No? ok, then things have changed in society and human behaviors have changed. why do teachers refuse to admit that?
Hello, I went to my doctor because I have IED. Once again I was told I am bipolar and was given this drug. I took my first dose today. Does anyone else take Latuda for IED?
I used to look at the term for my mother. She was never like this with my sister. There was brief moments in my childhood where my sister experienced it. It was short lived. My sister was the favorite child. Now I look at the term for myself. Visiting my mother she yelled at me at how I was talking. She said, “I don’t know who you think you are to talk to me like that.” I’m only talking how she does. How she always does. She ignores that statement and says she doesn’t talk like that. I give her an example.
I go pick up her medication as the place is far. The one closer to her closed long ago. I call and tell her a prescription was denied by the insurance company. She goes explosively angry and yelling in my ears. She is short tempered. She tells me it was approved last time. She wants me to shout at the pharmacist. She shouts her answers she wants me to pass on. Or she shouts forget it. Leave. She does this. She explodes. I tell her to calm down and tell me calmly. You don’t need to shout at me. She starts yelling angrily at this example. She does not behave like how I do. And anyways she says I’m worse than that. I need to learn how to speak. She never raised me like that. That was a lie because she would explode at me and yell at me. She would be irritated by me and say leave me alone. I’m acting stupid. I’m behaving stupid.
And I noticed my best friend has been telling me the same things I have told my mother. I don’t need and must not shout my answers. He does not deserve this. I am snapping at him. A couple years ago one bank customer service hung up on me because I was angry. One told me if I keep cursing he will hang up. I was angry that I had to give all my info outside or in stores because I work outside and during customer service business hours.
I can’t say all the times I am told I am rude by my mother is accurate. She never wants to hear no. Even if I say it calmly. She has this way of saying can you do me a favor. Anything she can do herself and without bothering someone changes when I was living with her and was home. She suddenly can’t do it. A hundred times she asks me can I do a favor? I tell her no, and she gets all angry. How many times when I was in the kitchen nook with my computer doing school work did she ask for me to bring her something as to not bother me? Then she bothers me more. So any time she asks can you do me a favor I get curt. Any time she says do you want to get such and such I get curt? I don’t want to get such a
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I am studying at the university but that person is mentally abusive and sometimes loses control by hitting me. he refuses to discuss or receive any kind of help because "everything is fine" and it's just me.
Do you guys think it's possible to have IED without the physical violence part? Whenever I get really upset, even over what some people might think are small things, I have so much rage at times that I end up saying things I shouldn't say, I'll hide things from my wife, say terrible things, blow up someone's phone with texts, etc;
I don't know what else it could be. Over the slightest insults or feeling of disrespect, I feel like a cobra ready to strike. I hate feeling like this.
American Journal of Psychiatry: Intermittent Explosive Disorder as a Disorder of Impulsive Aggression for DSM-5
National Institute of Health: Intermittent Explosive Disorder
Psychology Today: Intermittent Explosive Disorder
Todd Grande (video): Intermittent Explosive Disorder Deep Dive | Is it really Narcissism or Psychopathy?
I hope it’s okay for me to stay in this group. I haven’t seen any support groups for people raised by a parent (or parents) with Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED). My parent, the IED one, has some crossover traits with narcissism, but what she mostly displays is uncontrollable rage. Her level of rage is the same if you spill a drop of water on the stove as it would be if you purposely broke her most valued family heirloom.
Mostly verbal abuse. Sometimes physical, but very, very mild. Nothing that would ever leave a mark. Or even that really hurts. But it is nonetheless traumatizing to be touched by someone in anger.
My 6 year old daughter has a dual diagnosis of ADHD and Intermittent Explosive Disorder. She takes medication for both and most days does okay, although it's a delicate dance on my part a lot of the day (such is parenting in general though I recognize).
