My 3 month old wants to go to bed around the time I'm cooking supper, but it takes 3 hours for him to actually fall asleep for the night.
It used to be that my husband and I would trade off trying to get him to sleep during this time. He was obviously tired, but sleeping never really stuck. He'd sleep 20 minutes, then pop awake, screaming because he was still tired. Eventually, usually between 9 and 11, he'd stop needing to be resettled. We always swaddled him, and sometimes, he'd sleep well in his bouncer. It had been slowly getting better. We were getting him to sleep with only an hour or an hour and a half of trying. Naps were often 40 minutes long, and sometimes 3 hours.
Then, two and a half weeks ago, he began rolling over. Now we cannot swaddle him anymore, or put him to sleep in the bouncer. Now, most of his naps are 20 minutes long. If we let him fuss himself to sleep, we will sometimes get a 40 minute nap or longer. However, it's inevitably 20 minutes if we rock him. He'll usually take under 5 minutes to fuss himself to sleep for the first nap, and the pre-nap unhappy routine gets progressively longer and louder throughout the day.
Then, two weeks ago, my husband left for work. He's been back three evenings since then. Now, I'm doing it all alone, and I don't like it at all.
Dinner time comes around. I'm making supper, and I notice baby's getting fussy. He needs to go to sleep. However, I can't stop in the middle of cooking. If he gets too fussy, I put him in his crib. Nothing gets at my nerves faster than a crying baby I can't do anything about. Anyways, I finish up supper, and serve the older kids. Then I get to work soothing the baby. I know I'll have to leave him to cry in his crib at the end, as I can't get him to sleep any other way. (He can't sleep on me, as I have other kids to worry about) I'll rock him to sleep, or to relaxation, but as soon as I set him in his crib, he begins screaming. But I knew that was coming. I run down to serve my older kids seconds, if they haven't run off by then, and eat my own supper. After that, it's back to trying to soothe the baby for another half hour. Then, I put the older kids to bed. Some time during all this, he will have taken a 20 minute nap or two, but he's usually back to crying by the time I'm done putting the older kids to bed. So, I'll take him downstairs with me, to let the other kids fall asleep before we try again. After perhaps 40 minutes, with nursi
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Looking for Matty Matheson's cooking show; think it was aired on Vice. Thanks!
It’s 100% mental for me I know.
I can easily do 24 hour fasts/OMAD, and I’ve done some version of intermittent fasting for years. This year I want to dabble in extended fasts, but so far (in 2021) I’ve caved at 24 hours 3/3 times. As soon as I get to 24 I’m like “eh I’m hungry time to eat,” but I’m definitely not MORE hungry than I already was, and I feel guilty after because I’m missing a goal I’ve set for myself (36+ hours).
For me, I start my fasts after supper (6pm), so if I can power through the following evening I’m golden, as I’m not much of a daytime eater (on weekdays) after many years of IF (and free sleep hours).
How do you power through the social/habitual desire to eat supper, especially when your family (for me husband and child) need to eat?
