My question is part very specific, part very general.
Specific question: I currently teach an upper year lab course for Chemistry and Chemical Engineering students. Today I was faced with a very specific situation that left me rather confused. Many other TA's have similar experiences with Chinese students, that's what got me asking about it on this sub. Anyway, in a lab you use lab gloves when working with chemicals. There is one very simply rule regarding these gloves: you aren't allowed to wear you gloves in the hallways outside of the lab, because this means you'll be touching doorknobs with your gloves and contaminate them with chemicals. They are taught this from day 1 (not even kidding).
Today, I had to tell a Chinese students 3 or 4 times after catching him time and time again leaving the lab with his gloves on. I told the student 'X, no gloves in the hallway!' multiple times. Is there something going on in my communication/his understanding of what I'm saying or is this student just being an idiot?
General question: those of you who have studied in the US/Europe, have you faced some cultural differences you think TA's/lecturers/professors should be beware of when educating Chinese students? Tell me about it, I'd like learn more so I can be more effective in my teaching!
Eating animal meat?
Mowing lawns?
Heading footballs?
Driving a caravan on the A838?
I'm currently in Jakarta for my academic pursuit and I will be staying here for the next four or five years.
Any social/cultural norms that I should have been aware of while staying here?
someone who actually knows the answer to this, please be honest with me because i am seriously so confused. do allistic people really see inherent value in their social rules? or are most of them just going along with them to seem normal, similarly to us? for example, do things like manners, wearing the appropriate outfits, making eye contact, etc. actually feel important or useful to them? or will most allistics also find those unnecessary but simply go along for the sake of not being ostracized by others?
follow-up questions: if no one actually cares about these rules, then why do we all have to follow them? and if people do actually care, i am curious to hear some of the reasoning behind that mindset if anyone knows.
apologies if this all sounds stupid -- i just can't wrap my head around caring about these things, so maybe i am simply in denial.
Hey all!
I love posts that start with "exactly what the title says," but that's what it is. Without going into a bio, I'm returning to the scene and trying to do it correctly (that is, admitting ignorance, rather than faking it until I make it) and I wondered: what social norms do most people in the scene agree on?
I've picked up on a few: consent, respect, safewords and not ignoring them, SSC and RACK... In a recent post we had the difference between "women" and "females." (I say that in an attempt at humor, not to be a dick.)
Are there others? I'm asking because I'm close enough to Asperger's to like having things spelled out and my current Sub likes to make blanket statements like "for me, it was always clear that doms have their own toys." (I bought toys, social norms or not.)
What are the other social norms that you've observed, if only in their breach?
P.S. - I will go to a munch soon and ask this, but we're in a shadow lockdown in Germany and that's not possible at the moment.
My partner wants to get married (not like we're engaged, just talking about what we want). I don't see the point. Financial benefits in some ways, but I also get creeped out by the stories of people thinking they "own" their partner and changing their personality after marriage, plus the older generations "hahaha I hate my spouse" humor.
Even worse, the idea of a wedding where everyone stares at me makes my hands clammy. I called weddings a "ritual" and it really upset my partner, and it upset him that I don't have a desire to get married. We probably will end up getting married, but he says he's never met anyone who was so resistant to the idea of marriage before and it made me feel like I'm the asshole here.
I feel like we can be together forever even without a legal marriage, and we can even be legally married without a wedding, but he's adamant that marriage and weddings are what people do when they're in love, and that it's hurtful to not be excited for it.
Idk how this comes across but I assure you me and my partner are very close and loving toward one another, this is just one major disagreement we have. We're moving toward meeting in the middle--> small wedding and legal marriage, and I've stopped mentioning why I don't feel it's necessary and am trying to seem excited but lately I've been wondering if I really am alone in my way of thinking. I figured I would reach out and ask how you guys view marriage and weddings.
It's that time of year that many of us may dread, whether it's because of neurodiversity, past traumas and experiences, religious or social reasons.
As I sit here on Christmas Eve, I dread tomorrow and the expectations of playing happy families, acting "normal" and looking like I'm enjoying myself. My partner really likes Christmas and keeps asking me to be ok for it, but I can't just turn off my feelings towards this holiday. I'm sorry if I sound like a Grinch but I really dislike it, all the commercialised hype and the social norm to gorge on too much food and buy gifts for people you wouldn't give a damn about any other day of the year "because it's tradition".
So here's my cheer out to others like myself, mentally preparing themselves for the day ahead, and those of you already part way into the day further East in the world.
Have a hug and give yourself a break if you need it, take 10 minutes to yourself. Chill in your room with a pet or teddy with headphones, whatever you need. You can get through this day! X
Saw this question on the "askwomenover30" subreddit and found the replies to be interesting.
I am curious about men replies, so I shamelessly posted the same question here :)
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/rabpkv/what_social_norm_do_you_refuse_to_abide_by/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Anybody struggle with this?
EDIT:
Bonus question:
What are social norms that you grew up with that are now viewed as unacceptable by people younger than you?
EDIT 2:
What are some social values that you hold that are not shared by those younger than you?
Gonna stay there for the next 1-2 years, any social/cultural norms that I should be aware of while staying here?
I cannot stress this enough!
You do not want to end up in trouble with the police in Singapore for chewing or spitting gum or “for being in the company of someone found with drugs” in Morocco.
Most government websites have useful information for travellers. Although you may not end up in jail, you may save yourself fines and headaches.
Was raised in an extremely religious community almost exclusively around women. Any ideas on unspoken rules there are when it comes to interacting with other guys? I'm already good with the bro nod. Handshakes (not the professional kind) I struggle to keep up with, and I'm not sure about other things like how close together / far apart it makes sense to stand, how much eye contact is too much versus too little, etc (and honestly, that eye contact thing applies to interacting with women too).
I'm going through the area on my way to work once WFH ended. Any social/cultural norms that I should be aware of? Is it a faux pass to read ebook on my Android phone instead of the latest iPhone? Would riding Grab Car instead of Silver Bird made the resident retch from the sight of plebeians?
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Gonna stay there for the next 1-2 years, any social/cultural norms that I should be aware of while staying here?
