Ungenerous Puns

Obviously I'm talking about the fandom in general, not every single individual but the negativity is off the charts. Other fandoms don't take their shows too seriously. They know it's just a show, they know that overused tropes are going to be thrown in and there's going to be repetition. Small errors are laughed about or not spoken about at all. They have fun with their show.

Not so with Fire. People are sending death threats to an actress for doing her job. "Fans" nitpick the smallest errors and act like it's a personal attack on them from the writers. They spend more time talking about what they don't want to see than what they do want to see. They complain about things that have been on the show since forever. Don't like in-house romance? Why are you still watching? It's been like that since season 1. Don't like certain characters or relationships? They're not going anywhere so why don't you focus on the parts you do enjoy rather than spending more time complaining about the ones you don't.

I get wanting a show to do better (or at least what you class as better) but damn. The writers could come up with Emmy winning episodes and they'd still be inundated with complaints. Some people on here and elsewhere are capable of having interesting and necessary discussions about the aspects of the show they dislike without being rude or non-stop whiny. Some people need to find a different show to watch because Fire is never going to be what you want it to be. I don't understand why some of you spend your free time watching and talking about something that doesn't seem to bring any enjoyment.

I was thinking about how the show has 8 core characters, and how everyone else kind of gets left in the lurch in terms of screentime and relevance.

Logan

Kendall

Roman

Shiv

Connor

Tom

Greg

Gerri

If you aren't these 8 characters after season 1, you basically don't matter. What was the last notable thing Karolina did? Frank? Carl? Hugo? Stewie? Marsha? Even when Roman had a regular girlfriend, her only real role was to tell him off for being unable to fuck. Kendall's girlfriend has way less screen presence and characterization post her debut episode. The only love interest who gets to do stuff is Willa, and even she goes have a season without saying a word or even appearing.

This isn't necessarily a full-on criticism, just something I've noticed. I remember some twitter stans attacking Comfrey for appearing too much, and me thinking she doesn't really appear all that much at all, and then realizing that the majority of side characters actually show up even less.

The editors on this show are brutal is what I'm saying.

You can check my history for background. I am ready to end a relationship with a selfish lover. I plan to do this in person, but I also wrote a letter (both to help me form my thoughts and to give to him so things don't get twisted later...)

Here it is:

Dear …,

I no longer feel it is healthy to be in a long-term romantic relationship with you, and I have decided we need to break up today.

My decision is not because of what happened on one particular day or week, and it is not about how often we have sex. My decision is mostly related to how you treat me when I bring up my concerns (most recently, and perhaps commonly, about how I feel that my pleasure is not prioritized). Your responses have ranged from annoyance or anger, to acknowledging my concerns or making promises you don’t follow through on, to turning the issue around to be about how I am attacking you. (If you feel the way I communicate is hurting you, we should definitely address that issue, but not in a way that dismisses what I feel are legitimate concerns.) When I talk to my partner, I want to feel safe and confident that my feelings and words are heard, both in the conversation we are having and in the follow-up actions.

It has become increasingly clear to me that you feel frustrated when we have these conversations, and you maintain that you “don’t know what to do,” and you make me feel that I am interrupting your work or sleep by bringing up my feelings. The thing that I have been trying to communicate is that what I want you to “do” is care about me and prioritize me, to sometimes be more generous and selfless, and I feel embarrassed to have to ask these things because I do not think they are things that one should have to demand in a caring relationship. That said, my partner is not willing to do these things (and though you say you want to, our relationship gives me evidence that you aren’t), then I will not demand change. In fact, a big part of the reason I feel we need to break up now is because things haven’t really changed, and I should not wait longer for them to change when you’ve given me clear evidence that they probably won’t and you are clearly upset when I bring them up.

