I have been through a few therapists in the past but I have only ever opened up and made progress with a male therapist. I really do not understand it, I just don't feel the same or open up the same to female therapists. When I think of having a female therapist I just cringe. Yet all the bad things (long term abusive relationship, sexual assaults) were perpetrated by men. I would say that I find it difficult to make friends with other women etc.

I frequently feel like the common denominator in being attacked, sexually assaulted, mentally and emotionally manipulated and harassed, and if I were someone on the outside looking in, I would probably believe that I was the common denominator, maybe. Then on some days I see evidence that I was the victim. I frequently don't feel like I "deserve" to be the victim. I go back and forth on this.i can't make up my mind, and making decisions has become debilitating some times. Is this normal? Am I crazy?

I was born into this world expecting love and acceptance. Instead, I've recieved only extreme neglect, alienation, violence, and discrimination 99% of people don't ever go through, including those here. There is only fighting. Peace is a lie and I'm never safe. There's always somebody who wants to hurt me for the shits and giggles because of the way I am. They were right about me. I lost. I'm never going to be enough in their eyes. They're the ones who end up happy, in love, and move on with their lives while my mind and body keeps getting closer and closer to exhaustion everyday. A human should never be this lonely and scarred. I'm always on edge, waiting for the moment when somebody strikes. My trauma is too much and I know that I will break soon unless I surrender to my fate. So that's what I'll do and become a full blown monster in order to survive. This is my only chance. Fuck the world.

Right now the lack of belief and the alienation and lonlieess feels bigger and more painful. It’s what I spend most of my therapy time processing. It’s like the abandonment and lack of belief in your story hurts MORE than the actual trauma. Sometimes it’s the reverse, but more often than not, I find it overwhelming and huge to process the fact my family don’t “believe” bad stuff happened. Fair enough it’s their deal, they might be unable to process it, but they just point blank think I’m crazy. This is so hurtful. The main perp has gone silent for 2 years, and has only wrote one line to me that she hopes my “mental health is improving.” This is what it boils down to. MY health. Not the years of trauma. Is this how trauma treatment goes? Processing the abandonment before the actual trauma? Maybe I am using it as a mask, to hide behind. Because the ACTUAL trauma is even more painful, who knows.

Most true crime buffs know that more than a handful of killers have suffered an abusive childhood or brain trauma. What’s your best evidence/case that comes to mind with these circumstances?

Mine would have to be the University of Texas Tower Shooting. The shooter was Charles Whitman & ”It has been suggested that Whitman's violent impulses, with which he had been struggling for several years, were caused by a tumor found in the white matter above his amygdala upon autopsy.”

Caveat: PLEASE READ THIS BEFORE POSTING I know many people make the point of saying “not everyone with a head injury or abusive childhood goes on to commit murder.” And, to be clear, this is NOT a justification of violent tendencies just because an individual has one or both.

However, a disproportionate amount of killers seem to have one of these aspects in their lives. Not to mention, early childhood brain trauma, when the brain is still forming, can damage a person’s neural connections in ways we don’t yet understand. Furthermore, victims of abuse are more likely to perpetuate the behavior.

I see it all the time, people call out for justice. Problem is, it's a massive evidence issue, so there will never be a high conviction rate unless we severely lower our insuring of correct convictions. And that is a price we must never be willing to pay. It's a common saying: "Better to let 99 criminals walk free than to jail 1 innocent one."

But yet, I see it all the time, especially with the most shocking crimes to people, like sexual assault. People want to throw the rule book out the window. "But I know he did it!" Doesn't matter. People lie. Not most people, but there will always be some that do - especially in the criminal system.

That's precisely why, regardless of the victim knowing 100% what happened, we need proof beyond any reasonable doubt. And actually _especially_ because it's such a stigmatized crime. One false conviction, and you've completely ruined the life of that person. Even if they're freed, there will always be people talking behind their back for the rest of their life.

What matters is that judicial system is certain to make the right decision, all facts considered.

