Frustration–aggression hypothesis Puns

Not an outright I will fucking kill you rage . But I'm stewing and boiling and something that might be nothing to someone is alot to me.

People invading your space Loud mouths Competitive gobshytes

People who basically don't know how to mind there god damn buisness without being forced

It would appear you can't go anywhere without someone invading your space . Talking shit in your ear or competiting with you in some completely ridiculous way .

Usually I could give a fuck , but these people are like parasites or leeches . Constantly trying to steal your energy .

I cannot go out for 5 minutes without someone getting my back up . I don't think a single say has passed in the past 5 years someone hasn't annoyed me.

I reckon someday I'm just going to see red and choke someone to death in the the street .

The question we all have: With all the blatant evidence incriminating numerous individuals and companies of engaging in organized crime, why haven’t the SEC and DOJ been more aggressive in pursuing criminal charges?

My hypothesis is the organizations involved have actually been contacted. We’ve loosely been seeing this over the last few months, but nothing has come of it… why?

I believe it’s possible the organizations involved have managed to buy themselves more time by revealing just how deep of a hole they’ve dug — to the point where the national / global economy is at significant risk if this crime was resolved overnight. The justice system has a certain responsibility to act from a utilitarian perspective: benefit of the majority at the cost of the least number of people.

This revelation has shown that millions of lives will likely be at risk (compounded by the current state of the world) if the market were to crash to give SHF the liquidity they require. I dont know what the plan is, but it’s going to be bad.

I was hoping to hear some sound advice regarding stronger coping mechanisms for the agitation, aggression, and frustration that myself and others often face while retaining. My moods are often elevated in a positive way while retaining. But when they're low, that's also exasperated.

I also want to preface this by saying that my nutrition and fitness are on point and I'm teaching myself to have non-ejaculatory orgasms. I'm also into mindfulness and journaling as well as a myriad of other self-development practices. So I was hoping to get some deeper advice beyond "you need to transmute more."

Today alone I had an anxiety attack meltdown, got so angry I started punching objects, became suicidally depressed, felt so sexually frustrated that sex was all I could think about, then started re-living past memories and beating myself up over my mistakes and insecurities. In between all this I just felt a general uneasiness and discomfort with life. And I was feeling so intensely aggressive, I might have very well blew it and went off on someone if I wasn't stuck at home all day.

I don't normally have violent mood swings like this, and I'm generally not a manic-depressive personality type. I do think this is healthy to a degree - trapped energy and emotions surfacing. I've also been on this journey long enough to know that I am not a product of my emotions, they do not control me and I do not have to entertain them or indulge in them. But I do have moments of weakness, and they seem to becoming more frequent. I'm striving to be as healthy as I can possibly be, so I'm open to suggestions.

I am in a 15-ish game losing streaks. I went from 4kyu to 7 kyu in the process. I have been trying to rank up as I feel like my game as improved a lot so I am playing against 4-7 kyus. What happens in 9 out of 10 games is that I am winning quite confortably and then lose focus and play something like a self atari worth 40 points. It obviously frustrates me very much, but it got me thinking about what actually frustrates me.

I don't need the ogs rank to tell me I progressed, because I know I did.

When I lose against someone stronger than me, it doesn't frustrate me. I am ready for the loss and trying to learn.

When I lose a friendly game because of a big mistake, I laugh it off and play another one.

In person I am 50/50 against 2kyus and if I lose I don't mind it.

So why do I feel frustration when I play online? If I could hide my rank and just play friendly games forever would that make me happy? Yes! If I start beating dans on the daily, I don't need my rank to adjust, I know in my heart what level I am. What frustrates me is that I can't say "I am 4 kyu" when anyone can look up my ogs username and see I am 7kyu now.

What about you? What makes you feel frustrated when you are in losing streak?

Most of the times I'm just normal horny 'I just wanna make love, get kisses, be touched, uwu' that sort of shit, but sometimes when I'm alone I feel a build up of aggression, I want sex but I also want to tackle someone, I want to shake something violently, I want to hit something with a stick.

The funny thing is that I am very placid person in my day to day life, I've done martial arts for years and held myself to a code of conduct. I'm a pacifist. I never feel any sort of aggression towards people around me, I never felt any sort of sexual or other type of aggression towards my ex boyfriend while we were together.