Some of our differences may have to do with compatibility. I firmly believe in talking about everything, including sex (calmly and at appropriate times), and deliberately working through concerns rather than “letting them work themselves out,” especially if they haven’t worked themselves out. However

Update: Thank you all for the comments. I have decided that I am going to see how things go over the next six weeks (this is my timeline; I'm not sharing it with him, because frankly, he should do this out of care, not because he fears the ultimatum). During this time, if things are not going anywhere, I am going to make arrangements to end things (we live together so this will be a bit complicated, but we don't have kids and are not married, so it's mainly about housing). Meanwhile, it will give him time to demonstrate generosity if he really means it. Unfortunately, based on history, I don't believe things will change, but if they will, this is his time to show me. I have communicated that this is very important to me, so now he gets to choose whether to listen/take me seriously or not. Thank you for this supportive community.

Original post: I (32F) have been dating my bf (33M) for two years. He has never really seemed to care about my orgasm and gets defensive when I mention that I want to cum too. He barely does any foreplay even when I say I would like some, and he doesn't ever ask what I like, whether I had fun, or if I want to come. He just spits on his finger if I'm not wet and starts unless I insist we wait until I'm more ready.

I have always brought it up in gentle, calm ways, sometimes suggesting trying new things and even saying it's very important to me. In the past he blows me off, gets angry and says I am "attacking" him, and says it is stressing me out or "we need to let it work itself out." Well, two years in, it hasn't "worked itself out." I feel like he always makes it about him feeling attacked and never does anything about it. I'm thinking that he just doesn't care. Otherwise, he professes to love me, and we live together. He has had many sexual partners in the past.

Today I mentioned to him that I don't feel like equal partners. He said he didn't know what to do. I told him I wanted him to get off. He said he didn't know how. I told him that we could work on it together; he just needed to show interest. He said "ok, let's practice :-)" and then said he needed to get back to work. The response seems somewhat promising but I'm also afraid it's an empty promise. I can't imagine him being so clueless, and I'm baffled at why he always acts like the victim when I bring it up.

I'm afraid this will be a deal breaker, but I want to give it every chance to get better before I break things off. My question is, is this hopeless

I (32F) have had 5 sexual relationships in the past, 4 of which were in LTRs which broke off for unrelated reasons. I am currently with a partner (34M) of 2+ years whom I love very much. We live together, get along great, play in a band together and have other shared hobbies.

But he has never made me orgasm and never tried very hard. Sometimes he will reach for my clit for a few seconds, and he has gone down on me for a few seconds a couple of times, but he doesn’t seem interested in foreplay. When he wants to have sex, he takes off my panties and uses saliva as lube if I’m not wet. He has never asked me what gets me off or what I like. He has had many previous partners—both long-term and one-night stands, so I’m wondering if this was an issue with them, too, or if it is just a problem of compatibility between us.

I have tried talking to him several times, each time months after the last. We have discussed it in person and through text. Whenever I have brought this concern up, he gets defensive and turns the problem back on me. Last time he told me that sometimes he didn’t try to make me come because I was “super awkward” and he told me things would “work themselves out.” I may be awkward, but my “awkwardness” is an issue he could address with me separately; my pleasure and things “working out” is an issue of generosity on both of our ends. I am good, game, and giving in and outside of bed, touching him daily in whatever ways he wants and never saying no to anything he wants to try. But my lover behaves, unfortunately and as much as I want to feel otherwise, selfishly, ungenerously, and inconsiderately. I have told him things I would like to try (such as oral, or more foreplay), and he typically says he would be open to trying them, but when we are in bed, he never initiates them and stops me if I try to. I could be patient if, say, it took us awhile to explore and figure out how each other’s bodies work, but he doesn’t seem to be trying and, given that it’s already been two years, I don’t think that this problem is something that will ever really change. After each of the 5-6 conversations we’ve had about this, I have dropped the issue to give it time.

I end up masturbating alone, which takes care my physical needs, but the truth is, I MISS getting off with a partner so badly. I miss orgasming and laughing, seeing how many times I can come, and having a partner that is excited about my orgasm and eager to please me. I miss the connection, the bond, an

From Dear Prudence in response to a reader asking for a gentle way to call someone out.

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