Tldr: unsure if I should call before booked shifts at my new job and the anxiety is killing me. Emailed employer to ask if I should. Is it super bad to wait until they get back (likely Monday) to book another work shift or is it okay since the new job is already a huge challenge in itself?
Longer version: Okay so because I’ve been doing cbt I feel super guilty for allowing myself to give in to safety behaviors. I just started a job as a daycare sub and basically I decide which days I can work and get to choose which place to work at that day depending on what daycares need more people. I worked my first day yesterday and I didn’t like it but it went fine.
So the thing is I think I’m supposed to also call once I’ve booked a shift, but when I did yesterday they sounded super confused about me calling. Phone calls have always been the bane of my existence, the fact that I’m able to do them now is great but feeling like I did something wrong threw me off a loop.
I have now emailed my employer to ask if im supposed to call, and they havent replied yet and times running out to book a shift for tomorrow. I fully Get that this is me allowing myself to avoid the situation and that it would be a good opportunity to exposure. But having a new job at all, and one that is in a different place every day, is already incredibly hard and I’m feeling myself get into a really bad mindspace already. Like the addition of the phone anxiety makes it too large of a step to take and I just want to be 100% sure I’m doing to phone thing right before doing it again.
And idk, I know my mother won’t get it and will be annoyed and try to push me to do it anyways and go on about it being good exposure,,, just idk looking for someone who might understand to just say it’s okay if it’s just this once…
Let me give an example in case the title isn’t understandable. I wasn’t sure how to word it.
The org I work for has a pretty set procedure for incoming animals: the animal arrives and is given a day (or week depending on the animal) to decompress. They have their basics: food, toys, short potty walks through out the day, a kennel to make their own and usually some kind of “treat - retreat” behavior plan. The animals are limited to certain parts of the facility until the vet has checked them and cleared them of communicable disease. After that, behavior or medical plans are made, and if the animals a gem it’ll head straight for the adoption floor.
This works wonderfully for 80% of the animals we get in. However, when the shy, under socialized, scared of their own shadow animal comes in, I wonder if this standard does more harm than good.
Example time: a 4 year old GSD is surrendered to us. Never been to a vet and really had never left one house her entire life. Placed in her kennel and (of course - she is a shepherd) stresses the fk out.
Day one - she allows the staff to clean her room with her in it but darts corner to corner, scared to death of the new people.
Day two - attempt to take her on a walk during cleaning. She will NOT leave her room and is now growling at everyone who peeks at her.
Day three - she is charging the kennel door at every noise she hears.
It just got worse from there.
The end result was this dog was euthanized because all but one staff member could not handle her safely. Me, I was the staff member, and it really broke my heart.
This may be my bleeding heart talking, but I really believe if she had been allowed to go out and experience her new, temporary home she would have at least had a chance to make it to the adoption floor.
I should note: she was only relinquished because the family was forced to move to an apartment that wouldn’t allow dogs. No aggression noted in her history but mild separation anxiety was.
I understand the medical side, we don’t need a facility full of kennel cough or worse. I’m very curious what procedures other places have for situations like this.
Thank you for reading and sorry it turned out longer than I expected!! Feed back is greatly appreciated :)
If you don't know what a safety beahviour its basically any action that makes you feel "safe" or lessens your anxiety in some way. Mine is I touch my face a lot. I have a tendency to wanna hide my mouth, or sometimes control both my hands and head from shaking. What are yours?
I am looking to implement a behavior based safety program for my facilities team. I'm looking for a type of option where I could have my different shops (plumbing, carpentry, electrical, etc.) compete against each other (by taking safety training, doing tailgates, etc.) for points and win prizes, lunches, etc.
What I am trying to avoid is a program that generates a ton of new paperwork and time away from the job, a point system that is overly convoluted, or something that people simply won't care about participating in.
Has anyone successfully implemented something like this? I am open to a solution that is out of the box, has a digital platform, etc (if something like this even exists?).
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Originally went with this post, separated for length. Thank you mods for pinning this!
I want to give you some tips that were extremely helpful for me when I was in the same situation.
This is meant to keep you safe and sane, in case of direct escalation that goes so wrong that you just need to GTFO, stat.
This is not a long term solution.
This post will describe
- Setting up your Emergency Container
- Creating an ESCALATION Safety Net.
- How to Explain your situation without going into Q.
This assumes your phone and/or ID may get taken by your parents.
