First, Iโm not some tough guy wanting to get into hostile situations, as I hate violence. I have a family here and its not what I want to teach them. I donโt want violence to be the first reaction either to a bad situation.
That said, I donโt know how the law treats cases regarding self defense, primarily in obvious situations, not some street argument. Iโve heard some horror stories, but can never really trust them, not to mention how arbitrary laws are appliedโespecially when there is a foreigner to dump blame on.
Does anyone legit know how the laws work and function on this, in reality, not just on paper?
I edit to explain, I'm expecting a boy (I have a girl) and that's why I thought they would help me plan the baby shower, also my husband and I paid for the first one, I don't want them to pay it for me I just wanted them to help me plan it like they do with all the women in the family even when they don't pay for the baby shower (and at my first baby shower I didn't ask for gifts, I just wanted to celebrate my baby and that's exactly what I want to do now)
In my (f24) family there is a new tradition and it is to plan a babyshower for the pregnant women in the family, and this time it was my sister in law's (f37) turn, and they spent a lot of money on decorations, food, and gifts like she was a queen, which I don't care at all, but it hurts and it hurts because when I was helping decorating some things I said something like that to my baby shower I wanted exactly the same flowers because I really liked them, and my sister (f36) told me that I already had a baby shower this year that that should be enough, that there won't be another baby shower for me until I know what birth control is. She said that because I got pregnant again when my daughter was only one month old (she's six months old now and I'm in my fifth month) and it was not planned as my first pregnancy, but my husband (m27) and I love this baby the same way.
And that hurt because ever since I got pregnant (the second time) they tell me all the time how dumb I am or how much I will regret this in the future, and whenever they say those things I just ignore them or I just laugh, and I did the same this time, I just laughed and pretended that I didn't care at all. I did that because I honestly thought they were just kidding and they weren't serious, but the other day my husband asked me (in front of my family) if he should tell his mom to come for the baby shower, she lives like 14 hours away but she adores our babies and loves to help with everything that has to do with them. For my daughter's baby shower she helped a lot, so he wanted to know the date so he could tell his mom, but my mom said that this time it was my sister in law's turn and that I was not going to die for not having a baby shower, and that day i couldn't help it and i cried because i thought i was as important as her to them, and they apologized and said they would try to plan another one for me but i told them i was fine and again i pretended i didn't care.
And if that had been all I would have attended, but later my broth
... keep reading on reddit โกThe equivalent of the above in the USA has been making news for ages. They voted to pass a law to stop it but it didn't pass. I was wondering what situation applied to Aus if anyone knows?
eg: rezoning land, buying it up before it is publicly known to be rezoned.
Edit: I see it is illegal. This is sort of the case in the USA I'm talking about https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TdYqE60-8E8
I wonder if Jeremy regrets trying to become famous by marrying a Duggar given all of the issues that have since come to light. He looks tired in his recent instagram posts.
Whole family all tested positive on the 19th December. Apparently they all did antigen tests and they are negative, so now they feel they can spend all day at a do drinking and eating with and elderly relative and a new baby.
Needless to say I left straight away, and I'm sure they are all talking about me now..
Am I in the wrong?
I have a childhood friend โEllaโ who was engaged to my brother-in-law. The engagement recently ended after my in-laws made it clear that they would never welcome her into the family and if my brother-in-law married her, he would be disowned and cut off. He chose to end their relationship instead.
Ella is understandably devastated and has been begging me to do something to help the situation. The truth is, though, I think this is a blessing in disguise because my in-laws wouldโve destroyed her and changed everything about her the same way they did to me, if she had married my brother-in-law. Ella has been pressuring me more and more to do or say something to them, even though she knows I have very little sway on any of them.
A few days ago, we were having the same conversation again. Iโve tried to be patient and understanding since I know sheโs hurting but my patience ran out and I told her it was for the best that they didnโt want to welcome her into the family, I told her she never wouldโve fit in and that a few years into the marriage she wouldnโt even recognise herself anymore. I told her that if they had barely tolerated me even though they knew and were good friends of my dad, they would never in a million years accept someone like her.
Ella called me a snobby bitch and said I was worse than I claimed my in-laws were since I pretended to be her friend while looking down on her and has been ignoring me since.
