OK, so up front, the wife and I are swingers. A little over a week ago we met a wonderful woman at a swinger event and from the on-going chatting, it sounds like it might lead to some bedroom fun.
In chatting with her at the party, she described herself as a "sensualist," that she really enjoys the lead up to sex. Which I'm fine with, but, well, comparatively speaking the wife and I are each others' firsts and we've had limited play experience with others (there's a couple we're friends with, who play separately, and we play with the wife.)
So I'm trying to sort of get some ideas on what sort of things this woman might enjoy, beyond one of the things she mentioned (she LOVES men to suckle on her breasts.) I had the thought of giving her a sensual massage if / when things do move to the bedroom, but what else?
A few other notes about this situation, too:
- We met her at a hotel takeover, and probably spent close to 4 hours chatting with her in our room
- She was up front about not taking things sexual until after shes' gotten to know her potential partner through "vanilla" dates, which we're fine with
- We were also up front with her about ourselves and our limits, etc
- We're already chatting with her and planning a vanilla date in a couple weeks
This is a slightly updated repost from about 3 months ago. I had some interesting conversations, but obviously I'm still looking.
I'm 57, a heteroflexible cis woman, large - both tall & fat - and as spring is blooming I find myself really missing having someone to play with. I have a mostly platonic nesting partner (who has some physical disabilities so he can't frolic with me), 3 dogs & no kids. I'm really missing romantic & sexual connections- snuggling, holding hands, kissing, telling someone my story and hearing theirs. I want to find someone who'll watch fireflies with me and eat strawberries and kiss and cuddle and do the things that often come after those activities.
I'm kind, compassionate, mildly kinky (a subby switch) an adamant feminist who respects everyone but doesn't date Trump supporters. I also won't help you cheat. Consensual non monogamy means everyone involved has actively consented. My relationship with my nesting partner has been open for 4 years now, mostly platonic for about 18 months (like most things, it's complicated) My optimal dating situation would be some variation on kitchen table poly.
I don't drink or smoke. It's fine if you do, though if you need to drink to have a good time we won't get along. I do have a medical marijuana card & use tinctures & topicals to manage anxiety & inflammation. I'm also in a Buddhist based recovery group & I'd be delighted to meet someone who regularly meditates or is in active recovery.
I'm looking for that spark of mutual attraction & curiosity. I'd like to meet someone I can eventually meet in real life and see on a regular basis. I'm near Gettysburg PA & it would be optimal if you were within ~2 hours drive from me.
I hope a kind, curious, sex positive, emotionally and physically available, age appropriate (to me that means at least late 30s, preferably north of 40) masculine human finds this & is interested enough to say hello. And even if we aren't compatible, I want to thank you for your time and wish you luck on your quest. May we all find what we're looking for.
What are the best online forums or apps for finding men who seek cuddling and kissing not to plunder or be plundered? (Clearly not Grindr!)
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sensualist: one given to the indulgence of the appetites or senses as the means of happiness
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This is a slightly updated repost from about 3 months ago. I had some interesting conversations, but obviously I'm still looking.
I'm 57, a heteroflexible cis woman, large - both tall & fat - and as spring is blooming I find myself really missing having someone to play with. I have a mostly platonic nesting partner (who has some physical disabilities so he can't frolic with me), 3 dogs & no kids.
I'm really missing romantic & sexual connections- snuggling, holding hands, kissing, telling someone my story and hearing theirs. I want to find someone who'll watch fireflies with me and eat strawberries and kiss and cuddle and do the things that often come after those activities.
I'm kind, compassionate, mildly kinky (a subby switch) an adamant feminist who respects everyone but doesn't date Trump supporters. I also won't help you cheat. Consensual non monogamy means everyone involved has actively consented. My relationship with my nesting partner has been open for 4 years now, mostly platonic for about 18 months (like most things, it's complicated) My optimal dating situation would be some variation on kitchen table poly.
I don't drink or smoke. It's fine if you do, though if you need to drink to have a good time we won't get along. I do have a medical marijuana card & use tinctures & topicals to manage anxiety & inflammation. I'm also in a Buddhist based recovery group & I'd be delighted to meet someone who regularly meditates or is in active recovery.
I'm looking for that spark of mutual attraction & curiosity. I'd like to meet someone I can eventually meet in real life and see on a regular basis. I'm near Gettysburg PA & it would be optimal if you were within ~2 hours drive from me.
I hope a kind, curious, sex positive, emotionally and physically available, age appropriate (to me that means at least late 30s, preferably north of 40) masculine human finds this & is interested enough to say hello. And even if we aren't compatible, I want to thank you for your time and wish you luck on your quest. May we all find what we're looking for.
