Anal Sphincter Puns

I posted this on r/askgaybros and r/sex but I wanted to hear from this group as well. Below is my post.

I really need help. I really do. I am an 18 year-old male (straight) living in South Korea.

TL;DR: Here's my question: does anal fingering make my anus looser than before? I have tried it a couple of times with no lube. Each session was less than 20 minutes (average 5 min.) and I didn't do much prep. I have put up to 2 fingers (bottom self-lubricated when I put in two fingers). I tried to gape my anus a bit (not using a lot of force) but I failed. I searched the hell out of the internet and the answer I got was that anal play doesn't make it loose. But one of the proctologists (he was very old) I visited said that constant anal play would lead to incontinence. Another proctologist said that it's not a good thing to do and told me to never do it again. But he said that the chance that my anus has become a bit looser is almost zero. But my farts seem to have become a bit quieter, though I'm not 100% sure. Another proctologist told me that inserting fingers into ass doesn't make it loose.

So my question is, "Is my anus the same as it was before I fingered myself?" and "If my anus isn't the same as before, would that make my sphincter lose strength over time?" Please help. I'm really worried and this problem has messed up my life.

So here's the story (I don't think reading this is necessary; this turned out to be too long. But it explains everything, like the symptoms of worrying and every detail of my problem). I've been living a terrible life since 2019

BEFORE:

In the beginning of 2019, I was just a hardworking Korean high school student who was very anxious due to lack of friends and a lot of studying-related problems. I was also a student who felt a lot of guilt whenever I masturbated. One day in 2019 spring, I made a decision not to masturbate anymore since I believed that masturbating is bad, no one does it, and it doesn't help me get good grades.

THE PROBLEM:

Two months of no masturbation later, I was in a stressful condition of preparing for a midterm exam (I don't know if you knew, but Korean high school exams are hella hard). Anyway, here's the problem: I fingered my anus. Back then, I didn't know anything about anal play so I didn't prep, use lube, or anything like that. I hadn't even planned to finger my anus. After fingering myself, I felt extreme anxiety and my stomach bloated and I kept "feeling" my anus whenever I sat or walked. I wa

Can hardly find ANY info about this: Noticed in recent months that dog's outer anus is very large and the skin around it is loose and sticks out. And then right after she poops, the inner pink sphincter part briefly sticks out and then retracts. I do not believe this has prolapsed yet as the pink part retracts and remains inside her butt.

Usually I have been manually helping her poo for the past 2 years by using the methods here. She rarely, if ever, poops on walks. She usually does it indoors and it does not appear that she can push it out. It looks like it comes out on its own unless I manually help her.

My dog is recovered in that she can walk (though she cannot climb stairs, sit, scratch herself and can only feel deep pain in her back legs).

I still have to express her urine manually, but she is able to squeeze some out on walks. (Her urine is more difficult to express manually than it was the 1st year of recovery, and I've read that's a sign of recovery, though I'm not completely sure).

I've only noticed this large anus issue in the last 6 months(?). I can't tell if it is due to loss of muscle tone, or if it is the beginning of prolapse. I notice when I make her poo, the inner sphincter (bright pink part) sticks out for a few seconds before it returns to normal... and I'm not sure it did that a few months ago. Is this a sign that she is intentionally straining to push it out? Or is it a sign of eventual prolapse?

As most work know the pain associated with chronic anal fissure is a result of uncontrolled inner sphincter muscle contraction, overshoot (not getting to rest state) and increased resting anal pressure.

Ointments like dialtezen, nifedipine, nitroglycerine are all trying to stop this uncontrolled inner sphincter muscle contraction and reduce resting anal pressure.

Many patients have reported their own way to deal with the pain. Sitting in sitz bath, lying down quietly, walking etc. Helps, but sometime the pain is too overbearing.

All medicines are temporary fixes. If someone has suffered chronic anal fissure for a long time, then invariably their inner sphincter muscle would have developed hypertonic (overactivity). So even if you are temporarily cured, the resulting overactive inner sphincter muscle can clench anytime and give you a cut even with smooth and soft BM.

LIS can certainly help. But if the root cause of inner sphincter muscle over activity is not managed, People can get another fissure even after LIS.

What I want to ask here is for anyone who has remained symptom free for 2+ years after suffering with chronic anal fissure with conservative (medicine and ointments only) or LIS.

If yes, then you luckily ones must have done something that would have resulted in reducing your resting anal fissure and achieved normal contraction of your inner sphincter muscles.

Pls share any change in routine, eating habits, exercises, lifestyle changes that you did post cure and have avoided a repeat of this nightmare. Pls share even minute changes that may sound insignificant.