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Emergency Container
This will ONLY contain the most vital stuff necessary until you get to your nearest Safety Net Contact. All of this should fit into a sandwich baggy, toiletry bag or pencil case.
- No clothes or personal hygiene items. THIS WILL TIP THEM OFF.
- Don't add stuff. Easier to hide+explain if found.
Hide it on a place you can easily access on the way out. Think outside the box (and preferably your own room in case of snooping parents), focused around realistic exit routes/points.
Emergency Container Item list
- A copy of your ID
- Backup phone charger
- 1 pen
- 2 paper notes
- 1 pair of clean, crumpled underwear (SEE INSTRUCTIONS)
- Alternative: use 1 pair of clean socks instead.
- 1 bill of money (no coins)
INSTRUCTIONS:
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NOTES+UNDERWEAR
- Write telephone numbers + physical addresses on 1 of the notes.
- These should be: 2-3 friends/acquaintances that live within travel distance (see ESCALATION SAFETY NET below) + closest living family member that you trust.
- Place the INFO note INSIDE underwear. Crumple up underwear with paper inside.
- Crumpling it up will make it appear used, and less likely to be inspected further.
- Leave 1 note BLANK and put it in the bag, loose among the rest of the stuff.
- This will help mask any paper sounds that escape the underwear on inspection of the bag.
- Useful if you have to write down directions on the run.
- Write telephone numbers + physical addresses on 1 of the notes.
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MONEY AMOUNT
- The money is NOT meant as spending money to survive on, only to get you to the nearest Safety net.
- Amount should cover for transportation (taxi, public) and a possibly cheap meal.
- No coins to minimize bulk and sound.
- Large amounts of cash are suspicious and require more explanation if found.
Hi, I am working summer school (ESY) as a service provider and there is a 3rd grade student who has 45 min of speech a week written in his IEP for ESY. This student has severe behaviors. In his behavior plan it says he has attempted to stab staff with a pencil, punches, chokes peers, hits, kicks, throws things, elopes, and has peed on other students in the bathroom. He yells and screams too. His teacher said he has not done any work because of constant behaviors, primarily eloping. I attempted to work with him Friday with his 1:1 present. I utilized all the strategies and he was extremely non compliant. He threw my visuals, kicked my cart, and escalated to hitting me and shoving me. Hit me 4 times in a 10 min time frame. After 10 min I ended the session early. I don’t want to work with this student again because the violence reminds me of the violence I’ve experienced. My doctor wrote a vague note for me. This principal is blunt and a little aggressive in her communication so I don’t feel comfortable talking to her but will I have to. I am curious what anyone recommends? Does this have to be through HR? Would you document in medi-cal that the student is non compliant and aggressive and not give the therapy? I don’t feel safe working with him given he did exhibit physical aggression. Honestly the level of behavior I saw doesn’t even need speech either he screamed plenty of things at us. What route would you take to address this and keep yourself safe? I’ll add I’m a small adult (maybe not relevant but I feel I always have to explain this so people understand where I’m coming from). I also emailed the principal asking for a site safety plan to keep staff and students safe and she claimed there wasn’t one because this student didn’t display hitting or throwing before ESY. But I don’t find that to be valid because his IEP was written in June and it clearly stated a long list of extreme behaviors in the behavior intervention plan. So I don’t get why she’s denying that. She told me to call the parents and that the classroom teacher should develop the safety plan. She then emailed area superintendent and asked for their support and now they plan to observe for the “new behaviors” which are not new. I flat out do not want to work with him or be observed. This entire situation is stressing me out and I want to know how I can be protected.
first, grab a piece of paper and a pencil, or just a word document. write out all your safety behaviors, the things you’re scared to do, that you avoid. this could be foods, places, anything. if you can, try to order things by starting with what is relatively easy and move up to more difficult things.
when you’ve finished, make it your to-do list. you can try out each item individually and start checking them off. these safety behaviors limit you and your life- you will feel so good when you can finally check each item off the list. to make it fun, you could also get a nice notebook and pens for it!
this tactic will help you eliminate these harmful coping mechanisms and is a great strategy for healing, especially if you want something that is simple and that you can do yourself.
good luck! 💗
Rehearsing seems to be the main thing I do publically speaking or doing things as simple as ordering a meal at a fast food joint. I make a script in mind and try to follow it to the exact words. Often I dont and a lot of catastrophic thoughts cascade once I get off my script and triggers my anxiety which gives me a positive feedback loop from hell making me extremely awkward, nervous, shakey, voice trembling, etc. How do you just stop getting into the habit of rehearsing? Do you try to be more spontaneous with conversations especially with strangers or groups watching you present? Do you have to just get comfortable with pauses so you collect your thoughts and continue with talking? Is just simply messing up and learning to back pedal and correct something you have to learn too?
