Soft Skills Puns

I’ve ran into this a couple of times in my career and was wondering how common it is?

Specifically I’m talking about devs that are somewhat senior and have both good domain and coding knowledge but are kind of dicks whenever you talk to them.

These are some of the common attributes I’ve come across

• Often very smart and as a result have some authority with management.
• Often knowledge hoarders.
• Have unshakable opinions on pretty much everything from design to implementation.
• Rarely interested in how other people are. Meetings are dominated by personal opinions and experiences. Never willing to ask what you think. Will typically one up whatever suggestions have been made.
• Never admit when they’ve done something wrong. Blame culture of course is bad but I would expect most people to have some self awareness of when they’ve messed up.
• Condescending. Will pepper PR’s with unhelpful comments like ‘Why have you done this?’
• Will find all the flaws in something without offering any alternative solutions
• Occasionally demeaning other devs, like when pairing if they see some code they don’t like will say something snide like ‘Oh look, another John special’

I’ve has 2 jobs derailed by these sorts of people and I would consider myself to have a reasonably thick skin. Both teams ultimately crumbled. I’m aware that mental health can play a part here as well.

Pode ser impressão minha, mas venho participando de alguns processos seletivos e tenho percebido que os candidatos aspirantes à vaga de TI ficam muito introvertidos e evitam o máximo possível a comunicação direta com o RH/Gestores frente à apresentação e dinâmicas de grupo.

Às vezes a pessoa tem até um conhecimento absurdo em determinada área e faria um excelente trabalho na área pretendida, mas me parece que os recrutadores dão mais prioridade às soft skills do que às hard skills, principalmente no âmbito do trainee/jr/estágio, onde não se tem tanta experiência.

O que vocês acham sobre isso? Hoje em dia, soft skill conta mais que hard skill no sentido de ser contratado num processo seletivo? Ou estou exagerando?

Beginner Data Analyst here,

A internal department was requesting some data and when I went to ask the higher ups where the data is they said they do not know, then sent me a bunch of tables that might have what I’m looking for.

After reviewing all the tables and organizing what I could, I sent it to the department.

I informed them that there is a decent chunk of information missing from the report, after doing a very thorough review of all the information I had.

Not being able to find everything is not uncommon at my job (since there a lot of transitions happening right now) so I thought they would have some understanding. They’re not happy about it at all and are completely surprised that the data is not as organized as they thought.

While I can’t answer the additional questions they are asking how would you suggest calming them down?

I feel like I might run into this reaction again in the future, so what is the general rule on how to handle this?

All the discussion is via email. All of the people with the answers are on vacation until after new year.

I got matched up in gold 2 with a gold 4 and his silver 2 teammate both didn't have 100 eliminates combined

So those are my teammates

Why is it that I'm facing off against former preds in gold 2. A full team all showing off their pred badges, so somehow the match maker put them all on the same team, or it's just a pre built team

I literally just reinstalled the game to face that, why can't I get a former pred teammate

There should be a hard cap, maybe diamon 4 as to how far former master and pred players can fall, how is it that in gold I'm facing a full stacked apex predators team with on Christmas day

I'm in gold 2 ffs, why am I getting silver teammates

And then whenever I get paired with a duo, they'll just play amongst themselves, one will ping a purple mag and I'll be closest to it, then his other teammate and then he will literally pick it up and carry it to his teammate, can we also put in an option to opt put of being paired with pre built duos in ranked as well

So, this is a thing that has bothered me for a while and maybe that's just it, that it is only me who is bothered by it. But I wonder if there any critical theorists who have written/said anything about how certain personal pheomena/experiences can be improved (i.e. that they are skills).

To be extra clear, I do obviously not talk about very real concrete skills (so-called hard skills) like learning how to drive a car. What I am talking about is how very personal things that is not clearly measurable such as relationships, connection with other people and emotions are skills (so-called soft skills) that can be improved with the help of objective tools. Wikipedia has a page on Life skills which lists a number of skills that WHO identifited as cross-cultural in 1999.

The reason why it bothers me a bit is that while learning out some of these soft skills might be a help to some people, and perhaps this is at best a very shallow take on it all, but I am wondering, isn't this ''skillification'' to a certain extent a sign of individualisation of mental health problems under neoliberal capitalism? Especially when it comes to coping skills, that it is up to you and only you how you handle unexpected and challenging life events (even if they are outside of your control). But also how it acts as an increasing pressure on the individual that virtually anything is a trainable skill that one should improve in order to remain competitive on the job market for instance.

But I am also just wondering in general to what extent they ought be seen as skills? Like, who is deciding what is ''worthy'' of being a skill and to what extent they actually are phenomena that can be described as skills? But what do I know, maybe there is real value in seeing these phenomena as teachable skills.

One might argue that my questions are best answered by psychology oriented subreddits, but I am really interested if there are any social theorists who has written about it or experts in psychology who also can considered to be part of critical theory tradition. I am a total newbie in critical theory, I have some university credits in anthropology but I have never come across anyone who has written anything skeptically about these soft skills.

Thank you for reading so far and I hope you find my thoughts clear and concise. Obligatory english is not my mother tongue, so apologies for any language misstakes.

I started a new role recently and I'm learning a ton tech-wise, and getting up to speed and enjoying it

However, all my coworkers are incredibly outgoing and personable, and are easily making friends with people they just meet. They're also very forward and not afraid to speak their mind, and have smart ideas. They are all chatting it up in group settings and just having fun, with brand new people

I struggle with these things and I don't know how easy it is to overcome these kinds of skill gaps. Learning new technology is one thing, learning to be a culture fit is very very hard.

