12 Year-old Child's Chosen House/Loungewear is Ill-fitting - Help Me With a Solution That Doesn't Body Shame or Sexualize Their Body

Hello mothers.

My 12 year-old has a fully-developed, adult sized (larger in all dimensions than your average adult female), female body, and they are comfortable in various states of dress and undress. We are a body-positive, open, loving household.

Their chosen "outfit" to wear around the house is a sports bra and high-waisted, loose (sweatpant material) short-shorts. Great, you do you. No issue until the last six months or so, during which their body has grown and changed shape so that if they aren't mindful of their posture and sports bra straps, a nip or full breast slip is inevitable.

I cannot get this child to agree to entertain new, well-fitted sports bras/tanks/anything other than the single sports bra they like. I have presented the situation in every way I can without sexualizing their body, and I've gotten nowhere. "Nudity requires consent", "I'm happy you're comfortable in your body but nudity is not allowed at dinner", etc.

I am at a loss with how to proceed. I'm being so careful because "your future step-father feels uncomfortable with how your underwear fits" or "I am uncomfortable with my child having a mature body and how awful that could be for you in the near future" just feel gross.

I just... I'm stuck. Send help. Kthxbyeeeee.

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πŸ‘€︎ u/Serasha
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I know loungewear is in but it still drives me crazy, she’s trying to be this β€œhard hitting journalist” while wearing a sweatsuit πŸ€£πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„
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πŸ‘€︎ u/weepwopwoo
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Recommendations for cozy at-home loungewear for folks with pets that shed heavily?

wondering what everyone with pets wears at home. my in-home lulu options have become limited due to getting two long-haired cats. scuba, everlux, nulu and luon are fur magnets!! i change into them when i am about to leave the house LOL, but i also want to be cozy on my couch in my overpriced athleisure without having to look like a hot mess if i need to step out! should i just accept my fate for the path i chose to take?

also, how do pet parents manage to look so chic and put-together on here! at home i walk around looking like a muppet exploded on me πŸ˜‚.

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πŸ‘€︎ u/glofishh
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Women’s best is copying krissys super unique and original idea of loungewear??? /s reddit.com/gallery/s9bewg
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πŸ‘€︎ u/cmartinez171
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I’m 24 and this is my loungewear, roast me
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πŸ‘€︎ u/jimboslice0909
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To those that had a PE uniform in school, what has become of them? Pajamas? Loungewear?
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πŸ‘€︎ u/Moonting41
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Experience with Nap Loungewear?

Does anyone have any experience with this brand? My friend found a cute coat on their website, but then got a bit worried with some of the reviews.

Are the clothes good quality?

Is it reliable in regards to shipping and returns?

Is there anything she should be worried about?

This is the coat she's looking at, but I'd love any opinions/reviews of the clothing/brand in general!

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πŸ‘€︎ u/Baby-Haroro
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Are fleece loungewear sets still cute? reddit.com/gallery/rummwn
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πŸ‘€︎ u/TPaandaa
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loungewear for soft classics? what kind of hoodies/sweatshirts should we be wearing? how oversized?
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πŸ‘€︎ u/tomadara
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Post Op Life - Buy Loungewear/Big comfy Nightgowns

I've been living in floor length, long sleeve comfy nightgowns since I was discharged from my operation (ordered off Amazon from the hospital bed). I had a laproscopic hysterectomy (pelvic reconstructive surgery and hernia repair) and having flowy fabrics on my belly during the immediate healing process helped tremendously. Some of them looked like overgrown sweatshirts/sweaters too so I felt fully comfortable wearing them with guests dropping by.

Also discovered that mesh underwear have a shelf life for being beneficial. I had extra pairs I saved from when I had my babies, and thought I would wear them at home. Turned out to be a bad idea - after a few days I ended up with a full belly rash from the soft mesh gently cheese grating my belly over the course of a few days.

Just thought I'd share these tidbits while I'm still in my early post op recovery. Wishing everyone recovering or getting ready for their procedure the best!!

Edit: for spelling/grammar

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πŸ‘€︎ u/blynnzie
πŸ“…︎ Dec 29 2021
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Honeydew loungewear $6.97.

Bought the bear print blue pair. They were so comfy I got two more pairs, stars and lightning bolts. True to size and ridiculously comfortable. I may never get out of my Jammie’s.

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πŸ‘€︎ u/4-me
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Where can I buy a Teddy loungewear set like these? 😭😭 reddit.com/gallery/r1htlr
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πŸ‘€︎ u/hanachan01
πŸ“…︎ Nov 24 2021
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Walmart loungewear review v.redd.it/ab0ai5kez9c81
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πŸ‘€︎ u/onesidedview
πŸ“…︎ Jan 17
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If all else fails, J can sell her loungewear to Jillpm&David (for those who know them from fundies snark uncensored)
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πŸ‘€︎ u/sjane94
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Does anyone know any good online stores that I can beuy long sleeve gothic but cute loungewear?

