It's Not Your Fault Puns

I'm talking about parks and woods/forests in or close to densely populated areas, which are usually full of people walking their dogs or just going for a walk themselves.

Almost every day I see some dog harassing another dog or racing toward a random person at top speed while the owners are standing a good distance away, desperately shouting and whistling for their dog to leave the person/other dog alone.

Either train your dog better or don't let it off the leash.

EDIT: Not talking about designated off-leash dog parks, which, apparently, are a thing in the US.

I have spoken to a few people that always tell me 'if you get brigged it's your fault'. Now, I personally think if there are trolls, uber perfectionists that hate it when you do the smallest thing wrong etc, you shouldn't necessarily get the blame (especially if they are premades). When do you think it's not your fault?

Lately I've seen so many posts on this sub with people complaining about not ranking up after a lot of wins. Here's the deal. Most (if not all) of these post are from people that win 6 times in a row with 13-8, 13-9, 13-11 and then one 13-4 game. They perform reasonably mid-range, going with a 1KD or something like that, and in the stomp game they perform worse, meaning that they got carried.

If you keep winning you WILL climb. But if you keep performing with a 1KD in your games, you are probably in the right rank! This means you won't climb hard, as you are not overperforming for your rank. The system has done a right job and gives you a slight increase in MMR.

Also, the arrow system doesn't work at all. One double-arrow is not the same as the other and will depend on how you played, against what MMR you played, how hard the win was, etc. etc. The essence of this problem complaining is the fact that there is no visual progression through the ranks.

I'm gonna speculate a bit, but let's say we take League's LP system and relate it to Valorant. Let's say you are Gold 1. You need 100LP to go to Gold 2. Let's say a small increase in MMR (1 arrow) gives you about 10LP. This means you have to win about 10 games in a row to get there. The 3 arrows could be 50LP and would only need 2 wins. THIS is the difference. Stop focusing on your rank, play to get better and you'll rank up eventually. Otherwise the game has done a perfect job and put you in the MMR that you are right now.

But it is your fault if you stay that way.

Backstory: I used to be a swimming teacher, got the job very young by accident because I've always been the sport type, next to my house there is a very famous olympic pool in wich they teach swimming and train olympics swimmers from a very young age. So I went there with no expectations at all and the next thing I knew I was working at 15. Needles to say I was the youngest there, and if it wasn't for the shirt that literally said that I was a trainer, no one would have ever notice me there.

My job there was to take care of and teach babies how to swim, from age 3 to 5, about 20 kids per class, from thursday to friday, from 2pm to 6:00pm. So the kids and the parents KNEW who I was, when the class was over, and the rules about the pool, wich included two very important things that I reminded the kids every single day:

1. Do not go near the pool if your teacher isn't around
2. Do not go into the pool if you don't have a floppy. ( I don't really know what they're called, we just called it that way for years for some reason, but it was those pool noodles that were old enough to be bend and we tied them around the children's chest, so it basically worked as a lifesaver).

Also also, you need to know that we have 3 pools, each one deeper than the others. My class took place in the "medium deep" one and the kids weren't allowed in other pool that wasn't the one where they had class. (The parents also knew this).

The story:
As a babies teacher, or actually any kid bellow 12 years old teacher, we weren't allowed to leave the kids alone or send them away if their parents weren't there, this resulted in us waiting an extra 15 to 20 minutes for parents after our shift was done, wich wasn't really that bad, and when we had to wait more than that the parents had already called and we just changed our clothes, the kid's clothes, and waited with the kid outside. In this story, this was not the case.

I still had a 4 year old boy under my care, it was 40 minutes past my shift, we were both wet, cold and tired because we couldn't sit anywhere. I ended up wrapping the boy in a towel another parent gave me because the kid was trembling so much, and I actually held the boy in my arms when he couldn't bear it anymore. I swear that kid was about to faint from the cold and I was already mentally preparing my first-aid skills and a no-shame barrier to run to the nearest hospital in my swimsuit.50 minutes.An hour.It was getting darker and the cold-air began to strike u

They got the RNG to lead the jump and as such should get the right to lead you to the location unless they relinquish the role. Got called trash in ranked because as the jump master I didn't want to go to the hotdrop. My two other teammates who were in a party together, not game chat solo jumped to it without me and died within the first 2 or 3 minutes. I got top 5 squads and they were mad at me because I didn't come with them.