I kinda feel like I don't fit in soft-skill wise and I'm not sure what to do

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Today I had a 1 on 1 with my lead and she mentioned that my technical chops are completely fine but I need to exude more confidence and improve my soft skills. How much do soft skills matter? I agree with her but I just know internally that this is something I need to work on over a long time in order to improve

I have been looking for an Accountant/Senior Accountant role as my accounting department is being outsourced. I now had more than 10 interviews with hiring managers but still haven't received an offer. It really made me think what was wrong with me.

After discussing with friends, I realized I didn't really emphasize/exaggerate certain "employer favourite" soft skills. Apparently, employers are obsessed with these, especially teamwork, and will pay special attention to it. Even if they don't specific ask about them, I should link whatever experience or skills I am saying to these keywords. My friend told me that when she received reference check calls, HR loved to hear these kinds of things.

What are some other soft skills or keywords that I should constantly link to during my interviews?

Also, I appear to be a bit humble during interviews, and this is definitely a no no. What other aspects should I / can I exaggerate so that I appear to be the best? Thank you all in advance!

Hello

What resources are must checkout for Soft Skills interview as a SWE?

My question : since my undergraduate degree is in communication, will I be ok to apply to grad programs in Biomedical Informatics, or should I attempt a second bachelors beforehand?

I'm planning on pivoting into bioinformatics from a background in media production. Currently, I'm working at Ohio State in an unrelated position, and intend on using the tuition assistance we receive when I apply for the Masters of Science in Biomedical Informatics program.

I am applying for my first internship (final year uni student) and the first interview consists of the conversation between me and the HR/marketing team (nobody from tech) through zoom. As told by my seniors, it is just a conversation regarding my personality, soft skills, and getting to know each other. It starts from the basic opening question "Introduce yourself". Since I am new to interviews, what are some green and red flags during the whole process based on my answers? Simply, how do I sell myself and pass this round? Many of my seniors didn't pass this first round and they informed me it's not pretty straightforward what you need to do here. Any tips are welcomed.

Last night I joined a match in progress and decided to be on artillery. Made my own locked squad so that I could call out my shots and hear where artillery support might be needed. I was immediately thankful to see that squad leads and commander were on mic trying to coordinate.

Fast forward a few minutes, and our team starts doing the thing that I'm sure many of you have seen where almost the entire team starts pushing up without leaving anyone to defend. To the commander's credit: he noticed this and immediately went on mic to try and get a squad to defend. But after nobody responded to him for about 20 seconds, he immediately got toxic and started sulking over mic about how nobody is listening to him and that all the squad leaders are stupid for not obeying his orders.

This kept happening for pretty much the rest of the match. Any squad leader that didn't do exactly as he 'commanded' right away - and without question - would immediately get a stream of verbal abuse. Pretty much the whole match, he would stay stuff like: 'If none of you idiots listen to me and do as I say, we're gonna lose.' 'Charlie squad! I commanded you to go north and build the fucking garrison! Do I need to do everything myself?' 'Why the fuck did you move so far east, Baker squad? I never fucking told you to do that and now we're going to lose that flank.'

Now, not every bad commander is quite as toxic. My point here is just to say this: being a good commander isn't just about knowledge of the game or tactics. It is just as much about knowing how to lead people and get the best out of the people that you have while keeping their (and your) limitations in mind. You will NEVER get people to respond to you by berating them and acting high and mighty. You will never win their cooperation by acting like you could have them court martialed. Good commanders realise that even those playing mostly for immersion still want to have fun.

Nobody wants to log on to play a few matches after a long workday of dealing with their own shitty managers, only to find that there's another one waiting for them on the battlefield.

I’ve been trying to get my character to get the needle and thread so I can repair to pristine but every time I nearly get there my bar resets and it leaves me wondering if it’s bugged or something, And yes I know that if you do something that contributes to the other side it resets but I have deliberately avoided doing any of that so I was just wondering if someone could tell me.

I read and article from the financial post that states employers are struggling to find people who have "soft skills" meaning people who want to learn and be trained.

to me this is a bs excuse I find most employers won't even look at resume's if they're from a different industry or trade to begin with, I have sent out over 150 resume's over the course of a few months and I got one group interview that went nowhere and then 5 days ago I finally get a call for a 1st year carpentry gig out in BC. I've been applying for residential and commercial construction both plumbing and carpentry because I really don't go out of town or piss for my job.

if anything employers are just looking to get TFW's by claiming they cannot find workers when there's tens of thousands like me trying to get into a new trade but like most companies they're trying to exploit the system. call me cynical but most companies don't want to pay a decent wage I do recall a story on the news back in 2015 where a company was interviewing and not hiring Canadian workers but instead they claimed poverty to the government to get TFW's.

I can see the argument for a small business cannot afford to pay $20 and up but most people cannot afford to live on $15/hr with no guaranteed hours.

like I've always said there's no shortage of workers just a shortage of workers who want to work for minimum wage with no guaranteed hours and no benefits.

I'd like to move up to a CISO role. I currently have a security architect role.

Is there any recognised CISO training that is worth having?

I saw the EC-Council had a CCISO certification but no doubt it is outrageously expensive.

Also my confidence has taken a knock, so i was wondering about recognised soft skill workshops or classroom based courses?

Thanks for any help

I am in Jr network admin role where I'm frequently finding myself as the liaison between IT and business operations. I really enjoy it as I get to do tech work but also interact with other teams and people.

While I'm pretty confident in what I know (and what I don't know) tech wise, soft skills are my greatest strength imo.

What are some roles that take advantage of this? Hopefully something other than management because I have no desire.