I am a nurse in the US and I have two Bengali patients right now. Both just had babies. I want to be helpful and understand their cultural practices. Can anyone give some insight into these two specific situations...
One patient says that "in her culture she can not go home yet (it has been 24 hours)"
The other says that "it is a no sun day" and she is not allowed to go outside.
Any input is helpful!
EDIT: I would appreciate it if people respond humanely and refrain from insulting my mum.
Our conversation was brief, and it could be that she was too tired to explain further or irritated from something that happened earlier (unrelated to this). Maybe what she said was not entirely her viewpoint, but just her own personal experience from over 20 years ago.
She has not yet married off any of her children or started the search for it. Nor have her friends (whose children are near my age). She does not have much first-hand experience of arranged marriages today (a *post-*COVID world, digitally finding a spouse, etc), because everyone my age who has gotten married has had a love marriage. Or she was not involved in the process of the arrangement, she's just been involved in some conversations pertaining to it.
She is my mother and I still respect and love her. You lot have no reason to be disrespectful. It's impractical, useless and does not answer my question or further this discussion. When it comes to it, I will be holding my ground and doing it the way we understand as best insha'Allah. Over the next couple of years I know with the help of Allah swt it will all be fine and they will come to accept how I want to do things, within reasonable bounds ofc.
Asalaamualaikum everyone.
I've always said to my parents that I prefer an arranged marriage so everything can go halal (not that love marriages are haram, but keeping it halal these days is very difficult... if it happens then Allahu alam.)
I always assumed that arranged marriages go like this:
- Parents find u a match / more than one potential
- You agree / choose
- You get to know each other w/ a wali present
- Agree on the rishta
- Get married
If at stage 3 you realise you're not a match, you can reject it.
After talking to my mum, she says doing so is "disgraceful" and talking without agreeing on the rishta is besharam if anyone sees (even with a wali?).
She says arranged marriages go as such
- Parents find the match / more than one potential
- You agree /choose
- Families and the couple meet, agree on the rishta
- (optional) You can meet to get to know each other more
- Get married
When I asked if at stage 4 you can reject the marriage, she said no again, because then everyone would find it a big deal and talk and things so basically again... it's disgraceful and embarrassing since you've agreed on a rishta. Unless there's a huge flaw in the other person, then
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Same.
I have heard of Shobabazar and the area around Calcutta University. What else?
Do places like Belur math have special arrangements during Puja? Or is it just like the rest of the year?
PS: Also, what places would you recommend to enjoy some classical music or theatre maybe?
Food for thought. If you live in Bangladesh and you're gonna critique Hijabs and women covering themselves, in favour of Deshi clothing; make sure you critique artificial coloured blonde hair and scanty revealing western clothing as well....
Or will you advocate against Bangali culture now that it's the other way around?
Every Bengali person in this world knows that animals have a significant role in Bengali culture, in painting, statues, tales etc. But it's mainly just tigers, jackals and birds. We also have tales of other animals but most of them are just translated version of a story from other countries or cultures. So I would appreciate it if anyone gave me information about other animals that have big part in Bengali culture.
Historically and culturally which place is the center of Bengali Hindu culture
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Iโve been living in NY since I was a kid. Yesterday, I went to a friendโs wedding, and today her husband is coming by with some mishti. I just thought of how that used to be something Bengali people would do so frequently- bring over mishti when going to peopleโs homes, or when they were celebrating something- and how itโs sort of fading as a practice.
It made me sad to have even forgot that fact, and to be surprised by my friend doing so. I want to hold on to these โBengaliโ things.
It got me thinking about our culture. How can I hold on to my roots? What are other practices we typically follow?
Your thoughts and feedback are appreciated.
I have been noticing some similarities between these two culture. The traditional dress of Newari women, Haku Patasi (Hฤku Patฤsi) and traditional dress for Bengali women, traditional bengali saree have similar red border patterns which seem to resemble each other to a great extent.
Secondly, the traditional script of Nepalbasa or Newa language and Bengali script also seem familiar. There are some similarities in spoken language as well.
