Time out (parenting) Puns

I am 23 and will be potentially moving out of my parents home for the first time very soon. I qualify for low-income housing, so the rent cannot be increased even if my income does. I have my first full-time job and the rent is a little under half of my monthly income. It’s not ideal, but it is the cheapest I could find (I’m from Boston area, which is dumb expensive) and I live in a very unhealthy and abusive home that I must leave as soon as possible. I’ve been looking since January and came across and very ideal price range for a much nicer apartment than I expected, and it’s 1.5 miles from my new job. The rent is $200 more than I had wanted, but I lost the person I would have roomed with, and being 5 mins rather than 30 from my job will save me on gas.

I will also have student loan payments beginning in June, as well as car insurance and an electric bill once I move out. All of those will be lower than I had originally expected, so I am not as worried about those.

I have been using the dollar tree for many of my basic supplies for my kitchen such as cooking utensils, bleach & detergent, and sponges etc. And I still have my discount from when I worked at TJ Maxx for a lot of other things, like dish towels, kitchen storage, toiletries etc.. What are some suggestions on budgeting when it comes to filling my apartment with furniture and anything else that will require big purchases?

Anything is helpful. I have a few suggestions from friends but I want to gather as much insight as I can. I’m willing to live paycheck to paycheck for a while if it means my mental stability is consistent, lol.

Thanks for any tips!

I got a full-time job relatively recently so I'm moving to my own place as I no longer need to rely on my Dad for financial support. I feel like things are going really well in a lot of aspects of my life and should be a very exciting time for me, but I can't help but feeling extremely sad that I'm not going to be seeing my family every day anymore. Last year, a family member's traumatic illness pulled us all closer together. That might be making this more difficult but idk. I feel way sadder than when I left for college and I'm not really sure why.

That's all I have to say. I feel like I should have no reason to be sad. Others keeps telling me it's one of the most exciting times of my life and that makes me feel like I can't express how sad I am about moving out to them, so I needed to say it here. Thank you.

Background: my MIL lives about a 14 hour drive away from us. We went out to visit her this spring, and my husband Skype calls with her every week or two so she can see our toddler. She called my husband up a few weeks ago to tell him that we need to stop putting our almost 2 year old on timeout because it’s emotionally damaging him. (I had told her during a previous call that I put him in another room and close the door for up to one minute when he hits me.) When my husband let me know his mom wanted us to stop doing the timeouts I’ll admit I felt a little bad but I always promised myself I would listen when other people had concerns about my parenting, so I said I’d try to find a better way to deal with the situation. My husband felt really bad so he said he’d read a parenting book and help find a solution. He bought a few and started reading them. I have only done the timeout once or twice since then instead of multiple times as day, and am still looking for a viable replacement.

Anyway, MIL drove into our state yesterday to go to a wedding of a relative of her husband. She told us and BIL to come and bring the kids. We all weren’t thrilled to drive two hours with small kids to go to a wedding reception of people we don’t know but we did it so we could see MIL. She’s the only family member I would be willing to do that for. She was planning on heading right back home after the wedding so that was the only way to see her.

So last night we get there and start talking to her and she asks if we stopped doing the timeouts. I said I’ve only done it once or twice since her last conversation with my husband a few weeks ago. She starts telling me we really need to stop doing it, it’s really damaging and kills trust and self esteem. I wanted to reassure her that I was working on it so I told her I had started listening to a podcast that discusses scientifically backed parenting methods so I can learn better ways of dealing, and she got mad. She said “you keep talking. I have a limited amount of time with you here and you keep talking.”

One of my biggest insecurities is feeling like I talk too much. That really stung, and my husband didn’t say anything so I figured he agreed. I kept my mouth shut while MIL started telling me about all these things I need to be doing that I already know about. Stuff like Use one or two words to describe what he did wrong instead of lecturing him. She was annoyed when I said I was doing it. She said to redirect and I do that t

Please teach them that it's ok to be "rude" when their boundaries are not being respected. Please teach them that it is ok to talk harshly, be mean, rude, uncivil, or a down right bitch if their "stop" or "no" or "leave me alone" or "no thank you" was not respected the first time.

Please teach them that it's ok to be "that feminist" and stand up for themselves when they are being discriminated against at work or school or during activities.

