This is the same as what I bought, though mine looks a little worse for wear
Sorry if this post is long-winded. Bottom line is that I'm an inexperienced kayaker who made some stupid mistakes and is looking for advice. I am a 28 year old living in the midwest USA. I have moderate experience canoeing in lakes and rivers and very limited experience kayaking in lakes. Though I have only done so a few times, I enjoyed kayaking far more than canoeing so this summer I decided to buy one of my own. Supplies are very limited in my area, even when looking through used marketplaces like Craigslist. I ended up getting a used old model Kestrel 120 through a retailer for about $500.
I took this out on a lake with a friend this weekend, which is where I plan to use it most often, and was very pleased with how fast it could go and how well it seemed to handle. However, it did seem very sensitive to tilting even if I so much as twisted my upper body to look around. My friend at one point bumped into me gently with his kayak. The impact was trivial and didn't noticeably affect my balance at all, but when I nudged myself away from him with my paddle, that's when I tipped over. I've reentered a sit on top kayak before but this was a lot more difficult. I didn't have a pump or anything like that to assist so getting water out was next to impossible. I ended up having to swim and drag the kayak back to shore. It was a long swim but luckily the only casualty was my cell phone that I didn't properly protect. Not my proudest moments.
I was an unprepared and untrained moron in this case. I realize that and I'm looking to be wiser going forward. Not colliding is a good tactic but I am still very concerned with how easily the boat seems to tip. I practiced with it a little after getting back to a shore and it really doesn't take much to tip this over. Any leaning at all really throws it off. Everything I've read here and elsewhere online implies that tipping a kayak does happen but it shouldn't be easy to do. This makes me think I'm either doing something wrong or if my boat is particularly difficult. Most likely the former.
Reentry by myself seemed impossible on open water. Considering how easily my kayak tipped over, I'm nervous about going back out there just yet. I'm not sure whether I simply need to learn how to use this kayak/kayaking in gener
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Hello fellow paddlers:
I have kayaked the tidal sections of the Willamette and Columbia Rivers several times and I continue to struggle with my predictions on what type of flow/current we will have.
What I would expect when paddling downriver: Departing at high tide would be the ideal start time, as the tide would be lowering from the beginning, and thus, the downriver current plus a receding tide should combine for optimal conditions. Inversely, i would expect low tide to be the worst time to start my float.
However, the flow/current of the river never really seems to align with the logic that I have mentioned above.
I know the wind is a factor as well. But I feel like even without the wind, my presumptive understanding of the low/high tide's effect relative to the flow seems to be incorrect.
Anyone want to educate me, or just share what factors you look at to plan a trip on a tidal river? Thanks!
Hey all, my dad has gotten super into kayaking lately, and I was wondering what sort of related gifts I could get him. I don't want to step on his toes by getting him equipment he wouldn't use, so what sorts of related things do you think I could get for him? Limit $75-150
While vaccines are starting to be administered in several countries, the coronavirus (COVID-19) situation continues to have a major effect on travel, with many now looking to understand if, when, or how their travels might be feasible. Accordingly, /r/travel is continue its megathreads on a monthly basis until the crisis dissipates.
In the interest of reducing the number of one-off questions, before you post a question about how to deal with your individual travel plans, consider whether your situation is adequately addressed by the following:
Are borders open? What entry or transit restrictions are in place? Will I need to quarantine?
A list of travel restrictions can be found in a number of sources, including from IATA or Kayak's travel restriction map. Note that IATA only deals with travel restrictions by air (so it will not speak to any land border restrictions or closures).
You may also do well to check out government and embassy sources from the destination country (and sometimes from your own embassy in the destination country). Because information can change on short notice, it is important to verify the latest information, ideally from government sources.
...in the US?
At the time of writing, foreign nationals are prohibited from entering or transiting the US if they have been in or transited via Brazil, China, India, Iran, Ireland, the Schengen Area, South Africa, or the UK in the preceding 14 days. Exceptions to this rule include green card holders, some family members of US citizens and permanent residents, and holders of certain visas (e.g. F-1 visas when traveling from the Schengen Area, and K-1 visas). Note that (except for, of course, US citizens) this is not a citizenship-based restriction; it is purely based on travel history. Because of this, those traveling from one of the restricted countries are permitted to enter the US provided they spend the prior two weeks in a non-restricted country. More information about the entry restrictions and the associated proclamations is available on the US CDC website.
