I just found out I got HSV 2 from one of my sexual encounters. And I’m doing well with accepting it but I had sex almost every day and I think about sex every day. But since my discovery I haven’t been allowing myself to really get sexual in fears of spreading it. Of course I’m not going to do anything while having an OB but like last night I had an opportunity to make a move on someone but decided not to because I know I would have to disclose, which I’m fine with, but I’ve just never done it in person which I find terrifying. Also my age group is 18 so I don’t think they’re as understanding as older folks out there about HSV. How are my fellow sex hungry people with HSV dealing with maintaining a sexual life and being careful to not spread the virus?
Hi, I was tested 5 days ago for herpes (had 1 single painful blister sore). Test came back this morning as “Herpes Simplex Virus Type 2 DNA: Detected”. Happy new year huh. I just want to know your experience with the virus (those who have it) and how you go about telling your partner? What should I expect for future outbreaks? I’m not mad about it, I’m just really upset that I have it and feel like I’ll never sleep with anyone ever again because of it. Please give me some advice.
Seriously... wtf. Is this never going to happen?
I haven’t been diagnosed yet but I know that I have HSV 2 I’ve had the symptoms and the ulcers and I can’t help but shake that feeling of my sexual and romantic life being over for a while. Though I normally have a positive mindset there are two thoughts going through my mind. One being: “I’m only 18 like WTF! I’m so young and I caught this virus. No one my age would want me and if I do find someone I would forever feel guilty if I were to spread this virus to them.” And the other part of me is trying to accept the fact that I have this issue and try to conform to the new way I’ll be living. But it’s going to be SO HARD. Sex was like 70% of my life. Everyday I think and thrive in sex. I can’t really imagine me not being with other people. And trust me I was taking every pro caution to not catching anything, like I literally got tested every month. But I’m sure I got it from a guy who either didn’t know or knew and didn’t tell me he had something. I’m over the confusion of who gave it to me but I really do feel like for a while my life will be in the ditch. Any words of comfort please? 🥺
I’m only 20 and I’ve had it since I was 18. It’s so depressing seeing everyone around me get into relationships and enjoying dating around. I don’t want to have to disclose bc I am already so insecure. The repeated rejection would break me. I also don’t want ppl to tell other that I have herpes. I don’t want people to think that I am disgusting and make fun of me for it. I’ve had a hard life and this makes it unbearable. Guys my age are not educated about herpes and tend to be immature about STDs. Whenever there is a guy I like I just think about how he’d never want to be with me bc of my hsv2. I feel unclean and cannot shake the feeling. I’d rather die than continue feeling like this. The guy who gave it to me knew he had it and blocked me after I told him. How evil can you be to do that to someone. Now I’m here wishing I was dead while he’s living his life probably infecting other girls
-if no visible outbreak -if visible outbreak present
We’re you able to ? I haven’t had a breakout while pregnant. FTM. I was just diagnosed 2021. I only had breakouts in 2015 and a handful of times in the past 6 years since I think I contracted it.
I want to give birth vaginally. As I can’t take time off work. No paid maternity leave in my state. ( and I don’t qualify for FMLA)
Like what if you were applying ointment to some sores and didnt wash your hands well and touched your lip?
Trying to gauge how transmissible it is...
At this point ionbknkw if I should be hurt or mad I’m tired of being both
so i’m really confused but my swab test came back positive and apparently that means it’s 100% sure. it came up out of nowhere and yea idk i’m still emotionally processing this. i told my boyfriend and he took it well. i have a few questions tho because sex is a really important part of our relationship and i don’t want things to be different now. i went to the doctor because of what i thought was a small infected cut at the opening of my vagina. it was one spot and didn’t look anything like stereotypical herpes. i saw the test results in the health portal at my doctor but my follow up appointment is friday. i’ve been prescribed anti virals. 1.) can i still have unprotected sex? he’s going to go get tested but let’s say if either i have it and he doesn’t or we both have it… what are the thoughts on unprotected sex? obviously when a outbreak isn’t happening i’m not that stupid. 2.) can i still receive oral sex when an outbreak isn’t happening? 3.) i rlly don’t want to have a boring sex life. i don’t like using condoms when im with somebody that i love. what changed for y’all when y’all got ur diagnoses? any advice for me?
