed me, I took my 19-year-old daughter and myself to a FEMA-sponsored testing drive-through site. We both tested negative.

My mother and my sister were both so offended that we got tested. They told us “you’re going to end up catching it one day anyway.”

Then my daughter stood up for herself and for her twin sister who weighs 88 pounds and has cerebral palsy. She told her aunt and grandparents that what they did was very dangerous and that we can’t trust they will wear masks in places such as their church.

At that moment, we were told how much we will regret being cautious. They told my daughter they’re writing her out of their will. What grandparent does this?!

I am a registered CNA and have been following Standard Precautions since March 12. My daughter is my client. I have an obligation to protect her. Doubly so.

I wanted to share this in case any of you are going through something similar.

Peace and Love.

EDIT: Thank you all so much for offering words of comfort. I knew this would be the right place to come. I am hopeful that this discussion, among thousands of others, will remain in the internet archives for eternity. Some of your comments here will someday be sourced for a bio on America’s Second Civil War.

THANK YOU for the awards! My first!

Not putting the whole decades-long history here but my parents have always been weird and deceitful with money.

My siblings and I were told from a young age our parents would pay for college.

As we got older and older more and more conditions were added. We’ll pay for college if you do x. We’ll pay if you do y. Conditions were added after the fact - my older sibling got an F in a class, so my parents decided after the fact they would make him pay for this portion. Immediately. He didn’t have enough money and dropped out to start working.

I learned from his “mistakes” and started working part time when I started college. Plus I started at a community college (so if I did fail it wouldn’t cost me a thousand dollars).

Oh but heres the this - first year I had to pay for myself because my hs attendance was low- they didn’t want to pay and have me drop out!

Second year they said if I paid from the earnings of my job they would “let” me keep the bonds I’d received as gifts over the years (amounting to maybe $500).

When I transferred to a 4-year school they “took care of” tuition, and “helped” with books by co-signing a credit card for me to put books and supplies on (I had to pay for it, but them co-signing allowed me to get a limit high enough for what I needed).

Fast forward a few years later and I find out what they did was take out a LOAN in my name and not make ANY payments because the type of loan didn’t adversely affect your credit score (so MAYBE they thought they’d get around to it eventually and I’d never know?). Oh yeah I found about this when I was applying for my first home and was told by the bank “you need to get rid of this debt NOW if you want this house”. So I had to pay off that loan within maybe a week of learning about it.

Bonus on this topic, my younger sibling DID get their college paid for but dropped out. Then re-enrolled (paid again!) then dropped out.

I’m the only one in my family with a college degree, and you know my parents brag about how they supported me.

ANYWAY. There’s some money background.

Last fall my youngest sibling starts calling me up complaining. My mom is dividing the house equally between us three children in her will. That’s not fair because youngest lives there and pays the bills (mind, the “bills” are just the utilities - parents paid off the mortgage yeas ago). They are entitled to half and demand oldest and I give up parts of our inheritance.

I tell youngest moms not dead yet, things can

I just received a Priority mail package containing a lawyers notification that I and my sister, have been disinherited. And our sin is that we left the religion.

Me and my sister, along with her husband spent over a year and a half cleaning out our parents house. Live rats, dead rats and unbelievable crap inside and outside the house. We did it so they didn't have to live in filth. Our mother (the JW) grudgingly thanked us. At no time did the self righteous JW sister and her husband come over and clean. One jw sister took a few items to the recycler. But on the whole. We did the work to make the house livable. Otherwise they would have been fined/house have a lien put on it. Our father died (not a jw) and he had wanted to have everyone share. My mother died a few months later. She changed the will.

In short, the two sisters will get it all plus our brother who never was a jw.

The cherry on the top is that, our brother has helped them ransack and clean the house. When my sister said something about the will, he evaded answering. The one sister who is the biggest hypocrite, slanderer etc. knows from 5 months ago, that we will be out of the will. The oh so righteous brother in law, kindly gave us a link to a youtube channel for our mothers memorial just a few days ago. Knowing that the letter was being sent to me. His wife, our sister, is probably the one that arranged for all this to happen. The ultimate soup nazi of punishing justice.

So no good deed goes unpunished and this is why the Good Samaritan didn't have an ending. Because he was screwed over by the jew who sat with the Pharisees.

Going into the Atlas Arc, most believed that Weiss would have an important role to play. This was her hometown after all, a huge part of character is how she was the heiress of the SDC which in many ways embodied Atlas. Of course this meant her family was there and would come into play, and she even knew Ironwood which is more than any of the other trainees could say. Indeed, when looking back and seeing that Weiss had done the least important things of the main 4, as Ruby saved Vale from complete destruction and Blake saved Menagerie and Haven, it seemed like this might be Weiss' place to shine.

Alas, this turned out not to be the case.

Despite being the Atlasian of the group, Weiss got relatively little focus in the last two volume, and importance to match. Not even with her family does she really play a leading role. While this could change in how future volumes progress, this feels like a missed opportunity. Let's look at what she did:

Overview:

In initially getting to Atlas, there isn't much to do so she doesn't do much. The most significant things she does are throw away some piece of breathing trash, and she hugs Winter. Despite being the one who knows Ironwood and Atlas in general, she plays little part in their conversations, a consistent thing in this arc.

When she and the others get new equipment, she doesn't get a weapon upgrade, even less than Blake who gets her weapon repaired.

Going on the mission to the mind, Weiss again doesn't play really any role. She talks about the SDC and how she wishes she could take back the pain it has caused, but that's nothing new. She doesn't do anything special in the mines, but she does get a scene after they come out: She stands up to her father, not giving into his manipulation using her love of her mother, and calling her team family. Especially in relation to Winter who was apparently hiding, this is a good scene for her character. But then again, it doesn't add anything new really and ultimately isn't really consequential except to set up for Winter's progression,

After being made an official huntress, she goes on some missions and trains like everyone else. Though she doesn't say go on the mission where Robyn is met, despite her potentially having a much more interesting relationship with her than Ruby. Her training is with Winter, and Weiss shows how she improves at summoning part playing smarter not harder. Then she and Winter talk about being a Schnee, possibly moving on from that, and how

So my 4th eldest son was no good, I disinherited him, and he eventually became a wanderer and left my realm. I didn't really keep track of him much.

Later I'm looking for a physician, and he comes up as a possible choice. He now has physician skills, I noticed he's a lowborn, but he still has claims on all my titles. When I click on my succession tab, it shows he is set to inherit land even though he's a Lowborn. There's even some red text warning that titles are about to go to someone not in my dynasty...

So does disinheriting not actually prevent inheritances now? This is my first time playing since 1.3, and I have the Northern Lords pack.

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My mom disinherited me when she died 13 years ago. Put the houce into a trust that's about to run out.

My 3 half brother/sisters gets a 3th each

I'm not in the will. Not a single word.

Can I dispute or claim my share ?

We had as good a relationship, me and my mother, as anyone can have with an abusing parent. We did not talk a few years before she dies because I demand to know who my father is and she said. It was none of my business.

We did talk just before she died.

Non-official light hearted grumble thread for those of us who haven’t gotten our boxes yet.

I’m in AZ, USA as a Star Colonel. Haven’t heard a thing yet.