All air passengers (including US citizens and green card holders), regardless of origin and nationality, [need to produce a negative result](https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/travelers/testin
... keep reading on reddit ➡I've mentioned on this sub that both my parents are therapists. And they're good ones, my dudes. they really are. If any of you are their clients, you're lucky (and also, that's really weird to think about...) But I've been living with them for a little over a month now, and I have become the self-appointed client advocate in their lives. They need one.
Content Warning: For all of you who have not come to terms with the fact that your therapists are real people in the real world, this post isn't for you.
The following are real conversations I have had with these fully-licensed, experienced therapist-people I'm related to. You're welcome.
Why You Can't Judge a Therapist by Their Facial Expressions
Dad: Seeya tonight, hon!
Me: Dad, your teeth.
(My dad has a partial with two fake front teeth because of an accident involving a kayak and our garage and a dog leash. Don't ask.)
Dad: Oh yeah! Thanks!
Me: You need to keep a set in your office, Dad. You CANNOT forget those.
Dad: Sometimes I forget.
Me: And what do you do?!
Dad: I just don't smile for the whole session.
Me: DAD. You cannot do that to people. You're going to give your clients a complex. If Mister T didn't smile at me for a whole session I'd contemplate why he suddenly hated my guts for, like, 36 hours at least.
Dad: Well, most of my clients don't treat therapy like an improv comedy show like you and Mister T.
Me: STILL.
***
Me: Um... mom? Did something... happen... to your face?
Mom: Oh yeah! I got stung by a bee! Is it noticeable?
Me: Uh... yeeeees.
Mom: Well, it's telehealth, so I doubt it will bother anyone.
Me: You kinda look like you're winking, though. Us clients, we read into that stuff, mom.
Mom: Not everyone is like you, Selfless.
Me: MOM. I'm an anxious person! People hire you because they are also anxious people! Your clients are like me!
Switching Back to In-Person is Weird for Them, Too
Dad: First day back with clients in the office!
Mom: Remember, don't hug any women.
Dad: I have not done that for like... 15 years!
Me: Dad... when people come in-person, they can see your pants.
Dad: I know...
Me: Can... you... see your pants right now?
Mom: You painted in those yesterday! You can't wear those!
Dad: Shit! I'm already late!
Me: Change your pants, dad.**
They Don't Always Tell You Everything (But You Knew That)
(Noticed that my mom pauses and sighs every time she reaches the bottom of our staircase.)
Me: Rough journey
... keep reading on reddit ➡Who can relate to these? lol.. I'm excited to look back on this list as my habits change, and my body along with it. Hopefully I can remember to post an update in 6 months, when I hope I'm closer to 250 lb.
I made this list a month ago when I decided I wanted to lose weight at 296 lb. I've lost 8 lb so far so I'm feeling really great at 289 lb, so I decided to post this list online so that I don't forget about it and so it keeps me accountable and motivated.
Looking at the list, I think about how much better my life will be when I get healthier and lose weight. I don't think it's naive to think that life is in many ways better at a healthy (or healthier) weight, even if I (realistically) might never check off every single thing on this list, or if perhaps many items in this list are not even mutually exclusive with obesity (like for example, having high cholesterol or not feeling confident in a swimsuit. Both are possible at both my current weight AND at my goal weight, too!), and I acknowledge that. But these are all still huge motivators for me nonetheless because I know that losing weight will not solve all of my problems, but it sure as heck will solve many of them.
