I grew up in a emotionally abusive house, sexually assaulted by my older sister when I was 10 years old, had no self worth in my teens till a few years ago.
A few years ago I cut contact with the mother of my children(she was abusive mentally and emotionally).
I don't know how but this leads me to where I am today... Consuming porn daily, mainly voyeur stuff. Isolating myself from friends and family. Unable to keep a relationship because I don't feel like I'm good enough. The worst part of my life is I look through the sanitary waste bins at the place I work at, looking through them to find used panty liners and towels and try and guess who's they are.. I also smell them, I don't know why.
Pads usually have either that kinda bone shape structure which is broader at the ends, or wings right in the center so it only really fits right in the middle of your panties. Problem is, my vag is sitting more at the front than the lowest point between the legs, so it tends to leak in the front while the back two thirds stay clean. So, am I really the only person with a "front puss" (doesn't look like it to me at least), or are pads just r/badwomensanatomy?
EDIT: Thanks a lot everyone, it has been such a great discussion! Absolutely didn't expect so many responses, I'm really excited to hear all of your experiences!! I decided to add a little "best of" of all the advice in this thread, so others might find faster than me what works for them. ;) (Also, because a few folks have asked... my rather limited knowledge on pads and liners is bc I'd been a tampon gal ever since, just recently they irritate me a bit so I go for pads more often. I tested a couple of brands, but still have to figure out what else is available, and which store sells them. Also had some cheaper ones with an ok shape, but they just don't stick!!)
- First of all, apparently everyone "leaks" differently! Some more in the front, some more in the back; and it also depends on activity. That's reasonable, but really shows how important it is to research and try out various stuff in order to find the best way to go.
- Period panties: They seem to be available both as disposables and reusables, with the latter being more appealing to me for sustainability reasons (their higher purchasing price will probably, hopefully, pay out over time). Bambody was recommended as a brand to me.
- Wear night pads "in reverse": those with the long backside that are also sold for strong bleeding. Just flip them around to get better front protection!
- Carefree has longer panty liners to better cover all front to back (guess other vendors have such options as well). I also saw some interesting ones from Always online that you can flexibly adjust to different panty shapes.
- Rashes might be alleviated by switching to reusable cloth pads, as they're more breathable and absorb the moisture better than plastic.
- While we're at cloth pads: there really seems to be quite some progress going in this field! There are many different sizes and shapes available, and they're also often really breakthrough-safe! Was quite suspicious up to now, but think I'll try some in the future.
Hope I covered the most important stuff
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I see these brands like nua, carmesi, plush etc come up with so many claims on how regular pads are made of plastic, contain "chemicals", have carcinogens etc. Is this really true?
I know cups are more planet friendly & economical. I do plan to move to it soon. I have used pads for 14 years and so have my sisters. I buy the most cost effective stayfree pads. I don't get rashes unless it's too tight. I don't feel comfortable spending 15-25rs on one pad and I would like to continue relying on my stayfree pads for the sake of my wallet. So I'm asking to know if I can continue using what I use or if I should look for 'safer' alternatives. Please share any info u know.
I've been doing this for over 3 years now, works 10/10 times. I can't believe that most people who menstruate don't know this hack:))
So my roomate and I share a bathroom, and she is very environmentally conscious. Part of how she expresses this is by using reusable sanitary pads. I have no problem with this, and it's not my business how she handles it.
My problem is that she puts the sodden dirty sanitary towels in a cotton bag on the towel rack. This bag absolutely stinks after a day or two and the blood soaks the bottom of the bag. There is no window in our shared bathroom, only an extractor fan. Also the smell puts me off using the shower and brushing my teeth. It's literally so bad that I gag when I walk into the bathroom.
I asked her politely yesterday if she would mind putting the bag in her room next to her other dirty laundry. She told me it was too inconvenient, and she didn't want to carry around a wet, dirty sanitary pad back to her room. I told her maybe she should bring the cotton bag from her room to the toilet, she again refused.
She asked me what the big deal was. She told me she rinsed them out with water so there shouldn't be any problem.
I told her that it made me uncomfortable that it was there and I would really appreciate it if she put it in her room.
This is all I said. I didn't say anything about how it smelt bad or anything like that.
Saying it made me uncomfortable made her really upset and she left without saying another word.
Today her boyfriend approached me and told me that it wasn't cool that I shamed her like that. He told me that she had cried for over an hour and said she felt humiliated. I said that wasn't my intention, I just wanted her to take her bag out of the bathroom.
Later today, she left her used unwashed sanitary pad in the sink. I'm not sure if this was by accident or to "teach me a lesson"... I was mostly confused. I wanted to talk to her to get the record straight. But she refuses to talk to me.
She only keeps her bag in there between 1-2 weeks and properly handwashes them a few days to a week after her period has ended. However, the smell really bothers me.
AITA for asking her to do this? Did I do it the right way?
