I know I never explicitly told him, "For my birthday, I want it to go like this____", and I think most women/people feel the same way when they say, we want our S.O's to give us something like flowers because they want to give them to us, and we don't want to tell them to give us flowers because it's about the S.O wanting to give us flowers. You can replace "flowers" with anything, and in my situation it is about my birthday.
My boyfriend (29) of two years, took off three days from his busy work, which I didn't ask for, but I appreciate it very much. For thee three days I planned everything out, as I always plan the day every time we are together. Otherwise, we would do nothing all day and I can do that for half of the time, but I need to step out of the house every now and then, but that is who he is for context. (He would do nothing after work, and would continue to do nothing on his days off if it were for me scraping him off his bed and airing him our every now and then.)
Over these three days for my b-day, I planned three attraction visits, paid for both of our tickets for them all since I had to book in advance, drove my car seven hours (more counting the little destinations in-between), filled up gas a few times, and bought food for one of the days. His effort was buying my lunch once, saying happy birthday and gave me a kiss and that was it. He was going to buy me a gift that I showed to him when he asked weeks ago, but put it off till the actual day of my b-day. When he was going to order it, it was sold out and that ended that.
So, it just left me feeling empty afterwards and not appreciated. I had to plan everything myself, by the tickets since I was planning things. I drove my self around and never really got to relax since I had to deal with city traffic and I am a nervous driver so that was not fun.I mentioned money a lot, but that was just to demonstrate the disparity I feel/see in the day and almost our whole relationship, and for me it's not about money but thee effort. There was such little effort here that I just felt empty. I mean not even a dollar store hallmark card or a dandelion flower from the weedy grass patches on the side of the road.
What would you have done differently in this situation and the days leading up to not feel so empty?
I don't want to tell him what I want, but I know I would get nothing if I don't tell him what I want, which is what happened here this year. Even when I did tell him about the gift, I still
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Naked is a British production from 1993 directed by Mike Leigh and starring David Thewlin. Focusing on the lower-class struggles of existential twenty-something’s during the 90’s, it is a dark and nauseating window into the anxieties and dread of an intelligent nihilist that has lost all hope in a world he believes will soon end. This is Mike Leigh’s darkest film and, in my opinion, his best.
I’m looking for anything similar in tone, character study, style, or overall nihilism. One of my favourites; I love the bleak depiction of the nauseating nineties embodied through the stellar character acting. Discounting anything by Mike Leigh, what are your recommendations?
Looking forward to hearing your recommendations! I feel with all the viral paranoia and mayhem running riot, I need one of Johnny’s glorious nihilistic monologues o society to cheer me up 😂 Ruin my day, people!
My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance since we started dating and in December I decided to stay with him for Christmas and New Years because his family lives in a different country and because of Covid he cant see them. My 2 friends ask if they can drive the 300km to come over to get drunk with us and stay the night. Friend A (F) is a mutual friend between both my boyfriend and I and friend B (M) never met my boyfriend before. On the way there they ask if my bf and I wanted any alcohol from the liquor store. The way they worded the conversation made it seem as if they were offering to buy the alcohol for us.
When my friends arrive to the apartment, friend B asks my bf if he can smoke inside. My bf says no because he doesn’t like the smell of smoke inside his apartment. After a couple times of asking, friend B starts bragging about how he has $1500 in the wallet and offers $50 to my bf if he can smoke inside the house. Eventually my bf agrees but tells friend B to open the window to air out the smoke.
The next morning friend B messages me after he leaves if I can send him $25 for the beers he bought us and the $50 because “it was a deposit incase they broke something in the apartment and they didn’t” so he wants it back . I agreed to give him the $25 because i didn’t wanna get into an argument about $25 but I told him that the $50 wasn’t for a ‘deposit’ but rather to smoke inside the house, which he did so we’re not giving it back. I don’t understand why he thought the $50 was for a deposit? We’re not an Airbnb and if they actually did end up breaking something we would’ve made them pay for it. We would’ve never accepted money for a deposit because that’s just a really weird thing to do.