So that's when I start to put a spotlight on the activist groups that call for higher conviction rates. I'm sure at least _some_ of them understand that this is an issue with evidence, a practical issue, not an issue of negligence from authorities. Everybody hates these type of crimes, basically nobody defends them. (Well, actually, there are stories about negligence from time to time, but more often than not it's more that police knows that there's not much they can do - evidence-wise.)

So what I suspect that it's actually an issue of anger, only focusing on the victim and more or less aimlessly blame and judge anybody who's accused because you're so caught up in your anger about what happened. It's natural to be angry, but you can't, for any price, let that affect innocent people.

Which brings me to my point: You can't change what happened. The damage is done. What you need to do, is learn to deal with it. I certainly think everybody who's been assaulted should, if they're comfortable doing so, report it to the police. We need to do our part in making sure it doesn't happen to anyone else. But most likely, you won't get your conviction. What are you going to do?

You need to realize that the action the perpetrator did is wrong regardless if it can be proven in a court of law or not. You need to realize for yourself that you are the victim, that there was not

She writes:

I'm an English literature student looking for fictional works that (attempt to) convey traumatic events from the perspective of the perpetrators of violence. I realize that Littel's "The Kindly Ones" is somewhat unavoidable in handling this subject matter, but it is not a work I particularly wish to focus on, and I am interested in other pieces that serve also as fine works of literature.

Do you guys have any suggestions?

Thanks!

edit: she adds that she is looking for books that are politically related and not about isolated murders.

Full article from 2018 here:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/treatment-of-hoarding-induced-trauma-and-perpetration/

Money Quote:

>... partners and other family members are told they have “enabled” perpetrators, become “co-hoarders” by providing or perpetuating the kind of living environments that make possible accumulating behavior. This is like telling a burglary victim that he or she has enabled a thief, become a “co-thief”, via the practice of homeownership and consumerism in a capitalist society. Otherwise, partners and family members are simply encouraged to be patient with hoarding perpetrators, or they are coached to not yell at or criticize them, as if protecting the hoarder from feelings of shame or decompensation were the paramount, if not exclusive purpose of treatment.

TL;DR One of your city’s essential, taxpayer funded emergency services is a dumpster fire, there’s a rare opportunity to make it better, and we need the public to hold their government accountable. Link to email city council members at end.

The state of your local Emergency Medical Service is in crisis and needs your help.

You deserve good government. You deserve well managed city services. As citizens and taxpayers of this city and county, you deserve well managed emergency services. You never want to use EMS, but when you do, you hope that the people responding are adequately trained, not brand new to the job, aren’t burned out, so tired they may fall asleep at the wheel, etc.

Austin Travis County EMS is currently in a state of FUBAR. Upper management is trying to spin the situation as a result of COVID, nationwide workforce and supply chain issues, the traumatic nature of the job, etc., but the truth is that the situation we find ourselves in is the result of decades of mismanagement.

Morale is lower than at any time we've seen it in decades of working here. People who are eligible are retiring years before they planned to. Others are quitting in droves. We are entering a vicious cycle, in which management is attempting to fix a complex situation beyond their capabilities with the only tools they’ve ever known: asking more of an already overworked workforce. The only reason the wheels have kept turning so far is because the field employees are professional problem solvers by the nature of their jobs, but as morale drops lower and lower, our will and capacity to fix problems created by management is dropping as well.

For decades, we had a well meaning, but very docile, weak-willed chief who allowed a small junta of men to create a tight, self protecting Good Ol' Boy culture at the top. Employees in the field are beaten down by a stressful job in which, instead of receiving support from the top, they receive additional problems and stress. Our employee association exists to advocate for us, yet spends most of its time solving mundane issues that management has neglected.

The culture is particularly toxic to those who don't "go along" with the "yes men" culture and those who point out issues and strive to make improvements. These people are blackballed from promotion, pushed into "sub-basement desk jobs" where they can't be heard, and generally excluded from decision making processes in a variety of other ways.