Even just getting as close as possible to 200 lb will probably solve most of my physical issues that I didn't experience when I used to be 200 lb! Now THAT is fuckin' worth it. Even over the past month, the acanthuses nigricans on my neck has close to disappeared, and walking has definitely gotten easier--both thanks to keeping up good habits. :)
physical + health reasons
- [ ] currently weigh around 300 lb... want to get to the 200s
- [ ] want to get to the 100s
- [ ] being "morbidly obese"
- [ ] being obese is a huge cause of oxidative stress... you really don't want cancer
- [ ] upper arm flabs HURT like heck because the skin has to bend as if it were a 2nd armpit and I always have to fold it in; also have to put deodorant on it.. embarrassed to wear tshirts sometimes bc people can see my 2nd armpits when i lift my arms slightly
- [ ] it's SO hard to walk to places. I take ubers for walks that are less than a mile... my ENTIRE body hurts for the rest of the day if i walk <1 mile with a heavy backpack
- [ ] insulin resistance!!! you don't want type II diabetes for the rest of your life 😭😭
- [ ] high blood glucose
- [ ] high cholesterol
- [ ] vitamin D deficiency :(
- [ ] everything hurts all the time. I want my left knee, f
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Money Diary for 6/24/2021
Section One: Assets and Debt
All amounts will be joint with my wife, unless otherwise stated. We combine finances but still have some accounts in individual names because we hate dealing with paperwork. Our current system is called “use whatever account is easiest.” We can spend fun money up to $200 without conferring with each other but aren’t usually big personal spenders. We have had joint finances since about a year into dating when she moved in with me. At first, I made over double what she did and owned my own house. We decided not to have her pay toward the mortgage back then, so she was able to focus on school. Now, she makes more, and we just consider it all ours. We would not have gotten married if we didn’t have shared financial goals/practices and view us as a team. We do not have a pre-nup.
Retirement Balance: Joint total: $355,500
Me (current 401k): $160,000, (previous job’s 401k): $10,500
Spouse (401k): $185,000.
We have been increasing our contributions over the past decade starting with 5% and now each putting in the max ($19,500/yr). We both have an employer match of 5% of salary. We are thinking of also doing $6k each in a Roth IRA but haven’t yet as we both anticipate a 30+% pension and may not need it.
Home Equity: $220,000. Current value is $705,000 which is the average of 6 online estimates based on similar homes sold in the last 3 months. This may be slightly inflated due to the current market but a similar home to ours (same style/layout, 600 sq ft smaller but slightly more updated) about 4 blocks away in the same neighborhood just sold for $750,000 so I don’t think the estimated value to too far off. We owe $485,000 after a refinance in 2020 @ 3.125%, no PMI. We bought our home a few years ago for $545k with $45k down that we got from 401k loans (we have since paid those off). We were NOT planning to buy a home in DC, so we weren’t prepared with a down payment, hence the 401k loans. Some stuff happened and a house became necessary. We are VERY happy we made the decision to buy and feel very privileged to have been able to do so though it was super stressful for a while (15 months of open houses/private showings/offers/daily searches, etc. with three separate realtors). I estimate we visited about 75 homes on the low end (I won’t even admit to myself how high the actual number probably was).
We both grew up working class/lower middle class and so paying this much for a hou
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My name is Andrew. I’m a 19 year old gay man. Feels weird to call myself a man, since I still feel like a kid.
I just want to tell someone, anyone, about my life. I don’t tell my therapist everything, because there are things I’m not comfortable telling her. But I need to tell someone something. Everything. I think I’m ready to say these things, but I’d like to say them anonymously, hence why I’m making a post on reddit.
I just want to tell you a little bit about me. About my life, what I’ve been through, and what is going on right now. I’m thinking of this as a diary entry. I don’t expect anyone to read the whole thing, as this will be a very long post, but if you read even a bit, and would like to leave a comment, that would be greatly appreciated.
When I was a kid, I knew I was different. I didn’t know what was different about me, but I can remember wanting to be close with boys and men I found attractive. I didn’t know it at the time, but that attraction was indeed sexual attraction. I had always expected it to be towards females, so I didn’t recognize it as such.
I lived a picture frame life. I was middle class and white, living in a suburb of New York, just south of Poughkeepsie NY. I lived in a colonial style house (I think that’s what it’s called). My dad worked at the nuclear power plant, Indian Point, down the river from us, and my mom worked for an investment bank, Morgan Stanley. Not too long after I was born, my mom quit her job to become a stay at home mom to my older brothers and I, with my younger brother on the way.