After 2 months (yesterday), he messages me again if I can send him the $50 and tries to guilt trip by saying that my bf and I took advantage of him because he was drunk and that he’s super broke and that he needs the money to pay his phone bill, grocery bills, and support his mother because she lost 40% of her income due to Covid. I’ve know friend B for 6 years and he has a habit of manipulating his friends into doing favours for him and I wasn’t going to let him manipulate my emotions into giving him money that i don’t have. I told him that it wasn’t my fault that he made a poor choice in giving my bf money and that I wasn’t responsible for his actions. He continues to try to make me feel shitty by saying the reason i can’t find a job is because i’m “always wi
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Me and my boyfriend dont live together, (we are 21 and in a LDR-ish situation) and he lives in a rental 1room apartment with his other 4 family members, his dad, mum, older sis and brother. His parents are separated but due to financial problems, rely on each other thus living together. My boyfriend is the only asthmatic person in his family, and get very sensitive to fur. His mom on the other hand is a cat lady- a very extreme one. Their entire family are cat lovers, bf included. Every day, his mom will do rounds for stray cats in their neighbourhood to feed them, and brings home a new cat who will live at their home for months before releasing them due to cat fights.
I didnt pay attention to this, until my bf confided in me about how stressed out he is for taking care of random cats his mom brings home, and doctors even notices his lung conditions getting worse. (have to stay home due to covid, thus he inhales more fur if this makes sense)
When i paid them a visit lately, i felt overwhelmed by their living conditions. 2 adult strays and their own cat, fur everywhere in their 200sq apartment, all the lights turned off and their windows shut due to the cats' safety. All these plus the hoarding near his older brother's bed. I feel that he is being abused. I been with him for 5 years now, and the way his mother has been getting worse, bringing home cats and refusing to seek help for them. By seeking help, i meant sending them to a nearby vet ALL BECAUSE, she doesnt want the possibility of surrendering her new found cat to an owner who was looking for it.
I basically shot down his mom complains because i am done keeping quiet all these time and decided that it is important as ot is considering the health of my bf. She wakes him up every 4AM no matter what just to ask him to send the cats to the toilet (they didnt have house space for a litterbox) and says that she has no choice but to "save" them and gets depressed when she learns that my bfs lung conditions are worsening. I explained and gave solutions to her all her complains, and she clearly didnt like it. My boyfriend appreciated what i did but said that nothing will go in her head because she is full of herself.
I feel that i am the asshole because me, a total stranger, just shuts her opinion down and she being a stereotypical boomer must feel offended by it.
My sister started living with me recently and pays me reduced rent. I was away from home for about a week due to work. I gave her a simple rule of forbidding her bringing anyone over. Not her new boyfriend or her friends. No exceptions to this rule. Well she broke that rule.
During my week away. One of her Instagram posts showed her BF wearing one of my jackets on a night out. I called her out on it and she apologised and told me she put everything back. So now I know that he has been in my room and going through my things.
What killed me inside was that she also had a party. Lots of drinking involved. Including my vintage whisky. They cost me around £7000 and were near full. So I demanded that they pay me back.
My sister is begging me that she didn't know and thought her boyfriend bought them. Her boyfriend blocked me and called me crazy. He is now thinking about breaking up with her over this. Everyone I know is calling me an asshole for demanding they cover my loss. Apparently I should forgive a simple mistake. So AITA?
My(M22) boyfriend’s(M27) mom visits from time to time. She doesn’t live near us so when she visits she always stays for the night. She has the keys. Usually she always warns us when she’s coming and this time she didn’t.
It was like 9 pm, me and my boyfriend were having sex and we hear knocking for like 5 seconds and then door opening. We stop and hear his mom calling out. He starts getting dressed. I’m HANDCUFFED TO THE FUCKING BED. She’s clearly coming towards the bedroom. While my boyfriend’s trying to unlock the handcuffs(but his hands are shaking) she calls out again. He yells, telling her to not come inside. She must’ve thought that this was an invitation to bust into the bedroom. She saw me(thank god I had blanket over me) turned bright red and closed the door fast. My boyfriend started laughing and finally unlocked the handcuffs. I got mad and asked him what was so funny about it, he just continued laughing. I got dressed and left, stayed over at my friend’s house and ignored my boyfriend’s texts. I got home next day when I knew his mom would’ve been gone.
He was really mad at me for ignoring him and acting petty over nothing. He also said that his mom felt incredibly awkward because of it. He’s still kinda ignoring me, It’s like he’s waiting for an apology.