My concern comes from her intense moments of rage, where she completely loses control and all reasoning. She is oppositional and defiant, sometimes changing what she wants mid-meltdown. A few minutes in, she has changed the direction of her demands numerous times, sometimes to polar opposites and often circles back to wanting what she originally opposed. It is beyond frustrating and I struggle to deal with her in these moments, especially because she often acts violent and hits me and breaks items in her room during the rage. When it is over, she usually breaks down, cries and expresses deep remorse. In spite of her regret, this behavior continues (about 1-2 times per month). The meltdowns come on so suddenly and it is difficult to anticipate them and once she's in them, there's no turning back.
Help! Any experience with this and suggestions? We are living day by day and I find it difficult to look forward to things. Something like going on a family vacation is out for fear of her behavior in a hotel or airport. We are surviving life at this point.
Ever heard of this one? I tend to punch my head real hard dahil sa minor inconveniences: video games, di nagreply yung pinagapplyan, di ako tinirhan ng ulam. Not sure how this one started but maaan I'm scared. May times na nahihilo ng sobra after and pakiramdam ko mabibigyan ko sarili ko ng concussion one of these days. Hirap na rin ako pigilan rage ko. Di ko rin naman makwento sa family ko particulary parents kasi lagi silang "tanda mo na naglalaro ka pa rin (video games)" big yikes.
I tried consulting a professional online pero napakamahal naman. Tulad nga ng sabi ko sa last post ko, ang mahal magkamental issues 😅.
Ayun lang. Enjoy the gloomy weather.
Being able to hold back anger is a good thing and all, but when I'm alone, I just sometimes let loose, with my thoughts and everything and I am not able to hold back the anger whenever I feel stressed due to what I did when I'm "living" outside. When I'm alone I am able to feel free and I am able to express feelings like stressed, then comes the chest tightness and tingling that would lead me to suddenly shout/curse/ and throw things in response to this feeling, and the reason may not even be worth the anger. This only occurs when I'm alone and do Schizoid have a highly likely chance to develop IED? I exhibit IED even when I was still a kid and yeah, life when I was still a kid was very stressful too. Are there people out there who has Schizoid who might also have IED?
(For the record these are self observations, been observing my behavior for years, currently age 20 and which strangely enough I'm good at, but I still fail in correcting myself, also my family doesn't have enough money to help me with therapy and tbh I don't care, and I don't want to spend money for that as of yet)
Aside from the hell that was lock down I live with well controlled Intermittent Explosive Disorder (unmedicated) and ADHD (medicated) mostly maintained through general wellness practices.
I don't often experience more than a minor IED episode every other month or so, and maybe 1 major episode a year. (Although many many constant close calls.)
Currently not in active therapy because I haven't had much luck with therapists knowing enough about IED to be of much use to me.
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I was just prescribed this today. After many years of having anger issues and feeling unmotivated, I finally sought help. I have been on Venlafaxine (Effexor) for the last 3/4 months which has been a miracle drug for me. I never knew feeling this good was possible especially in my marriage. My doctor sent me to a Psychiatrist to confirm the depression diagnosis and he was the one to also diagnose me with IED. The Venlafaxine has helped significantly with the anger and I’m not sure the Risperidone is necessary but I’ll give it a shot. Has anyone been prescribed Risperidone for anger? It is an antipsychotic drug and reading the other forums about it, it doesn’t seem too positive. Anyways, what have others experienced?
> Intermittent explosive disorder involves repeated, sudden episodes of impulsive, aggressive, violent behavior or angry verbal outbursts in which you react grossly out of proportion to the situation. Road rage, domestic abuse, throwing or breaking objects, or other temper tantrums may be signs of intermittent explosive disorder.
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>These intermittent, explosive outbursts cause you significant distress, negatively impact your relationships, work and school, and they can have legal and financial consequences.
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>Intermittent explosive disorder is a chronic disorder that can continue for years, although the severity of outbursts may decrease with age. Treatment involves medications and psychotherapy to help you control your aggressive impulses.
My English is not good. Hope you guys understand. I'm 28 F (just turned) currently unemployed. Last year, I finished my masters degree in psychology. I'm much behind than most people because of the things that happened in my life. I'm not going into details, but all those things caused me so many mental problems. In 2013, I was diagnosed with severe depression, panic disorder, SAD and OCD (religious ocd). I'm taking medications to this day and I've been in therapy many times.
