Significant Others (novel) Puns

The book I'm currently writing is about demons, angels, gods, witches, and all that jazz. The main theme is how hatred kills people and destroys lives. To be honest it's about racism and homophobia, but I cover it up under the whole, "lol we're not humans," aspect. I never thought about the MC's love interest. I feel like it isn't a crucial part to the story. It might also be because I don't have experience in dating to actually write something like that. I've just never felt very strong emotions to my classmates. I'm still in high school. I don't think I'm the type to date anyone. Anyways— Do you think people will read my book if the MC doesn't have a love interest?

I'm not planning to publish the book until I graduate. That's a few years from now.

My husband apparently likes to peer over my shoulder and read a page. When we talk about sneaking away from the kids and having a quickie, he brings up a full on quote from the book about what he'll do to me. Or he'll ask me if i think of him the same way the FMC sees the MMC, word for word. It's in a hilariously fun, teasing way but he fully supports me reading because I'm more affectionate and loving and we try to sneak away at least once a day ever since I started reading them.

Or characters? And have you found them?

I’ll go first. No, I have not found mine, but...

Lisa Kleypas and Jana Aston made me realize I like men who are patient and paternal. Jojo Moyes, Mia Vincy and Tessa Dare lead me to prefer someone who would challenge and force me to grow all the while with good, wicked humour. Briefly speaking.

I love my partner and would never do or dream of doing anything. However, I can't help but look at other women and think wow she has a gorgeous face or wow that's a nice butt (and stare a bit too long). I don't vocally say anything and I don't think it affects my relationship but I'm wondering if anybody out there is in a similar situation.

Edit: wow, this got more attention than I thought it would!. Thank you everyone for the discourse, I found it very helpful and generally positive to know I'm not alone and that it is a normal behavior. :)

It makes them extremely uncomfortable

I didn’t think this was an unpopular opinion but I was recently downvoted on some comments so I thought this would be a fun opinion to share.

It was on a recent AITA post about a husband hogging the bathroom in the morning taking a shit playing mobile games while the wife needed to do her hair. And I said “why can’t they both do their business at the same time”? And now I feel like maybe I’m the unusual one.

Me and my girlfriend have never cared. And in my opinion everyone shits it’s not that gross to me. I’m curious if this is actually an unpopular opinion.

Edit- meant “or whatever” in the title

In terms of phrasing. Like I'm going to take a crap, shit, dump, poo, dookie squat? Surely there's some creative phrasing for this.

I deleted the apps so I’m looking for inspiration (and motivation!)

My husband feigns disinterest but I see him actively watching when I have it on and he makes comments…like just now when Lisa was yelling at Usmann again, he said, “Omg, lady, just let it go,” while gesturing at the TV. Haha.

I've had a lot of issues when it comes to employment and keeping jobs, mostly due to the PTSD. It's not that I can't manage it, it's more like...sometimes, I would have to request an accommodation, and despite it being seriously illegal, the boss or HR would let it slip to my co-workers what "I was sick with" and it would go downhill from there. I could always do the work fine, was eager to help out others, tried to be a friendly ear/shoulder to all of them but it didn't matter. Once it got around to them that I had PTSD, the accusations would fly and they would treat me so horribly I was often either forced to quit or was just fired because of the social cliqueness ostracizing me. It never seemed to matter how well I did the actual job; if I didn't fit in with the gossip girls, I was out, but not before months of abuse.

My last official workplace was extremely, extremely bad. There was new, recent trauma that had affected me to push me to move entirely across the country for this job, a job which I was educated/certified/and very experienced in and actually enjoyed doing, despite the pay being almost minimum wage. I had extremely good reports from my original supervisor and my trainer, but I made enemies with most of my co-workers when I had the audacity to ask for a health accommodation. My co-workers found out what I had, and started doing some truly, truly horrible things, including my boss's boss "hiring a private investigator" to follow me and take pictures of me (I only found this out after they "Anonymously" sent me a package full of pictures and a hand written threat/taunt), trying to prove I didn't have it despite all the medical documentation I gave. This was a state government type of facility, btw. Yeah.

So yeah, I was fired. Er..."forced to resign". Their reasons? They forged my signature on some stuff, blamed me for stuff someone else did on a shift I wasn't even on, and literally had to make up almost everything else. When I challenged every single bit of "Evidence", they just rounded on me with "We're an at-will employee, and we don't really need a reason to fire you if we want to fire you."

I haven't worked a "normal" job since then. I honestly don't think I can. I've been doing self-employed stuff from home, and it makes a little but not enough to support us both on, so my boyfriend works full-time.