This has happened to me a few times playing this game. Am I just supposed to accept a new landing location because someone in my squad who isn't jump master has big dick energy?

Edit: to be clear, the incident inspiring this post; it was a ranked game. I did ping that I wanted to land in lava city. They solo jumped together to thermal station after I had pinged my location and were dropping backwards to get to it, meaning there were teams there well before them, so they would most likely die anyway. Seeing that I would be going solo I looked for places where no one was and ended up dropping in Dome and placing top 5 after my teammates left.

Just had a customer who had done a software update and when asked what options he had, he could choose from: Our Network Other UK Network Enter Settings Manually And he chose "Other Network", and then called us to say why he had done and that this had caused his internet not to work. No shit Sherlock you selected the wrong network settings, know you have and then called us to explain that you had.

He then got upset when I kindly told him he can either factory reset his phone so the phone asks him that question again, or he can plug it into iTunes and do a "Carrier Network Setting Check" to update it again with our settings.

He told me he is unwilling to do either of those as he's done enough and then told me until we fix his mistake he's going to sue us, and just started to say "You'll hear from my lawyer!" Over and over again.

If a customer says the word lawyer more than three times the call recording automatically goes to our legal team who have to review the call and send him correspondence. He then got annoyed when I gave him the address to give to a lawyer to send any correspondence, said he would receive correspondence from us and said we can't take it any further or speak to him about this matter until the lawyers have sorted it out if he's going to sue us.

He's just made it 100% worse for himself now as he will get a letter from our legal team after the listen to the call advising no laws were broken and he caused the issue himself, and we will be unable to help him any further on the matter as the pop-up is not controlled by us, it's an Apple feature to make sure you get the right carrier settings. He'll have to wait 3-5 business days for this and until he had received that letter we will be unable to do anything over the phone except read him a script:

"I'm sorry an issue on your account is currently with our legal team and you will get correspondence from them within 5 working days. We cannot discuss this account until you have received the correspondence." And then we can either end the call on him after reading him that, or give general advice around our networks products but not access his account.

Sorry for format, I'm on mobile.

TL;DR: customer gets annoyed because networks have different internet settings, threatens to sue us and ends up locking his account down for 3-5 business days.

That would help to not be scared about buying a game with the sole intention of playing it in GFN and being scared of getting the removed shortly after.

If you really don't have any idea how long you'd be able to support a game then at least you could say something like "we can guarantee that this game will be supported till....... but we need to renegotiate a deal with the publisher after that date"

Honestly the amount of shit posts I see about people blaming their teammates for not being able to rank up is ridiculous. Unless you are pre-matching with the same terrible squad and losing every match, random queuing is NOT the reason why you can't advance ranks, its your own performance bro.

I solo rank most of the time, and, sure, it seems like half my games I’m stuck with some shitty teammates. But the fact is, even in early master tier (M1-3), when you lose a match as the MVP, or even just with a decent KD, you'll only lose 10-15 pts at most. I took a few screenshots of my own losses in Masters, all of them with <1.5 KD but above 1 and all were less than -10pts loss. When you win you gain around 30-40pts in early Masters and usually 50+ in Pro and below. That's more than fair.

When I got to M2 I had 75% WR with 98 total matches but even if you solo queue and win about half, you should still be able to rank up easily. Esp at this point in the season when all the sweatier players are high M or legendary. To be blunt, if you're losing just as many points as you earn in elite/pro, then maybe that's your skill cap, or you can start looking for a squad to get carried.

So theres absolutely no excuse why you can't pull your own weight and play with a consistent KD to minimize your point loss. If you can't be the one to occasionally carry those matches where your teammates are struggling, then maybe ranked isn't for you. Everyone has to once in a while, even in the streams with leaderboard matches.

