I donโt know if this is humor as much as a rant but here we go.
I did an internship with a fellow teacher around six years ago. She was heavily into being a teacher-influencer (before being an influencer was really thing). Every moment of her life was a magical, inspirational teacher moment meticulously documented on social media so everyone could praise for her being so magical and inspirational. A close look at a lot of her lesson plans showed a lot of flash but they sometimes lacked substance but whatever, it seemed to work for her.
The pandemic hit and she went into hyper teacher martyr mode. Her kids, her kids, what was she going to do without her kids?!?? Suddenly she was driving to every studentsโ house to bring them personalized gift bags (totally breaking any social distancing rules) and they were all coming to her house to write in her driveway with chalk about how much they love her (which we donโt exactly live in a small town so why do your students know where you live if theyโre even the ones writing because the handwriting doesnโt look like a kidโs). Okay, fine.
Then she got pregnant during the pandemic. Which is all well and good, I know like six people who are pregnant right now. And then came the daily posts about how obsessed her students are with her pregnancy and they canโt wait and they love her baby so much and itโs so magical and inspirational and so much kids touching her belly (over the shirt) to connect with her baby. And then she got put on bed rest so there were the daily pictures of her in her hospital bed, hooked up to monitors, with her laptop on and her coffee cup because she canโt abandon her kids, her kids!!!!
She had her baby yesterday, prematurely (I think like 33 or 34 weeks, so not exactly half-baked but not full term) and thankfully both mom and baby are doing well. But now are the pictures of her with her baby and sheโs on Zoom with her class and taking parent calls three hours post c-section because sheโs just such an inspiration to us all (which I was on so many painkillers I donโt think I knew where I was three hours after my c-section).
The reason I am ranting this is two-fold. If this is all true, holy shit, the lack of boundaries feels so inappropriate and creates an entirely unrealistic expectation of what teachers should do for their students. Like I definitely answered a few emails and came in for one parent meeting on maternity leave when it was urgent but definitely not immediately after my kid wa
... keep reading on reddit โก
Give me a break.
> For the first 15 years of our marriage I received no birthday or Christmas gifts because she demanded the most expensive gifts we could afford and I'd rather not get anything from DH than suffer the consequences.
Uh... that's the most pathetic thing I've ever heard.
> If I said we didn't have the money she would say "yes you do" and then stare at me until I bought it. I was not allowed to call my mom because "It's Mother's Day!" so I called her after the event when I was exhausted and she was drunk.
Oh, until I read that.
So, where was the GUN AGAINST YOUR TEMPLE in all of this? Because it does not sound like the bitch ever once pulled a gun on you. You're just a doormat's doormat's doormat's diaper.
Iโve been an RN for two years, and itโs never ceased to amaze me how nonchalant some nurses are when they work a 12 with little to no break at all. If we are so understaffed that I donโt have time to take a break, I get really upset, even after two years. Nurses are people! We are human beings with complex mental worlds and basic needs like water and food and rest. We meet these needs for others, we should meet them for ourselves. Personally, if I donโt take care of me first, I canโt take good care of others. Where did this belief that nurses and caretakers need to sacrifice their own needs at all times come from? A 30 minute break for a 12 hour shift seems criminal enough to me, but nothing at all? Thatโs a damn shame in my book, and itโs really been a large part of the reason Iโve been feeling so burnt out lately. Why are so many of us willing to accept this? I genuinely cannot understand it, and thatโs why I wanted to try and start a discussion here. Thanks for reading, and appreciation in advance for participating lol Have a great Wednesday!
I can't believe the amount of people in r/AskAChristian that respond saying that they believe the end times are near. They say the telltale signs are here showing that we're nearing the apocalypse. One point that many seem to bring up is the sign that their religion will be persecuted, banned and almost eclipse or things along those lines.
How can you be part of the world's dominant religion, which has major political power throughout the nations, and yet you feel the need to martyr yourself, saying you can tell the end times are near because you are being persecuted. How self-righteous can you be?
Well, as I typed that very last question, it all made sense. But still, are they living under a rock?
Except instead of a cartoon scientist, itโs Hov
I do not consent to have this posted anywhere without my permission.
So this is about my MIL, who in my opinion, is narcissistic and has a martyr complex. She's visiting for a month, leaves in a week, and I cannot wait for the visit to end. This is the context of our relationship:
She comes from a culture where people intermarry within their own clan. Not only do I come from a different clan and culture, but from a different country altogether. Once we got engaged, she accepted that I'll be in her son's life and warmed up, or at least pretended to? Re: the wedding, I'm not into weddings and would have been happy with a trip to city hall, but husband wanted a big wedding, and so did his parents. I believe weddings should not be all about the bride, but about both partners. I thought, this is something he wants, and it doesn't bother me, so why not? I agreed, while telling them (admittedly not very directly) that since this is what you want, I'll partake. So MIL planned and paid for everything, which I was ok with because I was only doing it for them anyway. But all the time, she made me feel guilty because she was doing all the work, and I wasn't involved enough in the planning. As much as I was ok with in-laws organizing and financing an event THEY wanted, I didn't want to financially rely on them for myself or my family. Come wedding, I spent a lot of money flying my parents over from another country from the other side of the world, paying for their hotel rooms during the 3-day wedding and buying my own wedding clothes (all on a grad student budget). On the eve of the wedding, which is also the first time she was meeting my parents, she was very warm and said things like how much she and the family loved me, etc. I don't know what happened between that day and the next, but she completely shut down for the next 3 days. She was pissed about something, and didn't talk to my family, not even once, the whole time. Seeing as most guests were from their side, my family were left to eat on their own in a sea of unknown people, until I talked to my husband and he got his cousins to join them. Many things like that happened during those 3 days. I was extremely stressed and humiliated for my family. At that time, I was naive and wanted to please her and kept asking her what was wrong. She wouldn't say anything, she only acted like a victim. If this had happened now, I would have walked out of that wedding. I'm a different person now. We have never broached the s
... keep reading on reddit โก
Assalumualikum Warahmutullahi Wabaraktoo my dear Brothers and Sisters. In late 2019 my best friend passed away in a car accident and he was one of the most kindest person I had ever met and was also a believer. I wanted to know if someone dies in a car accident, is he considered dying a martyr? Inna Lillahi Wa Innallah-e-Rajioon. Jazakallah and Assalumualikum. Edit- I forgot to point this out but it was during Bakrah Eid and he was on his way back from doing Qurbani and was fasting during the time as well.