Honestly I have been wearing pyjamas far too much, and really need to start wearing loungewear around the house and I’m struggling to find any online stores where I could order spooky loungewear from. I like the loungewear clothes in the sleeper section of Australia’s BZIRK store – but I find them to be a little too expensive for what they are, so I was hoping for other alternatives – I really do enjoy clothes with cute spooky prints on them

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πŸ‘€︎ u/DragonSilks
πŸ“…︎ Jan 15
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a good German brand for Loungewear and Pajamas, please?
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πŸ‘€︎ u/triptoverona
πŸ“…︎ Dec 20 2021
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Happier Times, back when jenelle loungewear was a possibility.
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πŸ‘€︎ u/tmqueen
πŸ“…︎ Nov 12 2021
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Drying new fleece items insights as someone who just got into Aritzia loungewear.

Measurements: Midsize girly 5'8 170 lbs 34C 31 inches waist 37.5 inches hips 43 inches butt

I usually wear M for tops and 10/12 for pants


Hi! Bought two matching sweatsuits in two weeks: crazy I know. I'm starting to work from home in January so I'm preparing myself. I just want to give as much information on the sweatsuits now that I washed them and dried them

I bought the pure fleece boyfriend sweatshirt in small in heather chrome. Currently on sale for 40$ instead of 60$ It's 325 gsm fleece.

I've also bought the Cozy Fleece Mega Cargo Sweatpants in Heather Chrome in the size medium/regular. They're made super large AND long (32 inch inseam). It's a 330gsm. I had originally bought the size large and it didn't fit my waist properly so I returned them.

Then yesterday I bought the Extra fleece mega sweatpants in large in black. They hit right at my ankles. They're a 30 inch inseam. They're 470 gsm fleece. They're the fleece material I felt. They feel way more structured and firmer than the Cozy Fleece and less soft on the inside when you first get them.

To match with that, I scored a boxy waffle zip hoodie that was accidentally marked down at 29$ instead of 52$. I got it in the size 2


Since buying all these pieces, I've washed them all and have dried them all either once or twice. Before anyone comes from me: All fleece from Aritzia can be dryer on low temperature. I live in a tiny space and I don't own a drying rack.

First, the Mega Cargo Sweatpants shrank the most (THANK LORD). As a fairly tall girly, I had to fold them once or twice to avoid them dragging in the snow. I've washed them on cold water both times.The first time I tumble dryed them on the highest setting so they could shrink in lenght. They lost about 2 full inches and no longer dragged in the snow (yay). Second round, I dryed them for half the cycle on air dry for get the most water out and then finished the cycle on the lowest heat setting because the pockets wouldn't dry. I haven't noticed shrinking on the second dry so I would say the most shrinking happened the first time around. I would never put it on a hotter setting than the lower one however.

I don't notice any pilling after drying them twice except where my inner thighs rub when I walk which I expected already.

The Pure Fleece Boyfriend Sweatshirt hasn't shrank by a lot, but the inside of the sweatshirt has balled up the most, but it's made it way softer as

... keep reading on reddit ➑

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πŸ‘€︎ u/lapestenoire_
πŸ“…︎ Dec 28 2021
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Just my casual loungewear reddit.com/gallery/qsxhpq
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πŸ‘€︎ u/kaylaerin
πŸ“…︎ Nov 13 2021
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Imagine this: You just plopped down on the couch wearing something scary-soft, like our new Halloween Loungewear (hint hint, wink wink), with a bowl of popcorn. What scary movie are you watching?
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πŸ‘€︎ u/MeUndies
πŸ“…︎ Oct 13 2021
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Loungewear made from that soft, barefoot dreams/skims material?

Anyone know what it’s called? Or where you can get it from for less than $75 a piece?

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πŸ‘€︎ u/nzznzznzzc
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Best loungewear to gift to someone who is pregnant?

Hello! I have never been pregnant before, so I’m hoping to get some gift advice from people who have been.

My sister is due in April and I was thinking about gifting some Skims loungewear for Christmas. Does anyone who has been pregnant/has tried Skims know if they would work for someone with a pregnant belly? They look really stretchy but I’ve never felt them in person. Ideally I’d like to get her something that will work while she is pregnant, and after the baby.

Also open to other suggestions! 😊 thanks.

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πŸ‘€︎ u/streamofdopamine
πŸ“…︎ Nov 21 2021
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Loungewear in the winter that still feels cute?