I'm good at psychology stuff. I did one internship and all the clients liked me. For the outside world I'm a really nice person. But for my loved ones sometimes I can be the opposite. I'm very empathetic, I don't even kill mosquitos (I live in a tropical country, we have a lot of bugs here). If anyone gets hurt, whether people in my life or even a stranger I feel extremely sad. I deeply care about my parents, siblings, my friends, my girlfriend and my pet dog.
But this is the thing, when a slight inconvenience occurs, I get extremely angry. This is disproportionate to the thing that happened. I throw temper tantrums like a toddler. I'm like this since I was a kid. I yell at my loved ones for no reason. I have had thoughts of hurting them but I never did because I'm scared I will go to hell. During that anger episode, that's the only thing prevent me hurting them. Not because all my good qualities I usually have. Because I can't hurt anyone I hurt myself when I'm angry. Or throw objects. I cry really loudly. Within one hour or so I calmed down and I feel extremely guilty after that. Then I constantly apologise to people I lash out and recall the situation again and again in my mind regretting everything.
I get angry at other people too. But because of my social anxiety, I try to control letting it out. But most of the times, they can see that I'm angry. Occasionally, I have failed at controling my anger too. I usually quickly get away from situations like that. When I'm angry I can't behave like a proper adult.
As a psychology student, I'm good at making others feel better but I can't apply that to me. I feel like a hypocrite.
I'm not looking for a diagnosis. But do you think I have symptoms of IED?
Edit: few hours ago my laptop broke down and I lashed out on my girlfriend. She didn't do anything. I feel really bad now. She had an abusive ex. I do not want to to be the same. I love her so much.
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(also first time poster, so be nice? please? Love this subreddit.)
I know it's frowned upon to self diagnose but I've been struggling with symptoms of this disorder since I was in my early teens. I'm a 21 year old female. I'm sick of living in this cycle. I just have episodes of uncontrollable anger over NOTNING Awhere I'm just argumentative, hateful, name calling. A lot of the times I'll throw things and destroy things and I've even gotten physical before . While its happening I know what I'm doing is wrong and I cant stop myself and it's so frustrating and harmful to my relationships and my mental health! I try so hard to be better and not let myself do this and every time it happens again I'm hit with such shame and sadness for the way I acted immediately afterward and all I can do is apologize to whoever was victim to my episode, Almost always my significant other. I say it'll never happen again and it always does. I've been giving anxiety meds and blood pressure medication but that doesn't help. I've searched online for years trying to pin point what was wrong with me and nothing ever hit the nail on the head until I came across someone talking about IED on a subreddit while I was searching about anger attacks. My question is: what do I do? Do I tell a professional that i think this is what's going on with me? I can't live like this anymore but I feel like no one will take me seriously if I go in and try to diagnose myself. Please help
Hello! This is my first time writing here. I have a personal issue. My boyfriend who has Intermittent explosive disorder and has been consuming marijuana for the last months on a daily basis, has decided to stop smoking it 3 days ago. We expected him to feel more irritable, anxious and mildly depressed but he’s now feeling absolutely miserable and says that he feels like he has nothing to live for, after having a (not very severe) nervos breakdown yesterday. Do you have any idea what will help at this moment? And maybe it was a bad decision to quit smoking so abruptly without having a psychatric backup treatment to help him go through the withdrawl easier? I have to mention that he has never taken a medical treatment for his Intermittent explosive disorder. I read that antidepressants combined with anticonvulsivants might help, and also cognitive behavioral therapy. But we don’t know what to do at this right moment. Thank you for reading this and for any answer/solution you might have.
Is there any mnemonic to differentiate these two!
I’ve had it since Dec. 2019. Ask me anything and I’ll try my best to answer.
