Russian wedding traditions Puns

Some background information: he was adopted from Russia as a child and loves his country, but doesn’t remember much. I’m planning our wedding to celebrate both of our family heritages. I would love to incorporate some Russian wedding traditions. I tried Googling, but a lot of the websites are in Russian and I’m still very new to the language.

Also, we are both Protestant Christians, not Eastern Orthodox, if that helps.

What I have so far:

Napoleon or moldovik wedding cake (his absolute favorites)

Lots of red, with hand-painted nesting dolls on the tables

Some kind of challenge like having to figure out which lipstick print is mine out of all the bridesmaids before the ceremony

Me (29m) and my fiance (27f) are supposed to get married in a couple months. We've been together 3 years and we haven't had too many major conflicts and none we couldn't get past. Her brother Ryan (31m) and I, however, don't get along. He's kind of a jackass. He's got the kind of personality of someone who never grew up after his freshman year in college and never takes anything seriously.

I recently found out that my fiance's family has a "tradition" of organizing pranks on the bride and groom. Some of it is just stupid stuff that causes a temporary disruption (think pretending to lose the ring for 5 minutes or orchestrating a fake mix up with the cake). Some of it is more elaborate. I heard that at my fiance's aunt's wedding, they somehow managed to keep it a secret that they'd put bubble wrap under the entire carpet leading to altar before the bride walked down it.

The pranks are supposed to be a bonding experience and a sort of induction for new family members. The examples I've heard about have been annoying and disruptive, but on the whole, mostly harmless.

Personally, though, I hate pranks. I feel that regardless of stated intentions, there's always a bit of maliciousness hidden in the act. And sometimes, even without meaning to, the pranksters go too far and genuinely hurt their targets. Ryan is definitely the kind of person who would pull a prank that went too far and has already started making jokes about how much fun he's going to have at our wedding.

I talked to my fiance and told her that I don't want any pranks at our wedding. I don't want our day to be ruined by childish jokes or, what I'm more worried about, her brother pulling something more mean-spirited.

She said that this was her family's special tradition, that it was harmless fun meant to bring people together. Some of her favorite family memories came from this "tradition."

We argued. Eventually, things got heated and I yelled something along the lines of, "There'll be no F'ing pranks at my wedding!" My fiance got quiet and then left.

I immediately knew that I'd made a mistake and tried to apologize, but all I got was silence. The next day her brother called to tell me that I was a jackass and to stop being such baby. They're just pranks.

I can't help but wonder if I'm overreacting. I know that this is a tradition my fiance values, but, again, I hate pranks. Even more, I hate the idea of having pranks being played against me.

Our wedding is supposed to be a celebration of

I'm 23f got engaged to my fiance 24m three years ago. We plan our wedding in 2020 but that year didn't work out. So we decided to get married next year on Winter Solstice.

The thing is that I'm pagan and my fiance came from a Christian family. I let his family have the Lord's prayer and traditional vows. But when I mention doing a few pagan traditions like handfasting and a wine blessing.

My stb mil freak out. She told me that I was lucky that she letting me marry her Christian son. I said that I let Christian traditions to make her family happy and I was raised in pagan family.

Now I'm getting harrass on my social media and my phone is getting blown up by his family with how I'm dragging my fiance on the path to hell.

Am I the asshole?

Edit: my fiance is deployed and his family decided to harrass me since I'm the one who is planning while he's away.

--Update: with a heavy heart and hardest decision. I'm breaking up the relationship. I don't want to be the reason for the downfall of his relationship with his family. Thank you all for the support and advice.--

Update 2: we video chatted, we're still together but we decided to elope and cut off his family. From the airport to the courthouse.

So my (F25) bf (M27) of 5 years recently proposed to me. He's half japanese and half korean and his cultures are very important to him and his family. I absolutely love them too so we decided to get married in Japan with lots of japanese and korean wedding traditions.

So, I'm not really fond of all the wedding traditions from my culture/country so we won't be doing them. (But my bf's family is going to be wearing some traditional clothing from my country for the after party, we're having some traditional food, hosting the ceremony in japanese and my language so everyone can understand and his family is learning my language so they can communicate. But that's pretty much it.)

When we broke the news to my family, they got incredibly angry and called me a selfish b*tch bc I'm not going to include a lot of our wedding traditions. We're only arguing since that and they are refusing to come to my wedding as long as we're doing it that way. My family told me that the whole situation even has negative impact on my mothers health since she's incredibly upset that she can't see her oldest daugther getting married.

And btw we're going to be paying for plane tickets and all my guests can stay at the Inn my bf's family owns for free. We are doing one of those small wedding receptions at my local town hall so it's official in my country too. We offered to do a small party after coming home from Japan but unfortunately that's not enough for my family.

I feel incredibly guilty for refusing my family those things but I never really felt a deep connection to my culture since I had to surpress it when I was growing up. Also I don't really like our typical wedding traditions and I don't wanna be doing something at my wedding if I don't enjoy it.

So AITA for refusing to include my cultures wedding traditions, upsetting my family and therefore making them unable to attend my wedding? What do you think?

