In the past two days we have had two threads, one about Puerto Rico statehood and one about "Why is the South so Conservative".
Both threads were rather popular, but both were full of empty answers, stereotypes, pun threads, circle-jerking, outright bad information, wild baseless speculation, political soapboxing, and outright awfulness.
Both threads have been nuked from orbit.
We have had a massive influx of new users, who apparently have not bothered to familiarize themselves with the culture of this sub. The top tier/lower tier answer and casual comment rule is being wildly abused. Subjects are drifting WAY off topic. There is to many unsupportable answers. There is to much of getting up on a soap box to lecture the sub about your political beliefs.
Simply put, it is being abused, and the moderators are going to have to play Social Worker.
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Unless the jokes are relevant, they will be removed....and even that is getting pushed to the breaking point. Meta threads are really the only place where we are looser with the rules on this.
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Stay on topic or relevant. Your trip to the gas station today or the pizza you ate today had better be relevant, or it goes.
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Keep it in /r/politics. No seriously, I'm not kidding. Any discussion of modern politics after the early 90's will be nuked. It has to be VERY RELEVANT to be allowed after that.
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Posts had better start being backed up, no more idle speculation. There are far to many posts that are just random wild guesses, half-informed, or are based on what is honestly a grade-school level of understanding of the material.
This sub has grown massively based on it's reputation, and we are going to maintain it. You, the user base has to help maintain that reputation, downvote posts that are not fitting of this subs standards, report spam and garbage posts, and hold each other to a higher standard.
The moderation team does not want to have to turn this completely into /r/askscience in it's strict posting standards, but if we cannot trust the user base to police itself, we will have to continue to enact tougher and tougher standards until this sub becomes what is honestly an overly dry and boring place.
I just graduated and am now working full time as an application developer where I was working part time in college.
We're a three person team (the other two are white guys) and they're both into stereotypically "programmer" hobbies -- gaming, sci fi, gadget news, etc.
I can't help but feel as though my hobbies/interests (other than coding and web development, of course) are not very stereotypically nerdy -- I read and like to play guitar, which adds to my imposter syndrome.
Not sure if this is a non-issue or if anyone else feels this way. Thought I'd post to see.
This was just an offhand thought as I was talking about DMs, and used the term his/her, but it really got me wondering: how many DMs are women?
Stereotypes incoming: OK, I think we're all grownup enough to admit without sounding like Beavis that the RPG community doesn't have a lot of women. Most groups of players are heavily (stereotype-pun intended) male; out of say 10 players there'll be one or at most two women playing.
In my experience, 75-100% of the women playing are only doing so because a SO is there and they've come to enjoy it (hopefully) or are just doing it for kicks - in both cases, though, it's unlikely the woman would seek out and play in a game if the SO wasn't doing so.
This, by necessity and familiarity, then means that women that actually positively enjoy the game preferentially to other entertainments are pretty rare. Compound this with the further low of DMs-to-player ratio generally, and it really made me wonder if there are female DMs out there at all? There must be? And, as a follow on, I'd really love to know about their campaigns: if they approach things differently or find unique challenges that male DMs maybe don't see or run into.
I’m pretty masculine and there are a lot of things that even if it’s slightly considered feminine I will have trouble doing them without my dysphoria hounding me up the wall. But I’ve found that skincare, specifically using any product that I can to make my skin soft doesn’t bother me. I love it. I know that soft skin is usually considered feminine but honestly I don’t care that much, I like it. This could be a sensory thing cause rough hands on a rough surface make me wanna puke, but honestly idk. I expect to one day look like some big strong mechanic with a big beard and big muscles and very hairy, with very soft hands
Masculinity (and all its associated stereotypes) get shit on a lot nowadays. Was wondering about the benefits of non-toxic masculinity.
My biggest interests are horse riding and makeup. I work with horses, own a very challenging horse and part of my job involves training some of the biggest breeds of horse. I’m also 5’0 and 100lbs, so men ‘jokingly’ question my ability to do my job sometimes too. The same men who refuse to see it as a sport are the same men who are terrified to go anywhere near a live horse.
I also genuinely love makeup. I love the artistic side of applying it, learning about new product releases and techniques. This is apparently something I must only do out of vanity and for men though, and don’t I know men hate makeup, fake eyelashes and nails? I do, which is why I wear them.
If I was interested in a stereotypically masculine thing like cars then I’m sure I’d only be interrogated about it to prove I’m not just faking an interest for male attention. Are women not supposed to have hobbies?