Edit: Looks like I shoulda been more direct with her about why it made my uncomfortable. I'll try telling her this when I can!
I bought a selection pack of reusable sanitary pads in 3 sizes, I didn’t realise the sizes would be so different and I’m only able to use one size. I’ve got 6 pads that I won’t be able to use myself, they’ve never been used but obviously they don’t come in a package so they can’t really be resold or donated, what can I do with them?
Hi, I am working on a project currently on helping homeless women with access to period products. So far the idea has been that we fund raise and then go buy tampons and pads. But then I thought about trying to make this project more sustainable by trying to make homemade sanitary pads.
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Like this. But now my question is, is it suitable to give this to women in a homeless shelter? Considering the fact that you need to wash it? Please help.
My wife has a habit of leaving her used sanitary pads on the floor of the bathroom and the laundry area. Today she left one on the floor of the laundry area while washing her underwear & when she left to get more clothes to wash, I stepped on it & it stuck to my foot. I then peeled it off & told her sort of jokingly to stop leaving land mines around. This led to a huge argument with her accusing me of hating menstruation (I don't), being prejudiced against women (I'm not) & not understanding what she has to go through every month (no I probably don't). She was saying things like "Just cut my womb out etc" "I have too much on my mind to remember everything" "You shouldn't have married me if you don't like that" "You leave stuff around that bug me also". In her defense, she has been under some stress lately with some family health issues & having to take care of those family members. But AITA for telling her not to leave her used pads lying around? Should I have just let it slide like all the other times? We've had a couple of huge arguments about it since it happened & she's really upset about it.
I get frequent thrush infections on my / just after my period even though I am an absolute clean freak given how important it is to avoid getting thrush with this condition. I change my pad every time I go to the loo and never allow it to get remotely full. They are sensitive ones too, no scent etc. However, I have a massive overheating / pad irritation problem on my period that always leads to thrush. To the point where I actively stay inside the house and avoid going anywhere and instantly sort myself out (like cool down, shower, change pads/underwear/clothes) if I’m too hot. Has anyone got any advice for this? I wanted to start my new medication today but fear I might have to take a thrush tablet first which interacts with it (nortriptyline 50mg). And it’s so annoying, I fear my period now and even when I go the extra mile to avoid thrush it doesn’t always work. It’s happened 5 / 10 periods this year alone, it’s getting ridiculous 🥺 I never used to have this problem until my relapse in 2019 when trying the contraceptive pill again (not on it anymore as I got constant thrush and UTIs which caused further nerve damage).
So I have a bunch of extra pads that I don't plan on using so I'd like to donate them to a women's or homeless shelter if I can. Does anyone know if there are any places in the GTA that accept this kind of donation?
Edit: Thanks everyone for all the wonderful suggestions!
One is the choice and another one is necessity. Respected leaders should have given more concerns to these things as we know most of the girls living under poverty will not be able to afford it and will refrain from using it more if it goes like this.
why the condom reference?
Don't misunderstand. It's just to show an example of how we are able to provide necessary things for free and we can do same for pads too or at least make it dirt cheap.
I just wanted to share... I nearly had a mental breakdown right there while panicking, i was sure I had enough in my account left for at least a pack of pads. Holding back tears I gave the merchandise back to the checkout host and walked out unsure what to do.
Sat on the curb outside basically weeping and going through my bag as I do when I get super anxious. THANK GOD i somehow had a loose $10 stashed away in my purse. Regained my composure, went inside and the lovely gent I handed the pack when I left rang me up on his personal register to get me out asap. I think he could tell I was in distress.
Why does such a minor inconvenience have to be such a disaster for me? I'm exhaused.
I've grown up amongst women my whole life, and looking back I've never once seen a sanitary pad, not in the trash or anywhere else I'd assume they would throw them. What do they do with them?
In the UK we have one sanitary towel that is the most popular and it is fragrant, but has a unique smell. I’ve always been able to smell it on other people, effectively being able to identify those on their period in most locations (supermarket, university campus, work, etc.). I didn’t realise this wasn’t a normal thing until my friend mentioned she was also on her period (I have been having trouble with mine and so was telling her about it). I told her that I knew, and she asked how. So I explained and she was really surprised. When confronted with similar situations, I do a very unscientific and unreliable poll (essentially asking everyone I think will answer my questions) and the results are that nobody experiences this. So I was wondering if any of this community can relate?
We Nepalese don't have any knowledge of market. Everything whose price goes up we run for them like crazy. We run for them like we aren't going to get them tomorrow. Not just sanitary pads it happens to anything in tye market be it petrol during the blockade or the onion prices in the recent year. Why don't we seek for alternatives ? Why don't we understand if we decrease the demand for a thing its price too goes down. Don't take this offensively but just out of curiosity what if girls/women are to use alternatives to sanitary pads? Is it possible to do it ? Please enlighten me.
Because “manhole cover” was already taken.
