Like a lot guys, I’ve been in situations where I went on a date with someone who displayed high level of initial interest, and maybe even had sex with the person.
Inexplicably, in a relatively short period of time, they began to go cold emotionally . The communication halted, or stopped altogether. In many cases, this was followed by a phone call or text telling me that they thought I was a great guy, but they didn’t see things going anywhere.
This has happened to a lot of us, and it can be utterly confusing until we realize the innate nature of how women think.
We expect women to think like us, which is a gigantic mistake. If we are attracted to a woman, have fun with her, hook up with her, we’re thinking in terms of trying to get her locked down, in a relationship. Men make this mistake far too often, too early in the dating process. We tend to be future-oriented in our thinking.
Women are extremely anchored to the present moment in their emotions. Say you meet someone at a party, talk flirt, and she appears to be extremely interested. You talk all night, and get her number. You text her the next day, and she never responds.
Logically, you believe that if since you had a great conversation, she was flirtatious, her body language indicated she was interested, so she must like you. False. She liked you in that moment.
Think of her emotions like a tank. While the tank is full, and she is talking to someone she is attracted to, she is on an emotional high. While in this state, she might think that you’re boyfriend material, or someone who she wants to get to know better.
Don’t read into things too much and take the viewpoint that she is into you just because she displayed interest. You have to use some restraint at this point.
If you have a deep emotional conversation upfront, or you reveal too much of yourself, her emotional tank will burn out quickly. Only by letting her get to know you gradually over time (the way it’s meant to be in dating), will her feelings remain in tact.
There isn’t one simple reason for hot-cold behavior. There are usually a few factors at play:
-The guy is too desperate/needy/overbearing and she begins to feel trapped
-She is talking to another guy(s), or has a feelings for an ex. For whatever reason, she cares about this person more than you, and you were a distraction
-She felt intense attraction/emotion with you upfront. She came down from the emotional high and doesn’t feel like the emotions can be sustained
- Y
Try night shift. It might be for you. It can fuck up your mental state like drugs, but its half the fun.
Anyone else have night shifts that just wreck you emotionally, psychologically, physically etc. I don't get depression a part from after night shifts. Im ok, Im not going to do anything stupid. so its all good. One thing it does do, Im a shittier dad after nights. I hate how it changes me. Rant over.
New Rant.
Last night a short lady who weighed like 225 asks me
"Do you have injury that stops you from lifting me?"
No.
I dont have magic powers that reverse gravity, and bitch, you got a lot of gravity over there. If I could lift you no problem I would be in the NFL.
Hello, I'm genuinely not trolling but to put it mildly, I'm unfortunate looking. This is not subjective but it's something that I've accepted over the years and I'm ok with. I want a job with limited client interaction (phone calls are ok and obviously meetings with co-workers are inevitable but I don't want to be meeting MDs or have a front facing role). I want a role that allows me to do the grunt work, number crunching and I'll even accept overtime work. I just want to be left to my own devices to do the work. I hate talking to people and my emotional range begins with 'fine', 'ok' and ends with 'good'. I'm rarely excited about anything. I know I should have gone into software engineering from wfh but I think it's too late. I would be grateful if u could list me roles within tax that meet my description.
Boy, CPTSD is the ultimate mindf*ck.
Buy and HODL. Their models, programs, FUD and AI can’t win when the apes buy and HODL. 🚀
17-1 I had painfully breast for about 3 weeks till the point that I couldn't wear a shirt or bra anymore.
Yesterday i checked and found a lump of 15cm x 10. I immediately told my boyfriend in person.
I took a pregnancy test the day after, to made sure that wasn't the deal even though I'm having a spiral; it was negative.
I kept worrying so I called the doctor and went this morning around 9.. I informed him about it. I got 0 text with; Goodluck, let me know how it went, or anything like that. I did receive these from my female friends.
Long story short; she checked, found the lump and immediately made a appointment for me to go to the hospital this thursday.
I texted my boyfriend immeditay while I waited at the docter, that I have a appointment for this Thursday at the hospital to make scans etc at this special breast department.
His respons was not to call, just a text like; that means a photo right?
The whole day he didn't call, didn't send a text like; how are you feeling, do you want me to go with you to the appointment.. NOTHING.
My mom and friends offered me to go with me to the appointment, send there best wishes etc. That felt like real support, but he didn't mention anything about it!
He texted about his haircut, his work blabla, send a selfie in his new work shirt.
It was until 20:00.. I still haven't heard anything from him so I CALLED HIM.
I was like.. so this was what happened, what they found, what is going on. His respons; o, yeah I wanted to call but I was taking a nap so I wanted to call afterwards. I just woke up.
He knew about it from this morning. Haven't heard anything in like 12 hours and this is his respons.
I just feel 0 emotional support. Nothing.
After the phone call he was like; so tomorrow your going to the hospital.
I told him all the time Thursday is the appointment.. not Tuesdays.
How can someone so close to you, show so little interest and gave you so little support and needed attention. Doesn't listen at all.
I think that, when you care, you want the best for someone. You support them, make sure there doing okay, offering emotional or physical support. Maybe asking if they should come over or whatever.
I feel numb. I don't want to ask for support, it needs to be something that comes naturally. I informed him today, I called him. I mean.. I'm giving him so many options to care for me and reassure me.. but no.
I don't know what to do.