I live in NY and it gets SO cold here in the winter. For the past few years i’ve consistently worn baggy sweatshirts and thick sweatpants, but i’ve noticed that it absolutely tanks my self esteem. I usually follow the tight top/loose bottom or loose top/tight bottom rule, but in the winter that’s pretty much impossible. I just feel like i’m drowning in fabric and my curves are invisible! It seems like the only solution is a tight long sleeve and then sweats, but i’ve had a hard time finding a top that’s thick enough yet still tight. Thanks in advance!

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πŸ‘€︎ u/bearypeach
πŸ“…︎ Nov 18 2021
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Loungewear
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πŸ‘€︎ u/Dexsterpiece
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Luxilooks Women Winter Robe Plush Lightweight Bathrobe Long Soft Fleece Warm Loungewear 2 Pockets Medium Khaki Sleepwear - Price: $17.44 With Promo Code: IB4F72WD +20% COUPON besttechmarket.com/produc…
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πŸ‘€︎ u/pl0323
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I don’t want to sound like a ridiculous person but has anyone gotten really into fancy loungewear since the pandemic?

I realized I might have a problem when I ordered this satin jacket the other day, and my husband walked by and said, β€œwhat the hell is that? Where are you planning to wear that?”

β€œAt home,” I said, β€œIt’s my new smoking jacket.”

β€œBut you don’t smoke…”

-Cue awkward silence-

(I wish I had the wherewithal to respond β€œAha! But I do drink!” And then swanned off in my velvet slippers, champagne coupe in hand … but let’s be real).

Anyways, as I was going through my year of pandemic purchases, I realized I really really really like loungewear and have started a small collection. Not β€œcomfortable modal jammies” or sleepy silk lunyas but formal, dressy, lounge in my mahogany-paneled library with an after dinner drink loungewear

It’s becoming a real obsession. For the first time, I’ve felt really comfortable and yet dressy and gorgeous at home and it’s like opening up a whole new world of clothing for me.

I just wanted to ask if anyone else has started to do this (or has always done this) and wanted to talk about it - what have you bought? What things do you own that you love? What brands do you like, what styles, where can I learn more, what items are comfortable, good quality etc.! I can only view items from For Restless Sleepers and Olivia Von Halle from afar… but really into all sorts of recommendations!

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πŸ‘€︎ u/WeddingElly
πŸ“…︎ Aug 05 2021
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Luxilooks Women Winter Robe Plush Lightweight Bathrobe Long Soft Fleece Warm Loungewear 2 Pockets Medium Khaki Sleepwear - Price: $17.44 With Promo Code: IB4F72WD +20% COUPON besttechmarket.com/produc…
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πŸ‘€︎ u/Techkid86
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Nap Loungewear - DO NOT PURCHASE FROM THIS COMPANY

DO NOT SHOP FROM NAP LOUNGEWEAR. It is the most illegitimate company I have ever encountered. All of the reviews on their website are fake. My order took 11 days to even process, then another 48 hours to ship, then another 14+ days to arrive. When it did finally arrive, it was a different color than what was depicted on their website. Chat is the only way to get in touch with the company. In this chat, you will have people named Coco or Lemon telling you they cannot find your order number, that you were sent the correct item, and that colors will vary based on lighting. It's not a color variance, it's a totally different color. Also it's very cheap in person. No one should experience this over a $188+ sweater. I've learned my agonizing lesson, please don't follow in my footsteps.

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πŸ‘€︎ u/Ok_Hair7703
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Does anyone own these 3/4 Tees from the loungewear collection? I wanna know what the sizing is like
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A Vintage-Inspired Smoking Jacket - or how a gag gift turned into luxury loungewear reddit.com/gallery/pvevfp
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πŸ‘€︎ u/Ultie
πŸ“…︎ Sep 25 2021
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Loungewear chic: Eloisa sweater by Named patterns (Building the Pattern book)! reddit.com/gallery/qtqwo1
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πŸ‘€︎ u/cutecatsinspace
πŸ“…︎ Nov 14 2021
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Recent loungewear haul - cropped hoody and pants, then matching bralette and briefs
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πŸ‘€︎ u/curvyconcetta
πŸ“…︎ Dec 02 2021
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has anyone tried skims loungewear?

The loungewear sets look so comfy, but I can't tell if the tops would fit. They look so comfy and the more I see ads for them, the more I want them! Haha I just worry about the tops fitting, and I don't want to be falling out of the top, but I feel like in this pandemic world of lounging at home, they would be so nice to have and I would probably get a lot of wear out of them, but they are also pricey. I'm torn!

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