For the context of the post, the ages of my brothers; Brother 1 was born in June of 1996 (25), Brother 2 was born in November of 1998 (22), I was born in May of 2002 (19), and Brother 3 was born in November of 2004 (16). Brother 2 has mild Aspbergers, but I did not know this until my late teens, and he is a high functioning Autistic. The fact that I, his own brother, did not know that he was neurodivergent until then shows what he’s overcome with the support of our family, my mom especially.
My mom was born in 1965, and my dad was born in 1956, for their relative ages.
If I remember correctly, my grandfather (paternal) died when I was 10. We saw my paternal grandparents about once to four times per month. I was close with them, but not super close. I called them Nana and Poppa. My dad had spent a lot of time with him in the hospital, and he passed away in his sleep. From what I know, his heart gave o
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Sudden Lee
Go post NSFW jokes somewhere else. If I can't tell my kids this joke, then it is not a DAD JOKE.
If you feel it's appropriate to share NSFW jokes with your kids, that's on you. But a real, true dad joke should work for anyone's kid.
Mods... If you exist... Please, stop this madness. Rule #6 should simply not allow NSFW or (wtf) NSFL tags. Also, remember that MINORS browse this subreddit too? Why put that in rule #6, then allow NSFW???
Please consider changing rule #6. I love this sub, but the recent influx of NSFW tagged posts that get all the upvotes, just seem wrong when there are good solid DAD jokes being overlooked because of them.
Thank you,
A Dad.
Note: this is from my blog here.
Intro
Back in 2016, I got my first job as a summer camp counselor. It was an outdoor adventure day camp, to which the six figure-making lawyers and consultants of Washington, D.C. sent their straight-A getting, lacrosse-playing children for a taste of the great outdoors.
The campers ranged from four years of age to 15, with those nine and up able to choose which among the activities—kayaking, rock climbing, horseback riding, and more—to pursue. I, as a typical sheltered suburbanite (though a competitive rock climber rather than a lacrosse player), had attended the camp myself throughout my childhood.
We Junior Counselors, or “JCs,” could request which age-activity combinations to supervise. Though I had to do my fair share of toddler-wrangling, I was granted a few weeks in the Big Leagues: the rock climbing program for kids aged 9-15. Each cohort of about 12 campers had 3 staff members: a JC, a head counselor or “HC” at least 18 years old, and an “instructor” to provide technical expertise.
As a 16 year old mere months older than some of my campers, it was a little bizarre. I was an Adult, getting paid (barely) to ensure that the youth in my care remained happy and healthy in the rugged Maryland wilderness. By and large, it was a good camp. What I’m about to say doesn’t negate the overall-positive experience of most campers.
Lying
Staff lied to campers constantly. We were expected to, and generally obliged. Not about important things, either. In fact, the lies generally concerned utterly trivial matters.
Child protection is good
Now, I’m not entirely naive. I understand that placing children of all genders in the care of three young adults literally in the woods, including on one overnight campout per week, is a situation tailor-made for abuse. And the camp, to its credit, took this very seriously. We had training after training and rules and guidelines galore designed to ensure that no staff member would ever be tempted to misuse his or her power and status.
This was a good thing. Child abuse is bad, and I’m glad we erred on the side of “careful.” I understood that my relationship with the campers was not to be intimate. Staff shouldn’t, and didn’t, reveal the skeletons in their closet to middle schoolers at rock climbing camp. No playing “truth or dare” around the campfire, either. Understood.
Casual dishonesty
But did we really have to lie
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My GF lives with me, as well as her toddler sometimes (split custody), in a house I bought before we were dating. I pay the mortgage, we split groceries and non house related bills. Upstairs in the house is a master bedroom and 3 other rooms, one of which is her home office/craft room and another of which is the toddler's part time bedroom. I'm colorblind so I pretty much let her decorate my place as she will, I've only vetoed maybe 2 choices she wanted.
