Transphobia Puns

To set the scene…

My mother and I are somewhat avid viewers of the game show Jeopardy!. For some time now, the reigning Jeopardy champion has been Amy Schneider, who happens to be a trans woman.

Since Amy has first appeared on the show, my mother has taken to making derogatory comments regarding her (at least once every episode, if not more). The comments have struck at basically every facet of Amy’s physical appearance: her clothing, her jewelry, her hairstyle, her makeup, etc.

I have attempted to gently remind my mother that even though Amy isn’t there with us when we’re watching the show, making negative comments about her is very rude. I mentioned that prior to Amy’s appearances on the show, she was never this hostile when discussing any of the other contestants, and I suggested to my mother that her comments make her appear transphobic.

Her response was to say that her comments “didn’t matter” and that she “was just making conversation.”

Sure.

When Amy appeared on the show again today, my mother said that Amy “should have done a better job shaving her mustache before coming on stage.”

With no hesitation – my foot already being firmly lodged in my mouth – I responded:

“Mom, maybe you should shave your upper lip before saying that about another woman.”

My mother stood up from her chair, walked to her room, and shut the door. My father, from another room, called me an asshole.

TL;DR: I think I made my mom cry by telling her to shave her mustache.

Look idc what she did, Doreen is a woman if she says she is. Nothing she can do will change that unless she changes it herself. So many people in this sub are misgendering her and insisting that they can dictate her own identity.

You might think its revenge, you might say its because You're angry at her, you might say there are boundaries/exceptions as to when someone can be misgendered, but you are wrong.. its just straight up transphobia.

Not cool.

Edit: i know most of you are good people, I'm speaking about the ones who thought this was acceptable behaviour or "the truth" as they say.

I don’t mean to hate or anything it’s just a pretty big problem and it sucks that trans ppl can’t just exist in peace

Edit: aight y’all I’m turning off my notifications so I’ll reply way slower.

I may be acting sensitive, but I swear I've been seeing so many people complaining about other queer identities. Who cares if there's a femme-femme relationship. Who cares if there's a masc-masc relationship. Trans lesbians/masc lesbians/bi women/etc. are not invading spaces. We are all here because we love women. I'm a nonbinary lesbian, but that doesn't make me any less of a lesbian than a cis woman.

C'mon guys, community is so important.

Update: I'm seeing a lot of replies arguing that this may be lesbophobic. Y'all, I'm a lesbian. But I'm also nonbinary. So when I see a post that says nonbinary people don't belong in lesbian spaces, I feel weird! My main point is that any queer identy loving women and identifying as such should feel included. It seems like this is a topic that will always step on SOMEONE'S toes.

That’s right you read the title correctly. Apologies for wall of text but I think I should tell you guys the story behind the title.

I grew up in the island nation of Maldives, whose population is 100% Muslim. As a Muslim, and especially living in an echo chamber of a country, looking down on the LGBT was very common as it is seen as a sin.

Watched through the main story, I felt a deep connection to all the characters of the show. I realized Jules was in fact a transgender, something clicked in my head.

My transphobia at that time came from a choice. A choice to look down on people different than me. A choice to judge people who are different to me. Learning Jules was trans, and realizing that her being trans didn’t get me to dislike the character in any way afterwards is what made me realize it was all a choice to act that way.

Here was a character, who is living in a cruel world, not realizing that it’s “wrong” to love whoever she loves, or be whatever she wants to be. This is why this series is very important to me, and why it holds a special place in my heart. Representation in show is important, as my post just proved that it can change people for the better, and remove such unnecessary negativity.

If you got to the end of this post, I hope you know that it is quite embarrassing to admit bad behavior from my end. However, I stand tall knowing that people can change for the better, myself included.

Post : Mods need to address right-wing infiltration of r/Antiwork. Racism, homophobia, transphobia and xenophobia on the sub are becoming a huge problem. The post is 62% upvoted.

A mod provided a controversial response :

What do you suggest we do? We already have rule 4. We already have plenty of things in the sidebar which make the ideology of the sub clear. We already remove posts which violate rule 4 and ban particularly obnoxious or repeat offenders.

Controversial comments :

Bro this post is straight up gaslighting. I have not seen any, ANY posts that promote racism, homophobia and so on... Why should y'all divide again?(I'm not american) Why should anybody care if somebody's right wing or left wing, just focus on the common goal. And remember it's not right vs left, it's you vs them.

Posts like these are why you will make no progress. Attacking other workers for being conservative instead of attacking your true enemy is cringe as fuck and is exactly why we are having a culture war instead of a working class revolution.

What we don't need here is asshats trying to mold the sub into their own political ideals. No. Fuck off, you wanna talk politics there's lots of subs to do that.

Generalizing all right wing with everything racist, homophobia, etc isnt right either.