I was recently tested and came back as HSV-2 positive I had a 2.35 range. I had been with the same partner for almost a decade and two others after. I informed everyone of my diagnosis and all were tested and came back as Negative. My dr insists that it's not a false positive at all and that I've been an asymptomatic carrier for years. I'm kinda confused on how they're all Negative if I've supposedly have had this for years. I'm also clueless on how to proceed with a dating life. What if I'm not really positive and by dating others that are I'm actually putting myself at risk.
This is a blog post about having received my herpes diagnosis four months ago today. Nothing to sell, no advertising, just writing about coming to terms with my diagnosis.
https://www.cocodensmore.com/post/hsv-2-diagnosis-four-months-today
Hey Redditors,
I'm looking for help and advice.
I've never had been diagnosed with, nor had any Herpes breakouts or cold sores of any sort. about a week ago the girlfriend got a sore in her upper buttcrack (the post-sex cuddle spot my dick would be) and tested positive for HSV-2. We have been monogamous together for a year and I doubt the likeliness of foul play.
My doc says I can't get tested without any breakouts but I have been (safely*) with a girl who had genital herpes in the past. She is freaking out about feeling dirty and, I feel, was hoping I would be positive too.
Questions are:
What are the chances I have it too and it's just dormant?
What are the odds I could pass it on to her without ever having any symptoms?
What about sex? Can we still go for it unprotected without a condom? if no, what about blowjobs?
Any other help you can offer would be much appreciated.
Throwaway account. Love you guys. Love others. but, well, be safe out there
Study from 2018 https://openinfectiousdiseasesjournal.com/contents/volumes/V10/TOIDJ-10-116/TOIDJ-10-116.pdf
> Conclusion: > The Oka, anti-HHV-3, varicella vaccine is able to cure HSV1/HSV2 recurrent herpes diseases. It induces a specific increase of the varicella antibodies. Thus varicella vaccination could prevent herpes recurrences in Sub-Saharan Africa. One-child dose varicella vaccine could be proposed as the first step to overcome HHV-3 herpes deficiency in order to prevent AIDS pandemic.
It relates to this study from 2012 titled > Efficacy of the anti-VZV (anti-HSV3) vaccine in HSV1 and HSV2 recurrent herpes simplex disease: a prospective study
https://www.dovepress.com/getfile.php?fileID=13448
> These findings warrant a second study involving a larger cohort with a control group in order to evaluate a possible placebo effect, although a report involving patients with HSV2 following classical herpes treatment with acyclovir or valacyclovir versus placebo showed no placebo effect. The well tolerated anti-VZV vaccine induced a high increase in serological anti-VZV antibodies in parallel with clinical cure in patients. Anti-HSV1 and anti-HSV2 antibody levels vary slightly, increasing, decreasing, or remaining stable after administration of the anti-VZV vaccine with nonsignificant P values, and they may be considered residual “serological scars” of herpes disease. > > The therapeutic effect of the anti-VZV vaccine on recurrent herpes disease might be attributed to a cell-mediated immune response, because T lymphocytes, CD8 cells, and natural killer cells are known to be involved in herpes. If this hypothesis is correct, it would suggest immunological induction of cellmediated cross-reactivity between HSV1, HSV2, and HSV3 due to specific VZV (HSV3) antigens. Subsequent polyclonal lymphocyte stimulation would then trigger the clinical anti herpes efficiency observed here using the anti-VZV vaccine. > > In conclusion, the remarkable therapeutic effectiveness of the anti-VZV (anti HSV3) vaccine in preventing recurrent herpes simplex disease due to HSV1 and HSV2 clearly demonstrates the efficacy of anti-VZV vaccination. In addition, our results suggest that cell-mediated cross-reactivity would be involved between HSV1, HSV2, and VZV, as demonstrated by the serological increase
... keep reading on reddit ➡HSV-2
I recently just tested positive for HSV 2 and It had me bugging out like WTF I never had a STD in my life also I have a girlfriend who I have been in a relationship with for 3 years and I don’t know how to tell her that I tested positive for it I’m worried she is going to accuse me of cheating and she might leave me so I finally man up and tell her and she tells me she has it also she been wanting to tell me but was afraid of how I would react and leave her so now I’m like WTF what do u mean u have it also for how long? She say she’s been had before she even met me so now I’m like WTF why didn’t you ever tell me this like what’s wrong with you so now I feel betrayed and lied to and this someone I was building a future with someone I was going to start a family with now I’m loss and don’t know what to do if I should stay in the relationship or leave
If I feel the itch would this be considered hsv 2? I did STD testings, herpes testing was not part of the results because I do not show any sores-just itchy.