Extreme discrepancies exist

Here I am almost a year later, still seeking answers. All of those women’s health appointments & labs with no answers. The OBGYN saying, “you don’t have PCOS” but couldn’t explain my abnormal hormone levels or the reasons for my abnormal PAP. I thought, “maybe I’m just too broken.” The feelings of guilt and shame from being raped flooded my mind. “This shouldn’t be a surprise, this isn’t the first time my body has betrayed me. Maybe I just don’t deserve to have a baby.” Anything that has to do with gynecology is re-triggering. I felt like every time I took a step forward I took two steps back. I felt so hopeless. This entire process has been an exhausting battle for answers. But today, I feel relieved. I feel grateful. Because now I know “why” I have fertility issues.

It’s confirmed, I have PCOS! Its so relieving to be able to put a diagnosis/label to my infertility issues. I had to see an endocrinologist/ fertility specialist to be diagnosed. Even though my OBGYN saw that I met 2/3 symptoms, she dismissed me because “I don’t have ovarian cysts,” nor could she answer why my DHEAS levels are abnormal. I’m so glad I got a second opinion and kept pushing for answers.

With the whole black cloud over the news of children being targeted for conversions in Christian schools, I asked one of my friends, if it was true. He had studied in Christian schools all his life across two different institutions, even went to a Christian college. He clearly put across that there is no problem of conversions in these institutes. Rather the problem is much more covert. The problem is discrimination. Discrimination against anything that is not Christian, and according to him, anything Hindu.

I asked him to give me examples and he started dictating like some 80s executive and I was his secretary.

1. Language discrimination.

They hate locals to speak their local languages in their school. English is compulsory. To the point that they would fine the students Rs. 3 if caught speaking in Hindi. If they were caught speaking in Marathi, the fine would be Rs. 5. Back in the late 1980s, 3 rupees was a big deal. Repeat offenders would be fined a whopping 10 rupees or even suspended.

My friend back then thought it was because the nuns themselves could hardly speak Hindi, let alone speak the vernacular language. How could one live in India and not speak any of the regional languages? He also recalled when the nuns humiliated a Marathi teacher for not being able to speak in English and forcing her to learn it and give a speech in front of the entire school one day. After the speech the principal said something like – “We are so proud of Mrs. XYZ because she has learned to speak in English and she has improved a lot.”

2. They would suspend students who would wear tilak or any other mark of a Hindu.

My friend spoke about a south Indian classmate who would wear the smartha way of applying vibhuti to the forehead – three horizontal lines of vibhuti across the forehead. He was sent home the first day he appeared with it. His parents objected but they were warned that the school does not allow these displays.

While the nuns roamed free with Christian crosses on their necklaces.

My friend also remembered that every one of the Christian students and nuns wore ash on their foreheads after Ash Wednesday – their Christian festival. And it was a regular school day.

3. Discouraging bursting firecrackers and at the same time going all out with Christmas decorations.

Although the public came to know about this a few years ago, this has been happening in convent schools for ages, even back in 80s. My friend distinctly remembers recalling the “sis

Update, 1500 PST: You all are freaking great and this sub delivers per usual. I appreciate the perspectives and the (occasionally brutal) honesty. My thinking has been changed and expanded in new ways, but I’m feeling boderline like a troll and I’ve got some really good friends in here that I don’t want to embarrass so I might bow out. This actually helped me find what I was looking for and feeling helpless about- lack of community, shared trials, unity, lifting each other up. So I’m going to do something about it- I’m going to start a sub intended to be a safe space where I can just ban the fuck out of any gatekeepers. My sub, my rules, everyone’s truth is welcome so long as it’s not weaponized and no fucking gatekeeping- if someone non-gatekeepy finds a way to convince me this is in some way not a good idea I’m ripping up my gay card and getting cats(ya’ll got your welcome package with your banana flavored dental dam and gay card in it when you upended you live and hopped on the bus to Hell right? Right, good)- I am not destined to be a maker of peace (utterly unsurprising to anyone who has ever spoken with me). I’ll post the link when I finish setting it up. Much love and appreciation - I get a buzz off of someone changing my thinking.

