Wedding superstitions Puns

This is typically a Latin superstition, but I LOVE pearls and really wanted them to be my statement jewelry/accessories. Do you think it’ll bring tears of sadness as the folk tale says? Did you wear any on your big day (or plan to)?

Edit: the folk tale means tears of sadness throughout your marriage, not your wedding day! Sorry for not clarifying

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Hello there,

I'm new here, and I hope this is the right place.

I've been reading up on Japanese wedding traditions (not planning to, just trying to learn), and superstition and numerology/rokuyo. (If you ever need a rokuyo calculator that covers the next 80 years, I found one)

I've wondered about san-san-kudo and the number of parties involved.

This site claims

>-The “san-san-kudo” ritual is performed by the bride and the groom and both sets of parents. Each person takes three sips of saké from each of three cups. The first three sips represent the three couples (the bride and groom and both sets of parents). The second three sips represent three human flaws:  hatred, passion, and ignorance. The third three sips represent deliverance (“do”) from the three flaws.

… and I've found that more or less echoed about various other sources. (According to my information, the literal translation is something of "three, three, nine".)

So, my questions:

1. Does it matter how many people/couples are drinking? (I read that the nakoudo also drinks if they're present — that would make it four parties, wouldn't that be bad? Or is it somehow cancelled out?)
2. What would you do if one set of parents is not available? Would you
   1. ignore it and proceed as you were
   2. have someone else standing in
      1. … a priest?
      2. you hire someone? (a nakoudo?)
      3. you ask a friend/guest? What if you don't have any?

Thank you in advance for the answers :)

I’ve heard of some of the popular superstitions (rain on your wedding day is good luck, the groom seeing the bride’s dress before the wedding day is bad luck, having pearls at your wedding is bad luck) but what are some that you’ve heard of that you believe in?

There are many couples who wonder about the traditions, protocol and superstitions around a wedding. Through this article we are going to shed some light on these issues. Although they are popular questions in our society, their meaning is sometimes confused or their origin is completely ignored.

Most of us have heard and many brides follow the saying, “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue” but my dad pointed out to me that the rhyme continues with, “and a silver sixpence in her shoe” and found a historic silver sixpence for me to attach to my shoe. I’m also keeping my dress out of sight from my Fiancé until the day, and we’re spending the night before apart, so he doesn’t see me before the wedding.

Whether or not you believe in them (or agree with their origins), some of the superstitions and old-wives tales are fun to learn about and put into practice, so which ones are you embracing for your wedding?

Share naman kayo dyan ng alam nyong mga tradisyon at superstition tungkol sa kasal. Lalo na yung sa iba-ibang lugar sa ating bansa, naniniwala man kayo o hindi, sinusunod man sa inyo o hindi.

Simulan ko:

1. Sukob
2. Yung may isusuot dapat yung bride na "something old, something new, something borrowed"
3. Bawal daw makita ni groom ang bride bago yung mismong ceremony
4. Yung usually dapat daw sa lugar ng babae gaganapin yung kasal (pero uso na rin naman ang destination weddings eh)
5. Sa Mindoro, uso yung money dance saka yung "nagbebenta" ng suman or kakanin yung newlyweds sa mga bisita nila, pang-raise ng funds
6. Sa Batangas naman ay pa-bonggahan ang labanan. Bongga ang dulot ng mga ikakasal, mga tipong isang leg ng baboy plus mga rekado at mga prutas pa sa mga kukunin nilang ninong at ninang, at ang mga ninong at ninang naman ay pataasan yung bigay nila kasi ina-announce yata yun during the reception.

Hello r/Philippines!

It's the month for weddings once more.

I'd like to hear your stories about your wedding superstitions and spooky/supernatural stories/experiences(Hello, Sukob!).

I look forward to them!

