Hello
I had this thought the other day in my head and I’m wondering if anyone has actually done it.
With the online dating scene growing and growing and more applications/websites have more presence, people tend to try to use apps like Tinder/Badoo/etc. in order to make the transition from online to real life as quick as possible.
Unfortunately, there are cases like Bobbie Jo Stinnett and such where even common hobbies and that transition from online to life ends in a tragic way.
There might be cases where you go to a online group event and something happens such as a accident and/or someone crosses paths with you and you unintendedly get involved in a situation that makes you disappear…or worst.
IMO, its always a good idea to leave something behind. All people have their own private and personal life so they might not want to share all the details with everyone to avoid getting judged or automatically painting a picture that isn’t that. Or, they just want to hide something, rightfully or wrongfully.
So, I wanted to ask members here: Are any of you using online dating apps/websites but sometimes are fearful of the stories you read here and leave a trace behind.........a note, some details, etc....
This is still so baffling to me...
So, I joined a certain fishy dating site. There is a section where you can say if you have/want kids, but people never read it, so I added a childfree reminder in my bio.
My bio was pretty much this, nothing else, very plain:
'[Age] [Location] [Job]
I do not want kids, please do not chat with me if you want them!'
That was it... anyway, my profile was flagged, and in the report it said my bio had been removed for being offensive... So, the childfree section was somehow offensive? It's offensive to set your boundaries and limits clearly?
Fucking hell... I deleted my account then and there, can't be dealing with that shit.
35 F. Dating apps suck. Since most of us work from home at least part-time and I’m also busy with grad school; I’ve been forced to resort to the hell that is dating apps. Not everyone I’ve met has been bad, there are plenty of nice people. However, I’m tired of it so I figured why not try on here? I mean people win the lottery right?! I’m looking for someone decently attractive intelligent and educated. No smoking, or unresolved family trauma or insecure/ avoidant attachment style….so basically a needle in a haystack! I’m just saying, if the needle wants to find me instead this time I’m good with that. Best of luck to everyone dating! Okay edit- It was a gamble and did not pay off. The experiment is over- still good luck to everyone out there
Height exchange is the only conversation we had btw.
Sometimes I wonder what are the consequences of this rude behaviour on our society? It hurts for the first or second time, and you eventually get used to it.
But imagine thousands of men getting rejected every day for same shallow reasons. Surely not everyone is taking it in the right spirit every single time? Do you have a story to share?
I have been out of the dating game for quite some time and pending on certain things going on in my life currently I might find myself back in the dating pool at some point.
I’ve read a ton of stories across all corners of the internet of absolutely horrible experiences (mainly no matches, fake accounts, unrealistic expectations, etc) and was just curious if dating apps are really that bad for cisgender guys like myself? Can you really find love on a dating app or is it just an endless meat market for people with commitment issues?
I always start obsessing and overly involving myself very quickly. I constantly check to see if they’ve sent any messages and if I don’t see a response in a couple hours I automatically think they don’t want to talk to me and they have no more interest in me.
I idealize fake scenarios of being in a relationship with these people. I imagine picnics and nights cuddled up on the couch, dinners out and outdoor adventures, even having sex with them.
then I think I start acting differently and more unlike myself to try to swoon him. i’ll even start sharing very personal stories or info. sometimes it goes well and sometimes it doesn’t. and I hate to admit it but I get triggered af when I’m rejected.
it all just makes me feel like a weirdo and like I’m trying too hard (which essentially I am but becoming aware of it is the first step) feels good to talk about. thanks for reading.
please feel free to share your own experiences, maybe it’ll validate someone who is too shy to talk about it.
I said it in another forum but I'll say it here too because I would have benefitted from hearing it from another guy who has struggled endlessly online as I have over the years. If you are sucking at getting dates from these online apps, trust me, the complaints and science that are coming out about how poorly the apps are functioning now for their stated purpose is true; illusion of choice, ghosting, message abuse, catfishing, and all the other stuff that comes along with it. My fellow guys, you need to get to the gym, stop drinking so much, eat proper portions, start getting 8 hours of sleep, watch videos on youtube on how to dress better, and then just get out and meet people in settings where you have group activities or just places where you can just be SEEN. Get SEEN. Women are just as visual as us men and they notice everything from head to toes. Illicit responses from women by just having normal interactions but being friendly and never expect anything in return. Don't fall into the trap of these pickup artists online either. They are all full of shit. Just get out there, be public and make friends. Your best chances of finding a woman is making a network of connections and building off of them. Meeting A, knows B and B knows 5 more letters in the alphabet where you will likely find the one for you. And to be honest, it doesn't have to be personal connections; it can be work connections too if that's where you spend and enjoy most of your time. Go to business networking events and get those connections. There's potential friends and allies in for dating everywhere. Online dating is such a shitshow that if you feel the same way as me, you're going to do A LOT better by ditching it and putting more time emphasis on the connections you make in real life.
