Centipede.
It’s so peaceful. The “kids” (18f (and two friends) And 15m) are happily engaged with each other. Dog is asleep. Wife is enjoying the drive.
What up with You?
I (29f) am pregnant with my first child. My partner (36m) has three boys from a previous relationship. There are six grandchildren total for my partner's parents with only one being a girl to his sister, we'll call her Jane. She always appeared proud or almost braggy about having the only girl in her posts on social media. So when we found out we were having a girl my partner was estatic as he always wanted a daughter. Everyone in his immediate family reached out to me to congratulate me and show their excitement except for Jane. I kind of thought she wouldn't be very happy about her daughter not being the only girl anymore. I don't see it as a competition and am just glad we can even out the teams in our household lol.
My partner chose the names for all three of his boys so given this might be my only child I told him I would like to take the reigns on naming our daughter, he chuckled and agreed. I love the names I chose and he did as well, everyone I told seemed to love them as well. I find they flow very well together with my partners last name. Now I recently learned that Jane's daughter has the same middle name although spelled differently. I did not think anything of this because it is not the same first name, it is not a namesake and five people on my father's side share the same name. My partner did not think anything of this either. Jane and his BIL think differently, they told my partner he is disrespecting them and hurting their daughter who is already upset she won't be the only girl anymore. She accused him of purposely choosing the name to take something away from her daughter. She brought up how he did the same thing when he named one of his sons (the names are similar, think Stephen and Stephanie), although he says he just always liked the name and did not think of Jane's daughters name in any way when he picked it. Now Jane and her husband won't speak to my partner anymore and said if has any regard for their feelings he'd change the name. I don't see the big deal about it at all and my partner is on my side. AITA?
Note Jane and her family live in a different province and my partner unfortunately only sees them once every couple of years. I still have not met them.
I've always heard the middle child is always ... Different. I'm curious how well this translates with trans people too. I'm not sure if it's even a notion that still exists these days, but I remember it from my youth... Anyway, I'm curious what everyone is, not just if you're the middle child.
I added the it's complicated because I know some people didn't have a traditional home life/upbringing. Feel free to talk about it or not, no pressure.
For anyone's curiosity, I am a middle child.
At least I've got Lulu singing some soul for now.
Edit: good -> gold
One day, at the beginning of this year, me (26f) and my boyfriend (26m) went for a big walk around the town we were living in at the time. It was the middle of the day, probably around 2PM and we were both completely sober
At one point we were on the side of the road, on one of those lanes where people run and walk (apologies I don't know the proper name for those) and we saw a female child (around 12yo if I had to guess) jogging, she was in our lane coming our way.
I remember finding it strange for a child to be jogging on her own, there was no one else around and it was a pretty remote area like a countryside road, but I didn't mention anything to my boyfriend.
We were walking side by side so I walked behind him so she could pass, I stopped seeing her for a few seconds and when I see her again next to me she is a fully grown woman in her mid 40's.
He immediately looks at me in shock and asks "Did you see that?". I asked him did he also see a child turn into a woman and he said yes. He said she never really left his sight, but as he blinked and looked again she was no longer a child. We even looked back to confirm and she was still the mid 40's woman.
Since then I've been noticing other smaller glitches. I don't know if they were always there and I just didn't pay attention or of that started a whole chain of events.
My nephew’s first name is the same as his father’s but he has a different middle name (as an example, father’s name is John George and his son is John Richard). I called the baby “John Junior” at a family function and was told that’s not correct because they don’t have the same middle name and to just call him “baby John.” Is this a real thing? I feel like it’s kind of pedantic to make that distinction, but just wanted to see if this naming convention is more common than I thought?
My middle child has come out to my partner and I about two hours ago about their fluidity and the feelings they have been going through. With thoughts of looking at Hormonal replacement(I don’t know how soon). And I’d like advice on what we can do to support this decision while my child finds themselves and how they want to identify.
We want to support this and I’d love any advice on helping to support their changing sexuality.
Just curious, please only answer if your INFJ! I'm the middle child, how do you think birth order plays into your personal attributes as an INFJ?
Our baby will be named Nora Lorelai last name. I’m very aware of the similarities between Nora and Lora, but honestly, if we don’t use the name Lorelai now, we’ll never be able to use it. Nora feels perfect for her first name, so I guess I’m just looking for confirmation that middle names are places you can have fun and not worry if it doesn’t flow beautifully.
Edit: Changed the spelling to “Lorelai” after helpful feedback from some users.
If I wasn't a middle child I would think that middle child syndrome just couldn't be true. But man oh man did I feel it on Christmas day with my family. We went to my sister's house this year and the kids sorted the gifts (my daughter-9, my sisters daughter-14).
Anywho, when they were done...everyone seemed to have large piles of gifts. My brother and his gf had the kitchen table stacked with gifts for them, my sister had 4 steps and the bottom landing filled with gifts, my parents the same...large piles...the kids, not as much as them but big piles...and then there was my pile...2 small-medium gift bags and a few small wrapped things. I actually thought those were gifts left unsorted. But no-they were for me. I know I should be thankful for what I received, and I am, but what topped everything off was my sister and brothers big gift...tickets to a Celtics game and my sister had brand new airpods. I did not get a big gift.
I put a lot of thought into what I bought for everyone. I was shopping for a month or maybe more to get the right things. One gift I got for my dad was a patriots sign that said man cave...patriots fans only. Super nice, his favorite team...seemed to like it. Then he got a gift from my brothers gf...4 Boston teams walking along a crosswalk like the Beatles album. All labeled as "Orange Line"...etc for the T. Had a much bigger reaction and showed everyone what it was. Another gift I got for my dad was tickets to see Celtic Women with me...he said "oh wow that's really cool!"...but it didnt feel like he would go...he isn't a concert person but he LOVES them and him and I never do things together. At this point, I felt really defeated. But I didn't let it show because, hey, it's Christmas! Right?
Well...this happens quite often. I tell my family things I'm proud of, things I've accomplished, awards I got in college, etc...I don't get much of a reaction. I don't get invited anywhere, I literally see their snap stories all hanging out together all the time. I'm always the last to find out ANYTHING.
There's just so many things that have happened to me that I try to not let bother me...but they do, because they keep happening. At one point my friend told me when he used to hang out with my sister that she told him, "she's not like us"...referring to me...idk if this is even true but if it is...wtf?! My brother and I used to hang out ALL the time and my sister would be off with her friends. Everything is so different now. No one ever talks t
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I'm about to make him cough ON our youngest to make sure he gets it now so we can just all be sick at the same time instead of dragging out quarantine one person at a time for a month.
[I would NEVER do that. And I understand how incredibly fortunate we are that Covid came home after we're all at least partially vaccinated. Still really fucking frustrating. If my youngest gets sick, I may have to stay home from work for at least five more days, even though I've barely laid eyes on him since Saturday. Of course I'm all out of PTO! And Joe Manchin wants to take away the child tax credit which may be the only reason I can pay my bills in January if I can't get back to work soon.]