Yesterday there was an extremely divisive post (for reference) with a rant that taking a very negative position on the term “baby gay” (personally I think gaybe is much catchier) . First and foremost I want to make sure everyone understands- no one should ever use a label, word or term that doesn’t feel right for YOU, that is something only you can decide, conversely if a label or word feels right no one has the right to tell you NOT to use a label that feels right, safe or helpful to you. This shit is confusing enough and ironically in our search for solidarity at times we alienate. And just like OP had a strong reaction to the term baby gay, I had a very strong reaction to the post- it hurt my heart and threw me back into pain 20 years long forgotten. So this is my counter-rant.

I’m going to say some things that might be misunderstood, that might get hated on, but I feel strongly enough to take that risk. This sub in particular has always been a uniquely safe and supportive space to have hard conversations from within the community- and I ask you to unders

TW: Sexual Assault, Rape, Sexual Violence

Three years ago we had a post by a now-deleted user that we deemed so good we added it to our sidebar. Since we lost it when the author deleted their account, this is my attempt to recreate it while editing minor things for clarity, plus adding a section on race that was left as a comment on the original post.

Fact Checking False Rape Accusations and Why We Shouldn't Fear a False Rape Epidemic.

One of the main points of resistance to changes in how police and society handle rape, sexual assault and even sexual harassment is the counter argument that men then would be plagued by false rape accusations. The fear is that we crossed some line that no longer allows reasonable doubt and that a man can be sent to jail by one accusation. We of course have seen stories of such things in the news, and every time we question whether these are isolated stories or a sign of a larger epidemic we don't get to see. When does the drive of combating rape go too far? Is it something to fear?

So how common is this issue? Is it really a threat to men? How many false rape accusations are there?

How Many False Rape Accusations Are There?

Most experts agree that false rape accusations make the total of 2-10% of the total accusations of rape. As quoted from the handbook:

>A multi-site study of eight U.S. communities including 2,059 cases of sexual assault found a 7.1% of false reports (Lonsway, Archambault, & Lisak, 2009).

Link to it here:

https://web.archive.org/web/20190325004629/http://www.scirp.org/(S(i43dyn45teexjx455qlt3d2q))/reference/ReferencesPapers.aspx?ReferenceID=1238871

>A study of 136 sexual assault cases in Boston from 1998-2007 found a 5.9% of false reports (Lisak et al., 2010).
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>Using qualitative and quantitative analysis, researchers studied 812 reports of sexual assault from 2000-2003 and found a 2.1% of false reports (Heenan & Murray 2006).

And why not add some more papers to the mix.

• [2017 Study into the FBI Database found that between 2006 to 2010 the Average number of false rape accusations or baseless accusa

Super invasive question but we're all anonymous lol. I'm curious if anyone else feels similarly.

I have come to realise that much of my anxiety stems from the fact that my sexuality was 'artificially' attributed to me as a child, rather than being something I learnt about it in a healthy manner.

What I'm trying to say is that I don't "own" my sexuality, as it was something that was taken from me when I was younger. Because the perpetrator was a boy my age (I'm a straight male), this added further confusion, depression and guilt to my growing mind.

No need to go into details, I'm just curious if there is a common link between SAD and childhood trauma.

I’ve been trying to understand my own actions better. I was SAed as a child and had a terrible relationship with my parents to follow. Left home at 17 and have been in therapy since. Despite the trials and tribulations of life in general as a brown woman along with having to live with PTSD, I’ve done okay for myself. Most people who know me would describe me as independent and strong etc. With dating etc I’ve always been fiercely skeptical and any sign of a red flag of any kind and I’m out. I’ve never been in a stable long term relationship either. However for the past 3 years I’ve been on again off again with a man who could be best described as a narcissist. He’s a cheater, emotionally abusive, gaslights, manipulates, constantly lies and all in all is a real catch. We got into an accident together while in the midst of a fight after which I cut contact for 2 years . I thought it shook me to my sense and that I was done with him but he finds a way to get in contact with me everytime and sometimes..despite every cell in my body telling me not to.. I’ll let him in again. Only to be left hurt, confused and upset. Each time there’s a lot of self blame and I ask myself why despite knowing better I let this happen. I know abusers operate in their own manipulative way but he isn’t that smart/sophisticated so it feels like there’s more. Maybe not. But I’m trying to understand my own patterns in hopes of breaking them. While my therapist is great, this is something I feel like she hasn’t helped me much with. Can anyone point to resources or things that helped them with this? Thank you.