Anyone can also share any exercise or stretch routine that they have been doing regularly to relax their inner sphincter muscles:

For me some immediate pain relief (searing pain after bowel movement) comes from the following

1. Lying in a waists deep warm water bath tub.
2. Assuming Squatting position and gently pressing both side of the anus on the perineum and breathing deeply. When you breath in suck in air as if you are filling your lungs. When exhaling squeeze (as much as you can comfortably) in your anus and exhale through your mouth. Do this 10 times.
3. Lie down on your back. Pull your leg near your hips and raise your hips as high as you can with your head and back still on the floor. Arms on the side. Hold this position for 30 seconds and gently lower your hips. But don’t put your hips all the way to the floor. Have a small raised towel under your hips and rest

Is there an antagonist muscle for sphincter? Weird question, I know. But I can't find any information on Google.

Thanks & merry christmas!

Hello all, I am looking for any and all resources, anecdotes, and therapies specifically for hypertonia!

After searching, I only found 4 old posts that reference hypertonia. Google results are overwhelmed by incontinence topics. It’s very hard to find information. So please let’s keep this thread specific to hypertonia. If you want to sympathize, that is welcomed but talking about an unrelated issue only confuses the search results more.

I mentioned Google giving me unrelated search results. YouTube has been most helpful. Lots of physical therapists explaining the anatomy which is a great starting point to helping to heal our bodies.

With this problem, my muscles are not relaxing, I know it takes a long time to treat hypertonia. Stress is being reduced, stretching, meditation and relaxation exercises. Today I start heat treatments with a heating pad and plan to do them twice a day.

I have done a lot of research so far digging through the more common Pelvic Floor Dysfunction topics, so I can note some disjointed findings for hypertonia:

local heat treatment helps relax the muscles, visualization and meditation, stress reduction and emotional well-being garners relaxation of the muscle as well. Digital manipulation of the internal muscles, and dilators. Botox, and prescription muscle relaxers. Professional pelvic floor physical therapist.

Please respond with your hypertonia experiences, cost of therapies, duration of therapies, your own theories, etc.

My surgeon diagnosed me with hypertonia of the anal sphincter and told me to go home and visualize it relaxing. Probably just a “not my problem” move, since other surgeons may have recommended a physical therapist. I am in LA and even though barely anyone is acting like it, it’s still Covid times. Not sure if that explains the brush-off from my surgeon, but that’s an exchange I may never know the intent behind.

I understand that different things cause hypertonia in the pelvic floor and so treatment will be different for everyone.

The purpose of this post is to have a conversation about hypertonia in the pelvic floor and hopefully gather a wide range of experiences with hypertonia so that people can find this when they search “hypertonia”. Too often people believe it will never get better—and I can see why. So success stories are encouraged.

Thank you for your time! Blessings.

Hello all,

I’ve been diagnosed with Crohn’s Colitis and it’s been about a year now, and my symptoms are fairly mild now except for

• occasional blood streaks after bowel movements (bright red),

• hard to pass stools with a little pain,

• itchiness around the outside area,

• small leftover poo streaks left in my briefs,

• a very bad odor when I sit down somewhere for a long time.

I’ve had hemorrhoids since pre-diagnosis of Crohn’s, but they were only an issue in the beginning of when I had them and I really haven’t felt the above symptoms until recently. I’m wondering if they can be tied to inflammation from Crohn’s around the rectum area.

I can’t go to a doctor or GI for another couple of weeks at the least because of some issues with insurance. These symptoms have been going on for the better part of past 3 months.

Thanks in advance!

I noticed this when giving bf oral sex with a finger in his bum — massage of prostrate. I can feel his ejaculation as it squirts by these anal sphincter contractions... from the closeup videos I’ve seen of female orgasm, our anal sphincter also contracts during orgasm — why? Curious.

E.g. when liquid goes down the wrong tube, causing minor choking.

This has been going on for a while now. I'm assuming this happened as I strained too much when pushing and tore the butthole. I felt it when it happened and it bled a little. Now every time I poop, I feel the scars tear open. I see the blood on the outer lining of the last turd to come out. I would like to know how I can allow it to heal without causing constipation. I have tried holding it in a couple days to allow healing, it hurts even more when I do. So I continue to go regularly. I poop daily and afterwards I bleed for a little while. Aside from the discomfort, I also want to avoid infection. Also, I worry that if I ever did have intestinal bleeding I would not be able to tell. My poops are of regular texture and color, sometimes a little softer, sometimes more light brown. I also itches a lot back there, but I don't scratch it. I apply cortisone cream to suppress the itch.

Do you notice you’re less able to hold it in, that you need to go to the bathroom more quickly than before?

Im just worried about the health repercussions and I have little experience.

Also hemorrhoids.

Been dealing with acute anal fissures for about 10 months - went to a colorectal specialist recently and he said that the actual fissure I have now isn't bad at all, but that my sphincter is too thick from clenching too much from anticipating the pain from the fissure. Nitroglycerin ointments aren't available here where I'm at and the doctor doesn't want to go straight to Botox and surgery, so advised me to do more Sitz baths & have more fiber.