Drove by the downtown location this afternoon and was shocked to see it was shoulder to shoulder, packed. I think I only saw one person wearing a mask and there was zero distancing. How is this still happening and how can we stop it?
Hello!
I'm writing a safety behaviors program for a 1st grader. I'm starting with a simple receptive ID, discriminating between safe and dangerous activities/objects. My targets include fire, climbing, cars, crossing the street, talking to strangers, eating (they have pica), sharp objects, hot objects, etc....
I needed one more target to get the list to an even number, so I googled "safety lessons for kids" and I found many resources about inappropriate touching of private areas. The things I read were preaching that you should teach your kids that people need consent to touch bathing suit areas on their bodies... I agree.
If I add this to my target list, I obviously need to talk to the parent's first. I know it's not something that we work with often, but people with autism can easily become victims of abuse. I've also read that with the hands-on nature of ABA, kids loose their understanding of bodily autonomy, which can make them even more susceptible to abuse. Teaching a kid to say no and look for help if someone other than their parent's start to touch them is socially significant (in my opinion).
Good idea, or nah?
In my attempt to overcoming social anxiety I have passed upon two ways of treating the disorder.
So some CBT doctors say that there is no point in exploring the cause of the problem; If we would spend one hour a week rehashing all of your anxiety, fears and related depression of the past, all we would be reinforcing is this anxiety fear and depression. By dwelling on our problems and analyzing it, we would be making our problems worse.
While in psychodynamic therapy you are focusing on rout cause problems by analyzing traumatic past expiriences. That doctors say that there is no point in dealing with the surface level problems because they are not going to be permanently stoped since they are just a consequence of the core problem. And if we don't go over our traumas and causes that created core belifes, negative thoughts will keep coming up.
I know that there are more studies that show that CBT works, but I know how frustrating is to deal with thoughts as they come up, and psychodynamic in a way also makes sence to me.
I think that doubt between these two ways is keeping me from making progress. In your opinion, which is better to deal with social anxiety? If you stand for both, should I focus on one at a time or maybe go simultaneously and combine them?
Thank you!
I haven't noticed this, but was thinking if it affects play action effectiveness.
In recent years industries have begun to look at the importance and contribution of behavioral safety that focuses on people’s behavior as the cause of most of the injuries and accidents. This should remind us how important behavioral safety is and how it helps in improving the safety culture and serves as a powerful tool in reducing the exposures and developing safe behaviors in the era of COVID-19.
There are a lot of accidents that could actually be prevented if people were just doing the things they are supposed to do. When workers accept safety procedures and practice safe behaviors, they take responsibility for their own actions which would create a culture of safety.
Many organizations have realized that an organization can become more productive, efficient and profitable only when a safety culture is established. In fact, many people who work in the field of safety do not really know what a “safety culture” is. The most important indicator of a positive safety culture is the extent to which the employees are actively involved in safety on a daily basis.
To inculcate behavioral safety, one should have a good attitude towards safety. Its better explained “the way we behave even nobody is observing” as Behavior Science Technology (BST) has stated that between 80% and 95% of all accidents are caused by unsafe behavior.
A safety culture can be established by focusing on safe operating procedures as well the attitudes and behaviors of every employee. While focusing on zero injuries, it’s necessary to gain a better understanding of which behaviors are leading to positive activity-based performance and which behaviors need to be improved.
BBS approach strives to understand causes of incidents and near misses and correct them through the behavior of relevant people. Everyone in a team environment must feel encouraged and comfortable when reporting an incident and correcting unsafe practices, regardless of the company hierarchy.
The behavior-Based Safety approach can influence employee actions toward safer outcomes, ideally by preventing an accident or injury before it occurs. Implementing a behavior-based safety program is the most comprehensive way for companies to promote safety, eliminate hazards and prevent injuries.
When implemented correctly, a Behavior-Based Safety(BBS) can provide positive rewards to change unsafe behavior, reduce workplace injuries, minimize lost production hours, and improve workplace morale, the essential elements for c
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