I get so into a book. Everything is great for once. Interesting dynamics, un-put-down-able, amazing conflict, swoon worthy moments, smooth dialogue, I’ve highlighted so many good quotes… and then there it is. A passing offhand joke about trans people. Made by one of the leads.

Then, I see the publication date. It’s 2015.

Man, I’m truly getting tired of this. It ruins my perception of the character no matter how likable they are! Because I’ve met people like this—people who everyone admire and kick back with, but have this terrible lack of sensitivity and understanding. And it’s not just an “oopsy” ignorant mistake, there is a pattern to this. It’s not even a “triggered” thing, like, I’ve read the darkest shit but the thing is that racism, transphobia, and homophobia are much more than over-the-top evil acts, stereotypes, and slurs.

Microaggressions are super scattered in romance novels, it’s fucking insane! They would have this super-feminist inner monologue, only to breathe out jokes about sex changes (the character who jokes about it is cis as fuck) in the next chapter. And it just reminds me how cisheteronormative the feminism portrayed in romance novels is, and it just makes me do this face “😧” the entire time.

People like to say that the reason why the romance genre is “hated” is because women love it and women are comforted by it. But I think this genre needs to be criticized (and rightfully so) for the kind of women they comfort, for their status-quo woman they uplift and uphold.

I was just banned from TheRightCantMeme for saying trans people in sports is still not a solved problem. My main argument being that different organizations have widely varying policies, and even then those policies have changed frequently. Thus there is no consensus and without a consensus it can’t be “solved”.

Mind you, I prefaced all that with a lot of support for trans people as people. They’re valid and should be respected and treated how they want to be. That said, we have women’s sports for a reason, to give half the population a chance because in open games men would dominate. Transpeople make up 3% of the population. Since we have not solved the evaluation process of whether a trans person has an advantage or not, letting trans people compete effectively prioritizes 3% of the population over half of it.

Sports at least in the US play an unfortunately outsized role. They can be a path to education for the athlete, and even funding for the school. They can lead to joining big time teams, etc. It’s not just playing a game, there are consequences. For example I see no issue with trans kids playing in little league as the gender they want. There’s nothing on the line. But when we’re talking about scholarships, or even setting records… I just don’t think the fairness question has been solved.

Anyway I got banned and told I was spreading misinformation and contributing to the idea that trans people are predators. Feel free to go through my comments and see what I said.

And who knows maybe I am in the wrong here, but it sure as fuck feels like I got banned not for being “transphobic” but because I didn’t blindly agree with their rhetoric.

Edit: Sorry for not replying everyone. As soon as I hit post and this got a bit of traction I got temp banned for 3 days. I’ll go through and reply where I can. I can see a lot of good discussion went down. And thanks for the support.

The amount of transphobia in subreddits is disgusting. The amount of memes and comments that make fun of trans people (especially MtF) is horrid. If your humor is pointing out and making fun of people’s insecurities, then you’re not a funny person.

The hate that trans people are getting because of “competitive sports” is astronomical. Look, I’m sorry your favorite person didn’t win but that doesn’t mean you should completely insult the hell out of someone and deny their identity. What happened to some decent respect?

This is hate speech, it’s harassment, and it is harmful.

To all my fellow trans friends, I recommend to stay away from big subreddits like r/memes because I’ve noticed they encourage transphobia. Let’s not support subreddits that don’t take accountability for their messed up actions.

edit: MtF not FtM

TW:Transphobia, plotted murder, slurs, trans suicide

I hate the fact rhat literally everywhere on reddit that isnt an lgbtq+ space itd so toxic against trans and gay people, there was a post about a load of adults plotting to kill q trans kid and someones reply to a validly concerned person was "why are people so sensitive lately get a grip lol" and i just feel disgusted. On a smaller scale, this morning i got a comment on some deltarune pride art I'd made basically saying "so this game is all about sexuality now?" And the characters i drew were all queer with just one of their identities uncomfirmed and its just mind-boggling how they describe how they are homophobic and transphobic and then say they dont want to be accused of being such just cause they dont agree with the 'lgbtq+ ideology' and i just feel horrendous.

This is gonna be fragmented af bc I am super emotional rn

I just got off a call with my therapist where he revealed to me that there are therapists that believe that the chromosomes are what defines your gender, and when the trans-supportive therapist got rightfully angry at this, he described them as overly emotional "over just an opinion" going as far as call the trans community at large a CULT, offering a quick solution to deeper rooted problems.

HELP I AM FUCKING STUCK IN THIS SHIT, how would you all come with this shit as a gender questioning bitch, or is he right and I am only questioning my gender bc of past trauma.

pls help, idk what is real anymore

edit: removed a part which was more of an emotional outburst rather than a reflection of my thoughts

I don't give a shit what your reasons are. I don't care how bad of a person a trans person you're talking about is. Intentional deadnaming, misgendering, or other forms of transphobia or its justification is not tolerated here, under any circumstances whatsoever. Anyone who engages in this will be permanently banned.