I've been speaking to a few guys online. Trying to find like minded individuals who want to have some decent conversation in amongst the flirting. But the number of times men have used rapey language is appalling. Along the lines of "you're so attractive I wouldn't be able to control myself around you". Is this suppose to appeal to me? I even had one guy say, "I'm going to rip your clothes off and attack you". What the hell?
[30f] So i have been single forever and honestly i am tired of online dating finding someone sucks and marriage almost seems impossible, i tried muz-match minder sunnah match and honestly i hate that my profile is shown to all these people every time it sucks. I came across joinnikkah.com and joined their database last month is anyone familiar with this apparently they are database and you work with a matchmaker, honestly i think that works better, does anyone know about them? they sent me an email saying they have a match for me and want to meet with me but im scared lol has anybody tried this?
I feel like I'd be told "loser! You can't get a girl in real life" when in reality I've had 2 gfs before. But still, if I ever did online dating I feel like people around me would laugh at me. Anyone else felt embarrassed from online dating?
Hey Guys!
Thanks for the advice on my previous post. I couldn't answer to all of them, but I read every comment and took it serious.
I took your advice to use more than just one reverse image search tool, and boom. One of the Images where "she" pretended to have written my name on her hand was indeed a photoshopped fake image.
Thanks again for all the good advice! Guess I need to stop trusting without a reason and asking more questions. I didn't expect scammers to invest so much time and thought into a scene. I was very careful in the first month, but I guess I dropped my defenses after that.
Well like some suggested I firstly demanded a call. When that was refused yet again, I simply confronted them with the evidence. They immediately blocked me and I guess that's the end of this story.
Thanks for saving me from a worse outcome and motivating me to really look into it!
I’ve given a few dating apps some trial but shit never seems to click, like it feels wrong and somehow deep down, I feel I won’t the happy cz I feel like I’m settling.
Is this a personal thing and how do I get rid of it? I want to be more open minded.
Anyone here recently submitted their CA PE license application through the online portal? Wondering if the online process has made the approval process any faster..
Not here to hate on dating apps and sites at all. They can be great places for some people. However they can lead some folks to relapse given that some people post very revealing photos.
I have seen some of the questions before and alot of them are maths based questions with a time limit for each question. I'm just wondering how I can communicate with a potential employer about this without sounding like I just want an easier test
I personally feel like it's a mix of both
Positive because now you can experience 200 rejections online instead of in person, and it kind of lets you gauge how attractive or unattractive you are to women IRL without going through the embarrassment of finding out the hard way
Negative because dating kind of became an all you can eat buffet for most women (and most men are not involved)
Hey y’all! I just wanted to voice my opinion on dating and see if anyone else is feeling similar sentiments. I’m only 22, so I know I’m supposed to enjoy being single right now and work on my career. But simultaneously, I miss close companionship. In my previous relationship, I was doing lots of emotional labor for my ex partner [22M] who had quite a bit of maturing to do (he ended up cheating on me). I know I don’t want to be exclusive right now because I don’t have the capacity to support a serious relationship.
I’ve turned to online dating for a date here and there (not meant to meet a boyfriend but for casual dating). But it’s honestly so draining. I get ghosted all the time, even if the first date goes well. I feel like I’m not connecting with others romantically (if I was, they’d text me back, right?) and I wonder if it’s my fault or just the norm in this online dating reality. I don’t know how to “play the game” and I don’t know the best way to be a strong, no-bullshit woman. I’ve been receiving advice to cut someone after the first red flag… but 99% of my online matches show red flags really early (talk about exes, inconsistent communication, etc).
How do you all feel online dating has treated you? Is everyone else feeling something similar?