But I haven't had sex in nearly two years, and my go-to to distract myself is physical exercise which isn't 100% effective and I haven't been able to exercise properly due to some body pains that won't go away.

So I just get sudden bursts of wanting to jump up and down like a gorilla, hump something and fight someone at the same time.

Like WTF uterus, what's your problem?

I have a 20 month old male Border Collie-Pit Bull mix that I adopted 7 months ago. One problem I keep having with him is when he gets aroused/overly stimulated he tends to show some redirected aggression that is a result of frustration. The aggression manifests as barking at me/other family members and grabbing/nipping at clothing (sometimes pinching skin with it). When he barks, he does not snarl. In fact, he usually backs away from whomever he is barking at. He most often goes for the grab/nip when our backs are turned and we are walking away from him.

His triggers tend to be when we try to get him to stop doing something. For example:

Telling him to stop playing too rough with another dog or to leave the other dog alone when it's clear the other dog does not want to play anymore (and he's not listening to the dog's cues)

Taking away something he stole or should not have (a shoe, piece of paper, etc.).

I have worked with him at home myself, brought a trainer to my home, and brought him to training classes. He is trainable - he knows his basic commands and some more advanced ones. Admittedly, we need to work on his focus with distractions and away from home.

Any advice on how to manage and/or improve this behavior is greatly appreciated.

After my initial post in "r/Sexless Marriage" January, things got much better... For a while. But, just as I suspected, they have waned, once again. So far we've had sex 13 times this year, but nothing since June 28th. Today is Sept. 6th.

Last weekend I got upset & was a major bitch towards my Husband. I ended up crying, explaining how my usual "cycle of resentment" emotions works, (frustration; resentment; animosity; hostility; culminating in aggression), & how it isn't just that I want to 'get off' & have an "O" (I can rub one out in the shower any time I want), but that I'm missing the intimate physical connection that I crave so desperately from him.

I cried as I explained (for the thousandth time) that when I feel like this I begin to notice myself thinking "I effing hate you" all the time, multiple times a day. But I DON'T hate him! I don't hate him at all! He's the most amazing Husband & father anyone could ever hope for! So then I end up hating MYSELF for being so shallow, instead. Uggghhh.......... There's no end to it!!!!!!!!!!

If not for the difference in sexual desire, we would have an absolutely perfect marriage. He loves & absolutely adores me, & has always been completely dedicated, devoted, supportive, loyal, & faithful to me since asking me to marry him on our first date when I was a few weeks shy of my 18th b-day & he was 27. We were 'officially' engaged a few weeks later, on my b-day, & were married a few months later. That was nearly 30 years ago.

Two weeks ago we went out of town for a wedding & stayed the night at the Hilton. And he spent the evening watching a 'Heart' (Anne & Nancy Wilson) concert on PBS.

So, last weekend, after completing yet another "cycle of resentment", I pointed out that while I do absolutely know how much he loves me, I don't believe that he's attracted to me anymore, b/c he'd rather waste an evening watching a Heart concert on PBS than to screw his wife in a nice hotel room. Then I asked him how long he thought it had been since we'd had sex & he guessed a "few weeks; maybe a month". Nope. It's been well over 2 months.

So then I explained how I have now once again run through my "cycle of resentment" emotions & acted like a bitch, I wouldn't be able to trust it whenever we do finally get intimate again b/c now that I had bitched him out about it, I'd be uncomfortable worrying that this was just a 'pity/duty-screw', & that he was jus

Disclaimer: I am not condemning sports in general, and I think athletic activities are especially important for children in their formative years. I'd prefer they weren't the kind that cause concussions or other lifelong lasting injuries, but I digress. I also do not believe that fan subs for these sports create narcissists or narcissistic abuse, though those people can certainly feel at home there for reasons that are unintentional to the purpose of the subs.

In my experience, and in the experience of a large majority of the survivors of narcissistic family abuse I've met (and I've met dozens of them in numerous therapy groups as well as more ordinary social circles), a staggering majority of those experiences involved narcissistic parents that got especially aggressive, even violent, while watching their favorite sport of choice on television or related media. Often, beatings would intensify if a favorite team (or individual MMA fighter) lost, and beatings would ensue if the child wasn't interested in that same sport or in some way interfered with the narcissists' viewing of it, such as doing the dishes too loudly while "the game" is on.