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In light of the recent popular post I did some reflecting on how I have been feeling about my relationship. I'm not looking for an answer here just more perspective. There's a lot on my mind and I've had too much caffine so this won't be short.

For context: My SO (26F) and I (23M) have been together for 3 years. Due to where (location and college and such) we were in our lives when we started dating we've been living together for 2 years. Our fist place together was in a random cheap suburb but we recently (about 6 months ago) moved downtown to try to broaden our horizons. She recently got a serving job down her at restaurant/bar.

Things have been pretty tense between the two of us since we've moved to the new place. Starting out she had trouble finding work down here which was stressful which led seamlessly into the stress the new job has put on us.

The Restaurant: The restaurant is really cool. Too cool even. Everyone there is young, hipstery and super passionate about the place. 100% solid place to work. That being said, their hours are crazy. Open till 1:30 everyday of the week having their servers rarely out before 11. A portion of the staff being close (SO included) they will hang out after shifts until 4 or 5 in the morning.

My job requires me to be up at around 7 most mornings. New drastically different work and sleep schedules was the first major change that affected our relationship. We went from spending tons of time together to 2-3 afternoons or evenings on a normal week.

The other change happened just as suddenly but wasn't noticed for a few weeks. Our sex life ceased to exist, completely. Given we hadn't been extremely active the few months leading up to the new job (3-4 times a month) there was still physical intimacy between us. Now, we've gotten so physically distant, sans cuddling, our relationship is primarily platonic. Hugs and quick kisses when coming or going to work but that's it. There has been several occasions where even this seems forced. Even seeing her partially nude has become a rarity, covering up or going into the closet to change. On its own not strange at all but coupled with everything else kinda weird.

Her Phone: Phones in our relationship, up until 2 months ago, were never private things. Frequently we've answered phone calls, fielded texts, used apps, whatever on the others phone. Passwords really haven't been a thing we keep secret just based on a utility standpoint. About two months ago, 2 months after the new

I love doing little things for my boyfriend just because, but I need more ideas. I know some guys like to get flowers but I don’t think I should get my boyfriend flowers because his cat would absolutely destroy them.

update: I listened to you guys and I made him dinner and give him a BJ, I’m gonna give him a back rub later and then buy him some treats tomorrow :) It’s nothing huge but hopefully it shows that I appreciate him lmao

I saw several of my friends (who are all nearing or over the age of 30) from Facebook receive promise rings from their boyfriends for Christmas. It’s so juvenile. Two friends who received them have even children with their SO. I just imagine being in my 30s and having gone through all of these life changes with my partner (having children, buying a house, etc)and hoping to get engaged only to receive a ring that (basically) says “we will get engaged eventually. Not sure when tho but we will”. Just buy them an engagement ring or don’t. If I were in my 30s and I received a promise ring after spending years together I would be extremely disappointed. I know that a lot of people’s definition of a promise ring can be different, so before I made this post I looked up exactly what it is and it’s often seen as a precursor to an engagement ring. I guess I just feel like when you get to a certain age you should just cut out the middle man and buy an engagement ring when you’re ready. And if you’re not ready for that then that’s a conversation you need to have together. You’re also saving money that way, too because you’re only buying one ring.

Your significant other will not only feel more loved by your “personal sentiment” but inadvertently think you are a good writer as well.

So my fella and I play online most nights when we don't see each other and it got me thinking. Does anyone else quest with their bf/gf/SO? Also has anyone found love playing eso? I think it would be nice to hear people's stories. Me and the fella (we'll call him Adam) met before and thought it would be fun to play together as we both had PS4, ended up playing borderlands and when we finished it couldn't find much to play. We both had eso and thought we'd give it a try. MMOs not really mine or his thing, we've played since about August now. Mainly fo quests and stuff as it's more fun.

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My friend and I had been best friends for about 8 years. She got married in the middle of COVID, as such, she decided to have her wedding celebration this past summer. I live about 6 hours away from where she was having the celebration. I live with my significant other and we’ve been together for more than 2 years (yes we’re in a serious relationship). My friend invited myself, and my family.

Honestly, I was a little hurt that she didn’t invite my S.O. because she had known about our relationship and knew we lived together. In addition, the celebration was taking place on their family property, so it wasn’t at a place in which they paid per person.

Anyways, I received the invite about 2 months before the celebration. I had talked to my family (who lives about 2 hours from where the celebration was going to take place), and two of them had already told me that they had plans already, and they would not be able to go. My other two family members did not want to go as it was in the middle of no where.

