Spent a minute today triaging with one of my boyfriends and a metamour about whose freezer we could use if we lost power in the notorious PG&E planned outage everyone in our part of the country is all riled up about. None of us live together, but we all live close enough to each other that we could feasibly take coolers full of food from one house to another if one of us has power.
Conveniently, my other boyfriend and I are house-sitting for a friend in a neighborhood adjacent to my own, so if I, the boyfriend I mentioned in the first sentence, and my metamour all lose power at our respective homes we should have an emergency backup fridge.
Like the saying goes, the polycule that plans for the proto-apocalypse together, stays together.
In the beginning I would like to apologize if something I will write here could be inappropriate: for me whole being in range of people who follow this way of loving each other is completely new, and I don't know if I won't say something wrong. But I'll try my best to avoid that.
For the last few weeks I (male, 26) was meeting with wonderful woman (23). It was like a love in the first sight, something that never ever happened to me - and I am person with problems with showing affection. I tried to impress her in every possible for me way. In my mind I thought I want to be better version of myself, because she deserves it. This relationship was more and more romantic and intimate. Yesterday we arrange to eat dinner with each other. Everything went fine, she was stressed, but I assumed that she just had tough day and I tried to cheer her up. Finally she started to saying something like "it's not only this day...", I was totally fine and still showing her my attention and indulgence. "I wanted to let you know that I am in polyamory relations". It was... like someone would tell me that my whole life is a joke, like someone would say "you thought you deserve happy life? fuck you!". I was speechless for a while and when I became conscious again I started telling her that I don't really know if that could work, because it would be hard for me to live with knowledge that person with whom I am in intimate relation is sharing this experience with other people. I said I really would love to say that isn't bothering be at all, but I think I wouldn't feel special that way. We were talking for half an hour (most of the time we were silent and once on a time someone said something), then I just said I need to go. We hugged and I left her flat.
It is almost 20 hours since that moment and my mind is still wrapped about that conversation. Later that day I wrote on messenger that I need to tell her that I am grateful that she consider being with me, because that makes me feel special. And that I hate myself I don't feel I could be in relationship like this with her, because I really would. She said if I change my mind in the future I can let her know.
I didn't come to work today, I didn't let anyone know that I won't be there. For most of my day I'm laying in my bed thinking about that, crying, hating myself and mindlessly scrolling Facebook. I started to believe I could be with her even she wouldn't be mine exclusively. But I am really afraid it will be to hard to bear.
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Just finished S9E1, obviously.
hello fellow redditors, nonmonogamists, polyamorists, ...ists! perhaps you got a bit of advice for me regarding the following:
(i'll try to keep the "intro" short). (im not sure i'll suceed..)
My bf of 8 years and I have recently opened up our relationship. We've been together since our late teens, living together for a while now, and have always lead a very healthy, honest and vivid relationship. we've had this loose agreement for a while, that if one of us ever meet someone whom he felt he MUST hook up with, we should both go for it without regrets. but since we spend most of our free time together, it just really never happened. So eventually the idea of an open relationship evolved, we read up on and talked a lot about it and decided this was something for us and actively gave it a go. We set up some ground rules, but decided to keep it rather free and make up rules as we progressed.
So off we went. At first i had teeny doubts that we would not suceed at actually implementing this concept, and that my boyfriend would have troubles "getting active" because he's very timid, works in a male-dominated area and just doesnt meet a lot of new girls in his life. But then he met this girl at a party we both attended, they kissed and ended up going on a date together. I was really fucking excited for him and oddly did not really feel jealous.
but now as we sort of talked more about how he should go on about it and his girl also wanted to know more about what was the deal about our open relationship, we realized we didnt really know. in short, i think i was more imagining an open relationship (as in: casual aquaintances, sexual experiences, short things.) I must add that I am a student and have very very little spare time during my semesters, wehereas during semesterbreaks I have heaps of free time, travel around, meet people and so on. So for me it was (subconsciously) kind of clear that my hook ups would be mostly when out on the road, partying, etc., and therefore not destined to be longterm.
My bf on the other hand, works a regular job, so hes got a rather regular schedule, and therefore regular, more or less plentiful evening and weekend free time, yet not so much holiday time.
When talking more about this it also became clear that he was picturing more of what you would call a "polyamourous relationship", as in having more than one ongoing "relationship-relationship". (Sorry if i'm missusing any terms!). He also cant imagine "just" fucking
... keep reading on reddit ➡Polyamorists of Reddit (or those who are non-monogamous), what do you define as 'cheating'? Just curious. :)
So I’ve had this idea in my head for a long while, long before I knew polyamory was a fairly common practice and I wasn’t being as groundbreaking as I thought. I’d like to get some feedback from you guys as to how the interaction between the main characters seems, is it believable, stilted? Any critique or personal experience at all would be appreciated. How do arguments between a throuple work? If two people have an issue does a third just kinda spectate? I have plans to extend this into a full-length novel so ideas as to where to go with the relationship moving forward. If you’re familiar with google docs feel free to leave comments directly in the document. Vanille’s Song
My wife and I started swinging a little over a year and a half ago. It was great: we met some lovely couples and had some really excellent experiences. As time went by, she became very close to her partner in a couple, and my interest in the female half declined over time.