Hello, nice to meet you all!! I had a random discussion come up with my mom this evening about wedding customs/traditions, and I was curious if there were any Dutch wedding traditions or formalities? Keep in mind this is honestly out of curiosity, so I hope I’m not being rude by asking.

My boyfriend is Dutch, hence I’m curious specifically about Dutch customs. Is the “bride’s family pays for everything” tradition still a thing or is it outdated? (I also don’t know if this is a “Western” thing or not either. In my culture (Chinese) we have a “bride price” and I was wondering if something like this exists here as well?

Also, do Dutch weddings tend to have gift registries instead? Our weddings tend to not have a wedding gift registry but rather whatever is being given is either money (in these special red envelopes) or gold/jewelry (money is more common nowadays.) Also, are there any particular foods that are a staple in Dutch weddings or no?

Thanks for answering all my silly questions, just figured it would be best to ask since I wasn’t able to find any answers.

Edit: wowzers!! Thank you all for the wonderful and detailed answers!! I would like to start off by saying that we’re both Canadian, and he’s a 3rd gen Dutch family but they live in a close knit community. His friends have had very small weddings (they also get married very very early) so I was definitely not sure if that was a cultural thing or just a “young and broke” situation. I think for us it would definitely be a “two parter” bc we both want the asian and western wedding ceremonies. Just for context, the Asian one is a tea ceremony but only with close friends and family (probably hosted in a home.) it’s very nice :) But thank you all!! I didn’t have enough time to respond but I read through every message; whether it’s a fast 20 min wedding or traditional day long wedding, I think it’s wonderful and I wish everyone all the best :)

Also, we’re both still dating, we’re only in our early 20s and nowhere near getting married just yet 🤣 I’m just a curious person :)

It will be a quick town hall wedding in a country none of us come from so we wouldn’t have lots of space or time to plan something on site but would still like to see what i can do! Perhaps it’s a traditional cake or a special ritual, any ideas welcome! Thank you :)

I think an oft overlooked aspect of world building, especially with different races, species and culture, is the tradition of weddings! Let's share some of yours!

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The groom then has to find non-goblin folk to be his best-people ("Grazulkin" or Runner in the goblin tongue) and their job is to retrieve the bride and bring her to the wedding, usually resulting in what can best be described as a joyous kidnapping.

I’m the first in my family to plan a wedding, and I haven’t been to a wedding before.

Do y’all have a recommendation on where I should learn little details that are traditional at a wedding?

For example, I’m not sure how my veil should be placed, and when my FH pulls it over my head.

My mum (Scottish) and my step dad (welsh) are getting married this year and are planning a secular wedding with a celtic inspiration since they arnt particularly religious but their mutual celtic roots are still important to them.

Since I'm a practicing pagan with a celtic inspiration they've put me in charge of finding rituals and practices that they can fit into the ceremony and the event in general, unfortunately I have absolutely no clue where to start.

Can anyone point me in the right direction or give me some ideas?

So I’m an American, and my wife is Jordanian. Our 1 year anniversary is coming up and I was wondering if there are any traditions in Jordan surrounding the first anniversary in terms of gifts, activities, etc.

There were definitely a million cultural wedding traditions so I figured there would be something traditional with anniversaries that I could do to make it special.

Hello :) I am so sorry for bothering you lovely people, but I have a little question. My fiancèe and I would love to include the gods and hellenic wedding traditions in our ceremony, but we can only find things that include a groom and a very male centric ceremony. Are there any queer traditions, or ways we could make them fit us? I am so sorry for asking again! But thank you for reading <3

(I'm sorry for my english too, it's not my first language)

Super Junior Leeteuk's sister In-young got married today and D&E sang their funky hit Oppa Oppa during the reception. In-young seemed to love it and even handed the bouquet to her husband to do the dance moves

But Donghae and Eunhyuk singing Oppa Oppa in weddings isn't new. They sang it for Heechul's sister Heejin's wedding . And for Kyuhyun's older sister Ara's wedding (In her defense the song was requested by her father)

There's something very hilarious about the song starting with Donghae saying " Ah Ah Hana Dul Set, Welcome to the Super Show". Even though this is wedding and not a concert😆. And people of every age group yelling "Oppa" at D&E during the performance because that's how the song works

Heechul is the MC of the wedding. Just like he promised Leeteuk in the knowing bros episode earlier this year🥺 Also I'm glad Yesung was personally invited this time. In Heechul's sister's wedding everyone was there, even Yesung's parents but Yesung didn't know the wedding was taking place that day😆

(english is not my first language so I apologize if some sentences are weirdly worded.)

A Soviet Union!

Hi guys! I had a question to ask. So I’m starting the planning process for my wedding and wanted to know if any cool or original and pagan wedding traditions. This is mostly because I want to incorporate a few. For example, I know about handfastening/hand tying, as well as the concept of “jumping the broom” where the couple jumps over a ceremonial broom. My partner is Jewish while I’m pagan and I’m mostly trying to find a way to tie both religions together for our ceremony. Any ideas you can suggest or explain would be greatly appreciated!