I explained to my best friend the situation, and asked if my boyfriend would be able to go in place of my family members who could not go, and further explained that I didn’t know if my other two family members could go. I told her that I did not want to drive 6 hours alone. I honestly didn’t think it would’ve been such a big deal, but she was MAD. She told me off, saying I was disrespectful for even asking and went on and on about how rude I was for asking.

I honestly did not expect this response, and thought she would’ve said yes and understood the situation. So, am I the asshole for asking if I could bring my significant other?

EDIT: For those of y’all asking, my friend and my boyfriend have never had any issues. They’ve met once before, and didn’t have any problems. We went out to eat and had a nice time. There’s no reason for my friend to have any sort of animosity towards him.

EDIT 2: This happened a couple months ago. Did I end up going? Yes. Do I regret going? Yes. Does it still me? Yes. I’m working on moving past the situation, but wanted outside opinions on whether this was something that was my fault. My bf and I are still in a strong, healthy relationship and while he was a bit upset over the situation, we’ve moved past it. He wasn’t upset on my part (more so at her response), and understood why I felt obligated to go to her wedding. My “best friend” and I are no longer friends. I decided that I did not want to be friends with someone who wo

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I recently broke it off with a girl because she said she felt constrained by my aversion against her making out with her roommate. I thought it was a one off thing, but I texted my ex and she said that SHE made out with another girl and her boyfriend is fine with it. Is this normal? Am I just behind the times? Is it a reasonable boundary to set? How widespread is this?

EDIT: Her roommate is a girl, who has expressed her attraction to my ex-girlfriend. My ex said it was purely platonic, and I believe her when she says she's straight. We discussed the boundary, but she said she felt constrained by it. I broke it off, but it's bothering me now, and I feel like I made the wrong decision. Thanks for all your input

EDIT 2: For all of you saying I could have turned it into a threesome, sorry but no, I'm not comfortable with that either.

I can’t be the only one with this conflict. We’ve been together almost 3 years. Right before we met, I made a decent investment into crypto. By now, I’ve made good money, but it’s not like I’m rich or anywhere close. I really just want to keep holding and going to work every day as usual.

The reason why I haven’t told her; she is the arbiter of paychecks. Her financial responsibility is similar to if you handed a 9 year old your life savings and sent them into Toys R Us unattended. Money spending and savings is just about the only issue of contention between us. If I showed her the account, I’m afraid of the “conversation” that would follow.

I have to tell her some day, I know. Personally, I don’t think the day is quite near. We might fumble through another crypto crash, but I believe the market has a lot of growing to do. The longer I wait, the more awkward it’s going to be when I finally tell her, but, the larger the account.

I don’t want to start spending all of this money, but I also don’t want to feel like a liar to the woman I’ve been with. I have one friend I’ve told this to. He asks if I even love her, and of course I do.

Were you in my shoes, what would you do?

Do they view it as some silly waste of time or are they helping you write cron jobs and firewall rules?

I’ve been married for 3 years, my wife has always known I was a gamer well before we got married. She feels like gaming takes my time and attention away from her.

League is the only game I’ve played pretty consistently throughout the duration of our marriage, and it’s the one she hates the most. One or two nights a week (usually Friday after a long work week) I’ll stay up late, sometimes 1 or 2 AM and play ranked, and she says if I can’t stay up late with her then she must be boring and I must not care about her that much.

She wants me to uninstall it and says it’s for kids and it’s full of anime girls and hates it in general. In an average week I play for 6-8 hours, the rest of my time is spent with her. Is anyone else in this situation too?

EDIT: well this blew up, thank you to everyone who responded. I love my wife very much and although I agree there are toxic elements to be explored here I’m not going to leave my wife, I will try to find balance between gaming and time spent with her. My biggest issue is that ANY time spent gaming is a problem for her no matter how much quality time I spend with her, and it seems that’s a conversation we need to have. It’s nice to talk about stuff and hear from people who have gone through similar situations, thank you all for not being toxic in a community of doodoo heads 😁

I've seen a lot of nurses here very frustrated about their significant others either not understanding what they are going through or full on denying or insulting and belitting them. I can get a spouse not understanding or being frustrated at times due to a lack of knowledge but there have been posts here with nurses stating that their significant other belittles them or vehemently denies any pandemic is happening.

This is a great time to reevaluate your relationship. If someone is not at least acknowledging your feelings about a global pandemic that you've been thrown in the middle of, they are not going to magically change and become educated and empathetic. Get out while you still can. Just one nurse's PSA for today, that is all.