UPDATE 18-1
This morning he asked NOTHING about the situation or
... keep reading on reddit ➡They should be held accountable for late charges accrued and basicly anything that was caused by them not paying. And I know I know Goodluck. But that is exactly why they get away with this shit and will do it again. But I bet if they had to pay for all yhe Xtra charges and interest or fees. Wanna bet there be less "glitches" I bet the money I don't have 😅 seriously they get away with it because we let them plain and simple people treat you how you let them. All the way around. Food for thought keep ya head up*
We have been tru this road. We ain’t interest in 40. We have seen Green Days like this and it’s pure manipulation. Just a hype to play with our emotions. Buy and hold apes.
Their time will come. They have to put so much effort into their attacks constantly. Their strategy is much like their way of life, completely unsustainable. You can relax and make obscene amounts of money. They spend every waking moment just trying to survive. We got this.
I don't know if it's a subconscious thing where women see you as a weaker man if you show insecurity or are going through depression or whatever it is. It's kind of made me lose interest in having a relationship at all, honestly. If I'm going to be in a one-way relationship where I constantly have to be a "rock" then to me that's just the same as my parents expected of me emotionally growing up.
I notice a lot of the times women I've talked to seem to almost demand this all-out vulnerability, but when I show it to them they don't like what they see and lose interest rather quickly. This lead me to believe that I had to portray some carefully tailored version of myself, enhanced 20x in order to believe I was somehow likable. For a time I even had some level of success doing this but I just couldn't get myself to continue those kinds of relationships. It was too tiring to keep up that façade for any extended period of time.
This hasn't happened before, but I even feel my libido going down. I'm becoming more interested in simply working on my own projects and entertaining myself in the ways I usually do. Every time I get approached by a girl romantically I get this feeling she wants something from me, like she expects this sequence of behaviors she's seen in movies or something. Any healthy spike in libido I get from seeing/talking to a cute girl now disappears for the most part and honestly I like it that way. I don't feel like I'm getting manipulated by her looks or her femininity anymore.
Anyway, this post will probably trigger some people out there but honestly I could care less. If you want to delete this post go ahead but I'm sick of censoring myself. Arrivederci.
There are 4 questions and this is for a University project. Filling this in would be a genuine huge help for me.
Thank you in advance!
Just something people don't realise enough and should be spread more.
These are just some the aspects of Liz's feelings/emotions toward Red that Megan Boone must make us believe.
Sorry for so long title but, it basically my question. I don't want to sound rude to anybody, but you must admit that most of the alien girls gave an impression of being an "easy target" for any man who's emotionally abusive.
They're a little too eager, and naive if it's come to men, so they might not realize that they partner is just an evil person. Especially with the stereotype of cute, innocent males so common in they culture.
Furthermore, there's a lot of man who have reason to hate aliens, so some of them might even justify they actions as simple "revenge on occupants"
I'm hoping I'm not alone in this. But also hoping I am as this is a crappy thing to deal with. It's like no matter what I do to try to stay motivated I ultimately give up. Like I cant seem to stick with any plans or follow through with anything.
I don't know if it's self sabotage, or if it's just that I really believe I don't deserve good things to happen to me. I don't know.
But does anyone else feel super ready to work on some long term goals only to lose complete interest? Over and over and over again? I saw someone use the term "emotional amnesia" and it literally feels like I "forgot" the feeling of being motivated. Like I never experienced the feeling before even though I can describe it as "motivation"?
I guess I just need to know I'm not the only one dealing with this part of the emotional rollercoaster... I hope this makes sense. I feel like i just can't explain it properly.
Anyways, I hope where ever you are that you are safe!
This pattern has repeated itself 3 times in the past few months for me now and the most recent one was probably the most painful yet, since I liked her by far the most out of everyone I met here.
I go on a date with a woman, we vibe well, meet up a couple times more, talk a lot, get physically and emotionally closer, exchange intimate information about each other, maybe even be a tiny bit vulnerable, have sex multiple times and all of that, but after the second or third date or so I notice a loss of interest on their side that manifests itself by them
- not trying to initiate contact. I have to be the one to text them
- not trying to set up next dates. I always have to be the one doing it.
- not trying to learn anything new about me, in general lack of interest about me, what I'm doing, what I'm feeling
- no or little expression of appreciation of me, our time together, 'looking forward to seeing you again!', whatever
These hints are not obvious and become worse over time. If at this point I try to set up next dates or text them asking stuff, we meet up again or keep talking, with no real obvious hint that something's wrong.
But if at any moment I stop, we both just sort of ghost each other and she doesn't seem to mind/care.
The first of these encounters eventually texted a sort of 'I cant date anyone right now' message, the two after it just turned into ghosting and them eventually removing our matches in the OLD portals where we met / deleting my phone number.
Just for further information, the time period we are talking about here from first meeting to last is between two to four weeks, with anywhere from 3 to 5 or 6 dates. I'm in my thirties and generally date within 5 years of my age. And these three weren't the only people I met recently by far, just the ones where there seemed to be some connection.
The really soul crushing aspect is that with how positive and well the the dates themselves go, you would have no idea it was soon to end. No matter how much vibing and compatibility there seems to be, it all turns into nothing, I'm really left wondering "How is it possibly ever supposed to work out? If this isn't good enough, what is going to be"?. I feel like I'm a pastime for them, but not valuable enough as a person to make a dent in their hearts and soon to be replaced by the next guy on the list.
I used to be pretty relaxed about it but I'm not going to lie, it's getting to me and my mental health.
Have any of you had similar experie
... keep reading on reddit ➡I find that writing my FanFictions is really useful for me to help me vent, release my negative emotions and de-stress. It's also really motivating waking up and looking at all the views I've recieved.
)