I dont know where to start but something happened to me today. It was a dumb argument with my aunt, she's been my guardian for almost 8 years now. My parents are working abroad so Im left in my hometown with just my aunt. She's a good person but whenever she's angry she gets too physical. When I was in senior high I'd go to my school in my uniform with bandaids on because I have dark greenish black bruises from times she got so angry with me. And at those times I always understood why she got mad, i know it was partially my fault or all my fault but I just hated how brutally she could be when she's angry. For the past 8 years I held it in. I took punches from her, she'll drag me around he house while pulling my hair or slap the shit out of me and hit me. And this morning she told me to do some chores which I did and I just didn't clean the bathroom thoroughly and she got mad, grabbing me by my hair and dragged me towards the bathroom. I explained that I did clean it i just didn't checked if there were remaining dirt on the edges. You get the point. I just feel like it was something superficial for her to get so agitated. So i took a deep breath and mentally sigh, it might've angered her to the point that she kept pushing me against the wall, asking me "whatchu gonna do?" over and over. She then proceeds to grab my hair again and continuously asking me the same question. I got so angry bc it was something so stupid that she could've asked me nicely to do it again. But instead she dragged me towards the bathroom while pulling my hair and kept pushing me. At this point my mind just blacked out and the last thought I remember was looking at her neck and before I could even know it, I choked her. I literally pushed her against the bathroom wall and choked her while screaming "Is this what you want?" and kept screaming and screaming.
I remember feeling so angry, my chest felt so tight that I kept screaming to blow the air out because it felt like my lungs are so full of air that it hurts so much and I needed to vent it out. I cant even remember when I pulled out my hands, all I could think of was I was screaming on top of my lungs, wanting this tightened feeling to go away. And I screamed the whole time "I kept quiet but you keep on pushing me and pulling my hair!" and continuously asks her "Is this what you want?!" and I'm just afraid. What if I didn't stop myself, what if I didn't put my hands down what if I haven't have the strength to pull out? My aunt kept
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We've been together since we were teenagers and he's always had really bad anger. We are very close, we both have a history of abuse. He's a genuinely a good person, but when he gets angry, it can be destructive, violent, and hurtful (verbally), he's never been physical with me though. I can see how hard it is to deal with for him, the guilt he has after his explosions is immense. He's gotten actually better throughout the years. It was really bad when we were teenagers but he's put in quite a bit of effort into controlling himself and trying to be more rational. It seems like he's just as astounded at his outbursts as everyone else is when they see it. His mom is antagonistic and his father just belittles him and calls him "snowflake", treats him like a kid. It just feels like walking on eggshells all the time but then he can tell that people are acting weird because they just don't know when he'll explode, and that just makes him worse. Is there any advice on treatment or how to help him? His therapists and psych are not taking him seriously at all. What can I do as his girlfriend?
Has anyone heard of this disorder i researched it and i have mild symptoms of it and am pretty sure I have this mental disorder but haven't been diagnosed you see i have emotional outburst that involve anger and arguing and sometimes I cry I can't seem to control it and afterwards I feel regretful of what I have done i have most of the symptoms of this disorder but not the aggressive violent behavior I did have violent behavior when I was a kid has anyone got this disorder any help would be appreciated
For those of you who have been in a relationship with someone who has IED, what advice can you give? Did you stay in the relationship or end it?
I (30F) have been with my partner for almost 4 years now. We are engaged but haven't set a date. His outbursts have gotten worse over the past six months and now I am trying to decide if I should stay in this relationship or end it before we get married. For a little background info, we just moved states for my job and he is not happy with his new job or the state but he was also unhappy in our home state with his job and life.
He acknowledges his reactions are a problem, as he has had outbursts since his childhood but states this is the way it has been and will always be.
Any advice is much appreciated.
Background story: I'm from a country where psychotherapy is not really a thing and exists only in big cities. I'm currently studying abroad so I don't live with my family. I suppose my mom (47) has IED (Intermittent Explosive Disorder). She also has heart problem, I don't know if it's genetic but her aunt and my grandma also have heart problem and anger issues . Again, we don't have access to a psychotherapist but it's my assumption from observing her behaviour in the last 7-8 years: she easily gets angry, mostly because something doesn't go the way she wants, and she can't control her anger. She'll start using very offensive language, throw/smash things in the house, sometimes hurt herself or others. When she calms down, she often gets sick, has headache and regrets what she did.
My sister's been exposed to mom's aggressive behaviours since she was 8, so it must've affected her. She told me that recently she can't control her anger, she'll throw things, yell or curse (can't control what she says) and even thinks of hurting herself. She and I both think that it's somewhat similar to mom's behaviour.