Hi All, so, I attended my friend's wedding ceremony this past weekend. About 6-8 months back, she told me she would only be inviting me and not my husband because of money. She checked with me first to see if it was okay. I figured it was okay and assumed that went for other people as well. I showed up to her wedding ceremony and every one of her friends had their husbands, boyfriends, significant others. I felt really down and kind of upset. The bride's Mom said "what no husband?" and our other friends asked where my husband was....which made it extremely awkward. Long story short, I felt so awkward that I only attended the ceremony and skipped the reception. I thanked my friend and her bride through text message (everyone was getting to their hotel rooms, getting settled in) for inviting me (there was a 3-hour gap between the ceremony and reception) but that I needed to drive back to my hometown. I feel okay with my decision, but I'm also sad about it. The whole day ended up being kind of crappy, except when I saw them get married. The hotel didn't have a parking garage, I left early to make the 2 hour drive, I took an uber to the park where they got married, and then show up to find people had their significant others (some of whom my friend has admitted she doesn't like). I felt slightly crappy for leaving, but it didn't feel right staying...it was my friend's day, but I didn't feel right going. At this point, I'm a little nervous what this means for our friendship. My other friend who was there agreed it would make her feel some kind of way and knew I was leaving for that reason. In addition, I've been grieving because my close family member died, my husband encouraged me to go to the wedding to get my mind off of the situation. Any constructive criticism or thoughts would be welcomed.

My SO wasn’t understanding why people were so frustrated with this game. I tried to explain the nuances and differences in BF games and my SO just wasn’t getting it. So I decided to switch up my explanation and it worked! Hopefully it helps you all too.

I said, pretend your favorite restaurant, Battlefield Burritos, serves the best burritos in town. You’ve been eating their burritos for years. They used to have an “Epic Awesome Burrito” that you really loved, but they took it off the menu and started experimenting with tacos. You still ate there, because the tacos weren’t that bad.

Fast forward, your favorite restaurant, Battlefield Burritos, says we’re bringing back the Epic Awesome Burrito. So you preorder the Epic Awesome Burrito online and rush down to get your favorite Burrito of all time. Only to find out it’s a hamburger… a sad processed piece of meat… on a stale bun… with no condiments or any other fixings. Because your favorite restaurant, Battlefield Burritos, wanted to tap into the hamburger market. They also apparently don’t even know how to finish making a hamburger, and if you ask for ketchup or mustard its a brutal expectation.

The response I got was “ew wtf” … to which I replied “Don’t be sad, this is just how it works out sometimes.” She was actually less impressed by that line, and glared at me. So I had to quickly follow up with, “it’s their new slogan.”

26 y/o female type 4

I'm wondering how different enneagram types meet their significant other. I am a type 4 and have this fantasy of meeting my s/o in a "meet cute" way- on an airplane, or bookstore or at a concert. So many people that I know have met from dating apps. I feel so much resistance to using them because I secretly want a cute backstory for how we met. The story of how we met feels like such an important factor to me, even though I'm sure people would say that it doesn't matter. When I was dating my ex from a dating app I usually told people that we had met through friends... I absolutely recognize that this could be my 4 pride.

What is your enneagram type and how did you meet your significant other?

It's hard enough meeting people in this city at the best of times but like for real where do people meet other single people these days?

I’ve [27F] have been dating my boyfriend [29M] for 1year+. we have been talking about getting married, kids, a home, etc.

our relationship is serious and i want to introduce him to FIRE. i want him to get the point that, this is not a fad thing for me , this is something i’d like to achieve no matter what. my mom retired at 42 and that’s 100% what i want for myself and my partner. how can i get across, and introduce him to the concept without sounding controlling/only concerned with money.

Just wanted to know the atitude of librandus on the issue.

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Personally, it’s both the Chrises. I think Angelina’s is more entertaining but Deena’s is definitely the best partner.

Does anyone have any stories or info about very healthy and young individuals with no pre-existing conditions who’ve died of COVID? Particularly vegans, if possible?

I’m 3 shots into my COVID vaccines, but my boyfriend has been against it and is unvaccinated. He agrees with the science behind it, but hates that he feels forced into doing it. He’s not political at all, so this is pretty strange and out of character for him. Being in Texas, masks aren’t required and he no longer uses them since the state mandate was lifted earlier this year. I love him so much and want him to protect himself, and he has agreed to get vaccinated after I pass my FE certification test, but I’m still at least a few months out from being ready to attempt this expensive test. We are in a very rural area and he works at a large plant with dozens of other people in-person every day, all unmasked and all unvaccinated. They are all conservative, traditional, yee-hawin’ good ‘ole boys, and a bad influence on him. I’m so worried he will get sick before I can take my test. I just want stories that will shock him into wanting to get vaccinated sooner. He is 25, a recent college grad, an engineer, and vegan. I think stories about people similar to him would be best in evoking the desired response.