We made the decision that I would strike out on my own and date separately. The very short version is that I had three first dates, and two of them have turned into 9+ month relationships. Recently I unexpectedly met another person and the chemistry is very very strong. Also recently my wife and I started dating a wonderful woman who is very interested in forming a triad.
Seven months ago I thought I'd be dating around and not meeting lots of people who I had a strong attraction/connection to. I went into it as an experiment, a fun thing, an extension of swinging. But what I've realized recently is that I have fundamentally changed. I am now recognizing that this is not a fad or an experiment, it's a big and serious part of who I am. This is OK, but it's new.
Last night one of my longer term partners told me that she loves me. I suspect that one of my other partners does as well, but has not said it yet. I care about her very deeply, but am not in love. She and I discussed both of our feelings openly and it's OK.
So here I am. While all of this feels incredibly amazing and fulfilling and honest-to-god life affirming, I also recognize that all of a sudden I've drifted into the deep end where lots of great things can happen, but the stakes a much much higher. I am most worried about people getting hurt. My partners, my wife, me. My hope is that there are people who will read this and have some advice for:
- what I should expect in the coming months
- if things are going to go wrong, how it's likely to happen
- what I might do now to stabilize and maintain what is right now a very happy situation
I must add here that my wife and I talk about EVERYTHING all the time. She's amazing, and absolutely my primary partner with veto power over all of this.
I told her there's no way we could do all that in 30 seconds.
Lettuce know if you have any
I just learned about Lazy Hiker brewery being 'a short hike' from the trail and it got me thinking, how many breweries are 'close' to the trail? Is there a list somewhere?
I see people asking for youtuber recommendations fairly frequently so I decided to make a big old categorized list to make things easier. Categories were picked based on the primary type of content they've been putting out for the past year or two, but obviously there's going to be a lot of crossover. Apologies to anyone I may have missed, I'll be updating the list based on feedback.
Adventure – Channels that travel a lot
Mahalo My Dude https://www.youtube.com/c/MahalomyDude/featured
BKXC https://www.youtube.com/c/bkxc/featured
BCPOV https://www.youtube.com/c/BCpov/featured
Van Girl Yuka https://www.youtube.com/c/VanGirlYuka/featured
The Loam Ranger https://www.youtube.com/c/TheLoamRanger/featured
Mo & Hannah // Awesome MTB https://www.youtube.com/c/AwesomeMTB/featured
Jeff KendallWeed https://www.youtube.com/c/JeffKendallWeed/featured
The Singletrack Sampler https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfUGBBnxQYezwJM9wi3F-Lg/featured
ProjectNortheast MTB https://www.youtube.com/user/manchvegas1/featured
Trail building
Berm Peak (AKA Seth’s Bike Hacks) https://www.youtube.com/c/SethsBikeHacks/featured
Backyard Trail Builds https://www.youtube.com/c/BackyardTrailBuilds/featured
POV
Jordan Boostmaster https://www.youtube.com/user/JordanBoostmaster/featured
VanCan https://www.youtube.com/c/VanCan/featured
Dale Stone https://www.youtube.com/c/DaleStone/featured
Berm Unit https://www.youtube.com/c/BermUnit/featured
The Outsider MTB https://www.youtube.com/c/TheOutsiderMTB/featured
Bicycle Curious https://www.youtube.com/c/BicycleCurious/featured
Variety
Trail Features https://www.youtube.com/c/TrailFeatures/featured
Porter MTB https://www.youtube.com/c/PorterMTB/featured
Clint Gibbs https://www.youtube.com/c/ClintGibbs/featured
BOBO https://www.youtube.com/c/LambertMixson/featured
Daily MTB Rider https://www.youtube.com/c/DailyMTBRider/featured
No Front Brakes https://www.youtube.com/c/NoFrontBrakes/featured
The Shredist https://www.youtube.com/c/TheShredist/featured
Skills with Phil https://www.youtube.com/c/SkillsWithPhil/featured
The Loam Wolf https://www.youtube.com/c/TheLoamWolf/featured
Shred Yard https://www.youtube.com/c/ShredYard/featured
MTB ALAN https://www.youtube.com/c/MTBALAN-channel/featured
Educational – Skills and advice
Paul the Punter https://www.youtube.com/c/PaulThePunter/featured
GMBN https://www.youtube.com/c/gmbn/featured
Jeff Lenosky https://w
... keep reading on reddit ➡Doc: Wow, it's very organized ;)
It's a legend.
I’ll start the list of red flags to pay attention to from an employer/superiors/partners at firms.
The question, Are you single?
This means that your employer is looking to see if they can exploit your free time while shacking you up in a motel 6 in bumfuck Idaho
It's my Czech-list