I have had issues with how Destiny debates the rape topic in the past, especially the TheSillySerious discussion, and since it is relevant again after the absurd MrGirl conversation, I think it's time to ask some questions. The most important one is: Why does Destiny debate rape like it's a not a systemic issue but an individual one? I'll try to explain what I mean by that exactly, so bear with me.

Rape as a systemic issue

Data, literature and the lived experience of many women is pretty clear on this. Data shows that most rapes are not commited by strangers but by people known to the victim. Adding the sheer numbers of it happening makes it clear that it is not just a few psychopaths who become rapists. Finally, you can go around and ask the women in your life and you'll be shocked how many have experienced sexual abuse in one way or another. The point is: Our society to some extent breeds rapists, whether you want to call that "rape culture" or something else, it seems hardly debatable that this is the case.

Modelling the system

Many people find systemic issues hard to understand, therefore I'll try to provide a critical theory framework which I've found fruitful. I'm talking about the concept of the "Panopticon" described by Michel Foucault in his book Discipline and Punish. In summary the Panopticon is a concept on how to build a prison developed by Jeremy Bentham. It consists of a watchtower in the middle and cells arranged in a circle around the tower. From the watchtower every single cell is viewable. The prisoners however cannot look into the neighbouring cells, and additionally, and this is the important point, they cannot see if a guard is in the watchtower because the windows are tinted. This means that the prisoners have to assume that they are constantly being watched but they cannot know for sure, as a consequence they self-discipline. Power is not bound to a single indivduum, it is systemic and it forces the less powerful to discipline themselves. So far the theory. But how does it relate to the rape topic?

Women are raped regardless of what they wear and even in the "safety" of their home. As a consequence they have to develop defensive strategies. In such a hostile climate every man is a watchtower: he probably isn't a rapist but you can never be quite sure. Because of this omnipresent potentiality women have to self-discipline. This can take on many forms: changing the side of the road, not walking home alone, clenc

A few weeks ago, I heard an audio recording in which Nida ul Nasser has made some atrocious allegations. Nida ul Nasser accuses some people of perpetrating some terrible things. The aim of this post is to unmask the real perpetrator.

Just recently on Reddit, one of Nida's childhood friends talked about who Nida really is. I think I know who it is but I am not sure. It does not matter anyways because I want to set the record straight based on what I know.

I would never have written in such a forum if Nida had not lied so blatantly. Knowing Nida all too well and being aware of her manipulative and sadistic ways, my conscience does not allow me to remain silent. If it's time to speak the truth to help these wrongfully accused people, I will.

I shall start with the divorce of the parents of Nida Ul Nasser, which occurred a few years after the 4th Caliph passed away. Despite repeated advice from her family, including the 5th Caliph (May Allah be his Helper), that Nida should live with her mother, Nida chose to live with her father instead. Nida always told me that she chose to live with her father in the UK because there was no one more pious than him and she loved him. She always had a very negative view of her mother. She used to say that her mother was a horrible person. It was during this time that Nida declared to everyone around her that she hated her mother and spoke about her in the crudest words. This lasted for an entire decade.

I have known Nida from a young age. And by the time she turned 18, she had become a person full of lies, full of sick and malicious gossip, and a person who took pleasure in sowing the seeds of discord and conflict between people. She is now 37 years old and has unfortunately never changed. She is still extremely manipulative. She is still a gossip queen. She is still sadistic - a master of creating conflict. The fact that a few members of her family and friends have still not blocked her until this day is because she is extremely manipulative and always comes back apologizing. Some of her extended family members and friends would give her lectures on morality, but she would go back to her old ways almost immediately.

From a young age, she had a strong attraction to married men of her father's age or even much older. She targeted them. She chose her prey and collected their data from everywhere, including profiles, pictures of all kinds that she managed to obtain through different sources. Then began

Pretty straight forward, Batman is not only a villain, but ultimately ends up doing more harm than the villains he fights.