In my experience and in the experience of many people I've met and heard from, their abusive parents would get especially violent on "game day/game night," and the violence would intensify depending on the outcome of their entertainment.

My narcissist father has a violent hatred of black and brown people, yet he was fine with the (his slurs here) demolishing their bodies and brains on the field for his amusement. He seemed to especially enjoy medical injuries and gave his usual piggish snicker when a (slur) got a concussion, including on the team he supposedly liked.

My hypothesis is this: spectator sports are ideal extensions of a narcissists' supply cravings. People on the screen are performing for their entertainment, and especially with their injuries and other sacrifices, the narcissist gets to vicariously feel like they have some sort of power over them in the distance, like a scaled-back Roman emperor that would have been especially pleased to watch gladiators fight to the death but settles for what's on the screen.

That's the kind of spectacle that narcissists crave in their own children and their families in general: they want everyone to fight it out, to struggle in front of them, to be entertainment sources at the performer's expense.

That hypothesis might explain how loud, how involved, how violent narc

You gotta realize that sexual energy in essence is similar to anger / angry energy, and that's why an unused build up of sexual energy may lead to frustration and aggression, and this means you need to meditate and transmute.

With anger and sexual energy alike, when it rises up, your prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain that is responsible of deciding/knowing between right and wrong) is impaired, or hijacked so to say. Remind yourself that your urges are basically causing you to think impractically and irrationally, and you need to make the right choice REGARDLESS.

Porn also has been proven to damage your prefrontal cortex, so the longer you've been watching porn, the more damaged your sense of right or wrong will be when the urges hit. This is repairable and reversable through patience though.

Deep breaths from the balls (metaphorically) and deep into your belly, along with visualizing and imagining the sexual energy rising up from your genital area (sacral chakra) upwards through out your body, in sets of 7 repetitions, should always relieve any uncontrolled horniness, blue balls, pressure, and make everything else that comes with the energy much easier to manage and control. Also, flex/squeeze your kegel/pc muscles as you breathe, as hard as you can, and this will help relieving tension and bringing the energy upwards.

Semen retention and nofap has a spiritual and energetic side to it, its about time we accept the spiritual and energetic practices that make it move smoothly and progress healthily and easily. This practice will help you to prevent wet dreams before bed, help you circulate more energy during a cold shower, and control and smoothen out any built up sexual energy, any time and any day.

Good luck and hope I helped someone

Edit: Lol it's metaphorical, but you'll get a feeling like you really are. Exhale fully, then as you start your deep - in the belly inhale, squeeze/flex your pc/kegel muscles and hold that flex until your lungs are full of air, then hold that breath and harden the squeeze as much as possible for 7 seconds, then exhale fully and relax your kegel muscles / push as if you're about to piss. Flexing your kegels is what you do when you stop a piss, so pushing is the opposite. and imagine the sexual energy going upwards throughout this, and do it for 7 repetitions.

I've been reading this sub since we got our rescue and it has really helped a lot.

We got our AmStaff mix rescue May 1st and knew he didn't walk well on a leash (pulled like crazy). He'd tend to pull and jump when he saw other dogs but no barking or snapping. It just seemed like he wanted to play and didn't know how to have a nice introduction.

So we started working on his leash manners and he got much better! Then he suddenly regressed... Badly. He went from just jumping at the trigger to jumping and biting his leash, to jumping and biting us. It's gotten worse over a course of a couple of weeks to where he's left marks on my husband's arm from a bite. It feels like it's only a matter of time before he draws blood :(

He tends to do it when he's frustrated he can't go where he wants to. Whether that be towards the dog he wants to meet or if he wants to go home or if he smells something he wants to follow. If you attempt to redirect him, no matter how gentle you are, hell tend to lash out at the leash first then us. We've tried making him sit or go into a down, but putting a treat in front of him typically makes him attack our hands.

Were working with a force free trainer on his reactivity and barrier frustration. We've got good tips for attempting to avoid the issue, but we're at a loss for what to do when he's having his freak out. We can't let him continuously jump and bite as we're worried hell keep escalating up the bite scale.

This just sucks because he was doing so well and now he's much worse than when we got him. There are other things he's better in (he's super good in the house now), but this one is the most concerning because the aggression keeps increasing.