I try to talk to her, calm her down and encourage her to think positively (my sister doesn't wanna talk to our parents about this). However I don't live with my family so I don't know what else I can do for her. I would appreciate your suggestions and comments on this!!
I’m a 27yo male. Since I was in elementary school I have had, what I thought was “normal” anger issues. The more I looked into intermittent explosive disorder, or IED, the more it sounds like me. Literally the description is describing me.
“ Intermittent explosive disorder involves repeated, sudden episodes of impulsive, aggressive, violent behavior or angry verbal outbursts in which you react grossly out of proportion to the situation.”
“Criterion A1: Episodes of verbal and/or non damaging, nondestructive, or non injurious physical assault that occur, on average, twice weekly for three months. These could include temper tantrums, tirades, verbal arguments/fights, or assault without damage. This criterion includes high frequency/low intensity outbursts.
Criterion A2: More severe destructive/assaultive episodes which are more infrequent and occur, on average, three times within a twelve-month period. These could be destroying an object without regard to value, assaulting an animal or individual. This criterion includes high-intensity/low-frequency outbursts.”
I wish I could get it diagnosed for sure, but I just can’t afford a psychiatrist. For me I fit into both criteria’s, but more so with the high intensity/low frequency outbursts. I’ve never hit my wife, or my 3yo daughter, and I never want to. It scares everyone involved when I blow up. It scares me because I CANT control it once it starts, and once it’s over I just feel so ashamed. 2 days ago my wife and I got into a fight because I was annoyed slightly at a store clerk who was talking shit about people wearing masks(I live in Portland Oregon, and it’s required to wear a mask in any public space that’s inside and establishment.) while not wearing one herself. So I told my wife about it and misunderstood her. even though she agreed to boycott that store for their ignorance, I thought she was saying out of convenience she would still go there. Not a big deal right??? WRONG, for some reason that I can’t even explain I BLEW UP. I screamed at her, called her names, slammed doors, broke a door, broke a steak knife, broke a tile on our tile countertops. It was such an extreme reaction to the situation. I’m ruining my life, because I can’t control it. Is there any way to stop? Or do I need to bite the bullet and ask my mom or grandparents if they would front the bill for a psychiatrist? I don’t know how to handle this.
I have had IED for a very long time and I still do. Ask anything you are curious about it or me dealing with it.
I just came across this term for the first time. I was raised by a narcissist and I think this is what I have. And because this rage is becoming worse and worse, I've decided to google it and came across this term. It could take something very small to tick me off, and I fly off on a huge 10-20 minute rage and break things and punch my fist into the wall and self harm. And then I immediately feel remorse for what I have done. I cry and feel guilty for days after. I hurt people emotionally and physically and then I feel so terrible after. I have held that rage under control for 30 years. But in the last few years, it is impossible to hold in anymore and I feel like I explode over nothing. It's so painful. I don't know how to get this under control. I want help. I don't mean to be this way. I feel like I can't help it anymore. :'(
If you do please help this brother out. How do I deal with it. Go about my life without losing control. I need help.
Intermittent explosive disorder and marijuana withdrawl
Intermittent explosive disorder and marijuana withdrawl
Hello! This is my first time writing here. I have a personal issue. My boyfriend who has Intermittent explosive disorder and has been consuming marijuana for the last months on a daily basis, has decided to stop smoking it 3 days ago. We expected him to feel more irritable, anxious and mildly depressed but he’s now feeling absolutely miserable and says that he feels like he has nothing to live for, after having a (not very severe) nervos breakdown yesterday. Do you have any idea what will help at this moment? And maybe it was a bad decision to quit smoking so abruptly without having a psychatric backup treatment to help him go through the withdrawl easier? I have to mention that he has never taken a medical treatment for his Intermittent explosive disorder. I read that antidepressants combined with anticonvulsivants might help, and also cognitive behavioral therapy. But we don’t know what to do at this right moment. Thank you for reading this and for any answer/solution you might have.
Does anyone have this and would like to share?