Please teach them to make the biggest scene in the world when some pervert gropes them or exposes himself/herself in public.

Please teach them that any guy who pressures them for sex or nudes is not worth there time.

Please teach them that if they feel violated or creeped on, they are not over reacting to raise the issue. If they have a problem with how they have been treated, that should be validation enough.

And please teach them that they are the final authority on their body and what is and isn't ok to do with it.

Obviously these things also apply to sons.

Hello everyone! I'm in need of some advice. I recently started to work full-time doing what I love and parenting has been rough. Our daughter is 12yo, she goes to school in the afternoon and my husband works at the same time so my mother is the one in charge of taking her to classes.

The thing is that our homes are connected, it's not the best living situation and she just comes home and wakes up our daughter before my husband does. She prepares her breakfast and it's super unhealthy food, like popcorn. I talked her about this but she doesn't seem to care, I feel like she doesn't respect my authority at all.

Our kid is at a complicated age too so she is having troubles with responsibility. For example, she doesn't do her homework or take a shower unless we tell her. Of course, this adds up to the whole issue. She is going to therapy because she had some anxiety episodes and it helped her a lot.

On the other hand, I think my husband is the one that has to take care of the situation, waking up earlier, feeding our kid healthy food and stuff. But I have to insist because it doesn't come up of himself. I think in part, it's because he feels uncomfortable around my mom and in part, a lack of responsibility because I always took care of this stuff. When I tell him that he forgot to send our daughter to take a bath or something like that, he recognizes it and promises to take care but it doesn't last long and the same pattern starts. He also says that our daughter is old enough to do this things by herself (true) but doesn't communicates this in a good manner and she gets upset and feels bad. I think he should show her with the example, being responsible.

Don't get me wrong, he is a great dad, we are doing a great job in general but this irritates me so much because I'm not there to take control. I also think that if my mom wasn't in the picture, things would be really different.

Sorry for the wall of text and thank you for reading. Any insight is helpful!

Two months after my 13 year marriage ended in divorce my ex-wife introduced her coworker boyfriend (who was married with a wife and 3 kids of his own) to my children. They struggled for 3 weeks before telling me. As soon as they mentioned his name I knew who he was. See, I met him at her work party in 2015. The party my wife and I drove separately to. We both left the party at the same time but I arrived home 2 hours before her. I was worried to death at the time, thinking she had been involved in an accident. When she finally arrived home 2 hours later I questioned her, "Why didn't you call me or answer my calls or reply to my texts?" She said "I realized I was too tipsy to drive so I pulled over and slept in the Walgreen parking lot. I drove straight home after waking up and didn't look at my phone." AND I BELIEVED HER.

So when the kids told me about her new boyfriend I instantly knew what really happened that night. I emailed her demanding the truth. Her response, "You're a psychopath!"

So I blew her up in an angry FB post. Two days later the cops served a restraining order and contempt papers, in which she makes some pretty egregious accusations and is requesting my parenting time be eliminated. This all happened last September. Since then I've only seen my children 3 times; Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, and New Years Eve. All unsupervised visits lasting 5 hours.

I go to court next week. Please keep me in your prayers. My hearts been sliced wide open like a ripe juicy red watermelon.

Since women have the opportunity to continue or terminate a pregnancy without the father's consent, the father should be given a period of time before the pregnancy ends or within a certain number of months of finding out about an existing child before meeting said child. This cost can be similar to the fee of an abortion. While both have the responsibility to ensure an unwanted pregnancy from occurring, only women have the opportunity to end the pregnancy or continue with the pregnancy without the other party’s consent.

Example A: Sarah and James have a one night stand. Sarah falls pregnant and immediately tells James when finding out at two months. James is now at Sarah’s mercy if he does or doesn’t want to keep this baby. Sarah decides to keep the baby despite James wanting nothing to do with it. Because Sarah made that decision alone, James should be able to pay a fee comparable to what Sarah would’ve paid in an abortion. This would mean James doesn’t have any contact with the kid, and he doesn’t have to support the child in any way.

Example B:
Sarah and James had a one night stand and never conversed again. Three years later, Sarah lets James know he has a child. Because Sarah underwent a pregnancy with the opportunity to abort, James should be given time (5 months) to decide whether to parent or not. He has 5 months to pay the fee and file the paperwork without meeting said child. This opportunity is void if he choose to meet the child early.