I'm in the early stages of planning but I've already picked a bunch of different things I'm not doing at all or changing. I won't be having any wording like "who gives the bride away" or anything similar, I won't be using the usual Here Comes The Bride to walk down the aisle, no Save The Dates instead I'm going make a social media post then send out invites once our venue is locked down, I'm wearing a black dress instead of white, no father daughter dance, no something borrowed something blue etc, no guest favors at the wedding, no unity ceremony, I will see my groom before the ceremony but not after I've put my dress on, and since I have pretty awful social anxiety I'm going to try to get away with not having any wedding showers or a bachelorette party and just ask guests to bring their gifts to the wedding itself. Should I consider keeping some of these traditions? What are you keeping or ditching and why? I'm always interested in seeing how people personalize their weddings.

Is there a Polish superstition about being stood up at the altar three times in a row? If so, can someone tell me more about it? I'm trying to understand a family myth about two ancestors a few generations back, both from Poland. Supposedly, on two separate occasions, the bride had the a groom not appear at the wedding. Her parents arranged for a third man to migrate to the US from Poland to marry her and was somehow guaranteed not to stand her up. Apart from being terribly sad and hurtful, the story states that there were some sort of cultural consequences to the bride if she was jilted at the altar three times. However, the story is not specific about what the consequences were. All I know is they took some extreme measures to prevent the consequences of the third failed marriage attempt. Thank you in advance.

Today my Polish boss told me that wearing open toe shoes on your wedding day is a sure sign of a bad marriage to come. She also said that Polish people won't get married in November either? I had never even heard of those ones before! I always love hearing about different superstitions and beliefs so please share!

I'm with the man I want and intend to marry. We've talked about getting married for years and have made a million future plans together. I'm looking at these super gorgeous, mega massive wedding ring shawls/veils and I want to make one for my eventual wedding. We just aren't engaged yet.

So - I was wondering if starting it this fall, giving myself ample time to work on it, (let's be honest, years), and taking it slow, would break any superstitions, old wives tales, or juju.

If so, when is the appropriate time to start one!? I feel like I'd never finish something this massive even with a year or so long engagement!

Thanks guys!

Quick question to reddit brides.

What is your Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed and Something Blue for your big day?

I'll go first :)

Something old: a heart shaped necklace my FH gave me on my birthday back in 2008. Something new: my dress ♡ Something borrowed: maybe mom's earrings idk yet. Something blue: bottom layer of hair

I'm reposting this from my /r/weddingplanning post.

My fiance and I are both Chinese. My wedding is set next year. Unfortunately, my grandmother died (at 83 yrs. old). My relatives are telling me that I need to get married within 100 days, or after 1,000 days (3 years).

They are telling me that something bad will happen to my future children. My fiance and I don't really believe in any of this. We still want to get married next year, but we are so pressured. I told my relatives that it's okay with me to get all the bad luck (because I don't believe in luck anyway). They seem pissed.

Getting married within 100 days feels rushed. On the other hand, waiting 3 years, seems too long. Other people might die during that time, and if we follow the superstition, we may never get married. For me, it seems like the it's more bad luck if you actually follow the superstition.

Any one experience something similar? What was your result when you went against your relatives?

I always love hearing what others are doing for their weddings. There are so many superstitions out there when it comes to weddings. What are some that you know of that you aren't following?

Me? Well we are seeing each other before the wedding (and walking down the aisle together). I also just learned that wearing a pearl necklace leads to tears in the relationship- welp I'm not changing my hand me down pearl necklace for something else.

Sounds like "horsepucky" as my mom would say.. I don't think giving them $100 or $150 would be horribly offensive to their culture - but I thought I'd ask here just to make sure.

Anyone who has planned a wedding, knows how many details there are to worry about. Taste testing, flowers, colors, venue, chair covers, endless tasks. But the one that could be the longest? Dress shopping. Sitting on uncomfortable chair all day, judging dresses.

But, thanks to the superstition, grooms legitimate excuse to get out of it. I don't think it's a superstition, just some brilliant guy long ago that told his bride to be that it's bad luck for the marriage.