Stay safe.

We often say that the "best ones" are leaving. Meaning that those who leave are not just lazy or fed up with the rules.

When I hear TBMs talk about the issues today, it is sometimes in a very casual "didnt you know?" way.

According to some, it seems like there is no real problem with this or that. They sound like they knew all along (nobody never hid anything!) or that it isn't a big deal. Or at least it shouldn't be. So why is it for me then?

So let me ask you all on this sub: is it my fault for believing in the narrative presented in church? Is it my fault to not investigate because I'm assuming the church will be transparent enough? Is it my fault for striving to obey to the letter of the law, going the extra mile, or feeling guilty of my imperfection?

It seems that faithful members are sometimes so casual with things, and make you feel like YOU are the one who were too black/white, and that if only you were more nuanced, you wouldn't be so surprised to learn about this and that. But again, isn't that the very church's message and teachings all along?

I predict comments will say "you're not really asking, you just want confirmation that you're smart and that others missed the point", but I do indeed ask you.

Because you know what? I feel like I'm being treated like a fool, you know, for doing/thinking/believing what I was supposed to. But it seems now that I somehow was too hardcore, too innocent or too extreme in my way to view and practise Mormonism.

Not all faithful members who know the issues act that way, but it seems like the most "faithful" and those who "know" found some kind of shield against their own doubts and use the "no big deal/it's your fault that you took it too seriously-litterally" to protect them from our doubts.

Anyway. I'd love to hear any feedback. Obviously I'm ranting a little, but I still would like to know if it is (and how is it) my fault for believing something that apparently some consider obvious I shouldn't have believed, or at least that I shouldn't be upset if the narrative changes.

Edit: just so you know, I wasnt totally innocent. I actually knew about some stuff, but not to a full degree, or at least I've got new perspectives now:

• polygamy (including teens but no sex)
• Book of Abraham
• some of the BoM issues
• trouble with scriptures vs science

So even if I missed many issues, I was already nuanced in some of my views.

Tl;dr player doesn't use their imagination and complains everything in-game is useless and im not motivating their character properly.

So i've been DM'ing for about 6-8 months now, and I feel i've got a pretty good handle on it, sure ill have a rule slip here and there but then again who doesn't.

What im still not used to though, is how to deal with a Player who expects you to handhold them through everything.

So the first problem is OOC, this player, lets call them J is new to the game, its their second session every so understandably they go "im not sure what to do or buy in game."

Me: Okay, so feel free to ask me what items you want, for example say your looking for healing items, and ill mention shops that sell spell scrolls or healing potions, or if you ask me for weapons, ill direct you to a blacksmith and then start listing the types of weapons they have.

J: yeah, but how do i know what to ask for?

Me: well....ask for anything you can think of and i'll tell you if it exists in the town or not

J: Nah why don't you just do what RPG's do and give me a list of every item a shop has.

Me: one, it doesn't really make sense for a NPC to list every single item in their shop to you, like imagine if someone walked into your bedroom and asked you to list every single item you own, you wouldn't really do it, you'd just generally state what you have and go into more detail depending on what else they ask.And two, making a list of items for EVERY NPC shop is A LOT of work, i already spend hours during the week making maps and characters and backstory for everyone and quests that will hopefully hook you guys...i don't want to spend hours making inventory lists for say 8-12 shops when you might not even visit a single one of them.

J: Yeah but how can i ask for items if i don't even know what to ask for, we need rules!

...and it keeps continuing like this untill i finally tell him if he's having such trouble thinking of items just look through the DnD item list and find any items that interest him, then ask my NPC's if they have it.

The second, and bigger problem is his Chaotic "Neutral" Personality.

