TL;DR
I want to create a subreddit that's dedicated not only to selfies and commiseration about trauma, but also toward building community, clear thinking about issues, artistic collaboration and taking action in the real world.
What do you think?
Not "just" a biracial space, though.
(Read more about Shyamala Gopalan here.)
Until today, I somewhat frequently posted in a popular black subreddit. From the beginning, several things about that place bothered me, but I kept ignoring them until now. More about that further down.
For months, my posts on that subreddit were generally oriented toward encouraging creativity and community action.
What about encouraging entrepreneurship, help people find each other to go protesting, facilitate friendships and (post-pandemic) meetups? The response was always either silence, tepid agreement, or "that's not what we do here". Why not, though? Why not also encourage critical/creative thinking and real-world engagement, making it easier to connect resources and people?
The subreddit was dedicated almost exclusively to selfies, reactions to tweets, commiserating about trauma and a daily set of daily COVID-19 obituaries. And increasingly, a troubling amount of tolerance for a strain of Youtube-and-Twitter self-help cult misandry called "the Divest movement".
The last straw was when someone posted a topic that was openly about manipulating men in exchange for sex. It was one of a long line of misandrist "divest" topics protected by the moderators as "free speech", even though the majority of the community clearly did not approve.
The moderators of that subreddit have a history of not really caring about everyone equally: it was only after transgender people became a social media trend that the mods suddenly realised transphobia is wrong.
They still haven't realised that misandry (hatred of the masculine gender) is just as bad.
In this case, one of the moderators actually commented in support of using men (sex) for money ("gifts"), and soon after that, I was (thankfully) banned because I refused to "verify" my ethnicity/gender. The demand was: A. arbitrary, really because I dared to disagree with a bigoted perspective; B. a privacy violation; C. irrelevant to the issue at hand; and D. silly given that white people of all genders pop up in the comments there all the time.
So I want to create a subreddit that goes further. T
... keep reading on reddit ➡It's ironic that I literally had to scroll ten pages of comments to find an actual woman's perspective when this article was posted here yesterday:
Kamala Harris and the rise of the Desi Alpha Female
The comment directly below that was an attempt at discounting her experience, saying "what does that have to do with indian culture, other than your family being indian?" That commenter sprinkled other passive-aggressive dismissal of women's perspectives as "typical liberal position on Indian men ('patriarchy')", and added openly aggressive, deliberately obtuse interrogation of anyone with an opinion that differed from his (which, amusingly, is the stereotypical male perspective of 'splaining and borderline gaslighting against women).
So I wanted to specifically create this topic and invite women's thoughts first.
The previous post quoted this passage:
> Desi” is slang for people of South Asian origin. I love my people, and so I point out lovingly: We are notoriously patriarchal. This isn’t a judgment so much as a statement of fact. Nothing President Trump has said publicly about women rivals the things I’d hear the men and boys in my family say when I was a child. I will not repeat the smut. But I will summarize the key message: While men are allowed (and even expected) to be vulgar; an outspoken girl or woman is a liability, an animal to be domesticated. How far we have come. Today, pop culture and U.S. politics are proving that the big mouth isn’t a liability as much as an asset — one with market value and political power.
I would add that it misses a more important part:
> I assume she (Kamala Harris) draws her strength from a family that was light-years ahead of its time. Both of Harris’s grandparents allowed her mother to travel alone across oceans to attend graduate school at the University of California at Berkeley. Harris’s grandmother would gather village women and teach them about contraception. She’d take in those who were abused by their husbands and then give those husbands a lecture about shaping up. In the United States, too, domestic violence remains an endemic problem for our “model minority” community. > > I was surprised at the surge of emotion I felt when I learned of Harris’s nomination. That she is “half Indian” doesn’t explain it; that she and her family have challenged the worst parts of our culture does.
When you read t
... keep reading on reddit ➡
Maybe a scale of 1 (nope) to 10 (yes, more please!) would be easiest?
All comments and thoughts are welcome. :)
I recently created another subreddit for brown people (community, activism, art, creativity, etc.). It doesn't fit neatly into any category, and I realised that Reddit maybe isn't the best format...
