Wish she would come later in the week. Thursday or Friday. We don't have the stamina for family visits every day the week before our wedding. I still have some stuff to do. We will both be working. When she visits my partner tends to become withdrawn and irritable and I end up doing most of the heavy lifting during the visit. She is very overbearing. She wants everyone to exhibit the emotions that she feels they should exhibit at any given time. She is always explaining the "significance" of this and that and expecting to be appreciated as seeing everythign on a higher level. Some mild examples: Last time she came, she tried to tell a story (that was clearly embellished) about "her refugee" (a teenager from family of refugees she volunteers with) meeting her for dinner at a restaurant. The teenager supposedly asked her "Is this an 'American' restaurant?" and my partners mom explained how there isn't really an American food identity yadayadyada. But she really wanted me and my partner to be like, wow! What an insight! I never thought of it like that before! But we were just like, sure. So she repeated the story and made the point again, and continued to explain her point, because clearly we didn't get it if we were impressed by her observation. And the moral of her story was how astounded "her refugee" was by this observation.
We took her to a nature trail that we like to walk and she kept pointing out the significance of the quiet--but it wasn't quiet because she was talking the whole time. She kept telling us about a trip she took to South Africa and the quiet of the plains, and how we wouldn't believe how surreal it was. How we have no idea. But she can't stop talking. And she is clearly not really enjoying this nature trail, just enjoying the "idea" of being the sort of person who "gets it".
The observations tend to extend to her (middle aged) children, me, and her grandchildren. You can't do anything without her knowing better than you what the significance is. You did this because you are this sort of person. No one gets to just like something because they like it. She will just make stuff up too. She told my mother a couple of years ago, unprompted, that the reason my partner and I weren't married after dating for 10 years is that he had told her that he loved me and he wanted to marry me but that he was afraid because he loved me so much and he was afraid I would leave him." What? I do not think he has divulged one personal secret to her in the
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I will try to make this short. So story was I have proposed to my girlfriend and we had agree to get married. So we had bought a house together for our live after marriage. My parents wishes to stay with me after our marriage as well.
For context, my parents whom came for a poor background but bad done a wonderful job of raising me to who I am today and successful enough to buy my own house. My culture here is usually very focus on filiality to parents, especially if parents had raised u up in hardship. They are the type that is willing to give me everything including their fortune for me to be successful.
So the problem starts when i told this to my girlfriend. She had the impression that me being filial to my parents and not ignoring their wishes is akin to me being control by my parents. Like even when we bought the house, my parents would give their opinion and strongly advise me to take their opinion.
My girlfriend felt that she wont not have a lot of freedom as a newlywed as she is seem to be marrying into my family rather to me alone.
This led to a big argument between myself, my girlfriend and my parents.
Parents point of view - We have raised you up to be successful you are. If you ask is not to move in together, you are being unfilial and we will disown you. You should break the marriage off as your girlfriend is not willing to accept your parents. They dont agree to move in later after 3 years as proposed by myself and girlfriend.
Girlfriend point of view - Your parents has been controlling your decision from deciding the location of the house, renovation and furniture fittings. I can foresee I will be at the losing end if there is any conflict while staying in together, as you will most likely side with your parents. Why not give us 3 years to stay alone before your parents move in. Your parents house is just 10 min drive from our new house.
My point of view - i acknowledge my parents are the reason why I am even able to meet my current girlfriend and buy our house together. Hence i will be regret it for the rest of my life if they disown me for choosing not to move in together with my parents, and risk my parents not forgiving me for life. But on the other hand, i feel my girlfriend seems to be ‘the one’ which I can spend my life with, up until we have this argument. Hence I have tried convincing my girlfriend that living together may not be that bad. If there is any conflict, i will be the judge and go by logic to decide who is wrong
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Pretty much the title. If either of you have any suspicion that the other person would try to steal your money, or that your relationship isn't going to last forever, you shouldn't be getting married. If people were more careful about who they married, the divorce rate would be way way down.
Edit: I'm very aware this is an unpopular opinion, that's why I posted it here
Edit 2: with all of your attitudes, it’s no wonder the divorce rate is so high
My fiance and I have been together for about 2 years, and engaged for about a year now.
We're doing this now because we finally found the time in our hectic schedules to get hitched! And we're going to have it in our living room!
I wanted to share this because out of all of my friends, I wanted to share this with you- random people on the internet who I don't know.
I hope I get to know you all better some day, and that we take the greatest opportunity we have had in this revolving door of chances to do the right thing for a long time.
Let's Fuckin Go, apes.
Edit: Okay so we're not technically married yet
The fucking issuer of our license didn't put her fucking name on the wedding license. The fucking judge found out right before the ceremony. I greatly appreciate the love I've gotten from all you apes today. God Bless, and let's go have a beer.
Edit 2: tried to reply to everyone on here. If I missed anyone, a blanket thank you to EVERYONE for showing me some love on what is the happiest day of my life so far. 💎🙌 On my new wife :)
Please keep both myself and my fiancé (soon to be wife in about 5 hours!!) in your prayers. We ask especially for the intercession of:
St Charles of Mt Argus; St John Chrysostom; Pope St Gregory the Great; St Catherine of Sweden; Queen St Margaret of Scotland; St Briget of Sweden; St Augustine of Hippo; Emperor Bl. Karl and Servant of God Empress Zita of Austria.
If I remember, I'll try to post some pictures of the liturgy if people are interested 🙂
Anyone have some predictions for the season finale? I've really enjoyed this season especially the recent episode about Josh's proposal to Lucy. The Watson bit was one of the funniest things I've seen on TV in some time.
My prediction and hope for the future of this show is that the wedding happens and then in season 4 we get a season based around the struggles of Marriage. Season 5-6 we get divorce fallout and getting back into the dating world etc. it seems to follow the shows timeline and I do hope this show gets at least a few more seasons.
S1: Single Josh looking for anything S2: Competing for one girl/you and a best friend liking the same girl S3: Longterm Relationship + Marriage S4: Marital Struggles for millennials today/divorce (maybe a baby in there but I doubt it) S5: Divorce fallout S6: Finding happiness and accepting life, then a new girl comes into the fold just when all hope is lost.
I pray this show gets 6 seasons maybe even more I think this is my favorite show on TV outside of Game of Thrones.
But again, just wondering what everyone thinks the season 3 finale will be about and then what you expect to come next for the show.
For context, my parents have been in a very unhappy marriage for 26 years. They’ve spoken about divorce a few times but never went through with it. They’ve been arguing a lot mid of this year & after my engagement in September, they have decided to sign the papers.
Part of me is relieved as they can finally stop arguing, & hopefully we can all stop being in a toxic environment and just move forward but the other part of me wish they had decide on this after my wedding as it’s been so difficult to plan for it. They’re not talking to each other and do not wish to invite family members as I guess to them, “what’s the point” as they will soon be divorced. I’m guessing they just do not want to face them.
I just feel so upset as I won’t be able to have the wedding I’ve always wanted because my parents are being selfish. I feel like I have to “compromise” my wedding, something that I wish to believe is for once in a lifetime, because my parents can’t put aside their problems just so I can be happy for 1 day. Am I being unreasonable?
I'm going to give him one last chance, but if he even touches Heath Slater than I'M DONE