Sorry, I just needed to get this off my chest. My husband is becoming increasingly distant from the dog because of his biting and I'm just hoping we can fix it. Do y'all have any advice? Have you been in this position and does it get better?

Hi all -

Thanks in advance for any help. I have a 11 month old golden retriever who has recently (ever since he got neutered) started getting extremely aggressive toward me when he doesn't get what he wants. It's only in certain situations, but those situations are uncontrollable (I have bruises all up and down my arms and legs) and I'm not sure how to proceed.

Our daily routine to start off has been 1 hour in the morning at the dog park where he plays with a bunch of other dogs. He loves the dog park, runs and gets a ton of exercise there.

30 minute walk at lunchtime.

30 minute walk and 45 minutes at the dog park at night.

If there aren't other dogs at the dog park to run with/play fetch with then I talk him on walks that per day usually end up being 4 miles total, so he's getting plenty of exercise. I work from home so I'm with him all day and play with him during any free time I have or take him out for quick walks around the building, etc. (I live in the city)

For the last couple months, however, he has been attacking (quite literally attacking me) whenever I try to get him to leave the dog park. He just sits there and looks at me with these eyes that are just daring me to try and get him to move. When I do, he bites. I know part of the problem is probably that he thinks he's the alpha, and I don't know how to fix that. He is an absolute angel all the rest of the time. He's good indoors, great with other dogs, he just doesn't like to be told what to do.

I tried fixing it by avoiding the dog park, so recently (the last week) I've been taking him on walks that he's never been on before. I change the route every day so it's something new and he seems to enjoy that but as soon as he recognizes where we are, he starts wanting to control where we go (usually trying to take me back to the dog park) and if I don't comply that's when he attacks. I can't avoid the dog park all together because it is right across the street from my apartment.

He doesn't care about treats or praise as much as he cares about doing what he wants to do. To get him to stop attacking right now I kneel down and put my hand on his head and gently say "shhhh, it's ok it's ok" and he calms down right away but then he starts again once we start walking.

Any advice? Thanks again.

EDIT: Also want to add that I'm never aggressive toward him, so it's not out of fear or defense. And, as much as it seems by this post that he does not like me, he does, I swear. He's cuddly, he follow

You will strain your voice.

After my initial post in "r/Sexless Marriage" January, things got much better... For a while. But, just as I suspected, they have waned, once again. So far we've had sex 13 times this year, but nothing since June 28th. Today is Sept. 6th.

Last weekend I got upset & was a major bitch towards my Husband. I ended up crying, explaining how my usual "cycle of resentment" emotions works, (frustration; resentment; animosity; hostility; culminating in aggression), & how it isn't just that I want to 'get off' & have an "O" (I can rub one out in the shower any time I want), but that I'm missing the intimate physical connection that I crave so desperately from him.

I cried as I explained (for the thousandth time) that when I feel like this I begin to notice myself thinking "I effing hate you" all the time, multiple times a day. But I DON'T hate him! I don't hate him at all! He's the most amazing Husband & father anyone could ever hope for! So then I end up hating MYSELF for being so shallow, instead. Uggghhh.......... There's no end to it!!!!!!!!!!

If not for the difference in sexual desire, we would have an absolutely perfect marriage. He loves & absolutely adores me, & has always been completely dedicated, devoted, supportive, loyal, & faithful to me since asking me to marry him on our first date when I was a few weeks shy of my 18th b-day & he was 27. We were 'officially' engaged a few weeks later, on my b-day, & were married a few months later. That was nearly 30 years ago.

Two weeks ago we went out of town for a wedding & stayed the night at the Hilton. And he spent the evening watching a 'Heart' (Anne & Nancy Wilson) concert on PBS.

So, last weekend, after completing yet another "cycle of resentment", I pointed out that while I do absolutely know how much he loves me, I don't believe that he's attracted to me anymore, b/c he'd rather waste an evening watching a Heart concert on PBS than to screw his wife in a nice hotel room. Then I asked him how long he thought it had been since we'd had sex & he guessed a "few weeks; maybe a month". Nope. It's been well over 2 months.

So then I explained how I have now once again run through my "cycle of resentment" emotions & acted like a bitch, I wouldn't be able to trust it whenever we do finally get intimate again b/c now that I had bitched him out about it, I'd be uncomfortable worrying that this was just a 'pity/duty-screw', & that he was jus