The point of contention here is the basement (and the garage I guess). I have a 3 car garage in the backyard that is full of tools, ATV's, an old car, etc. and a single car garage attached to the house that holds a snowblower and her car, partly so we have somewhere sheltered to load up the kiddo but mostly because it's too short for my truck. The basement was originally a 2 bedroom apartment, and one bedroom is now my home office, and another is basically all shelves full of my camping gear and outdoor gear (bicycles, kayaks, tents, backpacks, you name it). The main part of the basement is a bar (where the old kitchen was) and a movie room/den. There's also a living room on the main floor.
GF complains frequently about this room being full of "my stuff" and wants it all out in the garage. I don't want to do that because all of this stuff is pretty easily stolen and resold, and it's expensive. If she didn't live with me I'd use the entire basement for this type of stuff. I don't think she has plans for the space or an idea of what to do with it, I just think she doesn't think that stuff belongs inside. If she does have an idea, she won't tell me what it is.
The other day I got fed up with it and basically told her that it's my house, she has total control over 2 rooms and the attached garage, plus the main part of the basement, and I wasn't moving my gear into the garage. She's been pissed off at me ever since. I see her argument I guess, and I don't want her to feel like a guest, but I feel like I've compromised enough.
AITA?
Was on a float trip with my SO and a couple of friends and she was slamming seltzers and beer approx (10-12 total) for a four hour float. She is a relative light weight and just gets obnoxious talking nonsense being flirtatious with other people, there are some positives she is hyper sexual but it comes out in an unclassy way flashing me while other people are around etc. I have had more than one experience where she has gotten totally obliterated in been a royal pain in my ass. She managed to flip her kayak because she was trying to Jim Beam shots by floating next to another groups raft.
I told her to slow down and so did her friends but she just wouldnt listen and kept on drinking. Becomes completely unreasonable as she drinks more and more and frankly I just didnt want to talk to her. So of course me not talking pisses her off and she caused a huge scene. The culmination of this was her jumping out of the car topless as we were almost back to where we were going and walking down the street topless like wtf? She claims she did nothing wrong and I am a complete asshole for not supporting her getting drunk, and I am sitting here like this is the behavior that makes me think you have no freaking business drinking....
So AITA?
..... Will get a reward.
Any recommendations for a kayak $800 and under that is good for fishing/bowfishing while standing? All the ones I've seen are like $1500+
Well, toucan play at that game.
Windows
Where to even begin this shit show...
On paper, my life probably reads as very sad. I've never been one for pity parties, and I'm far too stubborn and have worked too hard to give into pessimism. While I will gladly appreciate any kind words of support, please keep in mind I'm looking for advice in the dating/relationship arena. That said, I would like to "brief" you on a few key aspects of me and my past to better round out the picture.
My parents have been sick for the past 20 plus years. Mom's been fighting brain cancer. Bravely. A few tumors, maybe twice as many surgeries, rounds of chemo and radiation. She did eventually beat the cancer after about 10 years, but each treatment and surgery came at a cost. At first her memory, coordination, mobility. Then her behavior, personality, and thought processing. She started having stroke episodes once or twice a year, affecting her speech, and her immune system. It's a long list, all of which only worsened over time.
I am constantly reminded, and sometimes remember, what an incredible woman my mother was. Ten years old is a tough age to digest the realities of what her cancer would soon entail. I was then and always will be a mama's boy, and would be lying to say this whole process hasn't been absolutely devastating to watch unfold.
My Father is a whole different issue. At a very young age I could tell he never really wanted to be a dad, and he was never particularly good at it. Our relationship is... tricky. I learned that his own upbringing proved to be difficult, and I can imagine having to watch your wife fade away only worsened things for him. He definitely fits the dead-beat dad stereotype, but I try to be as empathetic as possible. Still, I have no clue how I am related to this man. I would sooner (and gladly) assume I was the milkman's baby.
I did eventually find the courage to come out to them. My father has never been a fan of the idea, to put it kindly, but at some point he needed me more than I needed him, so I suppose he puts up with it. Unfortunately, my mother struggles to remember this aspect of my life. Hell, nowadays she hardly recognizes me. Unintentionally, I've come out to her several times, but at some point it became too fruitless an endeavor to repeatedly choke down, so lying became the easier, safer solution.
My sister and I have been caring for them more and more over the past 10 years. I would be remiss not to mention that these circumstances had left her and I with an incredib
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They also play roles in Lord of the Rings.