To start, Bruce Wayne spending millions of dollars in order to fund his alter-ego is not only a poor use of funds but also embezzlement. The billions spent on gadgets and secret hide outs for Batman could do more good if used to fund public programs than Batman has ever done, but I will concede this is an opinion that I will expand on later. What is not an opinion is the fact that Bruce Wayne utilizing funds from Wayne Enterprises to fund Batman is textbook embezzlement. Batman is Bruce Wayne, who is also the owner of Wayne Enterprises. Batman Industries is setup as a subsidiary of Wayne Enterprises to fund Batman and other superheros activities fighting crime. This means the Bruce Wayne is funneling company money into his own pockets under the guise of a quasi-charity. That is something a bad guy does.

Next, Batman's refusal to kill villains has led to billions in damages and the deaths of thousands. It is cute that Batman decides to take the moral high ground of never killing the villains he continues to fight. He just continues to fight the good fight, beating the villain once again and locking them up until they escape once again. The only problem is Batman knows the villains are going to escape. Most of the villains he fights are superheroes or members of super criminal organizations that are essentially impossible to keep locked up forever. Him knowing this and still refusing to kill them makes him culpable in the deaths of civillians and countless damages to public property.

Funny enough, Batman may refuse to kill a super villain, but he doesn't hesitate to permanently injure petty criminals. Batman has often fought burglars, conmen, theives, etc. Largely petty criminals that he doles out the same life altering beating to. These are not superhumans, there is no way such physical trauma has not led to longterm consequences. But studies have shown that people who perpetrate petty crimes such as these are usually more of a victim of the states incompetence than anything. These crimes increase in frequency with poverty, population density and other institutional failures. It is neither useful nor fair for Batman to break their jaw for stealing some cash that probably goes to feeding them for a few weeks. This also doesn't even account for the untold costs of medical care for these people that the state no doubt has to cover

#Official/Law Enforcement Theories

These are the publicly known theories of the various agencies and investigators who were involved in the Ramsey homicide investigation.

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I dont know what I will write here, or how I am going to begin. I just need to say what I need to say because I cant hold it inside anymore. Recent months have been agony for me. People wont know how much. I have hated myself, I have cried, I have hard dark thoughts and several emotional breakdowns. Its just been so tough. My spouse has witnessed all of this and been a comfort. Nothing matters anymore though, nothing is enough, and I dont know what to do. It feels like these Reddit pages are my only possible outlet to say what I want so I am going to share this on them.

Before I say anything else, this isnt about Ahmadiyyat for me, or endless religion debates, or any of that. I dont care. I dont want to care. I have been removed from my old life, and the old people in the London Jamats I grew up with for years. I have my own life. At least I thought I did.

Everything I am about to say is about the current CASE and everything that is being said about it since the video leak. It is something I have been intimately associated from the beginning. I am not going to name the alleged victim or the alleged perpetrators, because unlike all the social media idiots who are using this for their own agendas, there is an ongoing case and everything said in public prejudices that. May be this will too. I dont know, I am not a lawyer. I dont know anything. I just cant stay silent anymore though.

I have chosen to say my piece now for many reasons. One is that I have suffered my own abuse in my life. Its different in kind but I know what its like not to be believed, to have to fend off stupid questions like why didnt you tell anyone and all of those kind of things, and I dont want that when all the stories and web of lies are revealed, and they will be, for this to ruin it for other people. I hate the fact that when everything comes out, all the keyboard warriors will scamper away, and forget about this, while their agendas will have done untold damage to the cause of other victims.

I have no love for anyone involved. Almost. I loved the fourth caliph very much. He loved me too and he was a good man. I once had love for N but I dont know what to think about her anymore. I dont have much to say about the current caliph because I never really got to know him and have gone whole years without even meeting him. Theres just always been a distance which I havent been able to bridge.

For now I am not going to reveal everything I know. If I feel I need to I will come forward

Okay, it's becoming obvious to me that a sizeable portion of my fellow Black men that have commented in this space are either being disingenuous, obtuse, or are sugarcoating some real problems that our community (especially us men) are having a tough time coming to terms with.