...so I played with new formats yesterday, and ended up with a whole new social media idea.
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You can see the page here (screenshot).
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Also, the site is actually online (here).
Of course, it's not functioning with likes/upvotes, etc., but what do you think? If this were part of a social network -- or interactive webzine (web magazine) where you could join, post, comment, etc., would you want it?
I'd be glad to hear your thoughts, even if it's just a number from 1 (nope) to 10 (yes, more please!). Hope you like it, and it's fine if you don't. :)
There will be more news soon.
Kamala Harris' parents attended Cal and she lived for a time in Berkeley. Her mother, Dr. Shyamala Gopalan, earned her MS and PhD at Cal and then was a breast cancer researcher who spent part of her career in the Cancer Research Lab in UC Berkeley's Department of Zoology and later at Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory.
Kamela Harris' mother, Shyamala Gopalan, was a McGill professor of medicine. She brought her daughter with her to Montréal, which is why Harris graduated from Westmount.
borrowed from r/aznidentity
https://www.nytimes.com/live/2020/08/11/us/biden-vs-trump
I know we've gone through ad nauseum that she supports her black side more than her Indian side publicly (for clear and IMO justifiable political reasons). And yes she's a half Indian American woman . And no candidate is perfect.
What a huge step forward though. Let's not mar the moment by getting into who she's married to or whatever. Amazing to read her story growing raised solely by her Indian mother, and the Indian values that were instilled in her.
Do your worst!
For context I'm a Refuse Driver (Garbage man) & today I was on food waste. After I'd tipped I was checking the wagon for any defects when I spotted a lone pea balanced on the lifts.
I said "hey look, an escaPEA"
No one near me but it didn't half make me laugh for a good hour or so!
Edit: I can't believe how much this has blown up. Thank you everyone I've had a blast reading through the replies 😂
> Good evening. > > Congressman John Lewis, before his passing, wrote: “Democracy is not a state. It is an act.” > > And what he meant was that America’s democracy is not guaranteed. > > It is only as strong as our willingness to fight for it, to guard it and never take it for granted. > > And protecting our democracy takes struggle. > > It takes sacrifice. There is joy in it and there is progress. > Because We The People have the power to build a better future. > > And when our very democracy was on the ballot in this election, with the very soul of America at stake, and the world watching, you ushered in a new day for America. > > To our campaign staff and volunteers, this extraordinary team — thank you for bringing more people than ever before into the democratic process and for making this victory possible. > > To the poll workers and election officials across our country who have worked tirelessly to make sure every vote is counted — our nation owes you a debt of gratitude as you have protected the integrity of our democracy. > > And to the American people who make up our beautiful country — thank you for turning out in record numbers to make your voices heard. > > I know times have been challenging, especially the last several months. > The grief, sorrow, and pain. The worries and the struggles. > > But we’ve also witnessed your courage, your resilience, and the generosity of your spirit. > > For 4 years, you marched and organized for equality and justice, for our lives, and for our planet. > > And then, you voted. You delivered a clear message. > > You chose hope, unity, decency, science, and, yes, truth. > > You chose Joe Biden as the next President of the United States of America. > > Joe is a healer. A uniter. A tested and steady hand. > > A person whose own experience of loss gives him a sense of purpose that will help us, as a nation, reclaim our own sense of purpose. > > And a man with a big heart who loves with abandon. > It’s his love for Jill, who will be an incredible First Lady. > > It’s his love for Hunter, Ashley, his grandchildren, and the entire Biden family. > > And while I first knew Joe as Vice President, I really got to know him as the father who loved Beau, my dear friend, who we remember here today. > > To my husband Doug, our children Cole and Ella, my sister Maya
... keep reading on reddit ➡The title isn't mine, it's the title of this slate article I liked for bringing up points that I thought were interesting and hadn't really thought about. Some/all of you probably have reflected on these points before, but I hadn't and wanted to share.
- She was raised primarily by Shyamala Gopalan, who divorced her father, the Jamaica-born economist and activist Donald Harris, when she was a child. Harris’ mother “understood very well that she was raising two black daughters. She knew that her adopted homeland would see Maya and me as black girls, and she was determined to make sure we would grow into confident, proud black women.” Harris also went to an HBCU for college, a time time of rapid personal-development.
