Intimate Relationship Puns

I put the "amor" in "polyamory".

There is evidence that Dybowski had intimate relationships with underage age girls. Although the age of consent in Russia is 16, he has had at least one known relationship with a 15 year old. More concerning than the influence he has a figure in the video game industry is the fact that teaches at HSE university. The students enroll as young as 17. He is alleged to have married a student who is now his third wife. He preyed on teenage girls even before he became a professor in 2017. His earliest known affairs go back to 2012.

Here are the links to the evidence: https://logarto.tumblr.com/post/647731217228267520/i-have-been-given-the-ok-to-post-the-evidence-that https://drive.google.com/file/d/1KeKKptAkn1D662UZYdWWg-mr16YbYK-S/view https://ninakaina.tumblr.com/post/647676496817848320/rathologic-there-are-serious-allegations-of twitter.com/senya_parovozov/status/1379393865573146625 This last one is in Russian.

It's important to discuss this openly, protect minors, and make sure he is held accountable for his behavior and can never use his power to abuse another victim again.

This question is specifically for people who "never managed to have a real relationship due to developmental trauma"-- as opposed to people who have had intimate adult relationships, and whose struggle was how these relationships were distorted or made challenging by trauma.

I'm interested in people who would say they had ZERO "real intimate relationships" but managed to change that somehow. How did you change and what resources did you find most helpful in enabling that change?

(Edited to clarify: by "intimate relationships" I primarily mean the "primary adult attachment relationship", aka "romantic" relationships. But happy to hear stories of going from "0 to 1" in other forms of intimacy as well-- very close friendships, therapeutic relationships, familial relationships etc.)

Apparently there is a doctrine within Fundamental Mormon Polygomy regarding what should occur if a wife is unfaithful, which seems to explain Kodys treatment and behaviour toward Meri since the cat fishing. So the doctrine is: if you are a plural wife and you have been unfaithful, your husband can allow you to remain in the family. However, if the husband is to be true to his beliefs and follow the doctrine he must not re-engage in a sexual relationship with her. He can provide for her and allow her to be apart of the family, but they must not have an intimate relationship otherwise the husband is partaking in the wife's sin.

You can see in a traditional fundamental polygamist family how this would defiantly be a deterrent for a woman to seek a relationship outside of her husband. If she cheats the husband decides if he will allow her to stay in her family (this would include her children) but she knows that a reconciliation with her husband is against their teachings. So she would watch him and the other wives enjoy fulfilling, loving relationships knowing he would be committing a sin if he wanted that with her. It's obvious to anyone who is not a polygamist that the religion is very much weighted to be for the guy. But hearing about the nuances in their actual beliefs and their religious rules it becomes frightening to think of the lives that many of these woman have lead.

But back to the Browns, Meri is obviously a very independent woman and finding this information out about the doctrine, surrounding a wife who is unfaithful, reinforces the idea that them, staying together, is all for the show. If Meri knows that Kody will not have an intimate relationship with her, then why wouldn't she just leave, as she has the means and the support to do so. Also, why has Kody not said in all of these many episodes and in counselling, that he cant engage with Meri sexually, as it's against his beliefs, instead of pretending there is a real chance they could rekindle this relationship. Meri would also be aware of this doctrine.

Edited: I am not passing judgement on Meri and yes Kody no doubt had already left Meri emotionally, prior to the cat fishing. Meri was lonely and sought attention else where, leaving her vulnerable, which resulted in her being cat fished. However, understanding that there is this doctrine about a wife being unfaithful and clearly seeing Kody mimic this doctrine in his behaviour toward Meri, makes it difficult to believe, that Kody does n

Hello guys,So this my first year at the university and i still unable to maintain a meaningful intimate relationship for many reasons:

1. rough childhood ,i have been living in unstable,unsupportive family
2. tough school/high-school life i was bullied so many times
3. i am afraid to show interest to someone and i don't know why
4. Fear of Vulnerability in relationships
5. i hate showing emotions because i consider it as weakness
6. i hate saying stupid things like (you look beautiful,i love you...)
7. i consider intimate relationship stupid
8. my MBTI is ENTP/INTP(Right now)
9. i see love in general is just for Satisfy your Desires it's just bullshit
10. fear of rejection and ignoring especially right now because i have a lot of mental breakdown over a year and also it hurts my ego

Right now i am doing a decent job in normal relationships but i find difficulty to creating in intimate relationships i have never felt in love or i thought that i want to spend my life with one person don't get me wrong i have liked many girls but i have never reached the point of loving

It's starting to make feel depressed when I think about it because I feel like I've missed out on so much that other people have experience who are around my age because I shied away from everything.

