I mean, I could donate all my money that would otherwise be spent/saved to charities or helping the suffering of others.
I could go out and take cyber security classes or join the police academy to protect people from cyber-crimes, sex trafficking, etc.
I accept that all of these difficult things exist…simply because they DO exist. But I don’t feel any true, intuitive push to do any of these things to help them; which is where the the motivation should come from, imo. Rather than be motivated by fear, doubt or guilt.
And that inactivity is infinite fodder for my pain body to latch on to and make my ego feel shameful and self-loathing. I even accept this process, though.
What my mind cannot understand is how to draw the line of what I can and cannot change.
Edit: The only thing that makes sense is that if I don’t feel an intuitive, deep guidance toward those things, then it is not meant to be. But sometimes this approach/perspective doesn’t satisfy.
It’s starting to really bother me the way Hollywood and other types of media outlets have spun alcohol into this romantic ideation. Everywhere you look, it’s Tall handsome men palming a Brew, big titted small waisted beautiful woman sipping a mixed drink in a bikini on a beach, smiles all around, and an overall general consequence free atmosphere. But in TINY MICROSCOPIC letters at the bottoms of ads, they have “please drink responsibly” and that’s enough of a horse shit statement to free these companies of any responsibility for all the damage and destruction they’ve been apart of. Why are we still allowing alcohol companies to fund movies to use as advertising/marketing platforms, to pay magazines for ad space, to sponsor music or any sort of events at all, knowing somebody who, chances are, drank at that event, could or might possibly kill themselves or others due to the drinking. How much research do we have to do on alcohol and how NEGATIVELY it effects our bodies, minds, and spiritual well being? How many crying parents do we have to have shoved in our faces and guilted with the death of their sons, daughters, husbands, fathers, nieces, nephews, grandparents etc etc? I know I can’t control the way the world is and I’m really just venting but being sober is making me aware of how bombarded we are with this idea that drinking makes you cool, sexy, edgy, mysterious, and all around more attractive as a person, when in reality it dumbs you down into a borderline mental case or a bottom of the ocean shit sucking worm of a human. This kind of frustration at the world and the unfairness is usually a trigger for me to drink, but it’s not today, it’s a reminder of how much of a sheep I was for so long, drinking cuz I thought it made me cooler or helped ease stress etc. I’m not advocating for harming anybody, but if some one or bodies should suffer alcohol poisoning or some alcohol related injury or death, it should be whoever is in charge of allowing all this false information and alcoholic ideaology to be presented to our societies. While I am a strong believer of individual freedom to do what you want with your body as long as you aren’t causing harm to anyone else but yourself, let me repeat that last part, CAUSING HARM TO ANYONE ELSE BUT YOURSELF, alcohol causes harm to EVERYONE INCLUDING YOURSELF, I kinda wish our government or maybe education system would grow a pair of balls/ovaries and do the right thing by ATLEAST not allowing false information o
... keep reading on reddit ➡Just wanted to share this because i read it in a OA book, "Seeking the Spiritual Path-A collection from Lifeline". It really spoke to me. "God, grant me the serenity to accept myself as I am and as I was, the courage to change in the way you wish me to, and the wisdom to allow you to do it. Amen."
Did anyone else find it odd that the priest was praying " God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change" Whilst trying to cheat death? Seems like something one needs the courage to accept
Cicero, has the right answer to life's things we can't change and the courage and wisdom to know what to do....
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Any feedback would be amazing !
Serenity Prayer
Hi, my name is Kerry, and I’m an addict. An alcoholic sometimes when I slip back into old habits. Too much of anything is unhealthy; I’ve never been good at balancing.
Addicted to toxicity, It’s so distracting; the focus is off me. Nothing seems real, And I love how that feels.
I find comfort in the hurting, My drug of choice is whatever is the most capturing. I find it simpler to be hypnotized by something out of my control, Because if I fail, at least the fault’s not really my own.
I’m asking for forgiveness, Working on accepting my own weakness, And most importantly acknowledging that it exists Can’t put into words for me how hard that is.
Taking responsibility for my decisions, Instead of just writing them off as addictions. The truth is, I’m making a choice when I’m indifferent, Falling deeper into holes of someone else’s digging.
There will always be things around me that I can’t change, But I’m learning that doesn’t have to mean accepting pain. Can’t control the wind, but I can choose the route I take Choppy waves can send you off course, but also propel you farther with the same wave
Anyway, thanks for listening, don’t come consistently But sometimes I still need an AA meeting
[S1 SPOILERS] On episode 5, after Riley is turned into a vampire, Pruitt convinces him to drink the blood by saying “this is one of the things that cannot be changed”
Which, of course, is a total perversion of the meaning of the prayer of serenity. The past is something you cannot change, not your actions in the future. It’s especially messed up since the blood symbolizes alcohol in this scene. It’s like going up to someone on AA and saying “drink this bottle, it’s going to happen no matter what, this is one of the things that cannot be changed”.
Pruitt was tricking himself into thinking the future was something he couldn’t change. Riley knew it wasn’t.