Okay, I need to get this out of my chest before this thought eats me alive. We have been together for a long time now, almost 10 years. For the past 3 years, I started developing anxiety and I overthink a lot. And my boyfriend used to be my escape from anxious thoughts, I felt safe and secured when I used to spend time with him. My mood would lighten up and I used to feel happy. But since the past 4-5 months, I started to feel ekdum overwhelmed after meeting him. Not that bheteko bela nai testo hune, but after coming back home. I remember distinctly having anxiety attacks and crying to sleep on nights at least four times that we met.I don't know why this is happening. I know the issue is within me and I don't want him to feel bad about this. He has been a blessing but something about our relationship is triggering me. I want to talk to him about this but I'm holding myself back because I know I will have a breakdown and shit will get really emotional and all.
For context, my boyfriend [22M] and I [19M] have been together for roughly 3 months and recently he’s been struggling with expenses and payments due to COVID. He is extremely prideful and rejects any notion of me offering to help him out financially. For background, he has to pay $500 rent every month to his step-dad. He lives in the step-dads house with his mother and his siblings (step-dad owns the house). My boyfriend is the only one that has to pay rent among his siblings of similar age.
My plan was to go behind my boyfriends back and speak to his mother and give her 3 months worth of rent on behalf of my boyfriend. She would then go to my boyfriends step-dad and give him the money as rent for the following 3 months. In order for my boyfriend to not find out that I was the one that helped out, I would suggest that his mom say that she’s giving the step-dad the rent money in order to give her son a break from rent due to COVID, leaving me not implicated and my boyfriends pride intact.
Would this make me look like an asshole to my boyfriends mom or step-dad because i’m basically helping out my boyfriend instead of them, essentially showing them that they are insensitive to his financial troubles during a difficult time?
EDIT: All of his siblings are step-siblings.
So basically, I'm a loner. I'm 19f and I have no friends. I moved in 2014 when I was 14, and I had to leave all my friends behind. I've tried to keep in contact with them, but as it goes most of the time, they don't text or answer calls anymore. I didn't let this stop me from trying to make friends here.
In 2015, I started 9th grade. I started to talk with people and I even made a couple of friends. During this time, I developed severe acne. My confidence plummeted... people stopped talking to me and began to avoid me. Instead of asking me how my day was, I got questions like "did you get in an accident," or "do you wash your face?" It was bad. This is when I began to avoid people and I felt ashamed in my own skin. I did meet my boyfriend during this time, but I was still awkward. In a way, I was relieved that he liked me despite my condition and shyness. We started dating in 2016 and are still together today. I began talking to people again during this time, but friendships never really developed. I found myself only hanging out with my boyfriend.
My boyfriend has his own friends, and I've hung out with them at times too. The problem is that I'd like my own friends and not have to depend on my boyfriend to experience a social life. He has encouraged multiple times to go out and meet people or join a club, but that ultimately fails. Usually people are already in tight friend groups and I feel like an intruder at times.
Fast forward to 2020, I'm in my last semester of college (dual-enrollment in high-school) and I'm graduating soon. During this time, I still had issues making friends and talking with people. I start university this summer and I'd like to take my life back. I still battle with acne, but not like before. I know I'm capable of bringing myself out, but I'd like some advice. How can I get my life back in order? How do I rebuild my confidence?
I’ve just found out my boyfriend has been texting females behind my back, saying he fancied them and wanted them, there’s obviously a lot more like dirty talking but that’s summed up (I count this as cheating but not as bad as sex, so I can forgive him over time although I’m very hurt). I talked to him about this he apologised said he loved me and didn’t know why he did it and that he never actually had sex with any of them. I’m trying to move past this since we’ve been together for nearly a year and a half and the only things I found saved were from 3 months into our relationship. So I’ve found nothing recent but this doesn’t mean there is nothing (the more recent stuff I did find though was him replying to girls posting on stories in their underwear saying “nice” or “sexy”. I love him and want to continue, if I should is it alright to ask him to block these girls or should I just leave now. I’d also like to mention I’ve asked him if he’s ever cheated on me before this and he’s just gotten mad at me. I also only checked because he would always hide things.
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