When I had my daughter we had a naming ceremony, led by a celebrant, as I knew I didn't want to have a christening. Since then, I've discovered Paganism but I am still fairly new and have only practiced at home and never attended any community events or celebrations.
We have now had another baby and I'm wondering what sort of ceremony, rituals, blessing etc we could do for him to welcome him into the family officially?
ETA: I'm primarily influenced by Wicca. Baby was born a few weeks ago, and it will be early in the new year by the time we can get all our family and friends together.
Hi everyone, my fiancé and I are trying to work out what readings we should have at our ceremony, but we've not been to many civil ceremonies and don't really know where they fit in. In your experience, when do they happen and how many are acceptable? Would short poems read by three people be too much?
Thank you!
Edit: thanks so much to everyone who's replied! This has been so helpful!
Okay so my fiance and I got engaged last May, and we are planning on doing a wedding spring of 2023. I am a very over the top extra maximalist kind of girl and I'm very crafty and want to embroider on my own dress, I have a color scheme picked out, I'm probably going to make all the invitations, we are starting to think about venues and such, so planning the actual wedding is not the issue (yet lmao), but here is the issue: it really really makes sense for us financially to get married like right now. Health insurance is the main factor but yeah essentially it's like- he really wants to just go and have a judge marry us right now, and then we have the "real" wedding in spring of 2023 as we planned. My family (mostly) knows and thinks its a great idea, and they'll all still come to the wedding and everything, so I'm not worried that people won't come bc it's not as "real" or something.
I just feel sad and strange about it. I'm a little religious, and when I say those vows I want to be meaning them, and I don't know how to have a secret civil ceremony and then not feel like the "second wedding" is sort of fake. I'm also very sentimental- I've been thinking about my wedding for a long time. It's very meaningful to me- I want to be in a beautiful place. I want to be looking like a princess. I want to say my vows at that time- not in a city hall with strangers. I don't want to be looking at cheap white dresses on ebay right now trying to figure out what's threading the needle of showing up for myself and all my extra over the top love of sentiment and party- and what's honoring the fact that this isn't the "real wedding" to me or my partner.
We're doing the vows in spring 2023. That's the wedding. In terms of commitment we've long since committed to each other and we are rock solid and this is really just formalizing things. But I am romantic and this is just really something I'm having a hard time with. Like I'm getting teary as I write this. I want to be able to just put on a white sundress, run down to the courthouse, and get legally married asap. But I feel like I'm dishonoring these feelings- like I'm treating this really special beautiful thing I've been dreaming about forever- as a little transaction to get over with, like going to the DMV. Idk.
Any other brides who did a civil ceremony waaaay ahead of the wedding, who had similar feelings? Idk I'm just really having a hard time right now. I want it to be real, when I say my vows. I want to be real
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So my fiancé and I recently got engaged but he is catholic and I am not. While he’s been baptized, he doesn’t actively practice his faith - he prays, but doesn’t really go to church except on Easter/Good Friday/ Christmas. His parents insist on us getting married in a Catholic Church, which I don’t have a problem with but I have some questions: does it matter if I’m not catholic? Does it matter if we already live together and own a house? Also, because the majority of the people we would be inviting to the wedding are not catholic (it’s just his parents and a couple family members) I was wondering if we could do 2 ceremonies? For example, a wedding ceremony that’s catholic and just with his parents and a couple other immediate family, and then a civil wedding with everyone (my family and all our friends etc.) a week later? And my last question, if that’s a possibility, do we need to sign any legal government documents at the catholic ceremony or can they be saved for the civil wedding?
Personally, I find catholic weddings boring and impersonal. I just feel weird about having 95% of our guests sit through a catholic wedding ceremony when they’re atheist. I’d like to do a civil ceremony because I want to be married outdoors and I like that in general they’re more personal to the couple and you can write your own vows etc. BUT his parents are really upset and insistent we have a catholic ceremony… so I’m hoping having 2 is an option?
Thanks for any help!
My friend invited us to her baby’s Naming Ceremony. I’m not Jewish and have never been to a Naming Ceremony before…so I’m not sure on the etiquette. Do we dress up? Bring a gift/money for the baby? Anything else that would be good for me to know? Thanks!
Sorry if this is a dumb question-- I keep running into circular answers. My long-term partner and I want to get married before the end of the year. I figured out how to apply for a marriage license in Durham, but it looks like you can't have a civil ceremony at the courthouse right now-- we'd have to hire an officiant. We don't have the time or fs to give about that level of planning.
Am I correct that Durham isn't performing civil ceremonies currently? (I can't find any actual statement to that effect on the county website, only the absence of information.) Would Raleigh/Wake be the closest place to have a civil ceremony? TIA!
UPDATE: It took me a long time to figure this out, mainly because the offices I needed to call are either overwhelmed with phone calls or are understaffed (maybe both). One day I called the Register of Deeds every 10 minutes for 4 hours and no one ever picked up. I did it again the next day and got an answer on the 15th try. Don't give up, it IS the correct number.