It makes sense to me that she would more identify more closely with being Black for non-political reasons. I'm also reminded of the anti-black and anti-divorce/single-motherhood sentiments that still persist in the Indian community and that were stronger while Harris was growing up. Kamala also has a non-traditional family, a white husband, two step-children, and no biological children.
- Harris wasn't branded as the Asian-American candidate (Andrew Yang was) or even the Hindu candidate (Tulsi Gabbard was), and this may have spared her from negative Indian/South Asian stereotypes during her campaign.
This point reminded me of how Obama was attacked for being a "secret muslim" and how acceptable anti-Asian/anti-Desi sentiments still are in America.
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Kamala is sometimes attacked for "not being black enough" due to her background and her professional success. This wouldn't happen to me as an Indian; Indians by and large are proud to be associated with people who are rich and successful and from impressive families.
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"Indians have occupied a unique place in America’s politics, being embraced by all sides of the political spectrum as hardworking immigrants who “assimilate” well and epitomize the melting pot, the American dream. [...] there are conservative Indians who vote right for cultural or Islamophobic reasons, and many desis, even liberals, tend to be blind to their own relative privilege."
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"comparatively more Indian American donors gravitated to Gabbard (notably, many of these were people who liked Gabbard’s sympathetic stances toward demagogic Prime Minister Narendra Modi and Hindu nationalism), while other polls showed more aggr
They’re on standbi
It really does, I swear!
Pilot on me!!
Dad jokes are supposed to be jokes you can tell a kid and they will understand it and find it funny.
This sub is mostly just NSFW puns now.
If it needs a NSFW tag it's not a dad joke. There should just be a NSFW puns subreddit for that.
Edit* I'm not replying any longer and turning off notifications but to all those that say "no one cares", there sure are a lot of you arguing about it. Maybe I'm wrong but you people don't need to be rude about it. If you really don't care, don't comment.
What did 0 say to 8 ?
" Nice Belt "
So What did 3 say to 8 ?
" Hey, you two stop making out "
When I got home, they were still there.
I won't be doing that today!
You take away their little brooms
This morning, my 4 year old daughter.
Daughter: I'm hungry
Me: nerves building, smile widening
Me: Hi hungry, I'm dad.
She had no idea what was going on but I finally did it.
Thank you all for listening.
There hasn't been a post all year!
TL;DR
I want to create a subreddit that's dedicated not only to selfies and commiseration about trauma, but also toward building community and taking action in the real world.
What do you think?
Not "just" a biracial space, though.
(Read more about Shyamala Gopalan here.)
Until today, I somewhat frequently posted in a popular black subreddit. From the beginning, several things about that place bothered me, but I kept ignoring them until now. More about that further down.
For months, my posts on that subreddit were generally oriented toward encouraging action.
What about encouraging entrepreneurship, help people find each other to go protesting, facilitate friendships and (post-pandemic) meetups? The response was always either silence, tepid agreement, or "that's not what we do here". Why not, though? Why not also encourage critical/creative thinking and real-world engagement, making it easier to connect resources and people?
The subreddit was dedicated almost exclusively to selfies, reactions to tweets, commiserating about trauma and a daily set of COVID-19 obituaries. And increasingly, a troubling amount of tolerance for a strain of Youtube-and-Twitter self-help cult misandry called "the Divest movement".
The last straw was when someone posted a topic that was openly about manipulating men in exchange for sex. It was one of a long line of misandrist "divest" topics protected by the moderators as "free speech", even though the majority of the community clearly did not approve.
The moderators of that subreddit have a history of not really caring about everyone equally: it was only after transgender people became a social media trend that the mods suddenly realised transphobia is wrong.
They still haven't realised that misandry (hatred of the masculine gender) is just as bad.
In this case, one of the moderators actually commented in support of using men (sex) for money ("gifts"), and soon after that, I was (thankfully) banned because I refused to "verify" my ethnicity/gender. The demand was: A. arbitrary, really because I dared to disagree with a bigoted perspective; B. a privacy violation; C. irrelevant to the issue at hand; and D. silly given that white people of all genders pop up in the comments there all the time.