TLDR; my boyfriend doesn’t want to get vaxxed until I pass a test (that i’m not at all ready to take) because he wants to encourage me to get it done faster, I love him and don’t want to lose him, help me scare him straight with sad stories pls!

Hello. My (24F) boyfriend, Paul (29M), and I are fairly active. We go on road trips every year with our main stops being prime hiking spots. Paul is 5'7'' and 230 pounds. Due to his southeast asian/pacific genetics, his entire family is on the heavier side, but Paul is just as active as I am and eats well.

Recently, we have gone long distance. Paul returned to live with his parents due to the pandemic while I stayed where I was. I visited him in June 2021. At this point, Paul had few symptoms, but some new minor health issues. We went hiking around Lake Tahoe and Paul was a little more out of breath than usual. He hasn't needed to use his inhaler since he was a kid, and he had to use it on this trip. We attributed this to recent wildfires in the area and poor air quality.

However, Paul's health continued to sharply deteriorate. We went to Edinburgh, Scotland, in July. While hiking Arthur's Seat, Paul had to use his inhaler so many times he emptied it out. He could not get it refilled as we were out of the country. Until the end of the trip, Paul's breathing became more and more labored and he developed a persistent cough.

I did not visit Paul August-November 2021. We spoke on the phone and Skyped regularly. During this time, Paul would sometimes leave the call or mute for a few minutes. He'd come back and apologize, saying he'd had to cough pretty violently and didn't want me to hear. I was concerned. I overheard one wracking, moaning coughing session and knew it was not just asthma or an irritated throat. By October 2021, the air quality in his area had greatly improved.

I persuaded Paul to visit his general practitioner. His GP dismissed all of his concerns and cited Paul's being fat and asthmatic as the source of his issues, and that the issues would disappear with rest and exercise. I had to fight doctors for years to get them to take my chronic pelvic pain seriously, and was finally diagnosed with an ovarian cyst that was 8mm long and about to burst, so I have experience with self advocacy in the medical space. I helped Paul see new doctors.

In mid-October 2021, Paul developed abdominal edema. Paul's feet, legs, and lower stomach were swelling up like crazy. He gained 40 pounds. He could barely move at all, even to go to the bathroom. He couldn't sleep lying down without suffocating, which only worsened his exhaustion. He went to the doctor again and was prescribed diuretics. The diuretics helped with the swelling and extra weight and within 2 we

I am the luckiest man to have my now wife. We met three years ago when she was visiting her sister. Her husband is my co-worker and they were having a barbecue for him for his birthday. That’s where I met her for the first time. Prettiest girl I’ve ever seen but I didn’t want to approach her like that because I knew she lived miles away on the other side of the state and was only visiting but as the night went on, we talked for hours and she was funny, sweet and I couldn’t stop smiling. So we exchanged numbers, went out to dinner before she left and we kept in touch texting and calling for months before she came down again for the summer and we knew we wanted to give this a try.

Long distance is fucking hard. Missing each other, scheduling calls, not being able to hug or kiss her but she had a job and I have a blue collar job as well. I almost broke up with her because I didn’t think it was going to work because the back and forth is rough and I was trying to find a job near her but nothing so it was a surprise when she told me she had been looking for jobs near me for a while and had found one.

4 months later, I proposed to her but with covid and all I felt bad we couldn’t make a big wedding but she insisted she hated the idea of wasting money on a big party when she would rather have something small. We ended up eloping, having a nice dinner for just close family and friends in the backyard and we’ve been happy since and today she’s 3 weeks pregnant. She just told me last night.

Why is that we always hear that girls are always looking for rich dudes and boys are always looking for hot chicks,.Money and beauty are few of the factors while looking out for a partner, but liking someone only based on these doesn't make sense.What about their character,manners etc.

We hear people liking or falling in love at first sight ,how does that work? You don't know nothing about that person but still you like them ,like how does that even happen ,if it does happens is it true, are your feelings true to yourself or just a passing by feelings which doesn't matter.

It's an expensive city, so I get why people are so quick to do so!

I'm not sure if this has been asked already but I'm just curious

Edit: wow! Thank you all for sharing your stories 😊

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