I like the meaning of the Serenity Prayer, which goes like this: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference". Since this prayer is written by a non Muslim, I am afraid that it might be a Bid'ah to use this exact prayer. So I am looking for any Dua or Islamic prayer which has a similar meaning.
Hey all, what are some creative or funny ways you know of regarding how to kick off the Serenity Prayer of Lord's Prayer?
I have heard "Who lives in the stars and keeps us out of bars?..... God, grant me...." and also "Who sees you naked in the shower and doesn't laugh?..... Our Father, who art in heaven....."
I'm sure Alec has a copy of it somewhere around.
I find myself, shall we say "outraged" lately, or at most extremely frustrated by things going on around me. Most are other people's actions, particularly administrators at work, and therefore things I cannot change.
Christians have the Serenity Prayer, that whole "God, give me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change..." Yada yada.
Can anyone recommend a Hellenistic equivalent? And who may be best to pray and give offerings to?
Sorry if this has been posted recently. I came across this online and really like it:
Serenity Prayer +
Grant me Patience with the changes that take time, Appreciation of those with different struggles, And the Strength to get up and try again. One day at a time.
Just curious as I have started saying the Serenity Prayer the way it is written on page 125 of the ‘Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions’.
God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, Courage to change the things we can, And wisdom to know the difference.
I love this one as in my recovery I have found that this is a program and fellowship of we, not me.
I have been in one group where they tried to change it in the Group Conscience, however, I do not believe this is the correct way about it as it is just forcing people to say something they may not be ready to accept.
Which version do you use? Do you see a difference between the version on pg. 41 in the 12&12/the original prayer? Why do you think Bill Wilson has two versions within the same book?
From the Director/Writer
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"And it came to me then. That we were wonderful travelling companions but in the end no more than lonely lumps of metal in their own separate orbits. From far off, they look like beautiful shooting stars, but in reality, they're nothing more than prisons, where each of us is locked up alone, going nowhere. When the orbits of these two satellites of ours happened to cross paths, we could be together. Maybe even open our hearts to each other. But that was only for the briefest moment. In the next instant, we'd be in absolute solitude. Until we burned up and became nothing."
I was in rehab in 2017 when I came across these words from Murakami's Sputnik Sweetheart. And it was around this time that I met Yash. His kindness and empathy shone brighter than the sun, bringing warmth and joy to everyone it touched. I can still hear his laughter every time I close my eyes.
This might be why I've yet to fully come to terms with his passing. I've accepted that his decision will never make sense to those of us who knew him best. We can only take comfort in knowing that he's no longer in pain.
Serenity Prayer is my meditation on the relationship between pain, suffering, mental health and addiction. It is written with the deep understanding that pain is inevitable, while suffering is optional.
Through this film, I hope to move the viewer to the point of action. I hope that this film forces you to pick up the phone; and remind your loved ones that their life matters.
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We work in an office setting with about 20 of us spread out among 4 rooms with cubicles. Covid-19 messed our organization up with only the core people coming in and the rest trying to work from home. The ones who stayed got resentful of the ones staying home doing shit for the same paycheck. now that we're all vaccinated and back in the office the mood is bad. I've had a drinking problem for a while now, most of them kinda knew it but I've started attending AA meetings and things are looking up. Yesterday actually I was standing chatting with a co-worker and people kind of gravitated to our area and collected in a loose circle. "Sven, we're about to get started" I turned and everyone's looking at me because I guess I kept talking after someone was trying to get everyone's attention. A couple people opened their mouths like they were all going to say something but hesitated. I, like an idiot, started "God, grant me the serenity......" The room froze. Some put their hands over there faces/masks like to stop from bursting out laughing, some were like "poor Sven" and the rest were like WTF? "Friday will be Gloria's last day" God, I wish it were mine.
TL;DR, I broke my anonymity at work and now everybody thinks I'm an idiot too.
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."
I'm not religious but this Christian prayer has an amazing life philosophy in it...things have been rough for me lately and new stuff keeps popping up but when I divide everything up in terms of this prayer at least some of these things become more manageable...
I mean, I could donate all my money that would otherwise be spent/saved to charities or helping the suffering of others.
I could go out and take cyber security classes or join the police academy to protect people from cyber-crimes, sex trafficking, etc.
I accept that all of these difficult things exist…simply because they DO exist. But I don’t feel any true, intuitive push to do any of these things that could help them; which is where the the motivation should come from, imo. Rather than be motivated by fear, doubt or guilt.
And that inactivity is infinite fodder for my fear-conditioned mind to latch on to and make my ego feel shameful and self-loathing. I even accept this process, though.
What my mind cannot understand is how to draw the line of what I can and cannot change.
Edit: The only thing that makes sense is that if I don’t feel an intuitive, deep guidance toward those things, then it is not meant to be. But sometimes this approach/perspective doesn’t satisfy.
Cicero, has the right answer to life's things we can't change and the courage and wisdom to know what to do....
https://preview.redd.it/2qymlqf8sr981.jpg?width=812&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=576a3d19e7271dd9b792980426e0d5efe17cca5c
Not sure why I didn't see it before. It is both pretty stoic and useful right away.