- The relevant offices here are the Register of Deeds (RoD) and Civil Magistrate. RoD has info about marriage licenses online but I could not find ANY information about civil ceremonies on Durham's websites-- I had to call the Civil Magistrate's office. FWIW, despite how hard it is to talk to a person, the people I talked to were VERY helpful.
- Apply for a marriage license online here: https://www.dconc.gov/county-departments/departments-f-z/register-of-deeds/apply-on-line-for-marriage-license Send in all the info requested before you make an appointment.
- You MUST call the RoD to make an appointment to actually collect the license. You can't walk in. Both of you have to attend. It costs $60 and I was told they are currently ONLY accepting this in cash. N.B. If you're doing things at the very last minute like me, make this appointment before you plan anything else. They only do so many per day, and they book up. Also see above, it was VERY hard to get someone on the phone there, plan for that. (Once issued, the license is good for 60 days, so it's OK to do in advance.)
- Civil ceremonies are performed every day during business hours at the civil court on 510 Dillard Street. (Note that this is not the same location as the RoD office.) No appointment/reservations can be made.
- I'm fuzzy on the exact details, but they leave 11-11:30 and 3-3:30 op
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My fiancée and I have an appointment this Friday at 2pm to obtain a marriage license, and I was under the impression that we could do a civil ceremony at the same time. Unfortunately, I called and they let me know we can only book one upon arrival, and they only do them on Wednesdays.
He goes back to England next Wednesday so that’s not really an option for us.
Is there anyone willing to do a quick civil ceremony? We got engaged at Santa Monica so maybe on the beach there, or even echo park. We can be flexible with day/time.
It doesn’t have to be fancy, just a few words. We don’t have a huge budget but we can give some cash or buy you a drink after.
Is there anyone who can help out?
My daughter’s name will be Violet and we’re selecting a Hebrew name for her baby naming ceremony! I’m searching for something that represents my mom - strength, endurance, joy, traveler. Would love any suggestions!
The first triangular jedi starfighter was the Delta-7 and the greek delta looks like a triangle and the Eta-2 Actis seen in ep3 had the classic TIE profile wings when the flaps were extended, resulting in an H shape, which resembles the greek letter Eta.
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I should provide appropriate context here. I'm Indian American, Hindu by birth but my family and I don't really practice. My husband is white, Catholic by religion. He himself is an atheist but his family is religious. When we visit we attend church with them, etc. We live about a half hour from my parents and about six hours from his. This was a conscious decision because I have a small family (just my parents and brother) while my husband has a huge family, plus career opportunities were better for us in this area. I also wanted any future children we had to be exposed to my ancestral culture (language, food, etc). We visit my parents quite often (before pandemic and after vaccination). We only see my husband's family for long weekends and some holidays.
Husband and I married 5 years ago. We had our first child six weeks ago. When I was pregnant my in laws asked about baptism, I said no, I wasn't comfortable with our baby being part of any religion, being entered into a church. They were a bit disappointed but agreed.
Two weeks ago we held a very small naming ceremony for our baby. This is traditional in my culture and while there are religious elements, it's a cultural tradition more than a religious one. Only my parents and brother were there. We posted some photos on Facebook and my in laws/extended family weren't happy. They thought no baptism would be taking place, and I had to explain that this isn't a baptism. They still don't really get it and think we should have a baptism that they can all attend.
My husband thinks it's not a big deal to just have a baptism, we wouldn't have to go to church regularly or anything, and it would make his family feel happy and included. I disagree. How do we handle this going forward to keep the peace?
tl;dr: said no to baptism, yes to naming ceremony. In laws unhappy. How to handle?
Hello, I’m trans nonbinary and have seen a some trans naming ceremony ideas thrown around online and was wondering if anyone has had one or been to one. I’m very curious about having one but don’t know where to find more resources on the topic. Many thanks.
What is Kwita Izina?
The ceremony of giving a name to a newborn baby commonly known as ”Kwita Izina” has been part of the Rwandan tradition for centuries.
This ceremony has also been used for the past 3 decades now to give names to newborn gorillas.
The names attributed to the gorillas play a great part in the program of monitoring each individual and Gorillas group in its habitat.
Since it started, the gorilla naming ceremony has been essential to Tourism and Conservation as well as its partners.
The goal of Kwita Izina is to raise awareness of the protection of the mountain gorillas and their habitat.
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My fiancée and I have an appointment this Friday at 2pm to obtain a marriage license, and I was under the impression that we could do a civil ceremony at the same time. Unfortunately, I called and they let me know we can only book one upon arrival, and they only do them on Wednesdays.
He goes back to England next Wednesday so that’s not really an option for us.
Is there anyone willing to do a quick civil ceremony? We got engaged at Santa Monica so maybe on the beach there, or even echo park. We can be flexible with day/time.
It doesn’t have to be fancy, just a few words. We don’t have a huge budget but we can give some cash or buy you a drink after.
Is there anyone who can help out?
