I haven't read any published romance books that have this type of heroine yet, but I'm trying to! Just like the title says, I'm looking for a novel with an indifferent and Unemotional female main character. I'm not saying a cruel cold blooded person. More like a reserved woman that's nonchalant about things that don't concern her.
Bonus if the love interest / hero falls for her first. And he's desperate for her to love him
Bonus if the setting is friends with benefits or arranged marriage.
Any other subplot with it is fine. Thank you in advance!
Our household - two adults, two children (9 year old girl and 5 year old boy)
My daughter is frequent to anger, she rarely talks to us but grunts, huffs and scowls when we try to talk to her about anything.
I always assumed she just keeps her sadness to herself, not wanting to appear vulnerable or exposed, but I am starting to wonder if she perhaps has never actually experienced sadness. In the past few years, we have lost my father and our dog, she never cried or expressed any sadness. Her empathy skills are near zero. She will watch me have an asthma attack with disinterest and then move on to something else.
People are there to serve a function and once their usefulness has passed, then she loses any interest she may have had. She adored Fuller House and watched each episode many times, I told her the sad news that Bob Saget had died and she shrugged and her exact words were "They're not filming anymore episodes, so?" She masks the behaviour at school somewhat, keeps her head down and achieves the excellent marks of a gifted child. Teacher is surprised that we experience this behaviour at home, she keeps to herself at school and doesn't let this side show. Does this demonstrate some emotional intelligence or is it typical of a sociopath/callous and unemotional?
I called several paediatricians before one woud make an appointment in 15 months time, so we are on that list and also waiting for a cancellation.
From my internet sleuthing, it appears that children aren't sociopaths, they're "callous and unemotional".
The professional term frequently used to describe children who have conduct disorder (CD) is callous and unemotional (CU). Just as sociopathy is a group of traits and behaviors, so, too, is conduct disorder. Traits of a CD/CU child include:
Disengaged, withdrawn from relationships with parents, family, peers, teachers, etc.
Social isolation (a sociopathic child is a loner by choice)
Limited affect/emotion other than impulsive anger
Little or no attachment or bonding with anyone
Unremorseful
Intimidating
Impervious to punishments, positive reinforcements, and negative reinforcements
She ticks all of these, perhaps not so much with intimidating, she is rarely violent, will push and shove me but won't hit or hurt other children. I would assume violence is rarer in girls?
What do I do from here? My husband feels she can be taught social niceties, I am less hopeful but open to any therapies. My heart is fucking bro
... keep reading on reddit ➡I'm the primary, full-time caregiver of my grandmother who has mild dementia and is over 100 years old. I've been doing this for the last 10 years, which is when I quit my job and vacated my rental house to move in with her. This was after several years of assisting my grandfather who had a disease similar to ALS (no ability to use limbs eventually) and juggling a full time job in management at a solar company. My mother has some significant disabilities that prevent her from helping my grandparents, and also receives assistance from me with household maintenance, medication management and response to emergent situations.
My mother has been disabled for 35 years since I was 11. Helping her with things has pretty much always been a thing for me, and I expected that she might need my assistance in a big way later in life. But I guess we weren't thinking about my grandparents needs, so that naturally fell on me. I have an aunt but she has been excused from any responsibility because she just isn't mentally capable of handling it, I suppose. Unfortunately, she has become one of the most negative influences in this journey. I'm in the middle of trying to cope with a conversation we had in which she is insinuating that I am spending money needlesly and I'm starting to worry that this will all become an issue that impacts the stability and consistency that I have established for my grandmother by making it look like I'm taking advantage of the situation.
We have a trust in place that states that I am a co-trustee of the trust, which includes the house and all of the financial assets. The trust states that I can make financial decisions including the purchase and sale of investments as well as property. My aunt is upset that I spent $2000 on materials to replace the aging lava rock in front of the house with interlocking pavers. I did all the labor myself since I am at home so much. This was also a pretty minor expense considering the location of the house and the funds that I have preserved over the last 10 years. Where I live, memory care costs over $7000 per month. My grandparents wishes were to stay in their homes, so I am trying to accommodate that and we are making it work on average between $3500 - $4500 per month with me living here. I feel like I've done pretty damn good.