I do both of those things already, it's just I need some help with the mental aspect of butt stuff. Wondering if people here who've suffered from fissures have any advice?

It is apparent that anal sex is pleasurable for both the male inserting his penis and the male receiving the penis as during penile-anal intercourse, not only the prostate (male G-spot) of the receiver is stimulated by the giver's penis, but also the penetration of nerves such as the pudendal nerve in the perineum -- the area located between the anus and the scrotum -- by the penis supply sensation to rectum, anus and penis in males. Since these facts fascinate me, I have 4 questions:

Q1) Is the rectum as tight as the inner and outer anal sphincters? It is a fact that the tightness of the anal sphincter muscles around the penis make it pleasurable for the giver, but is the rectum also as tight as the anal sphincters making it even more pleasurable? I find claims such as "Anal sex is like a warm ring (only the anal sphincters) sliding up and down, but there's less pressure along the part that's already past that ring" to be myths. I believe that like masturbating with the entire hand, the rectum of a male tightly covers/hugs most of the giver's penis, that the pressure in a male's rectum is more or less uniform inside the whole thing, and that the rectum offers the penis different pressures at different points just as the anal sphincters do. Am I correct?

Q2) The anal walls are rich in nerve endings that can give a feeling of pleasure to the male receiving the penis. But what of the walls of the rectum? Is the rectum also an erogenous zone that is rich in nerve endings as much as the anus is?

Q3) If the penis has 8,000 nerve endings or so, how many nerve endings do prostate, rectum and anus have? And what are the names of these nerves?

Q4) From what I have read, the average length and width of the internal sphincter are 25.8 +/- 4.1mm (average +/- standard deviation) and 4.0 +/- 1.1mm, link: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/8361468

The rectum is a muscular tube that is about 8 inches (20 cm) in length and 2.5 inches (6 cm) in diameter at its widest point, link: https://www.innerbody.com/image_digeov/dige14-new3.html

And a penis on average has a girth of 4.59 inches (11.66 cm) when erect, and 3.66 inches (9.31cm) when flaccid, link: [https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/11444668/Study-on-penises-reveals-the-average-size-...-and-its-smaller-than-you-think.html](https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/11444668/Study-on-penises-rev

So this happened last weekend and i'm still a bit shaken up by it.

So my gaming group plays Blood Rage A LOT, it's actually the greatest game ever made and it hits the table at least weekly. As a group we've been in le hobby for over 5 years without any (big, or at least not something of this size. We've had our "moments" where winning and/or losing makes for hurt buttholes we have all been there) problems. But this weekend i feel like i lost a friend...

So we were in age 2 and my friend in the lead (who's usually together with me the best of the bunch, so lets say 'bang' a lot ingame (which can translate to yes... out of game discussions so to say when The Wife's out with her friend Tony from work) was setup perfectly to pillage muffdriveheim when I get the opportunity to wipe his warriors, his leader AND his ship with a single invasion of my Fire Giant, and BOOM i throw the card on the table but my erection at the beauty of the move hits the edge of his jeans ripping into his anus a little bit and bending it (negligible though, the bend. My mini already bends a little to the left).

So yea my fried is pssd because he cannot get the rage from the penetration (and nope, it's me going Lord of Hammers this time) and now after we resolved the deaths of his dignity in front of everybody i feel obligated to show him the broken sphincter in the bathroom mirror making him furious and he doesn't want to continue the game. Look i know this sucks, i am very protective of my body as well as treat others physical forms like it was mine and shouldn't have happened. But no need to stop the game over this.

So yea the other guys are keeping silent while i apologize. But my friend won't settle for a sincere apology and demands i pay for the reconstructive surgery and subsequent STD testing. His ass all red right now. I feel like this is kind of part of the risk of playing board games but anyway i did it and i do feel guilty and to kinda make it up I offer to donate my anus for his tainted one (leaving me with a 'broken' bunghole). But he doesn't want to because he just started getting into anal play just a few weeks ago and mine we played with a LOT which lead to wear on the back of my body (and the front, needless to say).

So need to explain something here first... I hosted a LOT of our "game" nights actually, just ever since i got a SO (gf) we usually bang at my friends house because we cannot fuck at mine any more. But before we always got frisky at my

As long as you can fit it up your ass.

guys omg. i bent over in front of the mirror last night, spread my cheeks and noticed WRINKLES around MY ONE EYED MONSTER!!!!!!!!!!!

tHEY look like this im actually freaking out. What products from The Ordinary™℠® would you recommend for these premature wrinkles??

So whether Im having anal sex with my partner or sticking my dildo in my ass,

the moment right after I cum its like my spinchter clamps down and puckers tightly, making it extremely painful to remove the dildo.

Im wondering if anyone else experiences this phenomenon, and if so, what can be done about it?