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It doesn’t make any sense because they aren’t being violent nor are they even doing anything wrong. You can use other techniques like why they can’t do a particular thing and don’t yell at them either. That’s only going to cause aggression and make their problem worse and even sneaky too.

I think being able to forgive your parents is one of the most enlightened states you can be in.

Well, my baby Gouda will soon be too old for this sub... First time raising a puppy on my own with a nasty case of puppy blues/constant stress about being "good enough" and I'm proud to say it all worked out just fine in the end. I should in no way be considered an expert, but here are some of the things I learned throughout the process. I hope that this is helpful to any stressed out puppy parents out there.

• Puppy blues really suck, and they come and go. I would feel fine for three weeks and then get another wave of it. There's no set timeline, everybody's experience is unique. But you'll make it through them, and that bond will grow. Push through and do what you need to do, but be kind to yourself as well.
• Puppy class/socials were the most amazing resource throughout the entire process.
• Dog parks aren't a great place to get your puppy socialized.
• A lot of advice is framed to sound much more high-stakes than it really is.
  • this does not include advice about getting your dog fully vaccinated/fixed/other medical concerns. Trust your vet.
• Your puppy doesn't have to have bomb-dog caliber training to be a good and obedient dog. Take a chill pill and focus on your bond and the basics.
• Don't be too hard on yourself or your puppy. Puppies are babies. You don't expect babies to wake up and start doing their laundry and taxes, right? Your pup will be an adult dog soon enough. You're working on teaching them the house standards and expectations. They won't be there immediately. You're not failing as a pet parent and there's likely nothing out of the ordinary with their behavior.
• POTTY TRAINING! Oh my god, the potty trainingggg. You can be doing everything right and your dog could still take months to get it down. But they'll get there! They all have their own time frame. Trust the process, keep cleaning the messes when they happen. It took Gouda a good 5~6 months to be fully potty trained, but she never has accidents now*** at 11 months old. Everybody's method might look different... Find out what feels best to you and your dog. If you feel like progress is lacking, track how often they have accidents vs. how often they go outside. You might find things are actually getting better, they're just not perfect yet.
• Every dog has its own unique personality. Some dogs are super outgoing crazy party dogs, some dogs are more shy and like calm small-group environments. Respect their feelings and comfort levels in different situations!

Parentification: In parentification, one or both parents are unable to cope with what it means to be a parent to their child. The child is either assigned or takes over the parenting duties for a sibling or even the parents themselves, becoming caretaker, mediator, and protector. In many instances, the parentified child feels as though their siblings or their parent cannot survive without their help. Sound familiar Cole and Sav?

Boundaries: Forcing your child to hang out with people older than them for clout ruins their sense of friendship. How can Everleigh know who's a real friend and who's not? Not only are you using your child for cash you're allowing others to do so too.

Privacy: Savannah you take pictures of your children bathing and believe that an emoji over their privates will cover them up... If you have to cover things up with emoji's then maybe you shouldn't post them to begin with. Do you really think that kids care whether Posie and Zealand are bathing? No, pedos however do care and it only takes one second to accidently post the pictures on your story. Those n*des will be on the internet forever for millions to view and will eventually follow your kids throughout their life, it will affect the chance to purse an actual career.

Exploitation: Now, I completely understand that getting a job is extremely difficult during these times and people need food on their table. There are multiple alternatives to exploiting your innocent children that still include YouTube such as making fun and easy snacks for kids, modeling, homeschooling journey, get ready with me <insert event>, cheap activities that will keep the children occupied, ASMR, aesthetic painting, making creative lunches, and more.

Humanity: Something very common with the Labrants is treating their children like props, objects I should say. I don't necessarily believe that they don't love their children - but it seems like they are in love with the idea of them. It's as if Cole and Sav only reproduce for a paycheck, Christian expectations and something to dress up, not because they want to raise kind intelligent people. You can clearly tell that they don't see the humanity in their offspring because Colon and Sac have poor Everleigh working dancing for hours with bad technique and a new weird dance teacher.

Emotional neglect: Emotional Neglect is, in some ways, the opposite of mistreatment and abuse.  Whereas mistreatment and abuse are