According to Wikipedia, during the Malla period, Maithil Brahmins were invited into Malla court as priests and were given high importance. Is it plausible that the Maithil culture influenced Newari culture too? It also states that there was a decent genetic mixing as well. So perhaps this caused the parallels between Newari and Bengali cultures since ancient Mithila and Bengal had some parallels too. I don't have much knowledge on this subject so take my theories with a grain of salt.
Hello! On 14th April it is the first day of Ramadan, and you know what is also happening on the same day? Bengali new year (เฆถเงเฆญ เฆจเฆฌเฆฌเฆฐเงเฆท เฆเฆฎเฆพเฆฐ เฆฌเฆพเฆเฆพเฆฒเงเฆฐเฆพ!) And many people aren't gonna celebrate because it's on the same day as Ramadan, Bangladesh and Bengali Muslims in general have preserved their culture from Islam very well, but now our Bengali new year is on the same day as Ramadan, I am a proud Bengali and IM VERY TRIGGERED.
My namaste to all! I am really interested to know more about Bengali culture specifically Bengali Hindu culture. Any suggestions?
Do you think if there is a reason as to why Bengalis and Tamils are doing so well in academia? For eg. 3 nobel laureates from India are Bengalis, most of the important posts in IAS are occupied by Tamils, professors at top positions in US universities are Tamils etc. Even in arts and literature these people are frontrunners. Can we trace this back to some event in history? How did this culutural shift start?
I've noticed there is a good deal of Japanese influence in Bengali culture, but not the other way around. Many Bengalis go to Japanese universities, study Japanese history or literature professionally, or do most of their business in Japan, either as contractors or employees of Japanese firms. There are also diaspora communities of Bengalis, both Hindu and Muslim, scattered across Japan's major cities. This connection is somewhat well documented by scholars.
The connection does go the other way around - there are some influences of Bengali culture in Japan. But there aren't very many, and they tend to be local, in the sense that they only occur in communities with a large diaspora of Bengalis. On the other hand, Tagore and Bose and many other prominent Bengalis made several trips to Japan, and there is a recognizable Japanese presence in Kolkata and Dhaka. Most Bengalis are somewhat aware of the cultural connection, but I'd posit that most Japanese are only vaguely aware that Bengal or Bangladesh exists.
So my question is, how did these two communities come to interact with each other, and why was the interaction so one-sided?
Hello! Iโm an ESL teacher in the US. I am Muslim but Iโm a convert for 10 years and am married to a Turk so Iโm mainly familiar with Turkish Muslims.
I started at a new school this year and many of my students are Bengali. They are all wonderful, sweet children who really want to learn. What can I learn about the culture and language to help them more.
I really wish that Jim would write a DF story based in or around the Bengal region of India/South-East Asia. The sheer variety of supernatural entities and associated folklore, not to mention a well established, extant magic system(Tantrik practices) would make for quite a flavorful story, especially incorporated in the DF universe. For reference, this is an article about the different types of ghosts in just Bengali culture.
My friend is a Bengali man who immigrated to Australia 8 years ago. Since 2012, he has been in a detention centre (a prison for refugees.)
He wants to find love, but he is having trouble understanding Western dating rules. He doesnโt know what Western women expect from him. He asks questions like:
- Can I live with my girlfriend before marriage?
- If I want a woman to be my girlfriend, do I just ask her out or do I need to pay her?
His English is also limited. For those of you in this group who have learned about Western dating, do you have any recommendations for what will help?
He has the internet, but because of his English he has problems using dating websites. He never leaves the centre, and cannot attend any community groups or classes.
Hi everyone.
I live in Australia. I am talking to a young man who is being kept here in a detention centre. He moved to Australia 8 years ago, and they have not freed him. It is terrible. Detention centres are like prisons here.
I like talking to him but we do not have much in common. He cannot do things in the outside world because he is always locked inside. I think he has television, and music, and a phone, but not much else.
I would like to learn about Bengali culture so I can ask him questions and talk to him about his interests and his home country.
I know he likes Bollywood music. What are some popular Bollywood movies in Bangladesh?
I have also found a Bengali tutor so I can learn some of the language.
Do you have any other ideas for me to become more familiar with Bengali culture? I donโt know anything about it.
I thought I could also try cooking some Bengali food but that may just make him sad as he is not able to eat it, as he is locked in the detention centre.
Thank you!