Currently on ointment & fluconazole
I appreciate everyones input.
Hey guys,
Just interested to see how many people On here were diagnosed while dating someone on suppressive therapy..
Also, I was interested to see how many people have passed the virus into others while on suppressive therapy.
Thank you for your time!
I’m really interested in seeing some real life results here and I hope you guys can help.
Have a great week everyone and I hope you all have a healthy and great 2022!!
The title kinda tells it but I was talking to this one guy and told him I do have HSV 2 but right now I don’t have any OB and I take daily Lysine. And we got into the topic of anal. I’m just not sure if that will still be able to transmit over to him?
So I was recently diagnosed Hsv 2. The sores are on my urethra and have not gone away for 4 weeks.. Any advice would be helpful. I have been taking acyclovir.
So I have GHSV1 and Oral HSV1. I’ve had cold sores and I’ve had a Genital outbreak. I got ghsv after getting oral sex from a guy with cold sores. As I’m navigating the dating world and hookup culture I’m running into many men who’ve got HSV2. At first I wanted to exclusively only sleep with someone with Hsv1 until I thought about the fact that they’re damn near the same thing. If I get an outbreak on my genitals it would look the same for both strands. Since then I’ve been hooking up with guys with hsv2. I’ve went condom less with a guy with GHSV2 and I honestly am not afraid. My question is how do you guys feel about having sex with someone with a different strand? Are you worried about it? Would you prefer to have sex with someone with the same strand? I’m guessing a lot of ppl would prefer to have hsv1 bc it’s associated with cold sores but it’s all just herpes anyway!
I’m just really nervous on what’s going to happen from here with my life I mean I’ve read a lot of stuff on here and the internet but I’m just really nervous on what’s next
I'm a server at a restaurant so naturally, I started hooking up with one of the cooks. About 4 days after the first time we had intercourse (October 2021), I had my first outbreak. I went to the doctor, got tested, since it was recent, the blood test came back negative but the swab was positive. I let him know right away. He was asymptomatic, and got tested a few weeks later... in the mean time he initially said we were in this together but the good morning/good night and small talk gradually stopped until I was basically ghosted... a few weeks later his blood tests showed negative (backstory: he recently got out of a 4 year relationship and had only slept with one person in September between that relationship and me)... he is not intelligent enough to understand that antibodies take up to 6 months to send back a positive blood test, I actually doubt he even understand what antibodies are.
Anyways, I see him 5 days a week, I'm now having my second outbreak, I am already mentally ill with attachment and abandonment issues, and I'm so upset and he insists he's negative and refuses to get tested again in 6 months. I've shown up to work drunk on several occasions because that's how I cope, and somehow have not gotten fired yet. I genuinely love this job, I make great money and my co-workers are my only friends in the area (I recently relocated from FL to NY).
I'm just asking for any advice, we just had an argument by his car before he went home and I don't know how to stay calm and keep my job without blowing up on him.
TIA :)
I am a female with HSV2, and am on daily antiviral suppressive medication. I have tried looking for statistics and facts regarding receiving oral sex with HSV2 with no out break, but have not found a clear answer. Is it possible to transmit HSV2 this way? Is it safe to receive oral sex still? I’ve been too scared to try in fear I will accidentally transmit it.
https://www.precisionvaccinations.com/vaccines/vitagerpavac-herpesvirus-vaccine
I recently did a general STD/STI screening, and everything came back negative... expect for HSV-2 (IGG test). The result came up with an index of 2.43.