So I want to create a subreddit that goes further. The idea here is this:
- all bigotry is forbidden, whether it's transphobia, racism
It's ironic that I literally had to scroll ten pages of comments (on rABCDesis) to find an actual woman's perspective when this article was posted there yesterday:
Kamala Harris and the rise of the Desi Alpha Female
The comment directly below that was an attempt at discounting her experience, saying "what does that have to do with indian culture, other than your family being indian?" That commenter sprinkled other passive-aggressive dismissal of women's perspectives as "typical liberal position on Indian men ('patriarchy')", and added openly aggressive, deliberately obtuse interrogation of anyone with an opinion that differed from his (which, amusingly, is the stereotypical male perspective of 'splaining and borderline gaslighting against women).
So I wanted to specifically create this topic on rABCDesis, asking for women's opinions first -- and then it was deleted.
And... now I'm reposting here.
The previous post quoted this passage:
> Desi” is slang for people of South Asian origin. I love my people, and so I point out lovingly: We are notoriously patriarchal. This isn’t a judgment so much as a statement of fact. Nothing President Trump has said publicly about women rivals the things I’d hear the men and boys in my family say when I was a child. I will not repeat the smut. But I will summarize the key message: While men are allowed (and even expected) to be vulgar; an outspoken girl or woman is a liability, an animal to be domesticated. How far we have come. Today, pop culture and U.S. politics are proving that the big mouth isn’t a liability as much as an asset — one with market value and political power.
I would add that it misses a more important part:
> I assume she (Kamala Harris) draws her strength from a family that was light-years ahead of its time. Both of Harris’s grandparents allowed her mother to travel alone across oceans to attend graduate school at the University of California at Berkeley. Harris’s grandmother would gather village women and teach them about contraception. She’d take in those who were abused by their husbands and then give those husbands a lecture about shaping up. In the United States, too, domestic violence remains an endemic problem for our “model minority” community. > > I was surprised at the surge of emotion I felt when I learned of Harris’s nomination. **That she is “half Indian” doesn’t explain it; that
... keep reading on reddit ➡TL;DR
I want to create a subreddit that's dedicated not only to selfies and commiseration about trauma, but also toward building community, clear thinking about issues, artistic collaboration and taking action in the real world.
What do you think?
Not "just" a biracial space, though.
(Read more about Shyamala Gopalan here.)
Until today, I somewhat frequently posted in a popular black subreddit. From the beginning, several things about that place bothered me, but I kept ignoring them until now. More about that further down.
For months, my posts on that subreddit were generally oriented toward encouraging creativity and community action.
What about encouraging entrepreneurship, help people find each other to go protesting, facilitate friendships and (post-pandemic) meetups? The response was always either silence, tepid agreement, or "that's not what we do here". Why not, though? Why not also encourage critical/creative thinking and real-world engagement, making it easier to connect resources and people?
The subreddit was dedicated almost exclusively to selfies, reactions to tweets, commiserating about trauma and a daily set of daily COVID-19 obituaries. And increasingly, a troubling amount of tolerance for a strain of Youtube-and-Twitter self-help cult misandry called "the Divest movement".
The last straw was when someone posted a topic that was openly about manipulating men in exchange for sex. It was one of a long line of misandrist "divest" topics protected by the moderators as "free speech", even though the majority of the community clearly did not approve.
The moderators of that subreddit have a history of not really caring about everyone equally: it was only after transgender people became a social media trend that the mods suddenly realised transphobia is wrong.
They still haven't realised that misandry (hatred of the masculine gender) is just as bad.
In this case, one of the moderators actually commented in support of using men (sex) for money ("gifts"), and soon after that, I was (thankfully) banned because I refused to "verify" my ethnicity/gender. The demand was: A. arbitrary, really because I dared to disagree with a bigoted perspective; B. a privacy violation; C. irrelevant to the issue at hand; and D. silly given that white people of all genders pop up in the comments there all the time.
So I want to create a subreddit that goes further. T
... keep reading on reddit ➡