I realize this isn't r/caregiving. I'm just trying to lay out what I am trying to be all zen about. Or stoic. You know? Like, everything concerning this
... keep reading on reddit ➡I've chosen four zodiac signs which are often described on astrology websites as not being particularly emotional. This is just a bit of fun, and only going off by general zodiac signs not birth charts
So my dad knows none of his kids will have children. I (37m) despise them. My brother (if he has them pops will probably be gone) and my sister separated herself from us and is one of us childfree (our fault. We were horrible toxic people back then, different story. I'm very sorry. If you see this post sister).
Dad is the lead of a team. He had a pretty close relationship to one of his younger guys. One day the guy called him "gramps" or some variation of that and my dad almost started crying (see title to see why this is a big deal). Like he got drunk one night and told me this story. He said " I finally took it to heart that I would never have any grandchildren".
I felt sad for him. Not that he wasn't getting them but that it meant that much to him and that even after years of telling him I will never have them (I haven't wanted kids since I was around 20) and an abortion he still held on to hope that my wife and I would have kids.
I equate being too boring with being too stable because it’s become more apparent that while girls will often claim they love a mature stable guy, their actions often speak to the contrary - the guys I know who do best with women are decidedly immature, they’re pretty emotional, they go hot and cold, and get overly passionate about things. It’s unattractive as fuck in my opinion but it seems to work for them.
I’m the opposite - I’m really chilled and pretty impassive, I can get passionate when talking about music or something I enjoy but for the most part I’m like most guys after 2 or 3 cones of indica.
Straight up I feel like I’m actually funnier and more interesting to talk to than most guys if you go by content, but I can see why I’d bore someone. Why they might choose to go for someone who’s less stable and talks shit but makes them feel more - even more negative emotions.
I don’t think I can change this about myself and I don’t want to feel like I’m acting so… do you think this is a turn off for most girls or just the ones who… how to put this… aren’t worth turning on in the first place?
Does anyone else feel like AP don't like their children to express emotions, so you kept repressing it until you became unemotional? To elaborate a little, I mean unemotional as anywhere on the spectrum of feeling absolutely nothing at all to very limited emotional capabilities. As in everything feels rather diluted but a strong emotion like anger still exists (no happiness though)? However, even so, you don't act like an unemotional robot and act perfectly normal. Others might even say that you are someone with a very high EQ.
To give a little bit of background, my mom is someone that absolutely does not believe in emotions and is a "completely" "rational" being. I guess I should give her a little credit in that she truly doesn't allow emotions to cloud her heavenly judgement and believes that all emotions that are not imperative should be discarded. By this I mean that feelings of nervousness when going on stage or preparing for an interview shouldn't exist. She always used to question me why I was nervous because nervousness doesn't offer any benefit in the situation, same with feelings of pride or worthlessness (though she does make a point to make everything I do worthless). Like recently, she criticized my resume and said that it belonged in the trash, but then also criticized me for sometimes thinking myself capable and then thinking that I'm never going to get a job. Her words were something along the lines of "I don't understand why you suddenly feel so high and low about yourself. These feelings don't offer any benefit so why have them in the first place? You have to only pay attention to the facts and reality of the matter, not some stupid emotions." Which honestly begs the question 'do you think that people with mental illnesses WANTED the mental illness?' Utter bs.
But then again, I was trained with this mindset since childhood and felt myself gradually incapable of feeling emotions, yet I could sometimes feel anger. Why I still call myself unemotional is because I'm capable of wiping my emotions clean in just one second, though I don't really feel anything other than anger or sad emotions for the most part anyways. However, even earlier than when I learned to control my emotions is how to control my outward expressions. I trained myself by actually studying my expressions in the mirror since I was in second grade, and I guess it's a good thing that my IQ is high because I almost completely depend on logic nowadays to know how to act around
... keep reading on reddit ➡r/Politics Provided Background
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America’s history is LiBErAL PrOpAGAnDA! We must ensure our children receive PaTrIoTiC EdUcAtIoN!