So for some simple backstory the party im Dm'ing for have just come to a city that is being raided by duergar, who have recently escalated their threats and threaten to overrun the city, the second in command of the guard offers to siphon some of the guards wages if they will deal with this problem for the town, as she fears the town guard aren't a strong

One of my greatest revelations is that if there was a parallel universe where a different sperm had met the egg, and some other girl lived as "me", then most likely she would get the same narc upbringing... which means

• it's not me, my genes, my body, the person that I am that is the problem
• they want to be that way with a daughter
• they like saying those hurtful things
• it's not personal. It's just narcs being themselves.
• whatever you do, they're who they are
• it's not your fault; it's not even about *you*!

Okay so firstly I’m still kinda new to serving (been in restaurants for 3 years, but only been serving for 1) so I might have been able to handle this better. But it got me fuming.

I had a huge party yesterday, and they tipped and treated me like crap, and left with a few of their credit card slips so I had to 0 them out, so I was kinda burned out on parties today. Got sat a 12 that turned into a 16. That’s fine.

They’re at 3 different tables, 2 for adults and one big one for the ‘kids’ ranging from anywhere between it seemed 15-20. One of the adult tables tells me when I ask that their whole table will be on one ticket, and I say great. As I’m asking the kids who will be paying for them or who might be paying for themselves, one of them, maybe 19 or 20, says he’ll be with his mom, who’s sitting at the table that will all be on one check. I say great!

The service actually goes pretty smoothly, they’re polite, and understanding when the kitchen takes a minute because we got slammed. After desert, a few of them, including the mom and her son, get up and leave as I’m handing out the checks.

Lady from the table who’s all on one check comes up and says: hi, I’m sorry, but I didn’t order these chicken tenders.

Me: oh yes, one of the gentlemen from that table said that he was going to be part of your bill.

Lady: um well IM the one paying so you really should’ve asked me. Who was it?

Me: uhh... the kid in the black jacket? I’m pretty sure he just left.

Lady: well, you really should’ve asked me. I’m the one paying, I even told you that (she didn’t), this is unprofessional.

That table ended up stiffing me, and that entire table glared daggers in my direction until they all got up and left. The rest tipped okay, but not enough to make up for a stiff on a $70 tab.

I’m so done with big parties honestly. I’ll make sure to be asking who’s paying and confirming who’s on their ticket from now on. But honestly, if you can’t communicate with your party, I don’t think I should be the one getting yelled at at the server station. And with how quick the guy was to get up and leave, I kinda wonder if he knew that it wouldn’t go over well. He had seemed kinda dodgy when saying who’s check he’d be apart of earlier.

So, STOP yelling at them and comfort them, asshole!

I work in retail, or I've been shopping retail, and a few times now, I've found a lost kid. They're always very busy LOOKING for you. They're not panicked to full-blown tears yet, because that would hamper their vision, and they very much WANT to find you! So, I take their hand; walk them to the cashier's station, while I tell them, "It's okay, we'll find your mom (or dad) , the lady will call them and they'll find you." I'll talk to the child while we wait, to keep them calm and they may whimper or cry a little but they're still scanning the crowd, searching for you. Then, what always happens is: Mom or Dad shows up and they always growl, "Where WERE you!???
"What's wrong with you!??? Don't DO that!"

Now, the child crys helplessly. They thought mommy would be happy to see them.
Now, all the trauma of the seperation hits them, even harder because it isn't a joyful reunion; all the adult responsibilty is dumped on them like a ton of bricks, and they might as well slapped the kid. Shoot, sometimes they do! Trust me, your child was doing his best to find you again; so why the HELL are you punishing them!?

Getting a bit bothered with all these threads/posts hating on the game when the game gives you so many f2p pearls and 4 on a daily basis. If you spend your pearls too often, it's your own fault, not the game or the developers. If they gave you ample pearls for every banner that would defeat the purpose of the monetization scheme of the game. If you want to get good stuff, save. It's a gacha game. Don't spend like a dummy and expect to come out on top. If you've already beaten every mission, acknowledge that your income is going to slow down and be smart. If you're new, it'll take time, but there's literally thousands of free pearls for you to get. /rant

I'm not against going to College and University of you have a sure fire plan. However I've seen loads of people go to university for years and came out in a job that not only pay less but not even in the field you want. I'm not without fault, I went to a community college and rack up quite a bit of debt myself and I own up to it. However, I just went for a AA degree and got a trade that pays more then my original majors.