While people was out experience life hanging out with friends and courting women to be potential partners going on dates with them and getting into relationship rather short term or long term and or just having sex I was at home alone every weekend because I had no friends at all to go hang out with and no family members that wanted me around.

And because of this I virtually wasted my pre-teens, teens and early 20s and have no experiences at all. Every year I told myself things would change and that I'll step out of my shell and meet a women but every year it was the same story and I got in closed more and more into my shell and now I'm going to be 26 and in 4 years I'll be 30 just saying that makes me feel like a loser.

It also doesn't help that out of everyone in my family that's old enough to date they have and have mutiple partners and lost there virginity while still young here I am turning 26 and nothing sometimes I think I'm adopted because everyone else can easily open up but I can't and overthink everything I do because of my social awkwardness

I want things to change I really do but I don't even know the first step in how to and I also feel if I actually stepped out of my shell and met a women once she finds out that I never been in a relationship or had any sort of intimate connection with a woman like never even having my first kiss or ever going on a date she'll think that I'm weird and become uninterested with the quickness

Just wondering what your opinion on this is

Basically, I'm looking for a book that has an evocative, intense relationship between two characters. I'm not looking for sexual/explicit content, but sexual tension, romance, and fade to black kind of sex scenes are OK. I'm not picky about what type of relationship it is: friendship, romantic, familial. Same gender, opposite gender. Whatever. If you've read Vicious by V.E. Schwab, the intensity of the relationship between Victor and Eli (particularly in the beginning) is kind of what I'm after.

Can overly politeness be a way to keep someone from coming too close?

How do you stop yourself from comparing to those gay couples that have it all, or those gay guys that are in their teen years and also have it all and being gay has never been a big issue to them. Like from accepting families. Or popular and model looking gay guys. At this point I have lost any faith that anything is ever going to happen and that I will ever find someone.

My partner and I are new to ENM. At the moment we think an open relationship would work for us. Personally if I like a man I'll just approach him and ask if he wants to hook up. If we have stuff in common I'm happy to chit chat a bit. I k ow this approach won't work for men. When looking at tinder/ok cupid etc what kind of guy are you looking for? Attractive, charismatic, nice? What profile info do you like to see? Personally I don't like it when men are too nice to me and suck up too much. I find that a turn off. I would like my partner to have a good experience. Please help me make it easier for him. :)

My boyfriend (age 35) and I (age 37) have been arguing like crazy the past year or two and it has only got worse. Around Christmas is when things really started to get bad. I had to get a biopsy to check for cancer. He gave me no comfort and was always calling me names or giving me the silent treatment for no reason. Ever since then things have continued to go downhill and FAST. He never apologizes for anything he does or said so it has made it extremely hard to move on about all the horrible things he has said to me, telling me I’m pathetic, I’m worthless, even going as far as to tell me he wishes I would just die.

About a month ago we were in a fight (we are always in a fight it seems) and he told me he didn’t desire me anymore. Since then I have demanded an apology or told him I can’t move on with him. This has seemed to make things even worse if possible. He says he apologized because he literally only said the word sorry with no emotion or validation of my feelings. That is not an apology, to me anyway. And he has continued to act like he doesn’t desire me anymore.

What would you do if your significant other told you they did not desire you anymore? Would you consider the relationship over?

We don't feel like patching up. Its been 7 days we haven't talked. This has happened for the first time in our relationship.

I personally think that the handful of men I’ve dealt with who participated in this were misogynistic/engaged in toxic masculinity and were trying to bolster their image/perceived “masculinity”. I’ve had awful sexual rumors being spread behind my back, and I’ve never been intimate, nor in any sort of relationship with these men (let alone anyone). I only know them as acquaintances, but they’ve told others that I’m their “side piece”, “girlfriend”, or “friends with benefits”. I find it disturbing because I’ve been forced in a role I never was informed about nor consented to. They’re pretending that I’m someone I’m not. And often times they do this with the intent of degrading/humiliating me as a person. For example, there’s one guy who claimed he was in a relationship with me, “dumped” me on my birthday, and how I supposedly devolved into “a mess” and went “crazy”. He bragged to his buddies about this. But I’ve never been with him. I’ve never been in a relationship with him. He faked this for over a year now. He doesn’t even have my contact info and vice versa. Everyone is taking his word, and the few other men who partook in the same behaviors, at face value and believing it. The worst part is I’m being treated like a social pariah for something that isn’t even true. I don’t understand why men think it’s okay to degrade/humiliate women to bolster their status based on a messed up notion of “masculinity”. I don’t understand why men think it’s “masculine” to tear down women. I don’t understand why men who partake in tearing down women are rewarded for it, let alone gain popularity and social favor among other men (and women, sadly). It’s weird to me, and something I will never understand.