We're not bi because we are attracted to penises and vaginas, since straight men, gay men, straight women, gay women (and every other sexuality/gender combination) can be all attracted to both genitalia.

We're bi because we are attracted to all genders. Yes, I know "bi" means "two", but that's because of the history of the term and today it's been resignified to include all genders (which also obviously includes trans people).

Second thing is that trans men can have vagina and trans women can have penis (not to mention non-binary people). Therefore, in my personal opinion, we shouldn't say we're bi for being attracted to both genitalia, that just isn't true and reduces gender to genitalia, which is transphobic (gender is a social construction), but because we are attracted to all genders.

Anyway, this is my viewing, would love to hear yours to develop a more inclusive community for everyone :)

Edit: in the third paragraph, I'm not saying that bisexuality is not valid, I'm just disagreeing with the following formulation

The constant misgendering, invasive questions and rude comments whenever I visit the hair dressers are just disheartening. So much so I took the matter into my own hands and started cutting my own hair after buying a trimmer/clipper. (I don't do a great job so I still visit hair dressers once in a while to get it fixed up)

Things I've been told/asked by a hair dresser:

"Why do you want your hair so short? Are you gay? Do you want to be a boy?"

"Is short hair for girls a fashion in China now days?"

"You would look like a boy if I cut this any shorter"

"You are a girl aren't you? I need to change you extra 10 dollars." (My hair is literally shorter than the man next to me)

"All done! Looking like such a pretty girl"

"Don't cut it so short! People will think you like girls"

Does anyone know how to deflect these comments/questions? If this has happened to you too, we shall rage in dysphoria together ://

Edit: thanks for all the comments and help! Will definitely go try out a barber shop. I've also found some trans inclusive hair cut places from the website some of you commented. Here it is if anyone wants to check it out: https://www.strandsfortrans.com/

Note that all these comments actually came from 3 different hair dressers from 3 different places. Been switching places but they seem to follow me :/ people saying that barbers are much better so we'll see!

Just seems to pop up everywhere. Even in leftist spaces. Concern trolling. Strawmen. It's all just so exhausting. I'm tired.

Not directly witchy but transphobia is a side effect and interconnected with the patriarchy. Idk this place just felt the safest to post.

Hi i am a 21 year old trans male that has been on T for 6 years. Top surgery (keyhole) done in 2017. No bottom surgery yet even though its a constant battle for myself and the ignorant comments i still receive to this day.

I have a girlfriend of almost 3 years, she is possibly the most amazing girl ever. Never once has judged me for who i am and that coming from a girl who has only been with "cis males" in the past. Our friend circle is quite tight, but a occurrence happened a month ago that has killed my bottom dysphoria tremendously.

My girlfriends best friend has recent since starting dating this new guy. Met him once at a Halloween party and immediately knew this kid was going to cause some problems. I am quite close with this friend of my girlfriends, we would text all the time and help each other out with problems but she sincerely stabbed me in the back when a instant came up.

About a month later after this Halloween party, i guess this guy felt "threatened" by me and became jealous of the fact we were friends with each other. I would constantly see screenshots of him making snarky jokes how its weird i talk to my girlfriends best friend, even though we've known each other since high school. Also as a BIG disclaimer this guy has no idea that i am trans at all because i remain very stealth and i believe its my business to disclose that.

Anyways a problem happened where i guess she and her new guy were drinking with some of his friends, and there again my name was brought up where he had this jealousy issue with me. My girlfriends best friend proceeded to tell him not to worry about me simply because of the fact I AM TRANS. Apparently the guy was shocked yet laughing and she also brought up how she doesn't understand how my girlfriend (trigger warning) lives without dick because she "use to" love it so much. So i heard this from a close friend of mine and i was truly destroyed, felt back stabbed completely. This whole thing basically was to comfort him as i'm not man enough because of what i lack down there.

Ever since this situation my bottom dysphoria has been bothering me to no end and even affecting my relationship with my girlfriend. I guess why i'm writing this is because even people you think you can trust and depend on will make you feel less. Its one of the struggles of being trans in this world, especially for someone like me who isn't very open about it.

As i am trying to build my confidence back up those words repeat in my head sinc

Same with racism, sexism/anti-feminism and probably some other kinds of discrimination.

Kicking someone out their homes, refusing service or even saying bigoted shit, for homo/transphobic reasons, should be prohibited by law. Yes, just saying shit have practical consequences.

Unlimited freedom is freedom of oppression.

Edit: fixed the lack of word "anti" before "feminism". Criminalize sexism and anti-feminism, please... So sorry for the mistake.