Before I started reading r / korea, I seriously had no kind of opinion about so-called "expats" in Korea. I still don't have hostile feelings or antipathy toward them in general. I love to travel, and I'm a big proponent of people visiting and spending time in countries other than their own, as long as they (we) respect local laws and aren't traveling with depraved motives - like sex tourism.

But the entitlement and the nerve to gatekeep conversations about Korea by certain self-titled "expats" in that sub is getting worse and worse.

Just now, I was trying to reply to a post from a Korean American (born in Korea) asking about ideas on how to incorporate Korean wedding customs into their small socially-distanced wedding. When I tried to reply, I saw that the post no longer existed.

The only reply prior to my attempted one was from one of those "expats" degrading OP for querying about this, declaring it's not even "your culture" if OP had to ask this question in the first place. What in the everloving fuck is that bullshit?

OP was innocently asking for wedding ceremony ideas, and this asshole nonchalantly injects his venom into the conversation? This is supposed to be a happy, hopeful day for OP and their partner, and I hope that asswipe's comment didn't poison OP's plans to include some nods to their Korean ancestry. His nasty comment got way too many upvotes too.

Anyway, I was going to suggest OP give the groom's parents chestnuts and jujubes and have the bride try to catch them in her skirt. It would be easy to do, and it could be cute. Almost everyone, when planning a significant event or ceremony, might ask for advice on how to organize that shit, because not everybody out there is Martha 'jailbird' Stewart.

Does anyone have any historical information about the wedding traditions that took place in Mecca and Madinah before, during, and after our beloved Prophet (SAWS) ‘s life?

I’m talking about the culture that the Sahabas followed, like what kind of things they did at weddings, like food, clothing, gifts, etc. Also if any traditions they had that can still be found in Saudi Arabia today?

Hello wonderful folks of makeuprehab, I have a problem and am having trouble seeing my way out of it. I am getting married in some months and we have a wedding tradition where my MIL "sends" me a full face of makeup and some other accessories one day before the wedding so I can use them on a wedding day. Since she's never worn makeup, and knows that "kids these days have strong preferences", she's given me about 700$ to buy what I will use. Once I buy it all, I will send it to her so she can gift wrap them and present it to me a day before the wedding. This is bringing back behaviours that I am not proud of - constantly looking at websites, spending hours "curating" the cart, looking and looking for ways to maximise GWPs. etc, looking through hundreds of reviews (we can't swatch anything anymore), and basically wasting so much time on this everyday.

I can't get out of this tradition nor can I pack my old stuff to give her - do you guys have any idea about how I can reduce my harmful behaviours in the meantime?

Second issue is, I already have a lot of makeup - how do I incorporate an influx of 10-15 new products that are basically functional dupes of what I already have and use? I don't want to experiment too much with a new base since my makeup artist will need to use it on wedding day and I can't risk it and there's only so many colours of lips and eye makeup that suit me so even though its not exact, they are mostly functional dupes too...

“HELP … I AM GETTING MARRIED AND I WANT TO KNOW HOW TO START ON THE WEDDING NIGHT!” This question gets asked on a lot of Islamic forums and the way people answer it usually gives away whether they themselves are married or not. Been there, done that so I will give it a shot.

There was a time when I was doing research on romantic poetry in Muslim traditions and interestingly, a lot of poetry that was pulled out by my archive researcher was very sexual. Maulana Rumi had written certain spiritual poems that were shockingly explicit and then there were others in which the eroticism was not as blatant as Rumi type poems. A lot of these were “bedding poems” meaning bedtime poetry that was meant to praise the woman before she offered herself.

Some of these bedding poems were written in a time period where it would not have been polite for a man to praise a woman’s beauty directly. You had to use metaphors so instead of saying, “You have the most beautiful eyes,” the man would say something like “the sky has shown its mercy towards me,” for blue eyes. If she had green eyes then the metaphor would be “wilderness” and for black eyes it would be “the night.” Every time the man would romance these metaphors, the woman would understand that he was talking about her eyes.

These poems were composed in real time with the woman sitting in front of the man so she would obviously respond to this flattery by blushing or laughing. The poet would then capture her emotion in the next verse of the poem and every facial expression he would generate would serve as the subject of the next line. It would start an intricate dance of female emotion as it was pursued by language and poetry until language had totally caught up with the woman’s emotion and the emotion could not run from language any more. The man and the woman may have met for the first time but by the time the poem ended, they had become lovers without even touching each other. Here is what it sounded like ...

Lost in the Desert

Desert pulls the wanderer inside it (Desert is the woman's brown eyes)

Where would it take me? The wanderer has no clue

Getting lost and wandering in its expanse

has never felt being so much at home

Oasis reveals itself (unveiling or removing the woman’s headdress)

A sight this dirvesh has craved for so long

He fears let this not be a dream

A mirage that may vanish upon him soon

His dried lips must taste the water (kiss)

To assure him that it is all real (she is not a dream)