Repost, I'm not the original poster.
Original by u/narcissismftl:
I don't even know where to begin. I am so heartbroken, yet numb at the same time. I have been with J for over a year now. We moved really quickly & lived pretty far apart. We were originally talking about him coming to live with me, but a window opened up for me & I was able to leave & start anew or stay where I was & be apart from J for an undetermined amount of time. I decided to go for it. I am a romantic at heart & the whole situation was very exciting. But we all know where this is going. Sorry, this is a really long one.
I am definitely no angel. Things were really good for the first few months but pretty much ever since then we fight & argue pretty consistently. I am a very affectionate, emotional, & invested person when it comes to relationships. He is very solitary & very much enjoys being alone. He hadn't had a serious relationship in quite some time before he & I started dating so I was able to be somewhat understanding. But if we were ever to get into a really bad argument, it was just me, on my own, trying to figure out how to pick up the pieces & be okay again. There's really too much that's happened to pin point anything in particular, but for a while now he has just been incredibly cold to me whenever we disagree. He is very proud & stubborn as well, so he rarely ever backs down, even if he knows he is wrong. He has a very hard time apologizing or even acknowledging & validating my feelings. The biggest WTF about all of that is that he is a social worker who's been in the field for quite a few years. He understands my needs & what hurts me. He understands the importance of validating someone's feelings even if you don't see eye to eye. He understands everything that we should be doing but everything is all so fucked up. In addition, over the course of the past year he also has turned more & more to alcohol. And when he's drinking, his antics are taken to the extreme. Before I moved here I didn't really think he drank all that much. He never did when we visited each other, but I know sometimes he drank wine to help him sleep. Now he drinks at least a bottle or more a night. Sometimes he will buy liquor & has gone through 3/4 to an entire bottle of whiskey in one night, the most recent time being about a week a
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I work at a woman-heavy office, very few men. The gossip is rife and I have been dragged in or should I say I have succumbed to the temptation of gossiping a bit too - there is a dopamine or some other chemical hit I think I have been getting but of course it doesn’t last and I am back where I began. I have anxiety and I think that’s part of it. The more I gossip with others who will the more I worry about gossip about me.
Anyway, I am not the worst but don’t want the reputation of being involved - how to extricate myself and cope without that toxic coping pattern? Any advice on doing this without appearing holier than though or ruffing feathers?
Hello all,
As per the title and to be more specific, how would you all go about extricating and transporting a patient in a limited prone position such as an impaled object in the back or an obvious deformity of the spinous processes?
I imagine there is a lot of grey in this but I can think of two immediate options:
- strapping the pt in a recovery-like position sideways and pad both the anterior and posterior spaces with pillows
- extricate the pt in the prone position as one would normally for a supine pt although the head would be turned to the side which runs into an issue with c-spine or SMR considerations
Any other thoughts or inputs are much appreciated
I am killing myself. There's a track that features maybe an organ in a refrain that has the sequence of notes:
B F# E F# D F# C# F# B F# E F# G E D C#
Please... somebody put me out of my misery and tell me what it is!!
TLDR: Slept with coworker. Guy turned out to be awful, passive aggressive, and jealous. Don't want to engage with him anymore, but also will have to deal with fallout due to his nature. Best way to handle this?
So the beginning of 2021 was great for me in terms of personal growth. I was settling into my new job just fine and my self-esteem was at an all time high. I was feeling more confident in myself than I had for a long while. During this time I realized that a coworker I had a crush on for some months was noticing me; so I did something I hadn't ever done before and approached him for a casual sexual relationship. This turned out to be a mistake.
I very quickly found out that this guy is...well he is a bit of an ass. At work he comes across as a very chill, down to earth person that's bursting with positivity. The reality is different: he can be rude, passive aggressive, full of himself, inattentive, hold a grudge like no tomorrow, and is just plain gross sometimes. Also he's horrid at sex. I held out for awhile, for a long while, hoping that he would listen to what I was telling him about my needs, but he just didn't care. Despite this though he had the nerve to get upset at me for hanging out with male friends like he had some sort of claim over me.
I am done dealing him and wish to exit this without issues. The problem is I don't think I'll be able to. I expect he will completely stop talking to me (which I've already experienced when he was mad at me) and while I don't expect anything huge to happen at work over this he will definitely take it personally and make things awkward at work.
Should I send him a text telling him directly that our arrangement is over? Should I be more passive and dodge his attempts to meet up until he gets the hint? I honestly expect drama no matter what and just want to get this out of the way.
I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here but I thought it could raise an interesting discussion.
I'm an EMT and we use KEDs to extricate people from a wrecked car. The problem in traumas is that it is necessary to keep the spinal chord as much intact as possible, by keeping it aligned. Basically a KED (Kendrick's Extraction Device, for those who don't know) is a rigid, mobile, foldable device to place on the patient's torso with which, thanks to a system of straps, we can pull people out.
However, in a F1 car the cockpit is much more packed and it'd be very difficult to place something like that. Also I'm not sure the position of the driver would allow to use it.
So do you know how they extricate potentially injured drivers?
It doesn’t have to be large. You can pay in cash so as not to leave a trail. You can slowly transfer things of value to that space, because when your SO gets mad, the things you find precious will be the things they destroy first. You can also begin stashing things you need if you pull the “fuck this shit” rip cord, like clothes, toiletries, cash etc. because sometimes when you have to get out, you have to get out fast and leave everything. If times get real bad and you have to bail, you can go there. They are gated and video monitored and your SO will be looking for you at places that you would likely go, like friends or family. If the weather is harsh, you can duck out there for a few hours out of the elements “organizing” your unit.