This goes without saying, if you go to school with no plan and just going for the sake of going then you're student debt is your fault and yours alone. Life is like a game of chance and can be unpredictable but you need to be smart and do research. Look up your major, talk to people within your field, and ALWAYS CHECK THE JOB MARKET. I couldn't believe how many people I've seen have a major in philosophy and end up working in a coffee shop.

I hope this doesn't comes off as condescending but I always recommend people get a good trade because you Actually get hands on experience and a job pool of endless opportunity for jobs.

I’m married to someone who is also plagued by insecurities, much like many of you. His stem from neglect, abuse, and abandonment.

He has been cheating on me since the very beginning, however, I didn’t know until 17 years into the relationship, 15 married.

What I’ve learnt since DDay 4+ years ago, is that it doesn’t matter how much or hard you love them, you will NEVER be enough. No single person can be.

Imagine a full to the brim glass of oil. You can pour a whole gallon of water into that glass but it’s so full of content already that whatever you pour in mostly just pours over and back out.

That’s what it’s like to be married to someone like this. It doesn’t matter what you do, the insecurities, anxieties and eventually guilt, fill them up and they want so badly to replace them with validations and attention from EVERYONE but it just doesn’t work.

You may have gallons of love to fill that glass, but you just can’t. And they’re going to mad at YOU because you can’t, even though it’s not your fault.

THEY have to empty their glass first. You can’t do it for them.

Unfortunately the temptation for validation is so intense, because, for a lack of a better word, they’re so so SO thirsty.

You can’t really reconcile with a person like this unless they sort through why they are the way they are, and heal from things that happened before you even came in the picture.

Then they have to recognize and the understand the pain they caused you. Which will cause the insecurities and anxiety and guilt to fill that glass up again. So, they’ll have to redo the healing process, and emptying those negative emotions.

And then they’ll have to forgive you for not being enough, which doesn’t seem logical, but that’s how they feel.

After that, they’ll need to make their amends, and ask for forgiveness and take an enormous risk with trying to reconcile with you, which will of course cause anxiety and insecurity.

Plus there’s a whole lot of life stuff that happens in a marriage that needs healing and attention too.

This cycle is why reconciliation takes YEARS and most often never works out if there’s a history of betrayal.

You can forgive them, and want to make the relationship work all you want, but the reality is is that everything is up to them. They have to do the work in order to heal, and it’s quiet possible that they’ll never be able to work through it with you because in spite of all the things they’ve done to you, they can’t over come the anxie

Doesn’t mean that your continued rude behavior isn’t super inappropriate. 😡😡😡

I just got off a call (a few minutes ago) after being on the line for 27 minutes repeating the same thing over and over to people who didn’t seem to have the capacity to hold two different thoughts in their brain without getting confused.

They a simple billing issue, happens all the time when people move into a new place and give the wrong address for their utility service. It will auto-close the previous account (which issues a final bill and notice) and usually the customer calls in and asks why they got it and our new service department fixes it for them.

These people decided that because of a computer error, that someone must have come out and crossed all their wiring, stolen their electricity, and that they would be double billed for it. The meters and the billing system are at least a few big steps removed from each other for exactly that reason, we can catch the errors and fix them easily.

I won’t go into the details cuz I’m currently pretending to poop to give myself a break but it ended with me finally transferring her away while she vowed that the next agent she spoke to would be sending a tech out to her and she wouldn’t wait like I suggested. I almost feel bad for her since the other department isn’t able to schedule techs for anything and she’ll just have to get transferred back to our incredibly busy queue to wait an hour or more for help with a non-existent problem.

and then through the use of medications and therapy, these methods try and readjust your mind to function in the dysfunction.

Just delivered the wrong order to a customer because the resteraunt handed me someone else's food. The customer was understanding and I was already halfway across town so no harm done...except for the resteraunt then telling me to take the food back to them. I'm already halfway across the city. It is no longer my issue as I see it.