You're not gonna find support for the 1619 project here. Piss off.
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America, the racist country strikes again!
Wonder how centrists will defend this lmao.
This is a very dishonest and misleading post.
[Sort by "best" to see the outrage boners from the people who only read the title of the post. Sort by controversial and you might find someone who actually read the fucking article](https://www.reddit.com/r/politics/comments/on06oh/texas_senate_passes_bill_to_remove_required/h5pkgzw?utm_source=s
... keep reading on reddit ➡I have never really felt too invested in literary romance due to a lack of emotional connection with the characters. I feel like this is the same reason a lot of men are not interested in romance in general.
Thanks in advance!
By that I mean not easily moved. You still have a moral compass and a sense of right and wrong but you may come off as aloof, cold or distant. You are more logical than emotional most of the time.
Wanted to ask because I feel a bit alone in this. INFP’s are generally stereotyped as incredibly sensitive people but I don’t fit into that crowd. I dont take things personally and I’m just really out of touch with my emotions. Anyone else feel this way?
Edit: thanks for the big convo. Helped me sort things out, hope it helped others too
So, like the NFT community is cool. But honestly it feels like there are a lot of addicts and people who get so drawn into it that they don't actually think about if what they're buying is smart.
Is there a community somewhere where where people discuss being smart about NFT investments, what to look for, how to tell a dud, etc. and not just grabbing things on a whim because it seems cool?
My[F21] girlfriend[F22] is a super emotional person, like she feels every emotion so strongly. It gets on my nerves sometimes because I am constantly the outlet for any and all emotions. Like all of them. I’m autistic and don’t do emotions, I can put them aside and deal with what I have to deal with. I know how to handle my emotions and deal with things in a healthy manner. She doesn’t. I can’t even suggest things with her getting worked up over it sometimes. How do I tell her to deal with her shit because I can’t without sounding like an asshole?? I probably sound horrible, but I’m so frustrated. We just fought because her work wants her to stay for several more years but I want to move away. I reminded her and apparently she wanted me to be supportive and happy for her. I don’t understand? I want to help her but nothing I do is the right thing. Even when I ask what she needs from me she gets mad that I don’t know, and she doesn’t even seem to know. I try to deal with things rationally and she gets upset. I try to just sit and listen and she gets upset. And half the time it ends up in a fight and then I don’t know how to deal with it after. We’ve been together for almost two years and it’s just starting to really get worse.
How do I deal with an overly emotional gf when I’m not emotional?
Edit: added example, grammar
I feel terrible for this. My 84 yr grandma, who's honestly the love of my life, the person i love the most, just got diagnosed with Parkinson's and i feel empty, cold, i'm acting almost like normal... I hate that society makes you feel like shit if you're not an emotional person; this disease is like a death sentence with her being 84 and i just feel like nothing good is going to happen if i start crying and stuff. She's in the hospital now and i know she's going to be okay in a few days, she's currently being treated because her blood sugar is extremely low and she was having bad episodes of vertigo.
Resignation is the only thing I have left right now, and I need to be strong if I want to keep my sanity. At the end of the day, we have had the most amazing relationship ever and at 24, I can feel proud that I have enjoyed my grandma as much as I have because I know not everyone has the chance to.
I feel like there's this stereotypical expectation that all women should be very caring, considerate, empathic and emotional. My opinion is that being a rational woman shouldn't be looked down upon, and that it is okay to express yourself as a woman without being emotional. Being emotionally detached from what you're discussing should be more socially accepted for women. I personally tend to reason better when I am emotionally detached from something and operating from the standpoint of rationality and logic, rather than from and an emotionally charged standpoint.