The issues Black women have with Black men are symptoms of not a "gender war" but a broken community that has been ravaged by poverty, lack of social mobility, internalized racism, colorism, misogyny, and (this is going to sting...) the insidious degeneration of our black male psyche and the projection of our intergenerational trauma. I will summarize each issue paragraph by paragraph below.

POVERTY - according to the American census for 2020, the median income for Black men is $37,571 (compared to $55,695 for White men). For our women it is $32,077 (compared to $40,485 for White women). Notice the differences in income between races. White women make around $8k more than our women while White men make just over $18k than us. Financially speaking, we lose to White men more than Black women lose to White women. Collectively, we are down bad as men. Our lack of income makes it harder for us and Black women to create stable and functional households that are comfortable for a children to be raised in. I know firsthand how it feels to be under the boot of parents who are drowned by financial struggle. It stresses the parents out, they neglect the emotional well-being of their children due to having to work longer hours, and more money problems eventually result in a broken home with only one parent. Black women are tired of what is known as "struggle love". They hate feeling like they have to build relationships with a group of men that do not make enough money to by a house or help co-create a functional family unit. This and feminism is why we are seeing an influx of Black women raising their standards for being in a relationship with another man (especially if they choose to be loyal to us and only date us). Black women deeply desire to get married and start families with as little stress in the way as possible. Why? Because it is a luxury that our women never got the chance to experience because of two things: racism and the gradual degeneration of the Black man. They cannot do that with a group of men that have a median income of $37k. It's unrealistic. Moving on......

LACK OF SOCIAL MOBILITY - Black men are the least educated group in the country. Not just men, but period! In f

I love euphoria and they did an amazing job with rue and Jules story but sam should be called out for how he wrote mckay. No one is saying mckay should be the main focus of the entire series but at least justify his existence outside of being Cassie bf and Nate token black best friend. Sam used the only fully black male main cast member and had him

1. be completely submissive to a younger white boy,

2. gave him an uninteresting stereotypical jock storyline,

3. had him get sexual assaulted and emasculated by all white men( buck breaking) and used his black trauma to develop Cassie instead of him

4. made it seem like mckay abandoned his pregnant girl, which is perpetuating a negative black stereotype.

5. Create a scene where some fans intercepted mckay a black man raped a white woman in episode 6 which I think is absurd again perpetuating a negative black stereotype. I dont think it was Sam fault, just a weird interpretation from fans.

6. Had him completely isolated from everyone.

7. A backstory that was not detailed or nuance as everyone else

8. Made his episode about Cassie

9. Made him join an all white frat which as a black man, confuses the hell out of me.

10. Portraying him as weak minded in terms of him giving up way to easily in football considering he just got there. I get it he is insecure but damn.

11. Had him be a plot device for white characters and nothing more and just seem to be there to be the black guy and meet a quota because Sam or HBO needed a black character on the main cast which he makes him feel like a token black character. He was treated like an honorary black character who just reacts and solely exist to fill the space for white characters instead of a character with depth.

12. Excluded him from the euphoria books. The 6th book is about fez/ angus.

Sam is a great writer but he was tone deaf with mckay character.

In s1 or s2, They could have paired him with fez. Have him sell for him because he is lost in the world and his dad kicked him out. It could have been good social commentary on a black man get lost to the streets. I am brainstorming, It’s cliche and stereotypical , perpetrating a negative black stereotype also but it would have connected him with theme of the show. McKay could have dropped out and got kicked out of his house and moved in with Nate and cal. Cal sees him as a second son and it makes Nate jealous And Nate uses Cassie to manipulate McKay and McKay slowly start to realize Nate

She writes:

I'm an English literature student looking for fictional works that (attempt to) convey traumatic events from the perspective of the perpetrators of violence. I realize that Littel's "The Kindly Ones" is somewhat unavoidable in handling this subject matter, but it is not a work I particularly wish to focus on, and I am interested in other pieces that serve also as fine works of literature.

Do you guys have any suggestions?

Thanks!

edit: she adds that she is looking for books that are politically related and not about isolated murders.