Edit to add- forgot to mention the vile comments like ‘ride me like your horse’, or otherwise completely sexualising my sport
I’m asian and my friend advised me not do to the aforementioned. What exactly is it and can some of you list examples (the more the better!!)?
Like multitasking, working under pressure and working in "fast-paced" environments.
I can't multitask to save my life. And it doesn't help that I tend to have people in my life that remind me how bad of a multitasker I am. For some reason I attract people that get a rise out of pointing out my weaknesses and flaws. Occasionally I can get away with doing 2 things at a time but it depends on what the tasks are. Three if they're really micro but that's very rare.
Either way I try to avoid multitasking when possible because it usually results in disaster or frustration. Yet I'm the type to have 50 million tabs open in my browser at once EVERY.SINGLE.TIME! Funny how that works huh?
Can't work in a lot of "fast paced" environments. Tried working in restaurants and I was TERRIBLE at those jobs. Was tired of being told I wasn't moving fast enough and when I moved fast I fucked up even more. Plus I hated the work environment as a whole and to be honest I don't enjoy that type of work. Those jobs made me feel the worst and I hated every single day of it.
I tried trade school and a couple other physical jobs and couldn't get into them. Worked at a moving company one summer and although I was good at the job and lifting heavy stuff I found it underwhelming. Got bored real fast although the exercise was great.
Working under pressure is tricky. If there's a deadline that needs to be met I'm usually fine. I know time constraints are stressful for many and they can be but in my case that alone is rarely the problem. The problem comes in when I'm being micromanaged or I have someone back seat driving my work. Telling me to do this, do that, constantly criticizing me. Nagging me, rushing me, adding "one more thing" to the project when I'm almost done or the person waits until the LAST MINUTE to tell me something that ruins my flow I break down and get stressed out. I can deal with internal pressure but if its external I will break down. I don't need anyone beating on me and making the situation worse. I already beat up on myself enough as is.
Am I the only one like this? It's such a weird dynamic. It's part of the reason why I feel like I don't belong anywhere. Maybe I'm just odd or there's something wrong with me.
We can go ahead and include "driving around in your lifted 'yota" for everyone.
EDIT: The irony of this getting flagged as a "visitor question".
Specifically referring to California, BC, and the PNW. Do the coasts and mountains have anything to do with it?
What do you mean trans people have sex in ways that directly involve their ~wrong~ genitals? F.... fe..... fetichization!!!!!
So I’m (23F) in the closet as someone who likes women. I don’t know if I’m a bisexual or lesbian yet, but liking other women is definitely there (I’m also testing the asexual label). I’m in the closet to everyone except my younger brother (15M) and my friends online, though I do subtly have the pride flag on my social media profiles.
I’m going to a Christmas dinner in a little under a month with my family. This will be the first time I’ve seen a lot of my cousins, aunts and uncles in one place in years and the first time I’ll be seeing them while in the closet. A lot of them are Catholic and are against LGBTQ+ stuff (but not dangerously so). So I’m tempted to dress as stereotypically like a lesbian as possible to make them uncomfortable but also to test the waters, since there’s no dress code at the dinner. So how should I pull this off?
Hey all, I have a struggle with getting asked out or hit on because I've been told I'm very "straight acting." The straight people that tell me this act like it's a good thing, but I honestly feel like it holds me back in my love life a great deal because guys don't feel safe asking me out. I get plenty of matches on tinder so I know I'm at least decent looking, but I can count the number of times I've been directly hit on on one hand. I get lots of prolonged eye contact from guys and other indicators of interest, so I'm assuming guys are interested, but how do I make it easier for them to feel comfortable approaching me? I'm so tired of being alone and online dating just doesn't work well for me.
Any tips would be appreciated, I'm thinking of wearing some rainbow paraphernalia when I go out, do you think that would be a strong enough indicator?
I.E some ASMR, narration. Not really IRL voices.
I can’t quite tell why. Maybe it’s because I want to resist such a blatant attempt at someone trying to be calming, for some reason. Like it’s invasive or presumptuous or something.
Ahhhh nothing feels better to me than the sweet sound of peace and quiet.
Everything is silent and nobody can run around,scream or behave like a baby throwing a tantrum? What could be better than that?
I think this might be interesting considering our mutual liking of feminity ^_^
For example if someone had depression but they smiled and laughed a lot, went out and saw their friends, told jokes etc.