Edit: It gets worse. A vicious woman I used to know spread a rumor that I had HIV/AIDS/STDs. She made a fake account pretending to be me on social media, and then deleted all the defamatory posts after impersonating me. She hates my guts for no reason, and has a tendency to blame me for everything that goes wrong in her life when I’m not involved in anyway. A group of people started jumping the hate bandwagon and started making up complete BS in their smear campaign to bolster themselves. Several others pulled the same thing too, where they would make fake accounts impersonating me. They would fabricate text messages, conversations, screenshots, and a bunch of other stuff as “proof”. I’m disturbed by how far people go to destroy others, and how toxic and hateful people

So, I never actually have been in a relationship, but I have been in love, have dated etc.

What I found is that intimate relationships are the only relationship to me. Every other relationship is just a lesser form of it. In an intimate relationship, I am purely myself, purely let down all guards protecting my golden heart and the paradise inside of me, purely show and give my absolute best, sensitive, caring, passionate side to this one person I love, this side I never show anyone else. And I really mean it, if you look through my feed you will see that I truly don’t care about the rest and if I’m hated. For those who know about enneagram, I am also a sx/sp, so maybe that’s the reason why.

Anyone else basically two different kinds of people? One the false exterior you shoe the rest, and one inner true side you only show this special someone?

So been trying to get small counseling sessions in for my anxiety. I’m 22 M in grad school, 5’7 220. I’ve been super freaking out about not being on a date ever and stuff like that for the past year. I’ve started hitting the gym to be more attractive and obviously focusing on my grades but I’m still anxious. My counseling helped me realize the reason I’m so freaked out is because I’ve never been on a date (which makes me thing I’m unworthy) and I feel like I’m so late to the game that I won’t know the first thing about intimacy or being a good bf if/when I do get into a relationship and they’ll end up leaving cause of it.

TL;DR: Counseling helped me realize reason I’m freaked about not finding anyone at 22 is later on if I do find someone I won’t know how to be intimate or a good partner to them and that terrifies me. Any help?

I'm starting to become hyper aware of how sex is mostly just a power flex for so many men over women. How do I know this? The way they avoid intimacy but act like we're equal partners in a friendship or a relationship, yet they're hoping sex happens.

If we are FWB or prospective FWB, they ghost me. They completely stop talking to me as if they're trying to 'control' communications and teach me to never speak up about sex to them again... so I just realize that I need to stop trying to be so intimate if I want to have anything to do with them? There might be short periods when they 'seem' co-operative, but their enthusiasm isn't there and they ghost for periods of time or entirely.

Same thing in a relationship, except they stonewall me and still expect sex to happen. They don't follow through on anything discussed, and they try initiating a few times until I speak up and remind them of what I want to change and/or reject their advances because they're avoiding addressing what I've brought up, before they punish me by withdrawing intimacy entirely. Then they act like they're a victim of what I want, when I haven't pushed anyone past any limits and have had WAY TOO MUCH PATIENCE to the point I start feeling used and gaslit (and I am being treated like that).

THIS HAPPENS TO ME EVERY SINGLE TIME I TRY TO TALK TO MEN ABOUT SEX.

During this pandemic of isolation (I haven't had sex since last August) I've realized that when it comes to sex with men, my body feels like a party hall that has been rented out by some mysterious organization, and I don't even know what kind of party is going on there, because they are not interested in having any intimate communication about what sex means to them or talking about achieving any sexual goals or EXPLORING sex together in a way that is verbal and a shared experience. It's like men just want to silently and wordlessly see my body and go on a totally separate journey away from me with it. Sex just feels boring and lonely, and I don't have a drive to have it anymore with new partners. Not without communication!

Does anyone else find they get ghosted/stonewalled for trying to talk about sex with their partners, friends, or prospective dates?

