I work in watershed restoration and this month we have inmate crews helping us. I have really hit it off with one of the guys. We are the same age, we have a lot to talk about and I have enjoyed his company. He has been in since he was 17, 21 years, so his whole adult life. I googled his crimes, they were pretty heinous, fueled by a raging meth addiction. I haven’t told him I know what he’s in for because he deserves to be seen as more than his crime and I think he has repaid his debt to society.
Anyway, we work together again this coming week. And he’s getting out in February. Would it be appropriate for me to give him my email address? It just seems like someone in that position could use a friend. I know it would probably be frowned upon by a lot of people to strike up a friendship with someone recently out of prison, but he just seems like he is so much more than the shitty choices of a 17 year old kid.
I would love to hear what you guys think. Thanks!
Overall he’s a good guy and everyone who knows him thinks so but some things he says are weird and a little suspicious.
He said he can’t really “go places” and that it was complicated so he didn’t elaborate. He said something along the lines of not being able to leave the state as well. Basically only able to go to work and school. Once bragged about almost stabbing a guy over weed. Didn’t have a phone for over 3 months because it broke or it got stolen or something (it wasn’t clear). Now has the latest iPhone.
Lots of what he says either don’t add up or is really suspicious in a legal sense. He is my coworker and My job does do background checks but I don’t know what that entails and if they hire people anyway? But I think it’s unlikely that he’s been to jail.
I think he’s a cool dude and great to have as a Friend but if he has been to jail/charged for something serious I would back off when it comes to dating. I don’t judge sometimes people make mistakes and young people are dumb. But I don’t really want to get involved with anything like that, it just hits too close to home.
He says he’ll will tell me just not rn.
Maybe he signed a NDA for something. I don’t know what’s going on with him and I have a bad habit of overthinking and catastrophizing. I’ll ask him again the next time I see him in person , maybe he’d be more open to talk about it in person (we had talked over text). I do want to do my best to respect his privacy, if he decides to never tell me that would be fine, but I wouldn’t be able to pursue anything.
"Police have made an arrest in the murder of philanthropist Jacqueline Avant, the wife of music executive Clarence Avant, who was shot to death during a home invasion at the couple’s Beverly Hills home....
Beverly Hills police Chief Mark Stainbrook identified the suspect as 29-year-old Aariel Maynor, a parolee with an extensive criminal history, whose vehicle was spotted on several surveillance videos driving eastbound out of the city shortly after the shooting that killed Avant.
LAPD’s Hollywood Division officers were alerted to a shooting and burglary call in the 6000 block of Graciosa Drive at about 3:30 a.m., where Maynor was found in the backyard of the home, suffering from a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the foot."
Hmmm....is Gascon responsible for his parole?
Ive been on the run for 7 and a half years.
Remorse
I stopped reporting to my parole officer in 2011. I recently had a beautiful baby. Tomorrow I'm turning myself in. Can't be a father if I'm a wanted man. I have 12 years hanging over my head. I've never experienced abject terror before today. I'll never be able to say that sentence again. I'm not even sure why I'm posting.
I have a great support network, but I'm still terrified. Of the consequences. Of losing everything. Of missing the beginning of my child's life. I don't fear prison. Prison is actually the easiest part of all this. When I went to prison the first time, I just didn't care. Now I have everything to lose. I'm stepping off a cliff with no idea where I'll land...
EDIT: There has been concern that I'm going to prison for 12 years. For clarity 12 years is how much parole I have left. Under state law 6 is the max I can receive. More likely it will be 1-3 based on several factors. No new charges, turning myself in, new child.
I commented this but wanted to post it up top so people would see them. Jesus Christ on a motorbike I didn't expect this to blow up the way it did. First I want to address the "you deserve what you get" and "you're a terrible person" crowd. Trust me. I'm more aware of those facts than you could ever be. I was a coward. Until I walk through those doors tomorrow, I still am a coward. I am a piece of shit. But with the family and friends I have on my side, I won't be for long.
For all the folks wishing me luck, sending me messages, and generally showing empathy to a man undeserving: thank you from every piece of my heart. Sometimes the internet's not such a bad place.
As for updates. My brother has expressed that he is willing to post them from this account over the next few weeks as the process works itself out. So it won't be me directly, but they'll be here.
Finally. To answer a couple common questions:
"How did you make it seven years?" I didn't break the law, kept my head down, and was, for all intents and purposes, barring the absconding, a model citizen. No one ever had a reason to question me.
"Why not stay on the run?" This may be hard for someone on the outside to understand, but the life I currently live is a life of constant fear. A purgatory. A half life. My daughter has made me see that I need more. I need freedom.
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