AITA?
Any advice or guidance would be extremely helpful. My wife's mother keeps harrasing my wife via phones calls and emails threating to kill herself and blaming my wife for ruining her life(which she has not done in any way shape or form) she keeps saying she's going to destroy our lives and try and get custody rights to our child who is 2 and she only met him when he was born. I tried getting her email blocked but it just goes to junk folder and then she creates a new email, constant phone calls from different numbers, Many attempts at getting into my wife's email via password changing. Is there any sold of peacebond or restraining order we can get? We are in Ontario and mother in law is in New Foundland. We tried contacting our local police and they were just rude and basically said just deal with it. Any help or guidance in this situation would be greatly appreciated.
my in-laws are MN, not JN. They trigger me sometimes. They often loudly and blatantly organize a family photo of my children with DH, FIL, SIL etc but exclude me. They did it again yesterday for my sons birthday. They are all in the group shot except me. His mom.
DH says itโs their habit since so many in that family are divorced.
I feel like I am the childrenโs mother and I should be in the photo. I married into this family 5 years ago and have been with DH for 13 years. It hurts.
Plus it irritates the hell out of me how SIL seems to try to step in and fill the mom shoes and just in general overstep the boundaries of being an aunt.
History: SIL has always been possessive of things that arenโt hers and though she and I are close in age, I hit many milestones before her. (Eg LTR, wedding, first dog, first home, first kids). SIL poses with DH for photos like heโs her bf. When we got our dog, she made OUR dog her Home Screen photo and was obsessed with him. Now she does things with and for my kids like theyโre hers. Sheโs single and childless, not by choice. I try to be empathetic but I feel like sometimes she likes to live in this fantasy where Iโm erased and her family helps her do thst because they feel bad that she doesnโt have a partner or kids.
Mostly just a rant, so thank you for reading!
The level of emotion is usually high, so I try to make sure our clients feel heard and understood. But when I get a new potential client coming at me with waves of blatant emotional manipulation to try to get us to pity take their case, I just can't help but like them a little less. This is a huge red flag for me in clients.
Just for example, I had a PC try to schedule a paid consultation with us four different times, only to not follow through with the tasks we needed from them to confirm their appointments. (Payment and filling out the intake form.) A month after we declined to continue to offer them appointments, I get a random email saying "how disappointing it is" we wouldn't work with them, and how hard it is to get divorced because no one will help them.
Tl/dr: emotional manipulation should be just as much of a red flag as someone who shouts/curses at you.
I am by no means a lawyer or knowledgeable in legal matters. But I was looking at my states laws for inheritance when no will is in place and there is a step child/blended family. To my understanding from various state based websites, if my DH were to pass away with no will in place then our community property (our house) would be split between me and my young stepchild (so BM??). Whereas if we only had biological children the house would only be mine and not split between children. This was obviously a super distressing thought and we have set up an appointment with a lawyer to clarify and to create a will. I encourage everyone to look into their states laws and get a will created!!
UK family law specialist here. I'm not a solicitor - I'm what the courts call a `McKenzie Friend' (although I seldom use that phrase because you either know what that is or it means nothing at all to you). I help people in English and Welsh courts (Scotland and Northern Ireland are separate jurisdictions with different legal systems).
I've worked in family law for 15 years now and see the same slip ups happening time and again. Some of them are biggies and can cost you time, money and grief. Others may just irritate you.
These points are specific to England and Wales (although some of them are relevant to most places). Many people in the UK seem to base their views of the legal system of the US (I love `Better Call Saul') but it's not relevant here. Stuff like `continuances', `sustaining motions' and shouting `objection' doesn't work in our courts. There's no such thing as `custody'. Maintenance is dealt with by an agency outside the court system (the Child Maintenance Service - the CMS), it's not backdated and it's calculated based on actual earnings, not expected. Also, spousal maintenance (`alimony' is extremely rare these days - the courts much prefer clean breaks).
For example.
Anyway...if you're in England or Wales - I'm looking at you here!
- You have a right to see your children. Incorrect. There is a presumption in law that a childโs best interests are served by parental relationships (unless the contrary is shown). But mothers and fathers have no rights.
- You have a right to know where your children live. Not true. Many courts acknowledge itโs reasonable for a parent to know this but the law is silent on the matter.