As a disclaimer, I'm not talking about guys on dating apps I haven't met or guys on reddit - we all know those guys will talk all kinds of shit about sex just to get a chance. I don't entertain that shit. I usually only begin discussions after a basic friendship or sexual relations

To give context, we've known each other for around 2 yrs as online friends, and recently we've been constantly talking for around 3 months. A month into the 3 months he decides to confess to me, however, at the time I didn't like him and he's just someone who is satisfied with where he is in life and works a minimum wage job. I'm a university graduate student with a bachelors degree working towards getting my masters and someone who was just satisfied with making $12/hr, wasn't someone who I was interested in. After the confession, I told him what was wrong and why I didn't want to date him. We didn't talk for around 2 days and after that our relationship really just returned to normal. A couple weeks later, from my perspective, since our personalities matched so well, and he is always a very funny and goofy guy that was very enjoyable to be around, we started to developed this relationship of intimacy with no labels(sleeping in call together, flirting, sharing sexual preferences, playing games together, etc.) I had realized this early on, but I really didn't care because as selfish as it sounds I felt like if the relationship was going downhill I could pull out at anytime, but that really changed for me when I seriously started to catch feelings. He had told me he had plans to go back to school, and talked about futuristic stuff that he was planning to do, and I was just instantly sold. I was so happy to hear him talk about all these ambitious things and I started to take the relationship more seriously.

I started to tell him about stuff I had never really told anyone before, only my closest friends and family knew about. I told him about how my insecurities, past issues, previous lovers that hurt me with always lying and ignoring my messages, I told him about how they would manipulate me into thinking I was the crazy one, and that I was too needy, and needed to stop overthinking. I told him stuff that I felt left me vulnerable and naked, and he promised me it was something he was never going to do to me, but that it did. Mind I like to add, apparently, he has never been in a serious relationships before so he has no clue on how to date anyone. This continued for around 1-2wks and then everything changed when someone else caught his attention. It was another friend of mind that was already in a relationship, however the relationship was a long-distance relationship that she has been feeling very sad about, because he is currently attending university in

Hello introverts.

I just can't bring myself to talk to women. I mean as long as it is in the friendzone i have no problems at all, but as soon as it gets serious my mind shuts down and i just want to run away.

One day none of my friends had time, so I told myself: ,,duck it I'm going to a pub myself". I met a girl a bit older than me. We had a few drinks, laughed, had a good time, etc. (I still don't know how I managed to do this) Then came the moment it all went down. She actually invited me to her place. When I got there i felt so uncomfotable. I couldn't talk or even do anything. I just didn't want to be there. In the end nothing happeened and i just slept there. I couldn't sleep that night and was questioning myself, wtf am I even doing here? The next morning I went home and never saw her again. I just felt guilty for maybe giving her fals hopes or anything.

I had a rough childhood and I dont think I'm able to trust anyone enough to let them into my life, ever.

Has anyone experienced the same (of course has anyone) or knows how to get over this feelings?

Thanks in advance.

Ps: sorry for maybe bad english.

The problem with intimacy is that most people are content with only one intimate relationship. More than one is nice, but most can scrape by with just one. The truth is, if I were lucky enough to have one, I would probably prune unstructured socializing outside the confines of that relationship from my life, to make more time for my career. Is that cynical? How many non-coworkers do you arrange to meet, in person, more than once a week? If you are in high school or college, shut up.

Since most people are content with just one intimate relationship, and since the sexual/romantic relationship has more than just intimacy going for it, the sexual/romantic relationship has become the exclusive domain of intimacy. So the question of intimacy divides us into two groups: coupled (winners) and single (losers).

If you are a loser, your goal is to secure intimacy. If you don’t understand the way things work, you will try to secure intimacy outside the confines of a sexual/romantic relationship. This will fail for two possible reasons.

(i) Your would-be intimate is a “winner”, and doesn’t need intimacy with you, because most people are content with only one intimate relationship. Even if you are intimate with them, they, ultimately, are willing to walk away. The obvious power imbalance is fatal to intimacy.

(ii) Your would-be intimate is a loser, but you both know any intimacy that might arise between you is a provisional arrangement until one of you gets into a sexual/romantic relationship. At that point, your relationship will become a candidate for pruning, not because you have grown apart, but because most people are content with only one intimate relationship. Intimacy between two parties who both intend to abandon it as soon as possible is unappealing and we typically avoid it.

Since all this occurs because most people are content with only one intimate relationship, we have, by being resilient enough to make do with only one intimate relationship, made ourselves mostly miserable. And paradoxically, if people were more emotionally needy, the question of intimacy would be much less fraught.

Tl;dr: Put BPD-inducing chemicals in the tap water now

Their horses were well-trained for war and were easy to maneuver by their riders. In fact, the Turks raised their mounts themselves from foals and developed close relationships with them. They were excellent at caring for their horses and were more skilled than veterinarians when it came to treating their horses when they fell ill or got injured. Additionally, when the Turkic Warriors hungered or thirsted they could sustain themselves through their horses by drinking their milk or their blood; this often negated the need for cumbersome baggage trains on campaign. When not at war the Turks continued to sharpen their skills by constantly riding and hunting game, which kept them in the best shape possible.