It’s that time of year again. In fact, most Jehovah’s Witnesses have been busily cringing for a couple of months now. You can call us grinches or whatever, but the fact of the matter is that every time we go to the store, turn on the radio, or drive down the street... we’re pelted into submission until it’s all we can do to shut our eyes, stuff our ears, and hum song number 23 or whatever. It’s frick’n Christmas again and most of us Witnesses can’t bloody stand it. Good thing it’s almost over, right? I wouldn’t be surprised if others shared the sentiment, but I bet not all care for the same reasons. This thought leads down an interesting road.

Why do we steer so far clear of it we fail to even realize that our problem with Christmas isn’t Christmas itself... It’s us? I know that doesn’t make a lick of sense, but hear me out. We say, “Christmas is a pagan holiday, and so we’ll have nothing to do with it.” but we conveniently forget that everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, is a pagan something. People in the know say, “Well, we have to have a balanced life, and so we can’t avoid EVERYTHING.”

Why not, I ask? If we are to be no part of the world, and everything in this world has pagan origins, why not avoid it all? Is ignorance of the law excuse for breaking it?

So then… We ignore the things that are inconvenient because they make our lives easier. We’ll buy a Starbucks knowing full well the symbolism behind that company’s logo, or a drink Monster energy drink knowing that the Hebrew form of 666 is pasted right on the can. We’ll make excuses and allowances for the things that matter to us, because they matter to us and no one else cares. Why should they? God doesn’t care about a number on a can or a mythical creature, does he? What about all the other things? Chocolate for one: first domesticated and cultivated by man as part of a worship ceremony to false gods, employed by the same people that ripped beating hearts out of still living victims. They even used the Chocolate seeds as currency for sex in that culture. The wedding cake stems from a worship ritual of a Greek goddess. Until today, you probably never knew that building snowmen was once a pagan ritual used to bring pleasant weather from sky nymphs in Russia or used to scare away Christians by the barbarians of sax-age Germany. No one looks at a friendly snowman with his scarf and his carrot saying, “God’s not gonna be happy about this”. Why not? Surely he knows what we used them for in the past. He

Do your worst!

It’s taken us 2 years and I found out yesterday on our wedding anniversary.. I feel like it’s all a dream and that I’m not actually pregnant and I’m worried it’s not real though lol..I’ve taken 4 tests, 3 had a faint blue line and one clearly said pregnant..I only just missed my period today. My question is how long do I truly need to wait to tell everyone because i suck at keeping secrets and with a secret this big I literally want to tell everyone especially because it’s taken so long. Do I have to wait the 12 weeks? Is that just superstition?

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The results of the first Secret Santa Event hosted by the HMS Harmony Discord and Facebook are finally in, with over a whopping seventy entries (fic and art)! Browse through the AO3 collection link or find them individually below:

All’s Fair in Love
Author: SazzyLJ, gifted to Zabethou
Summary: A newly reopened Hogwarts is running smoothly with the effective Head Girl/Boy Team of Hermione Granger and Harry Potter, but, with mere days before they all leave for Yule Holidays, the lovesick students of Hogwarts can get no private time with their favorite snogging partners. And really, how is it fair to treat of-age war veterans like normal upper year students?Maybe a few Weasley style pranks will help spark some compromise, or at least it will liven things up.
Rating: M
Status: Complete

A Boyfriend for the Ball
Author: DramioneDreaming, gifted to JohnBurtonLee
Summary: Hermione is desperate not to attend another Ministry function alone after a break up with Ron, but who will she take as a date for the New Years Eve Ball?
Rating: T
Status: Complete

brown eyes and biryani
Author: KingofTheFall, gifted to Ayulovan
Summary: “You know, if you wanted to tie me up, all you had to do was ask.”
Rating: M
Status: Complete

Appropriate Secret Chambers
Author: KielWhitehead24, gifted to polardefoxy
Summary: Based on the Prompt for the HMS Harmony Secret Santa: “Potters teach in Hogwarts and are found doing something inappropri

Pilot on me!!