Some background: I haven't had sex in years and was tested negative about 7 months ago (EDIT: previous screening did not include HSV, so it's possible I had it then already). I've been seeing a lady recently, and while we haven't had sex yet, we have fooled around a bit (kissing, blowjobs, grinding but with clothes or underwear on).
Now from what little I've read so far, HSV-2 is transmitted by and affects the genitals, correct? However, I haven't had any symptoms or pain in my genitals at all. Is it possible the test is a false positive (I've read that scores between 0.90 and 3 or so are considered low and prone to false positives)?
What should I tell my partner? The only thing I can think of is something was transmitted when we grinded with underwear on - she did cum. Unless I've had it for awhile now but been asymptomatic and my previous screenings didn't test for HSV-1 and 2? What does this mean for future sexual activities and relationships?
I may have had an outbreak. Im honestly not sure. Nothing visible to the eye but for a week or so i was uncomfortable (i guess you can say itchy) & i did run a low fever for 2 days. I coincidentally was std checked around the same time. It came back 1.75 which i read was low positive? Retested 3 weeks later & it was 3.30. Still low positive but.. positive! Is it safe to say I definitely have herpes!? :/
How can this be fair??
My first sexual encounter was at at birthday party 2 weeks ago. And it was blow job that I didn’t even cum from
I don’t even know the girl
We were both tipsy and the worst thing is I don’t even drink much so 2 JDs and coke got me drunk
So yeah...fml.
Just wanted to vent and talk to people who have some understanding.
I can’t talk to anyone else about it
Where do I go from here?
Hi all! So I have a MAJOR big question for this community. I was diagnosed with hsv-1 3 weeks ago during my first OB and got a second opinion at my primary obgyn as well during it, I got blood drawn and was confirmed it was hsv; I received a call from the obgyn and they told me it was positive but never said what type in which I assumed it was hsv-1 given that that is what I was told by the first doctor.
For backstory, I am a full time college student as well as sexually active with my partner. My boyfriend has hsv-1 orally, and I’ve never tested positive for hsv until I met him. were having regular sex including oral for about a month until I had occurring blisters in which—like a lot of women—thought in the beginning that it’s just a really bad yeast infection. It got so unbearable to the point where I had to go to the doctors. My primary obgyn was NOT available until the new year and I knew I couldn’t wait that long. My mom told me to go to the student health center on campus and get it looked at. That’s what I did and where I got my first opinion. I received a call from them about 4-5 days later and was told I was positive for HSV-1…I knew that had to be the case because my boyfriend has hsv-1 ORALLY. In which it was transmitted to me genitally. Fast forward to me receiving a call from my primary obgyn, telling me that I tested positive. I wasn’t informed which one but as I stated earlier I assumed it was hsv-1. They said I had tested negative for something regarding hsv but with my culture coming up as positive they asked if I wanted to come back in for a second blood test. In which that appointment is tomorrow. As I checked my account today I looked back at my results from the lab and it says I am positive for hsv-2….my boyfriend got his blood drawn as well to confirm that he has hsv-1. I’m not sure why my lab results come back as hsv-2 when I was told I’m positive for hsv-1 when I know it who and where it was transmitted by. Since my appointment is tomorrow I will be asking then, but I came on here to ask if it’s even remotely possible to have both hsv-1&2 genitally…it honestly scared me because I was more worried for him in that moment of realization because if I AM hsv-2 positive I could transmit it to him since he has not been exposed to that. It’s really hard for me to wrap my head around this given I know where and how I got this virus..if anyone has any insight that would be great. Thank you!!
I am so heartbroken and terrified and hopeless. I just want to be able to have a normal fun sex life but i feel like i never will ever again. who would ever want me now. and i’m terrified I’ve already given it to 2 other people that i slept with in the days before my first outbreak. they’re two of my best friends and i am just praying that i didn’t give it to them because they would never forgive me and never look at me the same. i’m worried i might lose out on so much love fun and happiness now. what do i do
Does anyone else have hsv-1 and hsv'2? How are you coping? Just got diagnosed last month . I haven't had genital lesions . Just pain and dryness. Occasional itching and tingling. Does anyone else not get genital lesions? How do you know when you're having an ob?