Based on the description given by al-Jahiz in his essay, the Turks were probably one of the best warriors of the medieval period. They were versatile and combined the roles of several different types of soldier into one. They were scouts, raiders, skirmishers, heavy cavalry, and shock cavalry all in one; and could operate as infantry as well if the need arose. One can argue that al-Jahiz’ description may not be very objective because he wrote his essay for one of his patrons, who happened to be a Turk officer in the Abbasid army. However, when examining the historical record and other sources one can see that al-Jahiz is not too far off in his analysis of the Turks. They were pastoralist nomads who depended on their animals for their livelihood. Their need for mobility also made them an equestrian people, skilled at riding and raising horses. The harsh environment in which they lived also forced them to be a very martial people. The various Turkic tribes and clans often warred with one another for the best pastures. They also raided each other for livestock and slaves and also attacked sedentary and agricultural communities to obtain goods that they did not produce (although they often traded with them too). This lifestyle honed the military skills of the Turks, who were riding and shooting from a very young age, and made them the first choice as recruits into the armies of the rulers of the Muslim world both as mercenaries and slave soldiers.

Al-Jahiz is not the only medieval writer who viewed the Turks as the best soldiers. Nizam al-Mulk (the great Seljuk vizier) and Qay Qavus Ibn Iskandar (one of the last rulers of the North Iranian Ziyarid dynasty) Both of these authors extol the martial virtues of the Turks, stating that no group or race is more cour

I always felt a bit like a creep to masturbate about someone if I really liked the person and wanted to/had a chance of being with them.

I have many guy friends who will, with varying levels of shame, admit to having imagined all of their 'hot' friends or those of whom they are dating at the time, and of course they also climactically imagined sex with the person prior to them becoming a couple.

Now the chance that they are still with that same person currently is next to nothing. So i wonder if there is at all any level of correlation, or if any of the issues which arose during the relationship share a theme: Such as an imbalance of fondness or respect—aka, for example one who felt they were more sexually attracted to the other than they felt the other was to them. Or, if the idea they formed of the person that they imagined did not conform with the reality of what the person is really like?

Tldr; did you masturbate thinking of your significant other prior to actually meeting or being intimate them in real life? If so, are you still with them where? where are they now, and what was/ is the relationship like? What problems did you encounter and what was overcome?

I'm looking for a free pdf version of this textbook, if anyone has it I will really appreciate it!

If we are FWB or prospective FWB, they ghost me. They completely stop talking to me as if they're trying to 'control' communications and teach me to never speak up about sex to them again... so I just realize that I need to stop trying to be so intimate if I want to have anything to do with them? There might be short periods when they 'seem' co-operative, but their enthusiasm isn't there and they ghost for periods of time or entirely.

Same thing in a relationship, except they stonewall me and still expect sex to happen. They don't follow through on anything discussed, and they try initiating a few times until I speak up and remind them of what I want to change and/or reject their advances because they're avoiding addressing what I've brought up, before they punish me by withdrawing intimacy entirely. Then they act like they're a victim of what I want, when I haven't pushed anyone past any limits and have had WAY TOO MUCH PATIENCE to the point I start feeling used and gaslit (and I am being treated like that).

THIS HAPPENS TO ME EVERY SINGLE TIME I TRY TO TALK TO MEN ABOUT SEX.

During this pandemic of isolation (I haven't had sex since last August) I've realized that when it comes to sex with men, my body feels like a party hall that has been rented out by some mysterious organization, and I don't even know what kind of party is going on there, because they are not interested in having any intimate communication about what sex means to them or talking about achieving any sexual goals or EXPLORING sex together in a way that is verbal and a shared experience. It's like men just want to silently and wordlessly see my body and go on a totally separate journey away from me with it. Sex just feels boring and lonely, and I don't have a drive to have it anymore with new partners. Not without communication!

Does anyone else find they get ghosted/stonewalled for trying to talk about sex with their partners, friends, or prospective dates?

As a disclaimer, I'm not talking about guys on dating apps I haven't met or guys on reddit - we all know those guys will talk all kinds of shit about sex just to get a chance. I don't entertain that. I usually only begin discussions after a basic friendship or sexual relationship has started, but recently, I've decided I am NEVER going to fuck with a guy period if he can't talk to me like a grown, giving, verbal, passionate adult first.

But I keep finding that men are willing to throw away entire friendships that could have be