I guess that makes them the Tolkien white guys.
Argon does not react.
🌊 Happy World Oceans Day, /r/CFB! 🌊
Five years ago, I posted a list of marine-inspired college football teams. As a marine scientist and massive CFB fan, the intersection of those two passions was a natural post of mine – one I wanted to re-up with some updates now in 2021.
Many teams, even those far from the coasts, have drawn from the ocean as inspiration for their college teams. "Vikings" and the various names for Pirates are some of the most common names. So here’s a somewhat-comprehensive listing of all maritime, ocean-inspired, or otherwise nautical college football teams, as well as oceanic D1 schools. If I missed any, please feel free to correct me!
Ocean Embodiments:
Marine weather:
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Hurricanes: Miami (FL), Tulsa Golden Hurricane, Louisburg, Gattaca Florida, Hertfordshire, Holland, Kanto Gakuin
Mariners:
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Buccaneers: Charleston Southern, East Tennessee State, * Massachusetts Maritime, Beloit, Blinn, BNU
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Flying Dutchmen: [](#
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This is my first post pls don't kill me lol.
The people in the comment section is why I love this subreddit!!
Cred once again my sis wants credit lol
Keep in mind, my son is 4 years old, so everything is an original to him.
I had to work late into the evening yesterday, and he was just going to bed when I got home. I had left home for the office nearly 14 hours prior, had a long day, lots of meetings, traffic, etc.
When I walked through the door, I was exhausted, run down, and starving. My wife hugged me and asked how my day was, and I replied, "Done. It was a good day, but has got me exhausted. I just want to grab a bite and go to bed. I'm hungry."
From my son's bedroom, I hear him shout, "Hi Hungry! Nice to meet you!"
Not only did it make me laugh, but I completely forgot about how hungry and tired I was. I went to his bedroom, and we laughed together about it. It was exactly what I needed.
Edit: Thanks for all the awards, kind strangers! I'll let my son know y'all enjoyed his joke too!
Just to keep you all informed of any important developments: On Tuesday the lawyers for the landowner defendants in the lawsuit filed with the court a "request for protective order." They asked the court to forbid us from discussing matters related to the case on FB, prevent me from speaking to media about the case, stop us from emailing county commissioners about the issue, and so forth.
We had a hearing this morning and the judge denied their motion. The United States has things like the 1st Amendment relating to such matters, it seems.
The county's attorney, John Housley, also took the opportunity in the hearing this morning to complain that I have been propagating falsehoods by saying that the public is allowed below the high water mark on rivers. He claims that the public needs landowner permission to even be on gravel bars and such. This was an issue that came up in 2011 when the Homeowners Association above the Linden Dam tried to paint purple rocks in the middle of the river, and Amy Fite (the county's prosecuting attorney) at first issued a statement to that effect, but then a few weeks later reversed it and confirmed that people are allowed anywhere below the high water mark. Housley told the court about her initial decision but not her reversal a few weeks later, and there was no opportunity for me to speak or correct his statement. So just a FYI about how this legal counsel paid for by CC taxpayers views the issue (and if his view were correct, none of us would be allowed to exit our canoes or kayaks anywhere in Christian County without landowner permission).
I'm not asking any of you to e-mail the commissioners and Amy Fite, or to protest or anything like that. The time for these things may well come after the lawsuit is over, however. For now, the judge asked us to dial down the passion a notch or two so she can focus on deciding this case on its legal merits, and I think that's a very reasonable request.
I'll just close with an article from 2014 or so on the matter (one of many Mr. Housley seems not to be aware of). https://www.news-leader.com/story/news/local/ozarks/2014/05/18/riverside-rowdiness-creates-conflict-finley/2241120/?fbclid=IwAR3Q1BLX3nEeEmUHIGm1GeXRluCNKWjHo2iq2ikYIOy6DbAmoBP0lhndHbc
So far nobody has given me a straight answer
Because they work on many levels
I heard parents named their children lance a lot.
First post please don't kill me
Edit: i went to sleep and now my inbox is dead, thank you kind strangers for the awards!