I started experiencing pain around my groin and abdominal cramping yesterday. Don’t really feel lymph nodes but certain spots are tender. Still no lesions, but some itching still. Some back pain and aches in my legs. I’ve been feeling this itching on and off for several weeks (this is a long standing issue that I've been examined for many times with no real solution for) and had flu-like symptoms 10 days ago, which came and went for five days (symptoms one day, fine for two, back again for two days for a final time). Is there a chance this sounds like a first outbreak for HSV 2? I really only could have been exposed to it about 12 weeks before I tested negative for it, so I know the odds are about 8% that it was a false negative at that point. But I’m so confused by these symptoms because the flu like symptoms happened almost 2 weeks ago and then I was fine for a while and now I’m feeling this ache and cramping down there. I tested negative for COVID after the flu like symptoms. I know blisters can come back a week or two after the initial round in a first outbreak but can you get other HSV symptoms like that too? Does it make sense to have groin aches and cramping and leg and back pain but no blisters?
(M) I slept with a woman that I did not know was positive. I am married and this was not my wife. My wife and I are long term partners, but have other sexual partners from time to time. How soon should I test or see symptoms? I plan on seeing a doctor next week (first open appt). I am not having sex with my wife (or anyone) until I know my situation. I plan on going by what my doctor says, but I was hoping to find some info and support. I had no idea that Herpes was so prevalent. My wife is really having a problem with the fact I might be positive. I would like to be able to assure her that even if I am positive, we can continue to have a good sex life. I really am all over the place on this, but I am so overwhelmed. Thanks for any help or kind words in advance.
Y’all, I’m having a real low moment and I’m struggling to come to terms with having three incurable STDs. I feel like no one around me understands how tough this is, not even my doctors. People just love to make STD jokes and I feel like getting an answer from my doctors is like pulling teeth.
I know it’s my emotions talking but I feel undesirable and worthless.
Hello everyone, this is new to me. But I figure the anonymous internet is an alright place to ask for advice.
I’ve had herpes for 3 years or so. I’ve been on antivirals for about 2.5 years and I’ve managed to get outbreaks for the most part under control. Give or take the few stressful times I have throughout the year. I tested positive in 2016 (got from my high school ex after breakup). Got into a relationship after this. Disclosure and everything went smoothly before our relationship. Ended up having my daughter with this woman. But this went south relationship wise. Break up and now few months later I’m ready to try and date again. But I don’t get out a lot. I’m newish to this city and my ex was a former co worker. How does everyone approach the dating scene? It worked once for me but I always get anxiety about telling people. I take daily antivirals. My baby’s mother never got it. How do I break the stigma in my head as well as the one everyone else is taught to judge?
long story short. 26 M with HSV 2, looking to get back out there. Advice needed
Hi there, new to the group.
Straight to the point. I know this might be a tricky one for people to come forward about but I wanted to know anyone's experiences with pumping and having either hsv1 or hsv2 (herpes).
I just ordered a hydromax without even thinking about this as it didn't cross my mind at the time.
The virus has being lying dormant for god knows how long and has only just showed up recently, was a massive shock that's for sure.
Anyways thanks in advance!
I have ulcerative colitis and was just diagnosed from the hospital after visual inspection of blisters on my genitals.. currently on infliximab infusions and short term prednisone use for the next couple weeks because a minor flare . Now I have to take these antivirals too. Can anyone chime in about this?
Hi, I was tested 5 days ago for herpes (had 1 single painful blister sore). Test came back this morning as “Herpes Simplex Virus Type 2 DNA: Detected”. Happy new year huh. I just want to know your experience with the virus (those who have it) and how you go about telling your partner? I’m not mad about it, I’m just upset that I have it and feel like I’ll never sleep with anyone ever again because of it. Please give me some advice.
Positive for Herpes
This is a blog post about having received my herpes diagnosis four months ago today. Nothing to sell, no advertising, just writing about coming to terms with my diagnosis.
https://www.cocodensmore.com/post/hsv-2-diagnosis-four-months-today
