Me and my girlfriend went to visit her family this week, our plan being to fly out last Friday and to fly back home this Saturday morning. I have got a chronic pain condition and packed my medication accordingly. I need it to get through the day in a semi normal fashion and to get something resembling a full night of sleep.
Last night my girlfriend’s grandmother passed away. The funeral is on Friday and my girlfriend has said she’d rather wait with flying back until Monday which is completely understandable. Its the first time since Christmas she’s seen her family due to Covid and considering the circumstances she should be surrounded by family.
My problem is that I know I’ll be both useless to her and might spend most of the weekend curled up in bed if I don’t get my meds. On the flip side me deciding I’d rather stick to our original plan would deprive her of being with her family because she’s said she’d come home with me if I make that call.
Am I the asshole for considering sticking to the original plan to get my medication?
EDIT: My medication is a controlled drug and due to devolved healthcare systems I’ll not be able to get it here at short notice/have my GP from home order it to a local pharmacy. (We live in Wales and are currently in Northern Ireland).
She has been a friend for quite a while and it’s become a romantic relationship without the title
I apologize if this seems like a dumb question I just honestly don’t know
My mother died in mid-September after many years in a nursing home with dementia. She and my father had close to $1M banked before first my father, and then my mother had to get advanced care for several years. The nursing homes took all the money in $16k increments every month until they had nothing left before Medicaid kicked in. My father died a few years ago.
My mother had an allowance of $50/month from social security. That's all you're allowed to keep. She also had an allowance of $90/month from the VA for being the widow of a WWII service member. The money was kept in an account at the nursing home. My mother was bedridden and couldn't communicate for the past several years, so her needs were minimal. Periodically we would spend her allowance on stuff for her -- we got her a recliner, an ipod, clothes, gifts for the nurses, etc. We hadn't used it in a while when she died. There was over $1700 in there.
I'm the executor, and one of my jobs is to get all her money together and close out her estate. The day after she died I called the nursing home about the allowance account and they told me that we couldn't have it back. The only exception was for her funeral expenses. We could use it for that. So we asked for it for that purpose, and they said -- we can't give it to you, it has to go directly to the funeral home -- they have to request it. So we told them that C******* Funeral Home was taking care of her and that the money needed to go to them. Then we told C******* Funeral Home. They told us they know all about these accounts, they do this all the time. They would apply the allowance to the costs and send us a bill for the remainder. They said "we'll take care of everything."
She died in mid-September. We still hadn't received a bill for the remainder. This morning we emailed the funeral home asking for the bill so we can close out her estate. They wrote back saying (and this is copy/paste):
We apologize, but by the time we applied for the monies, it was too late.
The monies have to be turned over within 30 days.
We thought we had sent you a bill. The total is $2445.00.
I just stared at the screen. They couldn't even call us? To make matters worse, the owner of the funeral home was a personal friend of my mother's. She adored him. He didn't even send the email, he had an employee do it. What a coward. I left a message for him to call me and the employee called me back instead. All I could do was tell her "OF COURSE we are not
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