- Behaviour is a factor the court will consider when it comes to dividing assets. Untrue (sort of). Itโ listed in Section 25 of the Matrimonial Causes Act but will only be considered if it would be `inequitable not to do so'. Generally speaking though - slating your ex won't make a huge difference but it doesn't stop people trying.
- You canโt get divorced if you canโt find your ex-spouse or they refuse to engage in the process. Oh yes you can. Itโs almost like the court has experience in dealing with people who are being awkward!
- You can change your childrenโs name by deed poll. You can get a certificate but it has very limited legal standing. A legal name change happens only when everyone who has PR for them agreesโฆor the court orders it. `Known asโ names have no legal wei
Weird, I spent years in Japan and never thought of it. Is a couple legally married? In Canada, a couple living in a common-law marriage are not considered married under Canadian law. However, when their relationship ends, many of their rights are the same as for people in a regular marriage. How does it work in Japan?
A police person who inserts stick in private part or torture people to death in custody, will have tough time living in same colony where his victims live.
A police person who extorts money searching for ganja in WhatsApp chat will also have tough time
A police person who does not register FIR for theft/molestation/kidnapping will also be looked down upon.
Please let me know, if there is any loophole in this idea, which will not work.
Hello! Iโve been doing some online research, but have been having trouble finding some clear answers for NC specifically. If anyone knows anything about family law in North Carolina, Iโd appreciate some insight.
My wife (31F) and I (28F) are hoping to conceive in the next year via IUI. I will be carrying all of our future children. From what I have seen from others, there are states where second parents do not need to adopt the child if they are present at birth and sign the birth certificate. Does anyone know if this is the case in NC?
To be clear, my question is: if my wife (who is not carrying our child) is present and signs our childโs birth certificate in the state of NC, does that grant her legal rights to our child, or will she still need to go through the adoption process?
I appreciate any insight you can give. The Google-machine has not been very helpful for NC specifically. Thanks!
We're all sitting around my wife's family's house and her, my sister in law, and her mother begin talking about Dr's bills, and how it's ridiculous the Dr didn't tell her how much a procedure was going to be. She eventually complains she doesn't have the money because she's not working (her choice, her business was shut down briefly during the lockdowns and when she had the option to open back up she chose not to because she didn't feel like working anymore.)
They kept talking a bit longer and my father in law pipes up about medical insurance and makes a joke at her expense. And she finally snaps, having a complete meltdown, asking why we would do that to her because of her anxiety, dropping everything from simple curses, to "fucking retard," etc. Anything you can think of really.
Now, I don't have a problem with the rant, I'm certainly not going to claim my language is always clean. The problem is my two year old daughter was at the house with us, and she's already picked up a few bad words, and I have an autistic sister that lives at my parents. (Wife and I are both guilty of dropping the occasional shit or fuck, though we try to watch our language.) So, mid tantrum, her husband told her to chill, trying to handle things quickly, and in his exact words, "watch your mouth." She proceeded to say "I don't fucking care" and kept going.
At that point I'd had enough, I don't need my little one running around calling her aunt a retard sometime in the future, and just in general she doesn't need to be hearing all that. So I got up and told her enough, I don't need my daughter hearing all of this shit. Yes it was hypocritical I know, but in the heat of the moment it slipped out, given what she'd heard to that point I figured it was a minor detail. And then I told that someone was leaving, either her or us. No one will ever accuse me of being tactful or sympathetic.
Turns out she and her husband left, though we only stayed about a half hour later. While they were getting ready to leave, she starts muttering under her breath about how I need to watch what I say at home, and something else I couldn't hear. It took all I had to not totally come unglued, but out of respect for her husband I didn't.
She obviously didn't say anything to me when she left, but even her husband shook my hand and gave my daughter high fives when he was getting ready to leave, and the rest of my wife's family all still seemed on speaking terms with me when we eventually left. My wife
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I think it's time you discuss these topics on H3 once again. How they are planning to fix this amongst other stuff where evil harmful beings get away with such messed up stuff on an APP that was built for KIDS!!!!
Iโm gonna slip him a box of ammo, but canโt wrap and give him something like that in front of the family without massive flak. Any suggestions?