Edit: I have seen such an outpouring of hope and great advice and experiences. We all learn from each others experience. I hope to continue that feeling of inclusion, that we are all in this together, until we can all find happiness.
When Eugene McCarthy was running for president, he was asked about his plan to get out of Vietnam. His answer was "In Ships!!!". We entered Afghanistan to punish Bin Laden for 9-11 and the Taliban for hosting him all those years. Then, Dubya decided it would look like we were invaders if we just hit them and then departed so he tried his hand at nation building. 20 years later we are about to do exactly what we should have done back then. Pack everything up and get out. We should take all the Afghans who helped us as well but that is a different post. Stop pretending there is an end game and leave the damn country.
What the title says. This high-market-valuation situation isn't going to change despite all the warning cries of value investors, until and unless the US gov stimulus stops and it begins to unwind/extricate itself from the financial markets & banks. So, my question is, how will that happen and what will The Great Unwinding look like when it does?
• what is the effect on markets when bond/corporate bond-buying by the Fed ceases, and who loses and who benefits (this may involve tracking individual companies to short/buy based on their debt and credit facilities utilization)?
• what is the effect on markets when windows close on Cares Act related loans and grants, and who loses and who stands to benefit? What do we look for there? I've read an article that said no one knows what companies will actually be solvent and which will not because that info is currently hidden behind the loans and grants.
• what is the effect on markets when the window closes on Cares Act related unemployment benefits, and which stocks stand to lose and which stocks stand to benefit (bank/credit stocks lose & defensive Wal-mart style stocks benefit?)?
• what is the effect on markets if this new stimulus package proceeds, as they suggest it will, in mid to late July?
• how will The Great Unwinding of the most massive stimulus ever affect inflation and what are the factors that can tip us to inflation or deflation? (This is very relevant to me because investing in some foreign stocks as a hedge against a big inflation move of the USD is a part of my strategy)?
• what is the true risk of downside so long as the Fed and the US gov has its stimulus hat on? What factors, if they exist, could defeat the US gov's attempts to prop up market values during this time and are they so-called "tail-risk", "black swan" events like a new SARS-CoV emerging while SARS-CoV2 is still in pandemic mode?
I don't know about anyone else but being on top of these questions seem more relevant to my investment decisions for the rest of the summer & early Fall than the things that value investors typically look at. As far as coronavirus infection factors, I think every investor is looking at those, so I think analyzing the stimulus and how The Great Unwinding might go down is the only thing I feel I haven't gotten a handle on. I think it would be cool if reddit get good at analyzing this aspect of our current market situation.
Any suggestions?
Showers of love, twisting walls
Menaces made so many calls
Reality of flying, logical reason
Dressed in fire, the decent dolls
Illusion of drowning is irrational
Naked in a storm, unreasonable
Left by your love? examined alas
She felt alone, I was responsible
Frozen alone, I was but broken
Left all scattered out and open
Drought of despair on flat floors
Blissful words and never spoken
Held now in arms of caring love
Ask of the anxious pull n shove
Melt together as one, we meld
Held together away and above
I am middle aged and recently met someone in my area and we thought we would be a good friend fit...we spent a day together hanging out..
A few things bothered me off the bat. I said we can get together after an errand I had to run and she wanted to come with me. Um okay. I didn't know EXACTLY what time I was going to go which was why I didn't want her to come. I didn't want her to be waiting for me...
The day comes and I say hey I will be ready in 30min and she says well I am already on my way over. Jeez this is EXACTLY what I wanted to avoid. So now I am spending my day on her decoded schedule.
We get done and I said I said let's go eat my treat...she picked the restaurant since she didn't want to go to either of my suggestions and we went. Anytime I spoke she said something like...wow you must be isolated , or do you always need to share?
She flat out said "you talk to much" but I had been listening to her dramatic life stories for damn near 4 hours with little input.
Her drama is WAY beyond what I want in my life. Her marriage, living situations, kid issues, family issues, financial issues...if there is an issue she has it. I was trying to be encouraging. Things will get better etc..I wasn't saying oh you need to do xyz to turn things around...just giving friendly support not advice. I was over it.
So I drop her off. I visited her home and it was a train wreck. Just gross. Not cluttered dirty but dirt and dog shit dirty and I do NOT do gross. I politely excused myself as needing to get home.
She had forgot her bottled drink in my car , I threw it in the fridge and then she was burning up my phone about getting it. Even coming over unannounced and then texting me AT WORK about how she thought people were home because of the cars in the driveway nut no one answered the door and I was like IDK I am at work and can't talk now.!!!
My kid cleaned out the fridge and threw it out because that is our standard rule for trash day preparation. I told her and thought that would be the hint...I got a rather snarky reply saying yeah it figures! Um excuse me? Because I don't live in a hovel and keep my surroundings reasonably clean and neat you're gonna bitch about a old now flat soft drink I BOUGHT YOU getting thrown out?! I was like whatever and ignored it.
Then I got an text about wanting to get together and she wanted my work schedule. Um no. I don't share that with anyone, it changes often anyway and I don't like people just showing up at my
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At some point he’s got to run out of money and/or patience. When that happens, how does he escape her ?
